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Love and marriageB: I think one of the sweetest sentences is “I love you!” We can find love in everywhere of our life, our parents love us, our friends love us, of course, there must be someone will say “I love you” to us. So what’s your opinion about true love?A: I am totally agreed with The New Oriental boss has said “True love is based on material and enjoys the spirit luxury.” In my opinion, if the love is nearby, don’t refuse it. But if the love is in a very long distance, don’t force yourself to purse it. Just let nature take its course! Oh, there are many people use the internet to meet friends, what do you think about it? B: Do you mean online love? Actually, I am not so supportive about it. You know, net just a virtual world, if we are not so lucky, we may meet some cheaters, it’s so dangerous. But every coin has two sides, you see, online love gives the two people more self-space, and it can save money. A: Oh, for me. I don’t support online love at all. As you mentioned before, it’s a virtual world, you can’t see the other side. You will be easy to trick. And it will get you into dangerous condition. You must have heard much news that there were many people have been tricked or even lost their life. Oh, why we talk these so fearful. Let’s talk something else, you must have seen that there were many girls in our school have foreign boyfriend. So, what do you think of international marriage?B: It’s a good topic, I think international marriage gives the freshness, butonce this fresh, the marriage will be difficult to continue. Because they have different beliefs and value systems, the different cultures and life styles may let they divorce at the end.A: I think you are right. But I still think if they have the true love, they will have good ending. In my opinion, if you find the true love, just marry to him, because the true love is priceless, you know, if you miss it, you won’t get it back. So just cherish the true love and don’t worry what will happen.B: Thank you very much for the suggestion. I will think it over.。
Unit 11 Love and MarriageLesson planning guide☆Pronunciation: Vowel sounds /ɔ/& /ɔ:/& /əu/a) Words Practice/ɔ/ /ɔ:/ /əu/dog door Joanpot talk toefrog fall foeshop short showlot law lowb) Sentence Practice1) We’ll not stop until we reach our goal.2 ) It’s all your fault.3 ) The doctor’s daughter knocked at the locked door.4) What are you talking about?5 ) Little strokes fell great oaks.6 ) As you sow, you shall mow.7) A straw will show which way the wind blows.8）I’d like to propose a toast.c) Learn to sing a song for the theme: Top of the World such a feelin's comin' over methere is wonder in 'most ev'ry thing I seenot a cloud in the sky,got the sun in my eyesand i won't be surprised if it's a dreameverything i want the world to beis now comin' true especially for meand the reason is clear,it's because you are hereyou're the nearest thing toheaven that I’ve seenI’m on the top of the world lookin'down on creationand the only explanation I can findis the love that I’ve found eversince you've been aroundyour love's put me at the top of the worldsomethin' in the windhas learned my nameand it's tellin' methat things are not the samein the leaves on the treesand the touch of the breezethere's a pleasin' sense ofhappiness for methere is only one wish on my mindwhen this day is through Ihope that I will findthat tomorrow will bejust the same for you and meall I need will be mine if you are hereI’m on the top of the world lookin'down on creationand the only explanation I can findis the love that I’ve found eversince you've been aroundyour love's put me at the top of the worldI.Warm-up: Let’s Write a Poem TogetherWhat is love? Can you explain it by using the following simile as a beginning:Love is like…For example:Love is like a butterfly. It goes where it pleases and it pleases where it goes.II. Listen to a dialogue and fill in the blanks with the information you hear.A: How are your going?B: Very well. We started everything early to avoid a last minute to get things done. The only thing that isn’t ready yet is my.A: When will that be ready?B: The dressmakers said that is would be ready in two weeks.A: Y ou’re getting married in three weeks. So that should be ok. So, you’ve prepared.B: Y es. We’ve taken care of all of that. We decided not to in a church though. Neither of us is very religious.A: Which hotel will the reception be held at?B: The pal ace hotel they’re taking care of the catering, including. I’m sure they’ll do a good job.A: O h, yes. It’s an excellent hotel. A friend of mine had her wedding there and said it was perfect, though very expensive.B: Yes. It will be expensive, but we think it will be worth. It gives us great to know that our reception is in the hands of people.A: I think you make the right decision.III. Language Focus1.V ocabularya) Words used to describe appearancepretty, beautiful, handsome, good-looking, tall, medium height, plump, thin, slimb) Words used to describe characteramiable, brave, brilliant, considerate, courageous, creative, easy-going, frank, generous, honest, humorous, kind-hearted, loyal, responsible, reliable, sweet-temperedc) Game: MatchmakersRead the following table. Decide who would be the best marriage partner for John. Give2. Expressions often useda) Expressions often used when two people are in loveI have a crush on him/her.Do you believe in love at the first sight？Would you like to go out together sometime?Aren't they the perfect couple?They are a match made in heaven.b) Expression about proposingWill you marry me?I want to spend the rest of my life with you.I think it's time we settle downI will take care of you.Can I have your permission to marry her?(to parents)c) Game: QuizRules: Divide the classroom into four areas. Each stands for one choice. Ask the students to stand in the area standing for his choice. Only those who make the right choice can stayand continue the game.1) Which of the following does NOT mean that you have a boyfriend or girlfriend?A.I'm seeing someone.B.I'm hanging out with someone.C.I'm going out with someone.D.I'm with someone.2) What is the definition of 'a hot date'?A. A date you don't really want to go on.B. A date in the summer.C. A date with someone you find very attractive.D. A date in the gym.3) If someone asks you on a date but you already have a boyfriend or girlfriend, you could say…?A.Sorry, I'm spoken with.B.Sorry, I'm spoken to.C.Sorry, I'm spoken up.D.Sorry, I'm spoken for.4) Complete the sentence with the correct answer. I waited for 30 minutes for my date to arrive but he didn't turn up. I can't believe I have been __________.A.given up.B.stood up.C.left up.D.taken up.5) If you try internet dating, you have to enter lots of details about yourself and maybe even a photo. This would be called your __________ in English.A.web pageB.run-downC.profileD.presentation6) Choose a suitable phrase to replace the words in the brackets: The boy (had very strong feelings for)the girl sitting next to him in the school.A.hit it offB.datedC.had a crush onD.thought of7) What’s another expression for getting married?A.Tie the straw.B.Boot off.C.Tie the knot.D.Patch it up.8) Fill in the gap: He's been single for a while, so his friends tried to set him up on a ______ date, but it didn't work out.A.secretB.masqueradeC.speedD.blind9) When someone is so much in love that they feel very sad, then they could be described as being ______.A.loved up.B.love ill.C.lovesick.D.loveache10) What's the expression used to describe someone who is constantly in casual relationships with different people and doesn't want to settle down?A.Walking the field.B.Out and about.C.Playing poker.D.Playing the field.IV. Communicative Training1. Functional device: praisinga) Useful expressions●You look more beautiful every time I see you.●I love stars, and you're as beautiful as a star.●I love you with my whole heart.●I’m crazy about you.●You’ll never know how much I love you.●You mean everything to me.●Aren't they the perfect couple?●They are a match made in heaven.●I think they are good together.●They were made for each other.b) Role play (pair work): Try to make a dialogue between Romeo and Juliet who are admiring andpraising each other because they are deeply in love.c) Discussion: Find Ms./Mr. RightEach group must have ONLY gentlemen or ladies. Have a discussion about these two questions: What kind of man do you think is perfect? What kind of woman do you think is perfect?After the discussion, each group must give a report.2. After-class assignment: A Role play (group work)Rules: Each group make a short play according to the situation you have. Create all the characters that you need. Make sure every one have something to say.•Meet for the first time.•Go out dating.•There is a third one.•Propose.•Wedding.•Marriage life.V. Autonomous Study1. Cultural link: Know about wedding customs.a) V ocabulary•Bride•Groom•Bride’s maid•Best man•Priest•Bouquet•Pageboys•Flower girlsb) Wedding•The bride enters last with her father.•The bride and the groom exchange vows.•The couple exchange rings.•Reception.•Leave in a car.c) Assignment: PresentationEach group gives a presentation supported by PPT about the special wedding customs about a country.10minEach group member should be responsible for one part of the presentation.2. RecitationListen and read the following passages. Choose one to recite.Passage 1What is the most important day of your life? For many people the answer is your Wedding Day – the day when you marry another person and promise to live together as husband and wife for the rest of your lives.Wedding celebrations differ from country to country – in China the bride wears red whilst in India the wedding can continue for three days. However, in Britain the bride wears white and a wedding usually only lasts for one day.In the UK it is possible to get married in a religious or civil ceremony. A religious ceremony takes place in a church. A civil ceremony, on the other hand, can be held in a registry office, in a hotel, or even on a boat!On the day of the wedding the bride and groom are kept separate until the ceremony. It is said to be bad luck if the groom sees the bride in her dress before the wedding.The bride arrives at the ceremony accompanied by her father and bridesmaids. He officially gives her away to her new husband. During the ceremony the happy couple exchange vows and give each other wedding rings which they will wear forever. At the end of the ceremony they kiss.Afterwards they go outside where friends and family throw rice or confetti over them. Then they go on to the reception where there is a lot of food and drink. After the meal the father of the bride and the best man make speeches. Then the bride and groom take the first dance. It's a lot of fun.Finally, at the end of the party the newly-weds leave to go on honeymoon, usually to a very romantic destination.New wordsConfetti n. (婚礼中抛撒的)五彩纸屑Honeymoon n. 蜜月Passage 2Minister: We are gathered here today in the sight of God, and in the face of this company, to join together (Groom’s Name) and (Bride’s Name) in holy matrimony.(Minister addressing the groom):(Groom’s Name), do you take (Bride’s Name) for your lawful wedded wife? Will you love, honor, comfort, and cherish her from this day forward, forsaking all others, keeping only unto her for as long as you both shall live?Groom: I do.(Minster addressing the bride):(Bride’s Name), do you take (Groom’s Name) for your lawful wedded husband? Will you love, honor, comfort, and cherish him from this day forward, forsaking all others, keeping only unto him for as long as you both shall live?Bride: I do.(Minister: addressing the groom who repeats the marriage vows):MaleI _____, take you ______, to be my wedded wife. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.FemaleI, _____, take you ______, to be my wedded husband. To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.(The Minister then gets the brides ring from the best man)(Groom: placing ring on bride’s finger):With this ring I thee wed. Wear it as a symbol of our love and commitment.(Bride: placing ring on groom’s finger):With this ring I thee wed. Wear it as a symbol of our love and commitment.(Music may be inserted here.)(The wedding song)New wordsM atrimony n. 婚姻;夫妇关系Passage 3Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.Corinthians 13:4。
第四课恋爱和结婚●喜欢、爱上……汤姆是个美男子。
Tom is a lady-killer. *lady-killer直译是“少女杀手”，其实不是杀手，而是指一下子就能迷住女人的男子。
Tom dates around a lot. (汤姆和好多女人来往。
)Tom is a real playboy. (汤姆真是个花花公子。
)汤姆真让我神魂颠倒。
Tom really turns me on. *turn...on“有性方面的吸引力”、“使人着迷”。
Tom really turns me on. (汤姆真让我神魂颠倒。
)I didn't know you felt that way. (我一点儿都不知道你的感觉。
)I'm crazy about Tom.I have strong feelings for Tom.I love Tom.I have the hots for Tom. *俚语。
克里斯长得真帅。
Chris is really a heartbreaker. *用heartbreaker表示“长得很帅，对异性有吸引力的人”。
进一步讲，“heartbreaker”是指给异性带来撕心裂肺的痛苦和失望的人，魅惑他人，让人沉醉的人。
Elvis Presley (爱尔维斯·普里斯利)有一首成名曲“Heartbreak Hotel”，指的就是“(因恋爱而)绝望的人住的饭店”。
Chris breaks a lot of hearts. (克里斯使很多女人尝到了失恋的痛苦。
)Chris dates a lot of women. (克里斯和许多女人有来往。
)珍妮特真迷人。
Janet is a knockout. *如同拳击中的“knock out”一样，表示极具魅力、使对方晕头转向的人，多指女性。
Janet is a knockout. (珍妮特真迷人呀。
)You can say that again! (颇有同感。
Lecture Two Love and MarriageFeudalist Society•1. Principles:•A. “The command of parents and the good offices of a go-between”父母之命，媒妁之言。
•B. Marrying one’s own kind of people.门当户对Old Saying•“Marry a cock and follow the cock; marry a dog and follow the dog.”---Be faithful to him forever regardless of all circumstances.Reasons•1. The Core of Chinese Feudalist Ethics:•Loyalty and filial piety•2. Men enjoy higher status than women.Chinese Traditional Marriage•Chinese marriage was systemized into custom in the Warring States period (402---221B.C.)•It was important to follow a basic principle of Three Letters and Six Etiquettes in the ancient times.Three Letters•Betrothal Letter•Gift letter•Wedding LetterSix Etiquettes•1. Proposing•2. Birthday matching•3. Presenting betrothal gifts 彩礼,聘礼•4. Presenting wedding gifts•5. Picking a wedding date•6. Wedding ceremonyOther Customs•1. Preparing the bridal bed with scatted candies, lotus seeds, peanuts, beans and fruits of good meanings on the bed.•2. Dowry•3.Bri de’s ReturnKey Words•Good luck woman•Bridal sedan chair•Firecrackers•Kowtows•Teasing games in the bridal chamber.Question•What is the dominant color on traditional Chinese wedding?•Red. Because Chinese tend to apply red to add happy atmosphere in such big days. New Criteria after 1949•1. In 1950, the first Marriage Law passed in China. In 1980 and 2001, it was revised twice.•2. Main points of the revised marriage law:•A. free choice of partners, monogamy, equal rights for the sexes•B. Family planning is practiced.•C. marriage based upon arbitrary decision by any third party, mercenary marriage, and any other acts of interference in the freedom of marriage are prohibited.•D. Adultery outlawed; property division clarified; domestic violence punished. Types of Chinese family1. Incomplete/ single parent family2. Nuclear family (husband, wife, unmarried child)3. Joint family (two or more nuclear families)4. Enlarged family (a nuclear family plus satellites---widowed parents or distant relatives 0r unrelated persons)5. DINK6. Extended family(3+4)Elements that Characterize the Traditional Chinese Family:1. Patrilineal descent (family name, property, status passes from father to sons to grandsons);2. Sacrifice to and veneration of ancestors (eldest living male cares for ancestral tablets and is responsible for ancestral rituals);3. Legally recognized concubinage (under the law, a man could have more than one wife);4. Large families with several married brothers living together;5. Need for a male heir to continue ancestor sacrifice;6. Organization of kinsmen on the basis of a common patrilineal descent ("lineage").Population policyFamily planning has been pushed forward as one of the basicstate policies in China.The basic requirements of family planning are late marriage, late childbirth, fewer births, and better childcare.Love and MarriageUseful Expressions:早恋calf-love; puppy-love 一夫一妻制monogamy初恋first love 单相思，暗恋unrequited love 失恋be love-lorn; be jilted 黄昏恋twilight love媒人go-between，matchmaker 同性恋homosexual （gay, lesbian）自由恋爱free courtship 网上恋爱on-line romance闪电式恋爱whirlwind romance 白马王子Prince Charming；Mr. Right白雪公主Snow White断交信Dear John 抱独身主义的人celibatarian; confirmed bachelor/spinster求婚者suitor 独身主义celibacy 订婚礼物a betrothal gift包办婚姻prearranged marriage 买卖婚姻mercenary marriage跨国婚姻cross-culture marriage; mixed marriage结婚证marriage license 抢婚marriage by capture打离婚go to Reno 留守男士/女士grass widower/grass widow 傍大款find a sugar daddy; lean on moneybags第三者the third person(party); the other person; paramour二奶kept woman 包二奶have(keep) a concubine(mistress)小蜜young mistress 外遇extramarital relation; have an affair广告征婚advertising for spouse 红娘go-between; middleman白头偕老remain a devoted couple to the end of their lives脚踏两只船的人two-timer 婚纱摄影bride photo旅行结婚have a honeymoon trip; destination wedding。
