雪莉桑德伯格演讲翻译

FacebookCOO桑德伯格毕业演讲：失去一生所爱，让我变得更加坚强以下为Facebook首席运营官雪莉·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg）2017年5月12日在弗吉尼亚理工学院毕业典礼上的演讲。

桑兹校长，尊敬的教师，自豪的父母，忠实的朋友，年轻的兄弟姐妹们……祝贺你们。

最重要的是，祝贺弗吉尼亚理工学院（Virginia Tech）2017届的毕业生们！我很荣幸来到这里，这个旧金山夏日让人备感亲切，一如任何名字中带有“Tech”的事物。

今天，你们作为2017届的毕业生，我为你们感到激动。

为所有前来为你们加油鼓气的人感到激动。

从你踏进校门的那天起，他们便鞭策着你，帮你抹去泪水，陪你开怀大笑，直到今天。

让我们向他们表达衷心的感谢。

毕业演讲往往是单方面的。

演讲者，也就是我，传授自己得来不易的人生经验。

毕业生，也就是你们，坐在雨中，体贴地倾听。

然后，你们把帽子扔向空中，拥抱朋友，让父母拍上一大堆照片——然后开始精彩的人生……也许顺道去趟Sharkey’s餐馆，走之前再来一盘鸡翅。

今天会不太一样，我不讲大家不知道的。

我想讲讲弗吉尼亚理工学院社群再清楚不过的。

今天，我想谈谈韧劲。

这所大学有很多知名的东西。

你们的善良与正派，你们的学术成就，你们根深蒂固的校园精神。

我有很多时间都在跟大学打交道，虽是工作需要，但也是因为我想重温双十年华。

谈起自己的母校时，很少有人像霍奇谈论弗吉尼亚理工那样。

那种骄傲与团结，那种深深的认同感……只要问一个问题就可以证明。

霍奇是什么？（我就是！）在美国弗吉尼亚理工学院是一种吉祥物(也可代指该学院学生)，也代表了学院的一种永不服输的精神这就是了。

你们也许没有意识到，在霍奇精神的鼓舞下，你们的韧劲也日益增强。

近两年来，我都在研究韧劲这个东西，因为我经历了一件事，它所要求我具备的，是以前的我自认为做不到的。

两年零十一天前，我的丈夫大卫突然意外离世。

有时候，这些话我至今仍难以启齿，因为我到现在还是不太能接受那个现实。

Shirley Sandberg: The Worthy Queen of Silicon Valley ◎供稿：杨 琴雪莉·桑德伯格在2016年伯克利大学演讲道：“生活中总会碰到很多难处的事情，有时错失机会。

工作不合适、遭遇疾病或事故，因而一切瞬间改变。

有时尊严尽失，刻薄的偏见常常刺痛人心。

有时缘尽人散，亲密关系一旦破碎就难重圆。

人生不仅要面临生活，还要面临死别。

”雪莉的人生历经坎坷，但她用一次次行动证明：即便悲伤或空虚，或是面对巨大挑战，你仍然可以选择快乐和有意义的生活。

雪莉·桑德伯格：当之无愧的硅谷女王Track 7Life style/人物志Shirley Sandberg, now Facebook’s chief operating officer, is known by the media as “Facebook’s first lady”, and is the first female member of Facebook’s board. She is No.5 on the 2011 Forbes list of powerful women, one of the top 50 “most powerful” businesswomen elites on the Forbes list. In 2013, she appeared on the cover of Time magazine and was rated as one of the most influential people in the world by Time magazine.As a successful woman with countless great 1)halos and labels, what behind her is a journey of great 2)frustration and inspiration.Shirley Sandberg, was born in 1969 in a Jewish family in Washington, D.C., a typical middle-class family. Her father, Joel, is an 3)ophthalmologist, and her mother, Adele, teaches French at a college. Her parents are both senior 4)intellectuals. They 5)instilled their traditional educational ideas from childhood. They not only pay attention to her academic achievements, but also hope that she can fulfill her life-long task and be a good wife and good mother.In 1987, Shirley was admitted to Harvard University. In Harvard, where there are so many talented people, she still graduated from Harvard economics department as the first prize and top student. After graduation, she settled down in Washington, and soon met a suitable marriage partner, a Washington businessman. Like completing a historical mission, she got the 6)certificate without 7)hesitation.But because of her husband’s incomprehension of her career, they divorced after only one year together. After her marriage failed, she put all her heart into her work.One year after the divorce, Sherry was invited to serve as the chief of staff for her 8)mentor1)halo［̍he I ləʊ］n. 光环2)frustration［frʌ̍stre Iʃn］n. 挫折3)ophthalmologist［̩ɒfᶱæl̍mɒlədʒI st］n. 眼科医师4)intellectual［̩I ntə̍lektʃuəl］n. 知识分子5)instill［I n̍st I l］v. 灌输6)certificate［sə̍t I f I kət , sə̍t I f I ke I t］n. 证书，文凭 7)hesitation［̩hez I̍te Iʃn］n. 犹豫8)mentor［̍mentɔː(r)］n. 指导者，导师Summers, who became Vice Treasury Secretary of thethen US President Bill Clinton’s administration. At thistime, Shirley was only 29 years old and had alreadymade her mark in the political circle of Washington.1. In the future, there will be no female leaders. There will just be leaders.在未来，将没有女性领导人,只会有领导人。

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毕业典礼英文演讲稿1Answering speechDear professors and dear friends of China Jiliang University, I’m honored to address you on behalf of all the graduations this year.I would like to thank my parents, classmates, and friends who helped us ,and encouraged and supported us as we worked towards to our graduate degrees.I also w ant to thank Jiliang’s faculty members who served as our instructors，mentor, and friends, relatives, like Prof.Yu, Prof.Gao, Mrs. Liang. Through their commitments, they have inspired us to achieve and guided us to our dream.On this stage, at my graduation ceremony, when I look back my four years at Jiliang, my mind is filled with memories. May be you will ask me: do you have special to share? Yes, I want to share few simple but critical suggestions with you and with for the coming juniors:First, be work hard and think smart.Secondly, believe things happened for a reason.Thirdly, just as Jobs said at the graduation ceremony in Stanford University, stay hungry, stay foolish.Today, we will graduate from China Jiliang University, but we will be with Jiliang forever. Let us think forward and worktogether to make the new history of China Jiliang University.Thank you.毕业典礼英文演讲稿2Unlike any other creature on this planet, humans can learn and understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into other people’s minds, imagine themselves into other people’s places.Of course, this is a power, like my brand of fictional magic, that is morally neutral. One might use such an ability to manipulate, or control, just as much as to understand or sympathise.And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know.I might be tempted to envy people who can live that way, except that I do not think they have any fewer nightmares than I do. Choosing to live in narrow spaces can lead to a form of mental agoraphobia, and that brings its own terrors. I think the wilfully unimaginative see more monsters. They are often more afraid.What is more, those who choose not to empathize may enable real monsters. For without ever committing an act of outright evil ourselves, we collude with it, through our own apathy.One of the many things I learned at the end of that Classics corridor down which I ventured at the age of 18, in search ofsomething I could not then define, was this, written by the Greek author Plutarch: What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.That is an astonishing statement and yet proven a thousand times every day of our lives. It expresses, in part, our inescapable connection with the outside world, the fact that we touch other people’s lives simply by existing.But how much more are you, Harvard graduates of 2008, likely to touch other people’s lives? Your intelligence, your capacity for hard work, the education you have earned and received, give you unique status, and unique responsibilities. Even your nationality sets you apart. The great majority of you belong to the world’s only remaining superpower. The way you vote, the way you live, the way you protest, the pressure you bring to bear on your government, has an impact way beyond your borders. That is your privilege, and your burden.If you choose to use your status and influence to raise your voice on behalf of those who have no voice; if you choose to identify not only with the powerful, but with the powerless; if you retain the ability to imagine yourself into the lives of those who do not have your advantages, then it will not only be your proud families who celebrate your existence, but thousands and millions of people whose reality you have helped transform for the better. We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to imagine better.I am nearly finished. I have one last hope for you, which is something that I already had at 21. The friends with whom I sat on graduation day have been my friends for life. They are my children’s godparents, the people to whom I’ve been able toturn in times of trouble, friends who have been kind enough not to sue me when I’ve used their names for Death Eaters. At our graduation we were bound by enormous affection, by our shared experience of a time that could never come again, and, of course, by the knowledge that we held certain photographic evidence that would be exceptionally valuable if any of us ran for Prime Minister.So today, I can wish you nothing better than similar friendships. And tomorrow, I hope that even if you remember not a single word of mine, you remember those of Seneca, another of those old Romans I met when I fled down the Classics corridor, in retreat from career ladders, in search of ancient wisdom:毕业典礼英文演讲稿3You must believe in yourself and in your work. When our first Batman movie broke all those box-office records, I received a phone call from that United Artists exec who, years before, had told me I was out of my mind. Now he said, “Michael, Im just calling to congratulate you on the success of Batman. I always said you were a visionary.” You see the point here —dont believe them when they tell you how bad you are or how terrible your ideas are, but also, dont believe them when they tell you how wonderful you are and how great your ideas are. Just believe in yourself and youll do just fine. And, oh yes, dont then forget to market yourself and your ideas. Use both sides of your brain.You must have a high threshold for frustration. Take it from the guy who was turned down by every studio in Hollywood. You must knock on doors until your knuckles bleed. Doors will slam in your face. You must pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and knock again. Its the only way to achieve your goals in life.毕业典礼英文演讲稿4Sheryl Sandberg told a graduating class of Tsinghua University that great leaders want genuine enthusiasm, something she said her late husband, Dave Goldberg, always had.雪莉·桑德伯格鼓励清华大学毕业学子说，伟大的领袖需要“真正的激情”，而这一点她和她已故先生戴夫·哥德伯格(Dave Goldberg)一直怀有。

FaceBook桑德伯格：女性要想事业成功需要男人的支
持
FaceBook首席运营官雪莉·桑德伯格说过：
“如果希望另一半变成真正的人生搭档，首先得把对方看成与自己地位平等（也同样有能力）的好伙伴。

如果这么说理由还不充分，那就再加上一条研究结果：与在家务上与丈夫共同分担的女性相比，‘固守母职’的女性一周会多干5个小时的家务。

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“伴侣的支持非常重要。

那种认为女性只有抛开家庭才能达到事业巅峰的说法其实并不成立。

事实证明，绝大多数的成功女性都拥有一位相当支持自己事业的人生伴侣。

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“拥有一切”也许是女人遭遇的最大陷阱。

康奈尔大学的经济学教授莎伦·波兹特对此解释说，“拥有一切”这种过时的说法忽视了各种经济关系的基础——即交换的概念。

我们所有人都在进行人生的“约束优化”，试图在事业、孩子、关系等要素的基础上把自己的效
用最大化，竭尽全力去合理分配自己的时间资源。

由于资源稀缺，没有人能拥有一切。

如果非要有人这么说，那么他很可能是在撒谎。

什么是成功？“如果我必须为成功下个定义，那就是：成功，是为自己做出最好的选择，并且接受它们。

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摘选桑德伯格著作《向前一步》里的一篇女性励志文章：女性要想事业成功，需要男人在家务上更进取
FaceBook桑德伯格：女性要想事业成功，需要男人在家务上更进取1。

(1)Congratulations everyone, you made itAnd I don't mean to the end of college, I mean to class daybecause if memory servessome of your classmates had too many scorpion bowls at the Kong last nightand are with us todayGiven the weatherthe one thing Harvard hasn't figured out how to controlsome of your other classmates are at someplace warm with a hot cocoaso you have many reasons to feel proud of yourself as you sit here today Congratulations to your parentsYou have spent a lot of moneyso your child can say she went to a "small school" near BostonAnd thank you to the class of 2014 for inviting me to be part of your celebration It means a great deal to meand looking at the list of past speakers was a little dauntingI can't be as funny as Amy Poehlerbut I'm gonna be funnier than Mother Teresa25 years agoa man named Dave I did not know at the time but who would one day become my husband was sitting where you are sitting today23 years agoI was sitting where you are sitting todayDave and I are back this weekendwith our amazing son and daughter to celebrate his reunionand we both share the same sentimentHarvard has a good basketball teamStanding here in the yard brings memories flooding back for meI arrived here from Miami in the fall of 1987with big hopes and even bigger hairI was assigned to live in one of Harvard's historic monuments to great architecture CanadayMy go-to outfit, and I'm not making this up, was a jean skirtwhite leg warmers and sneakers and a Florida sweaterbecause my parents who were here with me then as they're here with me nowtold me everyone would think it was awesome that I was from FloridaAt least we didn't have InstagramFor me, Harvard was a series of firstsMy first winter coat, we needn't need those in MiamiMy first 10 page paper, they didn't assign those in my high schoolMy first Cafter which my proctor told me that she was on the Admissions Committeeand I got admitted to Harvard for my personalitynot my academic potentialThe first person I ever met from boarding schoolI thought that was our really troubled kidsThe first person I ever met who shares the name with a whole buildingor so I met when the first classmate I met was Sarah Wigglesworthwho bore no relation at all to the dormwhich would have been nice to know with that very intimidating momentBut then I went on to meet othersFrancis Strauss, James WellsJessica Science Center BMy first love, my first heartbreakthe first time I realized that I love to learnand the first and very last time I saw anyone read anything in LatinWhen I sat in your seat all those years agoI knew exactly where I was headed. I had it all planned outI was going to the World Bank to work on global povertyThen I would go to law schoolAnd I would spend my life working in a nonprofit or in a governmentAt Harvard's commencement tomorrow as your dean describedeach school is gonna stand up and graduate togetherthe college, the law school, the med school and so onAt my graduation, my class cheered for the PhD studentsand then booed the business schoolBusiness school seemed like such a sellout18 months later, I applied to business schoolIt wasn't that I was wrong about what I would do decades after graduatingI had it wrong a year and a half laterAnd even if I could have predicted I would one day work in the private sector I never could have predicted Facebookbecause there was no internetand Mark Zuckerberg was at elementary schoolalready wearing his hoodyNot locking into a path too earlygave me an opportunity to go into a new and life changing fieldAnd for those of you who think I owe everything to good luckafter Canaday I got QuadedWhat's that? Barron(2)There is no straight path from your seat today to where you are goingDon't try to draw that line. You will not just get it wrongYou'll miss big opportunities and I mean big, like the InternetCareers are not ladders. Those days are long gonebut jungle gymsDon't just move up and down. Don't just look upLook backwards, sideways, around cornersYour career and your life will have starts and stops and zigs and zags Don't stress out about the white space, the path you can trybecause there in lives both the surprises and the opportunitiesAs you open yourself up to possibilitythe most important thing I can tell you todayis to open yourself up to honestyto telling the truth to each otherto being honest with yourselvesand to being honest about the world we live inIf you watched children, you will immediately notice how honest they are My friend Betsy was pregnant and her sonfor the second child, son Sam was 5he wanted to know where the baby was in her bodySo yes Mommy, are the babies arms in your arms?And she said, no no Sam, baby's in my tummywhole babyMom, are the baby's legs in your legs?No, Sam, whole baby's in my tummyThen Mommy, what's growing in your butt?As adultswe are almost never dishonestand that can be a very good thingWhen I was pregnant with our first childI asked my husband Dave if my butt was getting bigAt first, he didn't answer but I pressedSo he said, yeah, a littleFor years my sister-in-law said about him what peoplewill now say about you for the rest of your life when you do something doneand that guy went to HarvardHearing the truth at different times along the way would have helped meI would not have admitted it easily when I sat where you sitBut when I graduated, I was much more worried about my love life than my career I thought I only had a few years very limited time to find one of the good guys before he was to, or before they were all takenor I got too oldSo I moved to DC, and met with guyand I got married at the nearly decrepit age of 24I married a wonderful man but I had no business making that kind of commitment I didn't know who I was or who I wanted to beMy marriage fell apart within a yearsomething that was really embarrassing and painful at the timeand it did not help that so many friends came up to me and saidI never knew that, never thought that was going to work orI knew you weren't right for each otherNo one had managed to say anything like that to mebefore I marched down an aisle when it would have been far more usefulAnd as I lived through these painful months of separation and divorceboy, did I wish they had?And boy, did I wish I had asked them?At the same time in my professional life, someone did speak upMy first boss out of college was Lant Pritchettan economist who teaches at the Kennedy School who is here with us todayAfter I deferred to law school for the second timeLant sat me down and saidI don't think you should go to law school at allI don't think you want to go to law schoolI think you think you should because you told your parents you would many years ago He noted that he had never once heard me talk about the law with any interestI know how hard it can be to be honest with each othereven your closest friends, even when they're about to make serious mistakesbut I bet sitting here today, you know your closest friends' strength, weaknesses what cliff they might drive offand I bet for the most part you've never told themand they've never askedAsk themAsk them for the truth because it will help youand when they answer honestlyyou know that that's what makes them real friendsAsking for feedback is a really important habit to get intoas you leave the structure of the school calendar and exams and grades behindOn many jobs if you want to know how you're doingif you're going to have to ask andthen you're gonna have to listen without getting defensiveTake it from me, listening to criticism is never fun(3)but it's the only way we can improveA few years ago, Mark Zuckerberg decided he wanted to learn Chineseand in order to practicehe started trying to have work meetings with some ofour Facebook colleagues who are native speakersNow you would think his very limited language skillswould keep these conversations from being usefulOne day he asked a woman who was therehow it was going, how did you choose the FacebookShe answered with a long and pretty complicated sentenceSo he said, simpler pleaseShe spoke againSimpler pleaseThis went back and forth a couple of timesSo she is blurted out in frustration, my manager is badThat he understoodSo often the truth is sacrificed to conflict avoidanceor by the time we speak the truth, we've used so many caveatsand preambles that the message totally gets lostSo I ask you to ask each other for the truth and other peoplecan you list it in simple and clear language?And when you speak your truthcan you use simple and clear language?As hard as it is to be honest with other peopleit can be even more difficult to be honest with ourselvesFor years after I had childrenI would say pretty often I don't feel guilty working even when no one asked Someone might say, Sheryl, how's your day today?And I would say, great I don't feel guilty workingOr do I need a sweater?Yes, it's unpredictably freezing and I don't feel guilty workingI was kinda like a parrot with issuesThen one day on the treadmill, I was reading this article on Sociology Journal about how people don't start out lying to other peoplethey start out lying to themselvesand the things we repeat most frequentlyare often those liesSo the sweat was pouring down my faceI started wondering what do I repeat pretty frequentlyand I realized I feel guilty workingI then did a lot of researchand I spent an entire year with my dear friend Nell Scovellwriting a book talking about how I was thinking and feelingand I'm so grateful that so many women around the world connected to itMy book of course was called Fifty Shades of GreyI can see a lot of you connected to it as wellWe have even more work to do in being honest about the world we live inWe don't always see the hard truthsand once we see them, we don't always have the courage to speak outWhen my classmates and I were in collegewe thought that fight for gender equality was one that was overSure, most of the leaders in every industry were menbut we thought changing that was just a matter of timeLamont Library right over thereone generation before us didn't let women through its doorsBut by the time we sat in your seat, everything was equalHarvard and Radcliffe was fully integratedWe didn't need feminism because we were already equalsWe were wrongI was wrongThe world was not equal thenand it is not equal nowI think nowadayswe don't just hide ourselves from the hard truthand shut our eyes to the inequitiesbut we suffer from the tyranny of low expectationsIn the last election cycle in the United Stateswomen won 20% of the Senate seatsand all the headlines started screaming outwomen take over the SenateI felt like screaming back, wait a minute everyone50% of the population getting 20% of the seatsThat's not a takeover. That's an embarrassmentJust a few months ago this yeara very well respected and well-known business executives in Silicon Valley invited me to give a speech to his club on social mediaI've been to this club a few months before when Ihave been invited for a friend's birthdayIt was a beautiful building and I was wandering aroundlooking at it, looking for the women's room(4)when a staff member informed me very firmlythat the ladies' room was over thereand I should be sure not to go up stairsbecause women are never allowed in this buildingI didn't realize I was in an all-male club until that minuteI spent the rest of the night wondering what I was doing therewondering what everyone else was doing therewondering if any of my friends in San Francisco would invite me toa party at a club that didn't allow Blacks or Jews or Asians or gaysBeing invited to give a business speech at this clubhit me even more egregiousbecause you couldn't claim that it was only social business that was done there My first thought was, "Really?"ReallyA year after "Lean In"this dude thought it was a good ideato invite me to give a speech to his literal all-boys clubAnd he wasn't alonethere is an entire committee of well respected businessmanwho joined him in issuing this kind invitationTo paraphrase Groucho Marxand don't worry, I won't try to do the voiceI don't want to speak in any club that won't have me as a memberSo I said noand I did it in a way I probably wouldn't have even 5 years beforeI wrote a long and passionate emailarguing that they should change their policiesThey thanked me for my prompt response and wrote thatperhaps things will eventually changeOur expectations are too lowEventually needs to become immediatelyWe need to see the truth and speak the truthWe tolerate discrimination and we pretend that opportunity is equalYes we elected an African-American presidentbut racism is pervasive stillYes, there are women who run Fortune 500 companies5 percent to be precisebut our road there is still paved with words like pussy and bossywhile our male peers are leaders and results focusedAfrican-American women have to prove that they're not angryLatinos risk being branded fiery hot headA group of Asian-American women and men in Facebookwore pins one day that said I may or may not be good enoughYes, Harvard has a woman presidentand in two years, the United States may have a woman president(5)But in order to get thereHillary Clinton is gonna have to overcome 2 very real obstaclesunknown and often ununderstood gender biasand even worse, a degree from YaleYou can challenge stereotypes that's subtle and obviousAt Facebook, we have posters around the wall to inspire usDone is better than perfectFortune favors the bold. What would you do if you weren't afraid?My new favoritenothing at Facebook is someone else's problemI hope you feel that way about the problems you see in the worldbecause they are not someone else's problemGender inequality harms men along with womenRacism hurts Whites along with MinoritiesAnd the lack of equal opportunity keeps all of usfrom failing our true potentialSo as you graduate todayI want to put some pressure on youI want to put some pressure on you to acknowledge the hard truthsnot shy away from themand when you see them to address themThe first time I spoke out about what it was like to be a woman in the workforce was less than five years agoThat means that for 18 years from where you sit to where I standmy silence implied that everything was okayYou can do better than I didAnd I mean that so sincerelyAt the same timeI want to take some pressure off youSitting here today you don't have toknow what career you want or how to get the career you might wantLeaning in does not mean your path will be straight or smoothand most people who make great contribution start way later than Mark ZuckerbergFind a jungle gym you want to play and start climbingnot only will you figure out what you want to do eventuallybut once you do, you'll crush itLooking at you all here todayI'm filled with hopeAll of you who were admitted to a "small school" near Boston either for your academic potential or your personality or both you've had your first, whether it's a winter coat, a love or a C you've learned more about who you are and who you want to be And most importantlyyou've experienced the power of communityyou know that while you are extraordinary on your ownwe are all stronger and can be louder togetherI know that you will never forget Harvardand Harvard will never forget youespecially during the next fundraising driveTomorrowyou all become part of a lifelong communitywhich offers truly great opportunityand therefore comes with real obligationYou can make the world fair for everyoneexpect honesty from yourself and each otherdemand and create truly equal opportunitynot eventually, but nowAnd tomorrow by the wayyou get something Mark Zuckerberg does not havea Harvard degreeCongratulations, everyone。

雪莉桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲雪莉桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲祝贺所有人～你们做到了。

我指的不是大学毕业～而你们成功出席今天的毕业典礼。

如果我没记错～某些同学虽然昨晚在香港具厅喝了太多蝎子碗调酒～但今天还是来了。

由于天气～这种哈佛还没有弄清如何控制的现象～还胡同学正在温暖的地方喝热可可饮料。

所以～你们有很多为今天出席毕业日活动感到自豪的理由。

祝贺你们的家长～你们花了很多钱～让子女能够说自己是从波士顿附近的这所“小学校”毕业的。

还要感谢2014届毕业生邀请我来到这次盛典。

这对我价值巨大。

看到过往演讲者的名单让人有些敬畏～我肯定没有艾米波乐那么搞笑～但我至少比特雷萨修女更幽默。

25年前～一个当时还不认识～但以后成为我丈夫的男人戴夫～从在你们现在从的地方。

23年前～我从在你们现在从的地方。

戴夫和我这个周末～带着可爱的子女回校～我们都有相同的三角:哈佛的篮球队太棒了:站在校园中～回忆泉涌。

1987年的秋天～我从迈阿密来到这里～怀揣着伟大的梦想～还胡更夸张的发型。

我被分配到哈佛伟大建筑的一座历史丰碑~卡纳迪楼～我是说真的～我当时穿着牛仔裙～白色暖裤袜套～运动鞋～还有一件弗罗里达羊毛衫。

因为当时我的父母告诉我～所有人都会认为来自弗里达的人很酷。

至少～我们那时没有。

对我而言～哈佛给了我很多第一次～包括我的第一件冬装～在迈阿密没有人需要冬装。

我的第一份10页的论文～高中没有人会布置这么长的作业。

我第一次得C～这之后～我的学监告诉我说～她在招生委员会～她招我进来不是因为我的学术潜能～而是因为我的品性。

我在寄宿学校看到的第一个人～我就觉得这个人会是个大麻烦。

我还碰到了第一个名字同整座建筑一样的人～这个人名字叫做萨拉威格尔斯沃斯～她和那栋宿舍楼没有关系～当时我很震惊～知道她和宿舍楼没有关系后～我松了一口气。

之后～我还碰到了其他人～弗朗西斯斯特劳斯～詹姆斯威尔斯～杰西卡科学中心B。

我第一们爱～第一们让我心碎的人。

2016年毕业演讲:Facebook桑德伯格UCB大学演讲--我从死亡中学到的东西【演讲简介】Facebook COO 谢丽尔·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg）5月14日在加州大学伯克利分校（UC Berkeley）的毕业典礼上发表的演讲，在这次演讲中，她首次公开谈论丈夫一年前的突然离世与自己的心路历程。

这对于她来说是一个勇敢的选择。

在演讲过程中，谈及她数度哽咽。

马克·扎克伯格在桑德伯格这篇演讲的下面评论：“如此美丽而又激励人心，谢谢你。

“UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA, BERKELEY 2016 CommencementAddressThank you, Marie. And thank you esteemed members of the faculty, proud parents, devoted friends, squirming siblings.Congratulations to all of you…and especially to the magnificent Berkeley graduating class of 2016!It is a privilege to be here at Berkeley, which has produced so many Nobel Prize winners, Turing Award winners, astronauts, members of Congress, Olympic gold medalists…. and that’s just the women!Berkeley has always been ahead of the times. In the 1960s, you led the Free Speech Movement. Back in those days, people used to say that with all the long hair, how do we even tell the boys from the girls? We now know the answer: manbuns.Early on, Berkeley opened its doors to the entire population. When this campus opened in 1873, the class included 167 men and 222 women. It took my alma mater another ninety years to award a single degree to a single woman.One of the women who came here in search of opportunity was Rosalind Nuss. Roz grew up scrubbing floors in the Brooklyn boardinghouse where she lived. She was pulled out of high school by her parents to help support their family. One of her teachers insisted that her parents put her back into school—and in 1937, she sat where you are sitting today and received a Berkeley degree. Roz was my grandmother. She was a huge inspiration to me and I’m so grateful that Berkeley recognized her potential. I want to take a moment to offer a special congratulations to the many here today who are the first generation in their families to graduate from college. What a remarkable achievement.Today is a day of celebration. A day to celebrate all the hard work that got you to this moment.Today is a day of thanks. A day to thank those who helped you get here—nurtured you, taught you, cheered you on, and dried your tears. Or at least the ones who didn’t draw on you with a Sharpie when you fell asleep at a party.Today is a day of reflection. Because today marks the end of one era of your life and the beginning of something new.A commencement address is meant to be a dance between youth and wisdom. You have the youth. Someone comes in to be the voice of wisdom—that’s supposed to be me. I stand up here and tell you all the things I have learned in life, you throw your cap in the air, you let your family take a million photos –don’t forget to post them on Instagram —and everyone goes home happy.Today will be a bit different. We will still do the caps and you still have to do the photos. But I am not here to tell you all the things I’ve le arned in life. Today I will try to tell you what I learned in death.I have never spoken publicly about this before. It’s hard. But I will do my very best not to blow my nose on this beautiful Berkeley robe.One year and thirteen days ago, I lost my husband, Dave. His death was sudden and unexpected. We were at a friend’s fiftieth birthday party in Mexico.I took a nap. Dave went to work out. What followed was the unthinkable—walking into a gym to find him lying on the floor. Flying home to tell my children that their father was gone. Watching his casket being lowered into the ground.For many months afterward, and at many times since, I was swallowed up in the deep fog of grief—what I think of as the void—an emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even to breathe.Dave’s death changed me in very profound ways. I learned about the depths of sadness and the brutality of loss. But I also learned that when life sucks you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. I learned that in the face of the void—or in the face of any challenge—you can choose joy and meaning.I’m sharing this with you in the hopes that today, as you take the next step in your life, you can learn the lessons that I only learned in death. Lessons about hope, strength, and the light within us that will not be extinguished.Everyone who has made it through Cal has already experienced some disappointment. You wanted an A but you got a B. OK, let’s be honest—you got an A- b ut you’re still mad. You applied for an internship at Facebook, but you only got one from Google. She was the love of your life… but then she swiped left.Game of Thrones the show has diverged way too much from the books—and you bothered to read all four thousand three hundred and fifty-two pages. You will almost certainly face more and deeper adversity. There’s loss of opportunity: the job that doesn’t work out, the illness or accident that changes everything in an instant. There’s loss of dignity: the sharp sting of prejudicewhen it happens. There’s loss of love: the broken relationships that can’t be fixed. And sometimes there’s loss of life itself.Some of you have already experienced the kind of tragedy and hardship that leave an indelible mark. Last year, Radhika, the winner of the University Medal, spoke so beautifully about the sudden loss of her mother.The question is not if some of these things will happen to you. They will. Today I want to talk about what happens next. About the things you can do to overcome adversity, no matter what form it takes or when it hits you. The easy days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days—the times that challenge you to your very core—that will determine who you are. You will be defined not just by what you achieve, but by how you survive.A few weeks after Dave died, I was talking to my friend Phil about a father-son activity that Dave was not here to do. We came up with a plan to fill in for Dave.I cried to him, “But I want Dave.“ Phil put his arm around me and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of option B.“We all at some point live some form of option B. The question is: What do we do then?As a representative of Silicon Valley, I’m pleased to tell you there is data to learn from. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that there are three P’s—personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence—that are critical to how we bounce back from hardship. The seeds of resilience are planted in the way we process the negative events in our lives.The first P is personalization—the belief that we are at fault. This is different from taking responsibility, which you should always do. This is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us.When Dave died, I had a very common reaction, which was to blame myself. He died in seconds from a cardiac arrhythmia. I poured over his medical records asking what I could have—or should have—done. It wasn’t until I lear ned about the three P’s that I accepted that I could not have prevented his death. His doctors had not identified his coronary artery disease. I was an economics major; how could I have?Studies show that getting past personalization can actually make you stronger. Teachers who knew they could do better after students failed adjusted their methods and saw future classes go on to excel. College swimmers who underperformed but believed they were capable of swimming faster did. Not taking failures personally allows us to recover—and even to thrive.The second P is pervasiveness—the belief that an event will affect all areas of your life. You know that song “Everything is awesome?“ This is the flip: “Everything is awful.“ There’s no place to run or hide from the all-consuming sadness.The child psychologists I spoke to encouraged me to get my kids back to their routine as soon as possible. So ten days after Dave died, they went back to school and I went back to work. I remember sitting in my first Facebook meetingin a deep, deep haze. All I could think was, “What is everyone talking about and how could this possibly matter?“ But then I got drawn into the discussion and for a second—a brief split second—I forgot about death.That brief second helped me see that there were other things in my life that were not awful. My children and I were healthy. My friends and family were so loving and they carried us—quite literally at times.The loss of a partner often has severe negative financial consequences, especially for women. So many single mothers—and fathers—struggle to make ends meet or have jobs that don’t allow them the time they need to care for their children. I had financial security, the ability to take the time off I needed, and a job that I did not just believ e in, but where it’s actually OK to spend all day on Facebook. Gradually, my children started sleeping through the night, crying less, playing more.The third P is permanence—the belief that the sorrow will last forever. For months, no matter what I did, it felt like the crushing grief would always be there. We often project our current feelings out indefinitely—and experience what I think of as the second derivative of those feelings. We feel anxious—and then we feel anxious that we’re anxious. We feel sad—and then we feel sad that we’re sad. Instead, we should accept our feelings—but recognize that they will not last forever. My rabbi told me that time would heal but for now I should “lean in to the suck.“ It was good advice, but not really what I meant by“lean in.“None of you need me to explain the fourth P…which is, of course, pizza from Cheese Board.But I wish I had known about the three P’s when I was your age. There were so many times these lessons would have helped.Day one of my first job out of c ollege, my boss found out that I didn’t know how to enter data into Lotus 1-2-3. That’s a spreadsheet—ask your parents. His mouth dropped open and he said, ‘I can’t believe you got this job without knowing that“—and then walked out of the room. I went home convinced that I was going to be fired. I thought I was terrible at everything… but it turns out I was only terrible at spreadsheets. Understanding pervasiveness would have saved me a lot of anxiety that week.I wish I had known about permanence when I broke up with boyfriends. It would’ve been a comfort to know that feeling was not going to last forever, and if I was being honest with myself… neither were any of those relationships. And I wish I had understood personalization when boyfriends broke up with me. Sometimes it’s not you—it really is them. I mean, that dude never showered. And all three P’s ganged up on me in my twenties after my first marriage ended in divorce. I thought at the time that no matter what I accomplished, I was a massive failure.T he three P’s are common emotional reactions to so many things that happen to us—in our careers, our personal lives, and our relationships. You’re probably feeling one of them right now about something in your life. But if you can recognize you are falling into these traps, you can catch yourself. Just as ourbodies have a physiological immune system, our brains have a psychological immune system—and there are steps you can take to help kick it into gear. One day my friend Adam Grant, a psychologist, suggested that I think about how much worse things could be. This was completely counterintuitive; it seemed like the way to recover was to try to find positive thoughts. “Worse?“ I said. “Are you kidding me? How could things be worse?“ His answer cut straight th rough me: “Dave could have had that same cardiac arrhythmia while he was driving your children.“ Wow. The moment he said it, I was overwhelmingly grateful that the rest of my family was alive and healthy. That gratitude overtook some of the grief.Finding gratitude and appreciation is key to resilience. People who take the time to list things they are grateful for are happier and healthier. It turns out that counting your blessings can actually increase your blessings. My New Year’s resolution this year is to write down three moments of joy before I go to bed each night. This simple practice has changed my life. Because no matter what happens each day, I go to sleep thinking of something cheerful. Try it. Start tonight when you have so many fun moments to list— although maybe do it before you hit Kip’s and can still remember what they are.Last month, eleven days before the anniversary of Dave’s death, I broke down crying to a friend of mine. We were sitting—of all places—on a bathroom floor. I said: “Eleven days. One year ago, he had eleven days left. And we had no idea.“ We looked at each other through tears, and asked how we would live if we knew we had eleven days left.As you graduate, can you ask yourselves to live as if you had eleven days left?I don’t mean blow everything off and party all the time— although tonight is an exception. I mean live with the understanding of how precious every single day would be. How precious every day actually is.A few years ago, my mom had to have her hip replaced. When she was younger, she always walked without pain. But as her hip disintegrated, each step became painful. Now, even years after her operation, she is grateful for every step she takes without pain—something that never would have occurred to her before.As I stand here today, a year after the worst day of my life, two things are true.I have a huge reservoir of sadness that is with me always—right here where I can touch it. I never knew I could cry so often—or so much.But I am also aware that I am walking without pain. For the first time, I am grateful for each breath in and out—grateful for the gift of life itself. I used to celebrate my birthday every five years and friends’ birthdays sometimes. Now I celebrate always. I used to go to sleep worrying about all the things I messed up that day—and trust me that list was often quite long. Now I try really hard to focus on each day’s moments of joy.It is the greatest irony of my life that losing my husband helped me find deeper gratitude—gratitude for the kindness of my friends, the love of my family, the laughter of my children. My hope for you is that you can find that gratitude—notjust on the good days, like today, but on the hard ones, when you will really need it.There are so many moments of joy ahead of you. That trip you always wanted to take. A first kiss with someone you really like. The day you get a job doing something you truly believe in. Beating Stanford. (Go Bears!) All of these things will happen to you. Enjoy each and every one.I hope that you live your life—each precious day of it—with joy and meaning. I hope that you walk without pain—and that you are grateful for each step.And when the challenges come, I hope you remember that anchored deep within you is the ability to learn and grow. You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are—and you just might become the very best version of yourself.Class of 2016, as you leave Berkeley, build resilience.Build resilience in yourselves. When tragedy or disappointment strike, know that you have the ability to get through absolutely anything. I promise you do. As the saying goes, we are more vulnerable than we ever thought, but we are stronger than we ever imagined.Build resilient organizations. If anyone can do it, you can, because Berkeley is filled with people who want to make the world a better place. Never stop working to do so—whether it’s a boardroom that is not representat ive or a campus that’s not safe. Speak up, especially at institutions like this one, which you hold so dear. My favorite poster at work reads, “Nothing at Facebook is someone else’s problem.“ When you see something that’s broken, go fix it. Build resilient communities. We find our humanity—our will to live and our ability to love—in our connections to one another. Be there for your family and friends. And I mean in person. Not just in a message with a heart emoji.Lift each other up, help each other kick the shit out of option B—and celebrate each and every moment of joy.You have the whole world in front of you. I can’t wait to see what you do with it. Congratulations, and Go Bears!谢谢玛丽。

雪莉·桑德伯格哈佛大学2014毕业典礼演讲Congratulations everyone, you made it.And I don’t mean to the end of college, I mean to class day, because if memory serves, some of your classmates had too many scorpion bowls at the Kong last night and are with us today. Given the weather, the one thing Harvard hasn’t figured out how to control, some of your other classmates are at someplace warm with a hot cocoa, so you have many reasons to feel proud of yourself as you sit here today.Congratulations to your parents.You have spent a lot of money, so your child can say she went to a “small school” near Boston. And thank you to the class of 2014 for inviting me to the part of your celebration. It means a great to me. And looking at the list of past speakers was a little daunting.I can’t be as funny as Amy Poehler, but I’m gonna be funnier than Mother Teresa.25 years ago, a man named Dave I did not know at the time but who would one day become my husband was sitting where you are sitting today.23 years ago, I was sitting where you are sitting today. Dave and I are back this weekend with our amazing son and daughter to celebrate his reunion, and we both share the same sentiment, Harvard has a good basketball team.Standing here in the yard brings memories flooding back for me.I arrived here from Miami in the fall of 1987, with big hopes and even bigger hear. I was assigned to live in one of Harvard’s historic monuments to great architecture, canady. My go-to outfit, and I’m not making this up, was a jean skirt, white leg warmers and sneakers and a Florida sweater, because my parents who were here with me then as they’re here with me now, told me everyone would think it was awesome that I was from Florida. At least we didn’t have Instagram.For me, Harvard was a series of firsts.My first winner coat, we needn’t need those in Miami.My first 10page paper, they didn’t assign those in my high school.My first C, after which my proctor told me that she was on the admissions committee, and I got admitted to Harvard for my personality not my academic potential.The first person I ever met from boarding school. I thought that was our really troubled kids.The first person I ever met who shares the name with a whole building, or so I met when the first classmate I met was Sarah Widdlesworth, who bore no relation at all to the dorm, which would have been nice to know with that very intimidating moment. But then I went on to meet others, Francis Strauss, James wells, Jessica science center B. My first love, my first heartbreak, the first time I realized that I love to learn, and the first and very last time I saw anyone read anything in Latin.When I sat in your seat all those years ago, I knew exactly where Iwas headed, I had it all planned out, I was going to the world bank to work on global poverty. The I would go to law school. And I would spend my life working in a nonprofit or in a government. At Harvard’s commencement tomorrow as your dean described, each school is gonna stand up and graduate together, the college, the law school, the med school and so on. At my graduation, my class cheered for the PHD students and then booed the business school. Business school seemed like such a sellout.18 months later, I applied to business school.It wasn’t wrong about what I would do decades after graduating.I had it wrong a year and a half later. And even if I could have predicted I would one day work in the private sector, I never could have predicted Facebook, because there was no internet, and Mark Zuckerberg was at elementary school, already wearing his hoody. Not locking into a path too early, give me an opportunity to go into a new and life changing field. And for those of you who think I owe everything to good luck, after Canaday I got Quaded.There is no straight path from your seat today to where you are going. Don’t try to draw that line. You will not just get it wrong. You will miss big opportunities and I mean big ,like the internet.Careers are not ladders. Those days are long gone, but jungle gyms. Don’t just move up and down. Don’t just look up. Look backwards, sideways, around corners. Your career and your life will have starts and stops and zigs and zags. Don’t stress out about the white space, the path you can try, because there in lives both the surprises and the opportunities. As you open yourself up to possibility, the most important thing I can tell you today is to open yourself up to honesty, to telling the truth to each other, to be honesty to yourselves, and to be honest about the world we live in.If you watched children, you will immediately notice how honest they are.My friend besty was pregnant and her son for the second child, son Sam was 5, he wanted to know where the baby was in her body. So yes mommy, are the babies arms in your arms? And she said, no no sam, baby’s in my tummy, whole baby. Mom ,are the baby’s legs in your legs? No, sam, whole baby’s in my tummy. Then mommy, what’s growing in your butt?As adults, we are almost never dishonest and that can be a very good thing, When I was pregnant with our first child, I asked my husband Dave if my butt was getting big. At first, he didn’t answer but I pressed. So he said, yea, a little.For years my sister-in-low said him what people will now say about you for the rest of your life when you do something done, and that guy went to Harvard.Hearing the truth at different times along the way would have helped me. I would not have admitted it easily when I sat where you sit. But when I graduated, I was much more worried about my love life than my career.I thought I only had a few years very limited time to find one of the good guys, before he was to , or before they were all taken, or I get too old. So I moved to DC, and met the guy, and I got married at the nearly decrepit age of 24. I married a wonder a wonderful man, but I had no business making that kind of commitmer. I didn’t know who I was or who I wanted to be. My marriage fell apart within a year, something that was really embarrassing and painful at the time, and it did not help that so many friends came up to me and said:”I never knew that, never thought that was going to work or I knew you weren’t right for each other. No one had managed to say anything like that to me before I marched down an aisle when it would have been far more useful.And as I lived through these painful months of separation and divorce, boy, did I wish the had? And boy, did I wish I had asked them? At the same time in my professional life, someone did speak up. My first boss out of college was Lant Prichett, an economist who teaches at the kennedy School who is here with us today, after I deferred to law school for the second time.Lant sat down and said I don’t think you should go to law school at all, I don’t think you want to go to law school. I think you should because you told your parents you would many years ago.He noted that he had never once heard me talk about the law with any interest.I know how hard it can be to be honest with each other, even your closest friends, even when they’re about to make serious mistakes, but I bet sitting here today, you know your closest friends’ strength, weeknesses, what cliff they might drive off, and I bet for the most part you’ve never told them, and they never asked. Ask them. Ask them for the truth because it will help you.And when the answer honestly, you know that that’s what makes them real friends.Asking for feedback is a really important habit to get into, as you leave the structure of the school calendar and exams and grades behind. On many jobs if you want to know how you’re doing, if you’re going to have to ask and then you’re gonna have to listen without getting defensive. Take it from me, listening to criticism is never fun, but it’s the only way we can improve.A few years ago, Mark Zuckerberg decided he wanted to learn Chinese, and in order to practice he started trying to have work meetings with some of Facebook colleagues who are native speakers. Now you would think his very limited language skills would keep these conversations from being useful. One day he asked a woman who was there, how it was going, how did you choose the facebook. She answered with a long and pretty complicated sentence. So he said simpler please. She spoke again. Simpler please. This went back and forth a couple of times. So she is blurted out in frustration,my manager is bad. That he understood.So often the truth is sacrificed to conflict avoidance, or by the time we speak the truth ,we’ve used so many caveats and preambles that the message totally gets lost. So I ask you to ask each other for the truth and other people: can you list it in simple and clear language? And when you speak your truth, can you use simple and clear language?As hard as it is to be honest with orther people. It can be even more difficult to be honest with ourselves. For years after I had children, I would say pretty often I don’t feel guilty working even when no one asked. Someone might say, sherly, how’s your day today? And I would say, great I don’t feel guilty working. Or do I need a sweater? Yes ,it’s unpredictably freezing and I don’t feel guilty woring. I was kinda like a parrot with issues.Then one day on the treadmill, I was reading this article on Sociology Journal. about how people don’t start out lying to other people, they start out lying to themselves, and the things we repeat most frequently are often those lies.So the sweat was pouring down my face. I started wondering what do I repeat pretty frequently, and I realized I feel guilty working. I then did a lot of research, and I spent an entire year with my dear friend Neil Scovell writing a book talking about how I was thinking and feeling., and I’m so grateful that so many women around the world connected to it. My book of course was called Fify Shades of Grey. I can see a lot of you connected to it as well.We have even more work to do in being honest about the world we live in. We don’t always see the hard truths, and once we see them, we don’t always have the courage to speak out.When my classmates and I were in college, we thought that fight for gender equally was one that was over. Sure, most of the leaders in every industry were men, but we thought changing that was just a matter of time. Lamont library right over there, one generation before us didn’t let women through its doors. But by the time we sat in your seat, everything was equal, Harvard and Radcliffe was fully integrated.We didn’t need feminism because we were already equals. We were wrong.I was wrong. The word was not equal then and it is not equal now. I think nowadays, we don’t just hide ourselves from the hard truth and shut our eyes to the inequities, but we suffer from the tyranny of low expectations.In the last election cycle in the united states, women won 20% of the senate seats, and all the headlines started screaming out: women take over the Senate. I felt like screaming back, wait a minute everyone.50% of the population getting 20% of the seats. That’s not a takeover. That’s an embarrassment.Just a few months ago this year, a very well respected and well-know business executives in Silicon Valley invited me to give a speech to hisclub on social media. I’ve been to this club a few months before when I have been invited for a friend’s birthday. It was a beautiful building and I was wandering around looking at it, looking for the women's room, when a staff member informed me very firmly that the ladies' room was over there and I should be sure not to go up stairs because women are never allowed in this building. I didn't realize I was in an all-male club until that minute.I spent the rest of the night wondering what I was doing there wondering what everyone else was doing there, wondering if any of my friends in San Francisco would invite me, a party at a club that didn't allow Blacks or Jews or Asians or gays. Being invited to give a business speech at this club, hit me even more egregious because you couldn't claim that it was only social business that was done there.My first thought was, "Really?" Really. A year after Lean In this dude thought it was a good idea to invite me to give a speech to his literal all-boys club. And he wasn't alone, there is an entire committee of well respected businessman who joined him in issuing this kind invitation.To paraphrase Groucho Marx, and don't worry, I won't try to do the voice I don't want to speak in any club that won't have me as a member. So I said no,and I did it in a way I probably wouldn't have even 5 years before. I wrote a long and passionate email, arguing that they should change their policies. They thanked me for my prompt response and wrote that perhaps things will eventually change. Our expectations are too low. Eventually needs to become immediately.We need to see the truth and speak the truth. We tolerate discrimination and we pretend that opportunity is equal. Yes we elected an African-American president, but racism is pervasive still.Yes, there are women who run Fortune 500 companies, 5 percent to be precise, but our road there is still paved with words like pussy and bossy, while our male peers are leaders and results focused.African-American women have to prove that they're not angry. Latinos risk being branded fiery hot head.A group of Asian-American women and men in Facebook wore pins one day that said I may or may not be good enough.Yes, Harvard has a woman president, and in two years, the United States may have a woman president.But in order to get there, Hillary Clinton is gonna have to overcome 2 very real obstacles, unknown and often ununderstood gender bias, and even worse, a degree from Yale.You can challenge stereotypes that's subtle and obvious. At Facebook, we have posters around the wall to inspire us, Done is better than perfect, Fortune favors the bold. What would you do if you weren't afraid? My new favorite nothing at Facebook is someone else's problem. I hope you feel that way about the problems you see in the world., because they are not someone else's problem. Gender inequality harms men along with women. Racism hurts Whites along with Minorities. And the lack of equalopportunity keeps all of us from failing our true potential.So as you graduate today, I want to put some pressure on you, I want to put some pressure on you to acknowledge the hard truths, not shy away from them, and when you see them to address them.The first time I spoke out about what it was like to be a woman in the workforce was less than five years ago. That means that for 18 years from where you sit to where I stand, my silence implied that everything was okay. You can do better than I did. And I mean that so sincerely.At the same time, I want to take some pressure off you, Sitting here today you don't have to know what career you want or how to get the career you might want. Leaning in does not mean your path will be straight or smooth and most people who make great contribution start way later than Mark Zuckerberg. Find a jungle gym you want to play and start climbing, not only will you figure out what you want to do eventually, but once you do, you'll crush it.Looking at you all here today, I'm filled with hope. All of you who were admitted to a "small school" near Boston, either for your academic potential or your personality or both, you've had your first, whether it's a winter coat, a love or a C, you've learned more about who you are and who you want to be. And most importantly, you've experienced the power of community, you know that while you are extraordinary on your own, we are all stronger and can be louder together. I know that you will never forget Harvard, and Harvard will never forget you, especially during the next fundraising drive.Tomorrow, you all become part of a lifelong community, which offers truly great opportunity, and therefore comes with real obligation. You can make the world fair for everyone, expect honesty from yourself and each other, demand and create truly equal opportunity, not eventually, but now. And tomorrow by the way, you get something Mark Zuckerberg does not have, a Harvard degree. Congratulations, everyone!祝贺所有人，你们做到了。

留学生必看facebook女高管雪莉·桑德伯格UCB的毕业演讲稿中英对照美国大学每年的名校毕业典礼上都会邀请业内政治、商业、科技等领域的风云人物进行演讲，为本校的毕业生们传授经验。

下面来说说facebook女高管雪莉·桑德伯格UCB的毕业演讲稿中英对照。

她被美国媒体誉为“硅谷最有影响力女人”，身居福布斯百强女性榜第5名，《时代周刊》的封面人物，并被评为全球最具影响力的人物。

但当她的事业蓬勃发展的时候，他的丈夫却撒手人寰。

这对常人来说，是难以承受的打击，但她坚强的挺过来，并且在加州大学伯克利分校UCB的毕业演讲中，为大家分享，她言到“最终塑造你的是你走过的那些艰难。

”以下是她在UCB的研究稿节选：I learned that in the face of the void—or in the face of any challenge—you can choose joy and meaning.我明白了，即便悲伤至空虚，或是面对巨大挑战，你仍然可以选择快乐和有意义的生活。

Thank you，Marie. And thank you esteemed members of the faculty，proud parents，devoted friends，squirming siblings.谢谢玛丽。

谢谢尊敬的老师们、自豪的父母、忠诚的朋友们，各位同仁。

Congratulations to all of you…and especially to the magnificent Berkeley graduating class of 2016！祝贺所有人……尤其是伯克利2016级的毕业生们！It is a privilege to be here at Berkeley， which has produced so many Nobel Prize winners，Turing Award winners，astronauts， members of Congress，Olympic gold medalists….and that’s just the women！在伯克利求学是一件幸事，这里出过众多的诺贝尔奖得主、图灵奖获得者、宇航员、国会议员和奥运会金牌得主……而且都有女性！Today is a day of thanks. A day to thank those who helped you get here—nurtured you，taught you，cheered you on，and dried your tears. Or at least the ones who didn’t draw on you with a Sharpie when you fell asleep at a party.今天应该感谢。

(1)Congratulations everyone, you made itAnd I don't mean to the end of college, I mean to class daybecause if memory servessome of your classmates had too many scorpion bowls at the Kong last nightand are with us todayGiven the weatherthe one thing Harvard hasn't figured out how to controlsome of your other classmates are at someplace warm with a hot cocoaso you have many reasons to feel proud of yourself as you sit here todayCongratulations to your parentsYou have spent a lot of moneyso your child can say she went to a "small school" near BostonAnd thank you to the class of 2014 for inviting me to be part of your celebrationIt means a great deal to meand looking at the list of past speakers was a little dauntingI can't be as funny as Amy Poehlerbut I'm gonna be funnier than Mother Teresa25 years agoa man named Dave I did not know at the time but who would one day become my husbandwas sitting where you are sitting today23 years agoI was sitting where you are sitting todayDave and I are back this weekendwith our amazing son and daughter to celebrate his reunionand we both share the same sentimentHarvard has a good basketball teamStanding here in the yard brings memories flooding back for meI arrived here from Miami in the fall of 1987with big hopes and even bigger hairI was assigned to live in one of Harvard's historic monuments to great architectureCanadayMy go-to outfit, and I'm not making this up, was a jean skirtwhite leg warmers and sneakers and a Florida sweaterbecause my parents who were here with me then as they're here with me nowtold me everyone would think it was awesome that I was from FloridaAt least we didn't have InstagramFor me, Harvard was a series of firstsMy first winter coat, we needn't need those in MiamiMy first 10 page paper, they didn't assign those in my high schoolMy first Cafter which my proctor told me that she was on the Admissions Committee and I got admitted to Harvard for my personalitynot my academic potentialThe first person I ever met from boarding schoolI thought that was our really troubled kidsThe first person I ever met who shares the name with a whole buildingor so I met when the first classmate I met was Sarah Wigglesworthwho bore no relation at all to the dormwhich would have been nice to know with that very intimidating moment But then I went on to meet othersFrancis Strauss, James WellsJessica Science Center BMy first love, my first heartbreakthe first time I realized that I love to learnand the first and very last time I saw anyone read anything in LatinWhen I sat in your seat all those years agoI knew exactly where I was headed. I had it all planned outI was going to the World Bank to work on global povertyThen I would go to law schoolAnd I would spend my life working in a nonprofit or in a governmentAt Harvard's commencement tomorrow as your dean describedeach school is gonna stand up and graduate togetherthe college, the law school, the med school and so onAt my graduation, my class cheered for the PhD studentsand then booed the business schoolBusiness school seemed like such a sellout18 months later, I applied to business schoolIt wasn't that I was wrong about what I would do decades after graduating I had it wrong a year and a half laterAnd even if I could have predicted I would one day work in the private sector I never could have predicted Facebookbecause there was no internetand Mark Zuckerberg was at elementary schoolalready wearing his hoodyNot locking into a path too earlygave me an opportunity to go into a new and life changing fieldAnd for those of you who think I owe everything to good luckafter Canaday I got QuadedWhat's that? Barron(2)There is no straight path from your seat today to where you are goingDon't try to draw that line. You will not just get it wrongYou'll miss big opportunities and I mean big, like the InternetCareers are not ladders. Those days are long gonebut jungle gymsDon't just move up and down. Don't just look upLook backwards, sideways, around cornersYour career and your life will have starts and stops and zigs and zags Don't stress out about the white space, the path you can trybecause there in lives both the surprises and the opportunitiesAs you open yourself up to possibilitythe most important thing I can tell you todayis to open yourself up to honestyto telling the truth to each otherto being honest with yourselvesand to being honest about the world we live inIf you watched children, you will immediately notice how honest they are My friend Betsy was pregnant and her sonfor the second child, son Sam was 5he wanted to know where the baby was in her bodySo yes Mommy, are the babies arms in your arms?And she said, no no Sam, baby's in my tummywhole babyMom, are the baby's legs in your legs?No, Sam, whole baby's in my tummyThen Mommy, what's growing in your butt?As adultswe are almost never dishonestand that can be a very good thingWhen I was pregnant with our first childI asked my husband Dave if my butt was getting bigAt first, he didn't answer but I pressedSo he said, yeah, a littleFor years my sister-in-law said about him what peoplewill now say about you for the rest of your life when you do something doneand that guy went to HarvardHearing the truth at different times along the way would have helped meI would not have admitted it easily when I sat where you sitBut when I graduated, I was much more worried about my love life than my careerI thought I only had a few years very limited time to find one of the good guys before he was to, or before they were all takenor I got too oldSo I moved to DC, and met with guyand I got married at the nearly decrepit age of 24I married a wonderful man but I had no business making that kind of commitmentI didn't know who I was or who I wanted to beMy marriage fell apart within a yearsomething that was really embarrassing and painful at the timeand it did not help that so many friends came up to me and saidI never knew that, never thought that was going to work orI knew you weren't right for each otherNo one had managed to say anything like that to mebefore I marched down an aisle when it would have been far more usefulAnd as I lived through these painful months of separation and divorceboy, did I wish they had?And boy, did I wish I had asked them?At the same time in my professional life, someone did speak upMy first boss out of college was Lant Pritchettan economist who teaches at the Kennedy School who is here with us todayAfter I deferred to law school for the second timeLant sat me down and saidI don't think you should go to law school at allI don't think you want to go to law schoolI think you think you should because you told your parents you would many years ago He noted that he had never once heard me talk about the law with any interestI know how hard it can be to be honest with each othereven your closest friends, even when they're about to make serious mistakes but I bet sitting here today, you know your closest friends' strength, weaknesses what cliff they might drive offand I bet for the most part you've never told themand they've never askedAsk themAsk them for the truth because it will help youand when they answer honestlyyou know that that's what makes them real friendsAsking for feedback is a really important habit to get intoas you leave the structure of the school calendar and exams and grades behind On many jobs if you want to know how you're doingif you're going to have to ask andthen you're gonna have to listen without getting defensiveTake it from me, listening to criticism is never fun(3)but it's the only way we can improveA few years ago, Mark Zuckerberg decided he wanted to learn Chineseand in order to practicehe started trying to have work meetings with some ofour Facebook colleagues who are native speakersNow you would think his very limited language skillswould keep these conversations from being usefulOne day he asked a woman who was therehow it was going, how did you choose the FacebookShe answered with a long and pretty complicated sentenceSo he said, simpler pleaseShe spoke againSimpler pleaseThis went back and forth a couple of timesSo she is blurted out in frustration, my manager is badThat he understoodSo often the truth is sacrificed to conflict avoidanceor by the time we speak the truth, we've used so many caveatsand preambles that the message totally gets lostSo I ask you to ask each other for the truth and other peoplecan you list it in simple and clear language?And when you speak your truthcan you use simple and clear language?As hard as it is to be honest with other peopleit can be even more difficult to be honest with ourselvesFor years after I had childrenI would say pretty often I don't feel guilty working even when no one asked Someone might say, Sheryl, how's your day today?And I would say, great I don't feel guilty workingOr do I need a sweater?Yes, it's unpredictably freezing and I don't feel guilty workingI was kinda like a parrot with issuesThen one day on the treadmill, I was reading this article on Sociology Journal about how people don't start out lying to other peoplethey start out lying to themselvesand the things we repeat most frequentlyare often those liesSo the sweat was pouring down my faceI started wondering what do I repeat pretty frequentlyand I realized I feel guilty workingI then did a lot of researchand I spent an entire year with my dear friend Nell Scovellwriting a book talking about how I was thinking and feelingand I'm so grateful that so many women around the world connected to it My book of course was called Fifty Shades of GreyI can see a lot of you connected to it as wellWe have even more work to do in being honest about the world we live in We don't always see the hard truthsand once we see them, we don't always have the courage to speak out When my classmates and I were in collegewe thought that fight for gender equality was one that was overSure, most of the leaders in every industry were menbut we thought changing that was just a matter of timeLamont Library right over thereone generation before us didn't let women through its doorsBut by the time we sat in your seat, everything was equalHarvard and Radcliffe was fully integratedWe didn't need feminism because we were already equalsWe were wrongI was wrongThe world was not equal thenand it is not equal nowI think nowadayswe don't just hide ourselves from the hard truthand shut our eyes to the inequitiesbut we suffer from the tyranny of low expectationsIn the last election cycle in the United Stateswomen won 20% of the Senate seatsand all the headlines started screaming outwomen take over the SenateI felt like screaming back, wait a minute everyone50% of the population getting 20% of the seatsThat's not a takeover. That's an embarrassmentJust a few months ago this yeara very well respected and well-known business executives in Silicon Valley invited me to give a speech to his club on social mediaI've been to this club a few months before when Ihave been invited for a friend's birthdayIt was a beautiful building and I was wandering aroundlooking at it, looking for the women's room(4)when a staff member informed me very firmlythat the ladies' room was over thereand I should be sure not to go up stairsbecause women are never allowed in this buildingI didn't realize I was in an all-male club until that minuteI spent the rest of the night wondering what I was doing therewondering what everyone else was doing therewondering if any of my friends in San Francisco would invite me toa party at a club that didn't allow Blacks or Jews or Asians or gaysBeing invited to give a business speech at this clubhit me even more egregiousbecause you couldn't claim that it was only social business that was done there My first thought was, "Really?"ReallyA year after "Lean In"this dude thought it was a good ideato invite me to give a speech to his literal all-boys clubAnd he wasn't alonethere is an entire committee of well respected businessmanwho joined him in issuing this kind invitationTo paraphrase Groucho Marxand don't worry, I won't try to do the voiceI don't want to speak in any club that won't have me as a memberSo I said noand I did it in a way I probably wouldn't have even 5 years beforeI wrote a long and passionate emailarguing that they should change their policiesThey thanked me for my prompt response and wrote thatperhaps things will eventually changeOur expectations are too lowEventually needs to become immediatelyWe need to see the truth and speak the truthWe tolerate discrimination and we pretend that opportunity is equalYes we elected an African-American presidentbut racism is pervasive stillYes, there are women who run Fortune 500 companies5 percent to be precisebut our road there is still paved with words like pussy and bossywhile our male peers are leaders and results focusedAfrican-American women have to prove that they're not angryLatinos risk being branded fiery hot headA group of Asian-American women and men in Facebookwore pins one day that said I may or may not be good enoughYes, Harvard has a woman presidentand in two years, the United States may have a woman president(5)But in order to get thereHillary Clinton is gonna have to overcome 2 very real obstaclesunknown and often ununderstood gender biasand even worse, a degree from YaleYou can challenge stereotypes that's subtle and obviousAt Facebook, we have posters around the wall to inspire usDone is better than perfectFortune favors the bold. What would you do if you weren't afraid?My new favoritenothing at Facebook is someone else's problemI hope you feel that way about the problems you see in the worldbecause they are not someone else's problemGender inequality harms men along with womenRacism hurts Whites along with MinoritiesAnd the lack of equal opportunity keeps all of usfrom failing our true potentialSo as you graduate todayI want to put some pressure on youI want to put some pressure on you to acknowledge the hard truthsnot shy away from themand when you see them to address themThe first time I spoke out about what it was like to be a woman in the workforce was less than five years agoThat means that for 18 years from where you sit to where I standmy silence implied that everything was okayYou can do better than I didAnd I mean that so sincerelyAt the same timeI want to take some pressure off youSitting here today you don't have toknow what career you want or how to get the career you might wantLeaning in does not mean your path will be straight or smoothand most people who make great contribution start way later than Mark Zuckerberg Find a jungle gym you want to play and start climbingnot only will you figure out what you want to do eventuallybut once you do, you'll crush itLooking at you all here todayI'm filled with hopeAll of you who were admitted to a "small school" near Bostoneither for your academic potential or your personality or bothyou've had your first, whether it's a winter coat, a love or a Cyou've learned more about who you are and who you want to beAnd most importantlyyou've experienced the power of communityyou know that while you are extraordinary on your own we are all stronger and can be louder togetherI know that you will never forget Harvardand Harvard will never forget youespecially during the next fundraising drive Tomorrowyou all become part of a lifelong communitywhich offers truly great opportunityand therefore comes with real obligationYou can make the world fair for everyoneexpect honesty from yourself and each other demand and create truly equal opportunitynot eventually, but nowAnd tomorrow by the wayyou get something Mark Zuckerberg does not havea Harvard degreeCongratulations, everyone。

Title: The Rise of Women in Executive PositionsIn recent years, there has been a significant shift in the corporate landscape with more women breaking through the glass ceiling to assume executive positions. As a high school student who has always been intrigued by the dynamics of leadership and gender roles, I have closely observed this trend and its implications on society and the workplace.Growing up, I was often inspired by the stories of women who defied societal expectations and climbed the corporate ladder. One such story that resonated with me was that of Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, who has been a trailblazer in advocating for womens leadership in the tech industry. Her book, Lean In, has been a guiding light for many young women, including myself, teaching us the importance of ambition and resilience.The rise of women in executive positions is not just a victory for gender equality it is a testament to the diverse perspectives and innovative ideas that women bring to the table. Research has shown that companies with a higher percentage of women in leadership roles tend to perform better financially. This is partly because women leaders often prioritize collaboration over competition, fostering a more inclusive and creative work environment.However, the journey to the top is not without its challenges. Women executives often face a double bind, where they are expected to be assertive yet approachable, decisive yet flexible. They must navigate adelicate balance between being seen as competent and maintaining their likability. This is a challenge that I have witnessed through the experiences of my aunt, who is a senior executive at a multinational corporation. Despite her numerous accomplishments, she often has to work twice as hard to prove her worth and counteract any potential bias.Moreover, the lack of representation in executive positions can lead to a lack of mentorship and role models for aspiring female leaders. This is why initiatives like mentorship programs and networking events specifically designed for women are crucial. They provide a platform for women to learn from each others experiences, share insights, and build a supportive community.As I look towards my future, I am encouraged by the progress that has been made but also recognize that there is still much work to be done. The fight for gender equality in the workplace is an ongoing one, and it requires the collective effort of both men and women to create a more equitable environment. It is my hope that by the time I enter the workforce, the presence of women in executive positions will be the norm rather than the exception.In conclusion, the rise of women in executive positions is a positive development that benefits not only the individuals who achieve these roles but also the companies they lead and the society at large. It is a step towards a more diverse and inclusive corporate world, where the best ideas and leaders can rise to the top, regardless of gender.翻译：标题：女性高管的崛起近年来，随着越来越多的女性突破玻璃天花板，担任高管职位，企业格局发生了显著变化。

桑德伯格ted演讲稿桑德伯格ted演讲稿桑德伯格ted演讲稿中文版及英文版桑德伯格ted演讲稿中文版今天在座的各位，我们先承认我们是幸运的。

我们没有生活在我们母亲和我们祖母生活过的那个世界，在那时女性的职业选择是非常有限的。

今天在座的各位，大多数人成长于一个女性有基本公民权的世界。

令人惊讶地是，我们还生活在一个有些女性还没有这些权利的世界。

但除上所述，我们还有一个问题，它是一个实际问题。

这问题是:在世界各地，女性没达到任何职业的高管职位。

这些数据很清楚地告诉我们这实情。

0个国家元首里，九位是女性领导。

在世界上议会的总人数中， 13%是女性议员。

在公司部门，女性占据高位， C级职位，董事会席位高管职位比例占15%，16%。

自从201X年起这数据没变化过有下降趋势。

即使在非营利的行业，我们有时认为这一行业是被更多女性所领导的，女性领导人占20%。

我们还面临着另一个问题，就是女性在职业成功和个人价值实现中所面临的艰难选择。

美国最近一个研究表明，已婚高管人员，三分之二的已婚男性高管人员有孩子只有三分之一的已婚女性高管人员有孩子。

几年前，我在纽约，出席一个协议，在那种别致的纽约私募投资办事处中的一个你能想象到的。

我在这个大约有3小时的会议上，过了2小时，有个间歇休息，所有人都站起来，这会议组织者开始显得的确很尴尬。

我意识到他不知道在他办公室哪里是女洗手间。

所以我开始寻找移动厕所，盘算他们刚搬进来，但我没有看到任何移动厕所。

然后我说，你是刚搬到这办公室吗? 他说，不是，我们在这儿已经有一年了。

我说，你能否告诉我这一年来，我是唯一一个来这间办公室的女性吗? 他看着我，说到，是的。

或者说你可能是唯一一个要上女性洗手间。

所以问题是，我们该怎样解决这样的尴尬? 我们怎样改变这些高管职位的比例? 我们怎样使这个变得不同? 我首先想说，我谈这个女性就职因为我的确认为我们得找到答案。

在我们劳动力的高收入的部分，在高管的人员中财富500强首席执行长官中，或在其它类似的高管行业中，我确信，问题是女性被排除在外。

2012年哈佛毕业典礼谢丽尔·桑德伯格的演讲Please join me and welcome Sheryl Sandberg请和我一起欢迎谢丽尔·桑德伯格Thank you, thank you Catherine谢谢谢谢你凯瑟琳It's an honor to be here today今天很荣幸来到这里to address HBS's distinguished faculty为尊敬的哈佛商学院的教员proud parents, patient guests自豪的毕业生家长和耐心的来宾们and most importantly, the class of 2012尤其是为今年的毕业生们演讲Today was supposed to be a day of unbridled celebration今天原本应该是狂欢的日子and I know that's no longer true不过我知道现在并不合适了I join all of you in grieving for your classmate Nate让我们一起为Nate同学表示哀悼I know there are no words that makes something like this better当然任何言语在这样的悲剧前都苍白无力Although laden with sadness尽管有悲伤萦绕在大家心头today still marks a distinct and impressive achievement for this class今天仍然象征着你们取得的杰出成绩So please everyone join me所以让我们一起in giving our warmest congratulations to this class of 2012为12届的毕业生们献上最热烈的祝贺When the wonderful Dean Nohria invited me to speak here today当尊敬的院长Nohria邀请我今天来做演讲时I thought, come talk to a group of people我想来给一群way younger and cooler than I am?远比我年轻比我有活力的人们演讲I can do that我没问题I do that every day at Facebook这正是我每天在Facebook做的事情I like being surrounded by young people我喜欢和年轻人在一起except when they say to me除了当他们问我What was it like being in college without the internet?没有互联网的大学是怎样的？or worse或者更夸张Sheryl, can you come here?谢丽尔你能过来下么？We need to see我们想知道what old people think of this feature老人会对这个新功能怎么看这类问题It's not joking我不是在开玩笑It's a special privilege for me to be here this month能够在毕业季来到这里我觉得很荣幸When I was a student here 17 years ago17年前当我是哈佛的学生时I studied social marketing with Professor Kash Rangan我上了Kash Rangan教授的社交化营销One of the many examples Kash used to explain the concept其中Kash用来解释社交化营销概念的例子of social marketing was the lack of organ donors in this country就是美国在器官捐赠方面的不足which kills 18 people every single day每天因此有18人死亡Earlier this month本月早些时候Facebook launched a tool to support organ donations Facebook推出了一款支持器官捐赠的工具something that stems directly from Kash's work这是对Kash工作的直接应用Kash, wherever you are here Kash 无论你今天坐在哪里we are all grateful for your dedication我们都十分感激你的贡献So, it wasn't really that long ago所以也就在不久之前when I was sitting where you are我坐在你们现在的位置上but the world has changed an awful lot但是这个世界已经变化了很多My section, section B我所在的小组Section Btried to have HBS's first online class曾尝试进行HBS的第一次在线课程We had to use an AOL chat room我们用的是AOL的聊天室and dial up service和电话拨号上网服务Your parents can explain to you later what dial-up service is你们的父母可以向你们解释什么是拨号上网We had to pass out a list of screen names because我们得给每人发一张写有我们网名的列表it was unthinkable to put your real name on the internet因为那时在网上用真名是件让人难以想象的事And it never worked不过这完全不行It kept crashing and kicking all of us off一直断网我们会被踢出聊天室Because the world just wasn't set up因为当时的世界for 90 people to communicate at once online还无法让90人同时在线交流For a few brief moments不过有几个瞬间we glimpsed the future我们仿佛看到了未来a future where technology would power who we are一个由于科技进步让我们and connect us to our real colleagues和现实生活中的同事家人和朋友our real family, our real friends更好地联系在一起的未来It used to be that in order to reach more people在过去如果想在一天内联系到than you could talk to in a day比你能当面交谈更多的人you had to be rich and famous and powerful你要么有钱要么有名要么有权You had to be a celebrity, a politician, a CEO你得是名人政客或者CEOBut that's not true today但是今天不一样了Now ordinary people have voice现在普通人也可以获得话语权not just those of us lucky enough to go to HBS不仅是那些能到HBS读书的幸运儿but anyone with access to Facebook, to Twitter, to a mobile phone而是任何能上Facebook Twitter或者有手机的人This is disrupting traditional power structures这正在打破传统的权利结构and leveling traditional hierarchy让传统的阶层界限变得模糊Voice and power are shifting from institutions to individuals话语权正从机构转向个人from the historically powerful to the historically powerless从曾经有权有势的人转向普通人And all of this is happening so much faster而且这一切的变化速度远远超出了than I could have ever imagined当时坐在今天你们所坐的when I was sitting where you are today位置上的我的想像and Mark Zuckerberg was 11 years old那时候马克·扎克伯格才十一岁As the world becomes more connected and less hierarchical当世界变得更紧密界限更模糊时traditional career paths are shifting as well传统的职业生涯也在发生变化In 2001, after working in the government2001年在为政府工作了几年之后I moved out to Silicon Valley to try to find a job我搬到硅谷找到一份工作My timing wasn't really that good当时并不是个好时机The bubble had crashed泡沫破灭了Small companies were closing小公司都在倒闭Big companies were laying people off大公司都在裁员One women CEO looked at me and said一个女性CEO看着我说we would never even think about hiring someone like you我们根本不会考虑招你这样的人After a while I had a few offers and I had to make a decision过了一段时间我拿到几个offers 需要做决定了so what did I do? I am MBA trained那么我是怎么做的呢？由于我受过MBA的训练so I made a spreadsheet所以我做了一个Excel表I listed my jobs in the columns我把工作都列了出来and the things for my criteria in the rows并且一行行把我的评判标准也列了出来and compared the companies, the missions, and the roles比较公司的远景工作的职责等One of the jobs on that sheet was表格中有一个工作to become Google's first Business Unit general manager是去做Google的第一个业务部总经理which sounds good now这现在听起来很不错but at the time no one thought但是当时没人相信consumer internet companies could ever make money直接面对消费者的互联网公司可以赚钱I was not sure there was actually a job there at all我都不敢确定那儿是不是真有这样的职位Google had no business units Google就没有业务部so what was there to generally manage?那要我去总管什么呢？And the job was several levels lower何况那职位than jobs I was being offered at other companies比我在其他公司得到的offers都要低好几级So I sat down with Eric Schmidt后来我和当时刚刚上任的CEOwho had just become the CEO艾里克·施密特见了面and I showed him the spreadsheet and I said我给他看了我的列表我说this job meets none of my criteria这份工作完全不合我的选择标准He put his hand on my spreadsheet and he looked at me and said他用手按住我的表格看着我说Don't be an idiot不要犯傻Excellent career advice极佳的职业忠告And then he said, Get on a rocket ship然后他说重要的是坐上火箭When companies are growing quickly and having a lot of impact当公司在飞速发展而产生很大影响力时careers take care of themselves事业自然也会突飞猛进And when companies aren't growing quickly当公司发展较慢时or their missions don't matter as much或者公司前景一般时that's when stagnation and politics come in停滞和办公室政治就会出现If you're offered a seat on a rocket ship如果你得到了坐上火箭的机会don't ask what seat. Just get on别管是什么位置上去就行About six and one-half years later大概六年半之后when I was leaving Google当我要离开Google的时候I took that advice to heart我记住了这句忠告I was offered CEO jobs at a bunch of companies当时好几家公司请我去做CEObut I went to Facebook as COO但是我去了Facebook做COO(首席运营官)At the time people said那时有人问你why are you going to work for a 23-year-old?为什么要去给一个23岁的年轻人打工？The traditional metaphor for careers is a ladder职业发展通常会被比作爬阶梯but I no longer think that metaphor holds但我认为这个比喻不再恰当了It just doesn't make sense在越来越扁平的世界里in a less hierarchical world这种说法是没有意义的When I was first at Facebook我刚到Facebook的时候a woman named Lori Goler, a 1997 graduate of HBS97届HBS的校友Lori Golerwas working in marketing at eBay还在eBay做市场营销and I knew her kind of socially我和认识了她并且知道她善于交际She called me and she said她打电话给我说I want to think about you know talk with you我想和你谈谈about coming to work with you at Facebook到Facebook和你一起工作的事So I thought about calling you我想到给你打电话and telling you all the things I'm good at and all the things I like to do和你说我有哪些特长以及我想做的事情But I figured that everyone is doing that但我知道所有人都会这样说So instead I want to know what's your biggest problem所以我就想知道什么是你现在最棘手的问题and how can I solve it我又该如何帮你解决这个问题My jaw hit the floor我感动得五体投地I'd hired thousands of people up to that point in my career那时我一路过来雇了上千人but no one had ever said anything like that但是从来没有人对我这样说过I had never said anything like that我自己也从来没有这样说过Job searches are always about the job searcher找工作一直是关于找工作的人是怎样要什么but not in Lori's case但是Lori不是这样想的I said, You're hired我说你被录用了My biggest problem is recruiting and you can solve it我最大的问题就是招人你可以帮我So Lori changed fields之后Lori就换到了这个into something she never thought she'd do她自己都从未想过去做的领域went down a level to start in a new field还降了一级重新开始She has since been promoted之后她被升职and runs all of People Operations at Facebook负责整个Facebook的人事运行and is doing an extraordinary job, having an amazing impact现在做得非常好在公司有很大的影响力Lori has a great metaphor for careers Lori对职业有个很好的比喻She says they're not a ladder她说职业不是阶梯they're a jungle gym而是游乐场里儿童玩的立方格攀登架As you start your post-HBS career当你们开始HBS之后的职业生涯时look for opportunities, look for growth你们要去寻找机会追随成长look for impact, look for mission力求影响力发现远景Move sideways, move down, move on, move off可以平调降级升职甚至换新的领域Build your skills, not your resume培养你的技能而不是填充你的简历Evaluate what you can do根据你能做的事来评判工作not the title they're going to give you而不是你可以得到的职位Do real work做真正的工作Take a sales quota接受一个销售目标a line role, an ops job一个生产线上的工作一个涉及运营方面的工作Don't plan too much别作太多计划and don't expect a direct climb也别要求要青云直上If I had mapped out my career如果我在坐在你们的位置上时when I was sitting where you are就计划好我的职业I would have missed my career我会错过我现在的职业You are entering a different business world than I entered你们现在正迈入一个和我当时不同的世界Mine was just starting to get connected我的世界刚刚开始被连接起来Yours is hyper-connected你的世界已经高速连接在一起Mine was competitive我当时竞争很激烈Yours is way more competitive你们现在的竞争更加激烈Mine moved quickly我的世界变化很快As traditional structures are breaking down你的世界变化更快leadership has to evolve as well在这个传统结构正被打破的时代from hierarchy to shared responsibility领导班子也需要演变from command and control to listening and guiding从设立阶层到责任共享You've been trained by this great institution从命令与控制到聆听和引导not just to be part of these trends你在HBS这个伟大的学院学习but to lead不仅是为了能够跟上浪潮As you lead in this new world更重要的是能去引领潮流you will not be able to rely on who you are or the degree you hold当你在这个新世界里乘风破浪时You'll have to rely on what you know你能依靠的不是你是谁也不是你的学位Your strength will not come from your place on some org chart你要依靠的是你的知识your strength will come from building trust and earning respect你的力量不会源自你在公司的位置You're going to need talent, skill, and imagination and vision而来自于建立信任获得尊敬But more than anything else你会需要天赋技能想象力和视野you're going to need the ability to communicate authentically不过最最重要的是to speak so that you inspire the people around you具有真诚沟通的能力and to listen既能鼓舞你身边的人so that you continue to learn each and every day on the job又能聆听他们的建议If you watch young children在每一天的工作中不断学习进步you'll immediately notice how honest they are如果你留意小孩My friend Betsy from my section你会立刻发现他们是多么的诚实a few years after business school was pregnant with her second child我的一个HBS小组里的朋友BetsyAnd her first child, Sam, was about five在毕业后几年怀上了第二个孩子and he looked around and said,她的第一个小孩Sam 那时大概五岁Mommy, where is the baby?Sam环视了下她问She said, The baby is in my tummy妈妈小宝宝在哪里啊？He said, Really?她说小宝宝在我肚子里Aren't the baby's arms in your arms?他说真的么？She said, No, the baby's in my tummy难道小宝宝的手不在你的手里？Really? Are the baby's legs in your legs?她说不小宝宝在我肚子里No, the whole baby is in my tummy真的？小宝宝的腿不在你腿里？And he said, Mommy不整个宝宝都在我肚子里啊what is growing in your butt?然后她说妈妈As adults, we are never this honest为什么你的屁股越来越大？And that's not a bad thing作为成年人我们从不如此直接I have borne two children这未必是件坏事and the last thing I needed were those comments我也是两个孩子的妈妈which obviously could be made我最不想听到的恐怕就是这些评论But it's not always a good thing either当然这些评论用在我身上也确实没错Because all of us, and especially leaders但是那也不总是件好事need to speak and hear the truth因为我们所有人尤其是领导者The workplace is an especially difficult place需要说真话听真话for anyone to tell the truth在工作环境中because no matter how flat we want our organizations to be说真话尤其得难all organizations have some form of hierarchy因为无论我们多希望将组织架构扁平化And what that means is that one person's performance所有的组织都会有某种层级is assessed by someone else's perception这就意味着一个员工的表现This is not a setup for honesty会由别人对其印象来评估Think about how people speak in a typical workforce这是不鼓励真诚的设计Rather than say想象一下人们在典型的工作环境中是如何沟通的I disagree with our expansion strategy人们不说or better yet,this seems truly stupid我不同意我们的扩张策略They say, I think there are many good reasons或者更好这看起来真傻why we're entering this new line of business人们会说我知道进入这个新领域and I'm certain the management team有众多好处has done a thorough ROI analysis而且我相信管理团队but I'm not sure we have fully considered一定做过细致的投资回报分析the downstream effects of taking this step forward at this time不过我不确定我们是否完整地考虑了As we would say at Facebook or on the Internet在这个时刻采取这个方案会产生的所有后果three letters: WTF对此就该用我们在Facebook或者互联网上Truth is better served by using simple language常说的三个字WTFLast year, Mark decided to learn Chinese事实最好用简短的语言来表达and as part of studying去年马克·扎克伯格决定开始学中文he would spend an hour or so each week作为学习的一部分with some of our employees who were native Chinese speakers他每周会花大约一个小时的时间One day和一些来自中国的员工交谈one of them was trying to tell him something about her manager有一天She said this long sentence有一个员工谈到了她的老板and he said simpler please她说了一通之后And then she said it again马克说请说简单点and he said no, I still don't understand她再说了一遍之后simpler please…and so on and so on他说不行我还是没明白Finally, in sheer exasperation, she burst out请再简单点就这样来回了几次my manager is bad终于她愤怒地说道Simple and clear and super important for him to know我老板坏People rarely speak this clearly简单明了而且非常重要需要让马克知道in the workforce or in life在工作或者生活中And as you get more senior人们很少会把话说那么明了not only will people speak less clearly to you尤其是当你的级别上升后but they will overreact to the small things you say人们不仅不会和你把话说清楚When I joined Facebook还会对你所说的小事反应过激one of the things I had to do当我加入Facebook的时候was build the business side of the company我的职责之一and put some systems into place就是把公司商业那块给建立起来But I wanted to do it without destroying the culture将其系统化that made Facebook great但是我不想破坏Facebook原有的文化So one of the things I tried to do was encourage people就是这些文化促成了Facebook的伟大not to do formal PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me我尝试的一件事就是I would say things like鼓励人们和我开会时不要做正式的PPTDon't do PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me我会说Why don't you come in with a list of what you want to discuss和我开会不用做PPTBut everyone ignored me and they kept doing their presentations把你想讨论的事列出来就行meeting after meeting但是所有人都无视我的要求仍然在做PPTmonth after month就这样一个又一个会议So about two years in, I said一个月又一个月没有改变OK, I hate rules but I have a rule大概两年后我说no more PowerPoint in my meetings OK 我不喜欢条条框框但我要定个规矩And I mean it, No more和我开会不用做PPTAbout a month later我是认真的别再做了I was about to speak to our global sales team on a big stage大约一个月之后and someone came up to me and said我在一个大型场合正要和全球销售团队讲话Before you get on that stage一个同事上来对我说you really should know everyone's pretty upset在你上台之前about the no PowerPoint with clients thing你应该知道大家对你制定的I said, What no PowerPoint with clients thing?和客户会面不做PPT的规定很有意见They said, You made rule no: PowerPoint我说什么和客户会面不做PPT？So I got on the stage and said他们说你制定了一个规定:不做PPTone, I meant no PowerPoint with me之后我上了台就说But two, more importantly首先我说的是和我开会不用PPTnext time you hear something that's really stupid其次更重要的是don't adhere to it下次你们听到一些你们认为很傻的话Fight it or ignore it不要去遵循它even if it's coming from me or Mark而要去提意见或者无视它A good leader recognizes that哪怕你知道那话是我或者马克说的most people won't feel comfortable challenging authority一个好的领导者so it falls upon authority to encourage them to question知道大部分人不愿意去挑战权威It's easy to say that you're going to encourage feedback所以领导者有义务去鼓励大家来质疑but it's hard to do当然说鼓励反馈容易because unfortunately it doesn't always做起来难come in a format we want to hear it因为听到的反馈When I first started at Google往往不是我们想要的那种I had a team of four people当我刚开始在Google工作时and it was really important to me我的团队里面有四个人that I interview everyone who was on my team所以对我而言It felt like being part of my team meant I had to know you由我自己来面试团队的每个成员就尤其重要When the team had grown to about 100 people要成为我的团队的一份子我必须了解你I realized it was taking longer to schedule my interviews当团队增长到大约有100人的时候So one day at my meeting of just my direct reports我意识到在面试上花的时间越来越多I said maybe I should stop interviewing所以有一天在我的报告会上fully expecting them to jump in and say我说也许我应该停止面试no, your interviews are a critical part of the process那时我完全预计他们会打断我说They applauded不行你的面试是流程中很重要的一步Then they fell over themselves explaining that然而他们都对此非常赞赏I was the bottleneck of all time然后他们转过来解释说I was embarrassed我一直都是流程中的瓶颈Then I was angry and I spent a few hours just quietly fuming我先是觉得羞愧Why didn't they tell me I was a bottleneck?然后恼怒我花了几个小时的时间生闷气Why did they let me go on slowing them down?他们为什么不告诉我我是瓶颈？Then I realized that if they hadn't told me为什么他们不阻止我拖大家的后腿？it was my fault后来我明白了如果没人告诉我I hadn't been open enough那这就是我的错told them that I wanted that feedback我还不够开怀and I would have to change that going forward没有告诉他们我想要他们的反馈When you're the leader我决定从此改变这点it is really hard to get good feedback and honest feedback当你是领导no many how many times you ask for it得到有用的真实的反馈是很难的One trick I've discovered is that哪怕你反复要求I try to speak really openly about the things I'm bad at我发现的一个小技巧because that gives people permission to agree with me是尝试主动地谈论你的某些缺点which is a lot easier than pointing it out in the first place因为这样会让人愿意来认同我To take one of many possible examples这比直接指出我的缺点要容易许多when things are unresolved I can get a tad anxious从众多可能中举个例子来说Really, when anything's unresolved当事情没有搞定时我会有点焦躁I get a lot anxious真的只要有事情没有搞定I'm quite certain no one has accused me of being too calm我会变得非常焦躁So I speak about it openly and that gives people permission我敢肯定没人会说我过于冷静to tell me when it's happening后来我就主动地谈论这个缺点But if I never said anything让大家来认同我因而可以在我焦躁时告诫我would anyone who works at Facebook walk up to me and say但是如果我对此一句不提Hey Sheryl, calm down会有Facebook的员工走上来对我说You're driving us all nuts! I don't think so嘿谢丽尔冷静点As you graduate today你快把我们搞疯了我可不这样认为ask yourself, how will you lead?在你们毕业的今天Will you use simple and clear language?问自己你将如何去领导？Will you seek out honest feedback?你会用简单明了的语言吗？When you get honesty feedback你会追寻真实的反馈吗？will you react with anger or with gratitude?当你得到真实的反馈As we strive to be more authentic in our communication你会愤怒还是感激？we should also strive to be more authentic in a broader sense当我们努力更真诚地沟通时I talk a lot about bringing your whole self to work我们也应该在更多的意义上做到真实something I believe in very deeply我经常会说带着完整的自己去上班Motivation comes from working on things we care about这是我深深相信的一点But it also comes from working with people we care about工作的动力来自于做我们在乎的事情And in order to care about someone但也来自于和我们在乎的人一起工作you have to know them要做到在乎某人You have to know what they love and hate你必须了解他们what they feel你必须知道他们喜欢什么讨厌什么not just what they think他们会有什么样的感受If you want to win hearts and minds而不只是他们会想什么you have to lead with your heart as well as your mind如果你想得到人心I don't believe we have a professional self你必须用心去领导from Mondays through Fridays我不相信周一到周五and a real self for the rest of the time我们是职业的自己That kind of division probably never worked其它时间才是真正的自己but in today's world, a real voice and authentic voice类似这样的分离从来就不太可行it makes even less sense在越来越提倡真实的当今世界里I've cried at work这就更没有意义了I've told people I've cried at work我在工作时流过泪And it's been reported in the press that我告诉过别人我在工作时流过泪Sheryl Sandberg cried后来这被媒体报道成on Mark Zuckerberg's shoulder谢丽尔·桑德伯格which is not exactly what happened在马克·扎克伯格的肩膀上哭泣I talk about my hopes and fears事实当然不是如此and ask people about theirs我会谈论我的希望和恐惧I try to be myself honest about my strengths and weaknesses也会询问别人的希望和恐惧and I encourage others to do the same我努力做真实的自己直面我的优点和缺点It is all professional and it is all personal我会鼓励别人也这么做all at the very same time一切都与职业相关也都与个人相关As part of bringing my whole self to work两者无时无刻不交融在一起I recently started speaking up about作为带着完整的自己去上班的一部分努力the challenges women face in the workforce最近我开始公开谈论something I only had the courage to do in the last few years女性在工作环境中面临的挑战Before this这也是我最近几年才有勇气做的事情I did my career like everyone else does it在此之前I never told anyone I was a girl我和大家一样小心翼翼地在职场上打拼Don't tell我从没和别人强调我是女儿身I left the lights on不说原则when I went home to do something for my kids当我暂时回家照顾下孩子时I locked my office door and pumped milk for my babies我会把办公室的灯留着while I was on conference calls当我锁上门在办公室边参加电话会议People would ask,what's that sound?边为我的宝宝们挤奶时I would say,What sound? I hear a beep有人会问那是什么声音00:17:43,290 --> 00:17:46,790我会说什么声音？我听到哔的一声Oh, there's a fire truck really right outside my office噢我窗外正好有一辆消防车But the lack of progress we've made in the past decade然而由于我们在上个10年取得的进展很小has convinced me we need to start talking about this我决定要开始公开讨论这点I graduated from HBS in 1995我是1995年从HBS毕业的and I thought it was completely clear that by the time当时我想等到我们这届someone from my year was invited to speak at this podium有人被邀请到这个讲台演讲的时候we would have achieved equality in the workforce我们一定已经实现了工作上的男女平等But women at the top C-level jobs但是在C级别的工作上are stuck at 15-16 percent女性的比例始终停留在15%到16%and have not moved in a decade10年来一点都没有变化Not even close to 50%离50%还差很远and worse no longer growing而且更糟的是已经停止增长We need to acknowledge openly that我们需要公开承认在执行级别的领导层gender remains an issue at the highest levels of leadership性别仍然是个大问题The promise of equality is not equality对平等的承诺不等于真正的平等We need to start talking about this我们需要就此进行谈论We need to start talking about我们要讨论how women underestimate their abilities女性相比男性compared to men and for women为什么会低估自己的能力but not men而且和男性不同success and likeability are negatively correlated对于女性成功和受欢迎程度是反向相关的That means that as a woman is more successful in your workplaces这意味着一个女性在事业上越成功she will be less liked她就会越不受人喜爱This means that women这意味着女性need a different form of management and mentorship需要另一种形式的管理和辅导a different form of sponsorship and encouragement另一种形式的支持和鼓励and some protection甚至一些保护in some ways, more than men在某些方面要比男性有更多的保护And there aren't enough senior women out there to do it而且现在有资历做这些的女性还太少so it falls upon the men who are graduating today所以在座的男性毕业生们要和女性毕业生们just as much or more as the women一起肩负起这个责任甚至更多not just to talk about gender不仅仅讨论性别but to help these women succeed而且要帮助女性取得成功When they hear a woman is really great at her job but not liked当听到一个工作上很优秀的女性不为人爱戴take a deep breath and ask why深呼吸一下问问自己这是为什么We need to start talking openly about我们需要公开地探讨the flexibility all of us need to have both a job and a life我们都需要的灵活机制来平衡工作和生活A couple of weeks ago in an interview I said that几周前我接受了一个采访I leave the office at 5:30 p.m. to have dinner with my children我说我会5点半离开公司去和我的小孩吃晚饭And I was shocked at the press coverage而媒体报道让我震惊了One of my friends said我的一个朋友说she wasn't sure I couldn't get more headlines她不确定就算我用斧子砍人if I had murdered someone with an ax是否能上一样多的头条I told her I wasn't really interested in trying that我告诉她我对砍人没兴趣But this showed me不过这让我明白this is an unresolved issue for all of us对于我们所有人不管是男人还是女人for men and women这是个未解决的问题Otherwise要不是这样。

Facebook首席运营官雪莉•桑德伯格在柏纳德学院毕业典礼上的演讲（中文译本）南京航空航天大学金城学院英语系陈尚运感谢Spar校长，理事会的成员们，敬爱的教职员工，家长们，以及在座的朋友们：祝贺大家，尤其是优异的2011界伯纳德学院的毕业生们。

很高兴与大家欢聚在伯纳德学院。

让我欣喜的是，我大学时的室友，同时也是学院的教员，Caroline Weber,此时也在这儿。

来到这里，我感慨颇多。

还有，因为在硅谷工作的原因，我很少有机会与这么多优异的女生们在一起，这也让我很高兴。

刚好20年前,我毕业了。

每一天我工作的地方都好像在让我变老。

我的上司，同时也是脸谱网的创立者，马克扎克伯格（Mark Zuckerberg），不久前对我说：“雪莉，女性中年危机什么时候发生，是当你30岁时吗？”这是工作以来很倒霉（背运）的一天！但我明白生活中我们总会忘却一些时刻。

当然，今天这个日子你们不会忘记。

你们可能不记得我说过的每一句话，甚至不记得毕业典礼上的致辞者是谁。

你们不会记得因为下雨我们的毕业典礼不得不移到室内举行。

但最重要的一点你们不会忘记，那就是毕业时走上毕业典礼的礼台，即将开始新的人生征途时的心绪。

今天是庆祝日，来庆贺你们在伯纳德学院的辛勤付出有了回报；今天也是感恩日，感恩自己的老师，同学以及所有给予过帮助过自己的人；今天更是反思日。

很抱歉，因患喉炎今天我有些谈吐不清。

从今天起，你们将离开伯纳德学院，你们不仅在这里学到了知识，而且是同龄中的幸运儿。

在座的一些同学是来自一向重视教育的家庭，相比之下，其他人为进入伯纳德学院学习克服了许多困难。

如今，你们成为了家族中第一个大学生，这是多大的成就啊！但无论你们原来的起点在哪，在伯纳德学院学习后你们有了更高的起点。

可问题是你下一步的打算是什么？努力求学到底为的是什么？究竟需要改变改变？如果要改，那要改变那一部分？去年，普利策奖获得者Sheryl wudunn和 Nicholas kristof来到这里，并谈到了他们备受抨击的一本书，即《半边天》。

雪莉桑德伯格清华2015毕业演讲：命运偏爱勇者，向前一步雪莉·桑德伯格是美国计算机领域精英女性企业家，现任Facebook首席运营官和首位女性董事会成员，负责Facebook的销售、营销、收购、合作、人士、公共政策和联络事宜。

今天店铺给大家分享一篇雪莉桑德伯格在清华2015毕业典礼上的演讲“命运偏爱勇者向前一步”，希望对大家有所帮助。

雪莉桑德伯格清华2015毕业演讲：命运偏爱勇者向前一步钱颖一院长、杰出的清华经管学院的教师们、自豪的毕业生亲属、鼎力支持他们的朋友们、以及更重要的是，清华经管学院2015届的毕业生们：我很荣幸今天来到这里为你们做毕业典礼演讲。

同我的老板马克•扎克伯格不一样的是，我不会讲中文。

为此我感到抱歉。

但是，他请我用中文转达他对大家的问候——祝贺。

今天能在这里祝贺优秀的同学们毕业，我感到非常兴奋。

当钱颖一院长邀请我今天来做演讲时，我想，来给远比我年轻比我酷的人演讲?这事儿我能做。

我在Facebook每天都要做这样的事情。

因为扎克伯格比我小15岁，并且我们的大多数员工是他的同龄人，而不是我这个年龄的。

我喜欢和年轻人在一起，除非他们问我“你在大学时没有手机用是怎样的日子?”甚至更糟糕的问题是，“谢丽尔，你能过来一下吗?我们想知道岁数大的人对这个新功能有什么看法?”我1991年从哈佛大学本科毕业，获得经济学学士学位;1995年从哈佛商学院毕业，获得MBA学位——所以可以说，我上了美国的清华大学。

其实这并不是那么久远的事情。

但是我能告诉你们的是，这个世界在这短短的25年当中发生了翻天覆地的变化。

在哈佛商学院时，我所在的班级曾尝试进行学院的第一次在线课程。

我们当时必须给每人发一张写有我们网名的列表，因为那时在网上使用真名是件让人难以想象的事。

但是最后还是没有搞成，因为电脑系统不断崩溃——当时根本无法实现90人同时在线交流。

不过在系统崩溃之间的几个短暂瞬间里，我们窥见了未来——一个技术可以实现我们和同事、家人、朋友连接在一起的未来。

Thank you, Marie. And thank you esteemed members of the faculty, proud parents, devoted friends, squirming siblings. Congratulations to all of you...and especially to the magnificent Berkeley graduating class of 2016!It is a privilege to be here at Berkeley , which has produced so many Nobel Prize winners, Turing Award winners, astronauts, members of Congress , Olympic gold medalists.... and that’ s just the women! Berkeley has always been ahead of the times. In the 1960s, you led the Free Speech Movement. Back in those days, people used to say that with all the long hair, how do we even tell the boys from the girls? We now know the answer: manbuns.Early on, Berkeley opened its doors to the entire population. When this campus opened in 1873, the class included 167 men and 22 2 women. It took my alma mater another ninety years to award a single degree to a single woman. One of the women who came here in search of opportunity was Rosalind Nuss. Roz grew up scrubbing floors in the Brooklyn boardinghouse where she lived. She was pulled out of high school by her parents to help support their family. One of her teachers insisted that her parents put her back in to school — and in 1937, she sat where you are sitting today and received a Berkeley degree. Roz was my grandmother. She was a huge inspiration to me and I’m so grateful that Berkeley recognized her potential.I want to take a moment to offer a special congratulations to the many here today who are the first generation in their families to graduate from college. What a remarkable achievement.Today is a day of celebration. A day to celebrate all the hard work that got you to this moment. Today is a day of thanks. A day to thank those who helped you get here — nurtured you, taught you, cheered you on, and dried your tears. Or at least the ones who didn’t draw on you with a Sharpie when you fell asleep at a party.Today is a day of reflection. Because today marks the end of one era of your life and the beginning of something new. A commencement address is meant to be a dance between youth and wisdom. You have the youth. Someone comes in to be the voice of wisdom — that’s supposed to be me.I stand up here and tell you all the things I have learned in life , you throw your cap in the air , you let your 2 family take a million photos – don’t forget to post them on Instagram — and everyone goes home happy.Today will be a bit different. We will still do the caps and you still have to do the photos. But I am not here to tell you all the things I’ ve learned inlife.Today I will try to tell you what I learned in death. I have never spoken publicly about this before. It’s hard. But I will do my very best not to blow my nose on this beautiful Berkeley robe.One year and thirteen days ago, I lost my husband, Dave . His death was sudden and unexpected. We were at a friend’s fiftieth birthday party in Mexico. I took a nap. Dave went to work out. What followed was the unthinkable — walking into a gym to find him lying on the floor. Flying home to tell my children that their father was gone. Watching his casket being lowered into the ground. For many months afterward, and at many times since, I was swallowed up in the deep fog of grief — what I think of as the void — an emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even to breathe.Dave’s death changed me in very profound ways. I learned about the depths of sadness and the brutality of loss. But I also learned that when life sucks you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. I learned that in the face of the void — or in the face of any challenge — you can choose joy and meaning.I’m sharing this with you in the hopes that today, as you take the next step in your life, you can learn the lessons that I only learned in death. Lessons about hope, strength, and the light within us that will not be extinguished.Everyone who has made it through Cal has already experienced some disappoint ment. You wanted an A but you got a B. O K, let’s be honest — you got an A --- but you ’ re still mad. You applied for an internship at Facebook, but you only got one from Google. She was the love of your life... but then she swiped left. Game of Thrones the show has diverged way too much from the books — and you bothered to read all four thousand three hundred and fifty --- two pages.You will almost certainly face more and deeper adversity. There’s loss of opportunity: the job that does n’t work out, the illness or accident that changes everything in an instant. There’s loss of dignity : the sharp sting of prejudice when it happens . There’s loss of love : the broken relationships that can ’t be fixed . And sometimes there’s loss of life itself. Some of you have already experienced the kind of tragedy and hardship that leave an indelible mark.Last year, Radhika , the winner of the University M edal , spoke so beautifully about the sudden loss of her mother. The question is not if someof these things will happen to you. They will. today I want to talk about what happens next. A bout the things you can do to overcome adversity , no matter what form it takes or when it hits you .The easy days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days — the times that challenge you to your very core — that will determine who you are. You will be defined not just by what you achieve, but by how you survive .A few weeks after Dave died, I was talking to my friend Phil about a father --- son activity that Dave was not here to do. We came up with a plan to fill in for Dave . I cried to him , “ But I want Dave.” Phil put his arm around me and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of option B.”We all at some point live some form of option B. The question is: What do we do then? As a representative of Silicon Valley, I’m pleased to tell you there is data to learn from. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that there are three P ’ s — personalization, pervasiveness , and permanence — that are critical to how we bounce back from hardship .The seeds of resilience are planted in the way we process the negativeevents in our lives . The first P is personalization — the belief that we are at fault. This is different from taking responsibility , which you should always do. This is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us. When Dave died, I had a very common reaction, which was to blame myself. He died in seconds from a cardiac arrhythmia . I poured over his medical records asking what I could have — or should have — done . It wa n’ t until I learned about the three P ’ s that I accepted that I could not have prevented his death. His doctors had not identified his coronary artery disease . I was an economics major; how could I have ?Studies show that getting past personalization can actually make you stronger. Teachers who knew they could do better after students failed adjust ed their methods and saw future classes go on to excel . College swimmers who underperformed but believed they were capable of swimming faster did . Not taking failures personally allows us to recover — and even to thrive.The second P is pervasiveness — the belief that an event will affect all areas of your life. You know that song “Everything is awesome?” This is the flip: “ Everything is awful. ” There’s no place to run or hide from the all --- consuming sadness . The child psychologists I spoke to encouraged me to get my kids back to their routine as soon as possible.So ten days after Dave died, they went back to school and I went back to work. I remember sitting in my first Facebook meeting in a deep, deep haze. All I could think was, “What is everyone talking about and how could this possibly matter? ” But then I got drawn into the discussion and for a second — a brief split second — I forgot about death.That brief second helped me see that there were other things in my life that were not awful. My children and I were healthy. My friends and family were so loving and they carried us — quite literally at times. The loss of a partner often has severe negative financial consequences, especially for women. So many single mothers — and fathers — struggle to make ends meet or have jobs that don’t allow them the time they need to care for their children. I had financial security, the ability to take the time off I needed, and a job that I did not just believe in, but where it’s actually OK to spend all day on Facebook .Gradually , my children started sleeping through the night, crying less, playing more.The third P is permanence — the belief that the sorrow will last forever. For months, no matter what I did, it felt like the crushing grief would always be there . We often project our current feelings out indefinitely — and experience what I think of as the second derivative of those feelings.We feel anxious — and then we feel anxious that we ’re anxious. We feel sad — and then we feel sad that we’re sad. Instead, we should accept our feelings — but recognize that they will not last forever.My rabbi told me that time would heal but for now I should “lean in to the suck . ” It was good advice , but not really what I meant by “lean i n . ” None of you need me to explain the fourth P...which is, of course, pizza from Cheese Board.But I wish I had known about the three P ’ s when I was your age . There were so many times these lessons would have helped . Day one of my first job out of college, my boss found out that I didn’t know how to enter data into Lotus 1 --- 2 --- 3. That’s a spreadsheet — ask your parents .His mouth dropped open and he said, ‘I can’t believe you got this job without knowing that” — and then walked out of the room. I went home convinced that I was going to be fired. I thought I was terrible at everything... but it turns out I was only terrible at spreadsheets.Understanding pervasiveness would have saved me a lot of anxiety that week. I wish I had known about permanence when I broke up with boyfriends . It would’ve been a comfort to know that feeling was not goingto last forever, and if I was being honest with myself... neither were any of those relationships.And I wish I had understood personalization when boyfriends broke up with me. Sometimes it’s not you — it really is them. I mean , that dude never showered. And all three P’s ganged up on me in my twenties after my first marriage ended in divorce . I thought at the time that no matter what I accomplished, I was a massive failure .The three P ’ s are common emotional reaction s to so many things that happen to us — in our careers , our personal lives , and our relationships. You’re probably feeling one of them right 5 now about something in your life . But if you can recognize you are falling into these trap s , you can catch yourself. Just as our bodies have a physiological immune system, our brains have a psychological immune system — and there are steps you can take to help kick it into gear.One day my friend Adam Grant, a psychologist, suggested that I think about how much worse things could be. This was completely counterintuitive; it seemed like the way to recover was to try to find positive thoughts.“Worse?” I said. “Are you kidding me? How could things be worse?” His answer cut straight through me: “Dave could have had that same cardiac arrhythmia while he was driving your children.” Wow. The moment he said it, I was overwhelmingly grateful that the rest of my family was alive and health y. That gratitude overtook some of the grief .Finding gratitude and appreciation is key to resilience . People who take the time to list things they a re grateful for are happier and healthier . It turns out that counting your blessings can actually increase your blessings .My New Year’s resolution this year is to write down three moments of joy before I go to bed each night. This simple practice has changed my life. Because no matter what happens each day, I go to sleep thinking of something cheerful . Try it . Start tonight when you have so many fun moments to list — although maybe do it before you hit Ki p’ s and can still remember what they are .Last month , eleven days before the anniversary of Dave’s death, I broke down crying to a friend of mine. We were sitting — of all places — on a bathroom floor. I said: “ Eleven days. One year ago, he had eleven days left. And we had no idea.” We looked at each other through tears, and asked how we would live if we knew we had eleven days left.As you graduate, can you ask yourselves to live as if you had eleven days left? I don’t mean blow everything off and party all the time — although tonight is an exception . I mean live with the understanding of how precious every single day would be . How precious every day actually is.A few years ago, my mom had to have her hip replaced. When she was younger , she always walked without pain . But as her hip disintegrated, each step became painful. Now, even years after her operation , she is grateful for every step she takes without pain — something that never would have occurred to her before.As I stand here today, a year after the worst day of my life, two things are true. I have a huge reservoir of sadness that is with me always — right here where I can touch it . I never knew I could cry so often — or so much. But I am also aware that I am walking without pain. For the first time, I am grateful for each breath in and out — grateful for the gift of life itself.I used to celebrate my birthday every five years and friends ’ birthdays sometimes . Now I celebrate always .I used to go to sleep worrying about all the things I messed up that day — and trust me that list was often quite long. Now I try really hard to focus on each day’s moments of joy .It is the greatest irony of my life that losing my husband helped me find deeper gratitude — gratitude for the kindness of my friends , the love of my family, the laughter of my children.My hope for you is that you can find that gratitude — not just on the good days, like today, but on the hard ones, when you will really need it . There are so many moments of joy ahead of you. That trip you always wanted to take. A first kiss with someone you really like. The day you get a job doing something you truly believe in. Beating Stanford . (Go Bears ! ) All of t hese things will happen to you . Enjoy each and every one . Ihope that you live your life — each precious day of it — with joy and meaning. I hope that you walk without pain — and that you are grateful for each step . An d when the challenges come , I hope you remember that anchored deep with in you is the ability to learn and grow.You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are — and you just might become the very best version of yourself.Class of 2016, as you leave Berkeley, build resilience . Build resilience inyourselves. When tragedy or disappointment strike , know that you have the ability to get through absolutely anything . I promise you do.As the saying goes, we are more vulnerable than we ever thought, but we are stronger than we ever imagined. Build resilient organizations . If anyone can do it , you can , because Berkeley is filled with people who want to make the world a better place. Never stop working to do so — whether it’s a boardroom that is not representative or a campus that ’ s not safe . Speak up, especially at institutions like this one , which you hold so dear . My favorite poster at work reads, “ Nothing at Facebook is someone else’s problem . ” When you see something that ’ s broken, go fix it. Build resilient communities .We find our humanity — our will to live and our ability to love — in our connections to one another . Be there for your family and friends. And I mean in person. Not just in a message with a heart emoji . Lift each other up, help each other kick the shit out of option B — and celebrate each and every moment of joy. You have the whole world in front of you . I can’t wait to see what you do with it. Congratulations, and Go Bears!。

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演讲全文Esteemed faculty, proud parents, devoted friends, squirming siblings but especially Class of 2018: Congratulations, you made it!It wasn't always easy. You plowed through four years of problem sets. You conquered the snow of 2015. You survived way too many Weekly Wednesdays at the Muddy Charles and learned this important life lesson: There's no such thing as a free chicken wing.Today, you are graduates of the most revered technical institution in the world. The Harvard people tried to get me to say 'most revered institution within a 2-mile radius.' I said no, but you'll soon find out how persistent alumni associations can be. Just ask the class of '68: They've been to more fundraisers than you've eaten chicken wings.One thing I remember from graduation is that feeling of turning one corner and not being able to see clearly around the next.For someone like me who, yes, very annoyingly started studying for finals the first day of the semester, that was unsettling. Graduation was the first time in my life that the next steps were not clearly laid out. I remember the feeling ofexcitement and possibility, mixed in with just a teeny bit of crushing uncertainty.If you know exactly what you're going to do for your career, raise your hand. There are always some. That is impressive.I did not. I didn't know where I would fit in best or contribute most. These days, when I need advice, I turn to Mark Zuckerberg, but back then, he was in elementary school.I was sure of only one thing: I didn't want to go into business, and it never even occurred to me to go into technology.I guess that's a warning for those of you who put your hands up: Certainty is one of the great privileges of youth. Things won't always end up as you think, but you will gain valuable lessons along life's uncertain path.The lesson I want to share with you today is one I learned in my very first job out of college: working on a leprosy treatment program in India. Since biblical times, leprosy patients were ostracized from communities to prevent the disease from spreading.By the time I graduated from college, the technical challenges had been solved. Doctors could easily diagnose leprosy that showed up in skin patches on your chest and medicine could easily treat the disease. But the stigma remained, so patients hid their disease instead of seeking care.I will never forget meeting patients for the first time, extending my arm and watching them recoil because they were not used to even being touched.The real breakthrough didn't come from technicians or doctors but from local community leaders. They knew that they had to erase the stigma before they could erase the disease, so they wrote plays and songs in local languages and went aroundthe local community, encouraging people to come forward without fear.They understood that the most difficult problems and the greatest opportunities we have are not technical. They are human.In other words, it's not just about technology. It's about people.This is a lesson you've learned here at MIT, and not just those of you graduating with technical degrees, but those who studied management or urban planning, or Course 11 or Course 15, in MIT speak. You know it's people who build technology, and people who use it to make their lives better, to get educated, to get health care, to share an infinite number of cat videos that are all unique and totally adorable — unless you're a dog person.Today, anyone with an internet connection can inspire millions with a single sentence or a single image. This gives extraordinary power to those who use it to do good — to march for equality; to reignite the movement against sexual harassment; to rally around the things they care about and the people they want to be there for be there for.But it also empowers those who seek to do harm.When everyone has a voice, some raise them in hatred. When everyone can share, some share lies. When everyone can organize, some organize against the things we value the most.Journalist Anne O'Hare McCormick wrote about the impact of new technology. She said we had created the ultimate democracy, where anything said by anyone could be heard by everyone, but she worried about whether it provoked partisanship or tolerance, whether it was time wasted or time well spent. She wondered if it explained 'all the furious fence-building, the fanned-up nationalisms, and the angers and neuroses of ourShe wrote this in 1932, about the radio — and by the way, she was the first woman to win the Pulitzer Prize for journalism.The fact that the challenges we face today are not new does not make them less pressing. Like the generations before us, we have to solve the problems that our technology brings.I believe there are three ways we can deal with these challenges: We can retreat in fear,we can barrel ahead with a single-minded belief in our technology or we can fight like hell to do all the good we can do with the understanding that what we build will be used by people and people are capable of great beauty and great cruelty.I encourage you to choose the third option: To be clear-eyed optimists; to see that building technology that supports equality, democracy, truth and kindness means looking around corners -- and throwing up every possible roadblock against hate, violence and deception.You might be thinking, given some of the issues Facebook has had, isn't what I'm saying hitting pretty close to home?Yes. It is.I am proud of what Facebook has done around the world —proud of the connections people have created. Proud of how people use Facebook to organize for democracy, the Women's March, Black Lives Matter. Proud of how people use Facebook to start and grow businesses and create jobs all around the world.But at Facebook, we didn't see all the risks coming, and we didn't do enough to stop them.It's painful when you miss something, when you make the mistake of believing so much in the good you are seeing that you don't see the bad. It's hard when you know that you let peopleIn the middle of one of my toughest moments, Michael Miller, former Superintendent of the Naval Academy, kindly reached out to remind me that smooth seas never make good sailors.He's right. The times in my life that I have learned the most have definitely been the hardest. That is when you will learn the most about yourself. You can almost feel yourself growing; you can feel the growing pains. When you own your mistakes, you can work harder to correct them and even harder to prevent the next ones.That's my job now. It won't be easy and it's not going to be fast. But we will see it through.Yet the larger challenge is one all of us here must face. The role of technology in our lives is growing and that means our relationship with technology is changing.We have to change too. We have to recognize the full weight of our responsibilities. It's not enough to be technologists, we have to make sure that technology serves people. It's not enough or even possible to be neutral. Tools are shaped by the minds that make them as well as the hands that use them.It's not enough to have a good idea, we have to know when to stop a bad one. This is hard because technology changes faster than society. When I was in college, no one had a cell phone. Today there are more cell phones than people on earth.We are in one of the most remarkable moments in human history and you will not just live through it, you will shape it.Many of you will work on technologies that will change the world. You will connect the rest of the world, create new jobs and disrupt old ones, give machines new powers to think and give us the means to communicate in ways we haven't even thought of.We are not passive observers of these changes. We can't be. Trends do not just happen, they are the result of choices people make.We are not indifferent creators, we have a duty of care and when even with the best of intentions you go astray, as many of us have, you have the responsibility to course correct.We are accountable to the people who use what we build, to our colleagues, to ourselves and to our values.So if you are thinking about joining a team, an NGO, a startup or a company, ask if they are doing good for the world.Research at that other school down the river shows that we become more creative when we ask 'Could we?' And we become more ethical when we ask 'Should we?'So ask both.Know that you have an obligation to never shy away from doing the right thing, because the fight to ensure tech is used for good is never over; to make sure that technology reflects and upholds the right values, we have to build with awareness, and the best way to be more aware is to have more people in the room with different voices and different views.There are still skeptics out there when it comes to the value of diversity. They dismiss it as something we do to feel better, not to be better.They are wrong. We cannot build technology for equality and democracy unless we have and we harness diversity in its creation.More people with more diverse backgrounds are working in technology than ever before and are graduating in your class today than ever before.But our industry is still lagging at MIT. Even the newest technology can contain the oldest prejudices and our lack ofdiversity is at the root of some of the things we fail to see and prevent.It is up to all of us to fix that, people like me, and people like you; everyone graduating today and all the graduates to come.So continue the example you have lived at MIT. Continue to engage with people outside your discipline, your gender, your race. Talk with people who grew up in different places, who believe different things, who live and worship differently than you do. Talk with them, listen to them, get their perspectives as you have done here and encourage them to work in and with technology too.To all the current and future educators here today, let's reform our educational system so we give everyone the opportunity to learn to code. This is a basic language now that needs to be taught in all of our schools so that more people have a choice. When some kids learn it and some don't, that creates an unequal playing field long before people go into the workforce.And to all the future leaders in tech, that's you. Know that you have a chance to right wrongs, not reinforce them.Tech institutions can be some of the strongest voices for progress in the workplace, but we can always do better. Encourage your employers and policymakers to ensure that everyone, including contractors, earns a living wage. Fight for paid family leave with equal time for all genders because equality in the workplace will not happen until we have equality in the home and because no one should be forced to choose between the job they need and the family they love. Give people bereavement leave because when tragedy strikes, we need to be there for each other.And build workplaces where everyone, everyone, is treated with respect.We need to stop harassment and hold both perpetrators and enablers accountable and we need to make a personal commitment to stop racism and sexism, including the expressions of bias that become commonplace and accepted instead of rejected and fought.I want you to know that you can impact the workplace from the very day you enter it.A few months ago, surveyed people to understand how the #MeT oo movement was influencing work. After so many brave women spoke out, we found evidence of an unintended backlash: Almost half of male managers in the U.S. are now uncomfortable having a work meeting alone with a woman and even more uncomfortable having a work dinner alone with a female colleague.These are the informal moments where men have long gotten more mentoring than women -- and now it looks like it could get worse. For the men here: Someone may pull you aside in your first week at work and say, 'never being alone with a woman.'You know they're wrong. You know how to work with all people. So give them advice instead.Tell them they have the responsibility to make access equal for women and that if they don't feel comfortable having dinner with women, they shouldn't have dinner with men. Group lunches for everyone.In one of my early jobs, I had a boss who treated me quite differently from the two men on my team and not in a good way. He spoke to them with kindness and respect but belittled mepublicly. I tried to talk to him, but that made it worse. My two male teammates right out of school themselves stepped up and it stopped.Even if you're the most junior person in the room, you have power. Use it, and use it well.Class of 2018, it's not the technology you build that will define you. It's the teams you build and what people do with your technology. We have to get this right because we need technology to solve our greatest challenges.When I sat where you are sitting today, I never thought I would work in technology, but somewhere along that uncertain path, I learned new lessons and became a technologist. And technologists have always been optimists.We're optimists because we have to be. If you want to do something that has never been done before, so many people will tell you it cannot be done.Graduates of this amazing university have helped sequence the human genome, paved the way for the treatment of AIDS and made an MIT balloon appear in the middle of the Harvard-Yale football game.We're optimists because we run the numbers.Our world can feel polarized and dangerous, but in many critical ways, we are so much better off. A century ago, global life expectancy was 35 for 2 billion people.Today it is 70, for 7 billion.When I graduated, 1 in 3 people lived in extreme poverty. Today it is 1 in 10. It is still way too high but we have made more progress in our lifetimes than in all of human history.Our challenge now is to be clear-eyed optimists, or to paraphrase President Kennedy, optimists without illusions: Tobuild technology that improves lives and gives voice to those who often have none while preventing misuse, to build teams that better reflect the world around us with all its complexity and diversity.If we succeed —and we'll succeed —we will build technology that better serves not just some of us, but all of us.MIT graduate and former faculty member David Baltimore won a Nobel Prize for his work on the interaction between viruses and the genetic material of the cell. But before that, he helped bring biologists, lawyers and physicians together to debate new gene editing technology. They were worried that it had the potential to cause more harm than good, but they concluded that the opportunities for progress were too great, so they created voluntary ethical guidelines and continued the research.That decision led to some of the greatest advances in genetic science and medicine.It also set a standard that we as technologists can follow: Seek advice from people with different perspectives, look deeply at the risks as well as the benefits of new technology and if those risks can be managed, keep going even in the face of uncertainty.Class of 2018, you are now graduates of one of the most forward-thinking places on earth.You will have tremendous opportunities and you will be highly sought after. You will use what you learned here to work on some of the most critical questions we face.I hope you will use your influence to make sure technology is a force for good in the world. Technology needs a human heartbeat; the things that bring us joy and the things that bring us together are the things that matter most.The future is in your hands. Congratulations!。

英语演讲稿Sheryl Sandberg’s Powerful UC Berkeley Commencement Speech(Excerpt)知名毕业演讲特辑之二：“脸书”首席运营官谢莉·桑德伯格首次公开谈及丈夫过世一事Sheryl Sandberg’s Powerful UC Berkeley Commencement Speech(Excerpt)Sheryl Sandberg made an emotional appeal for resilience and gratitude in her commencement speech to Berkeley’s Class of 2016, where she spoke about her husband’s death publicly for the first time.Sandberg is the chief operating officer at Facebook and the author of “Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead.”A little over a year ago, Sandberg’s husband Dave Goldberg died suddenly of cardiac arrhythmia while they were on vacation in Mexico.She said her own resilience after his death came from the “three P’s,”as identified by psychologist Martin Seligman: personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence.Personalization, she said, “is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us.” After her husband died, she blamed herself, and personally reviewed his medical records to see what critical symptom she had failed to notice.“It wasn’t until I learned about the three P’s that I accepted that I could not have prevented his death,” she said. “His doctors had not identified his coronary artery disease. I was an economics major; how could I have?”Not everything that happens to us happens because of us.— Sheryl SandbergPervasiveness is “the belief that an event will affect all areas of your life.”At the advice of a child psychologist, she and her two children returned to their normal lives ten days after Goldberg’s death. She said she felt like there was no way to escape the “all-consuming sadness” of her loss.“I remember sitting in my first Facebook meeting in a deep, deep haze. All I could think was, ‘What is everyone talking about and how could this possibly matter?’”she said. “But then I got drawn into the discussion and for a second — a brief split second — I forgot about death.”“That brief second helped me see that there were otherthings in my life that were not awful,” she continued.Permanence is “the belief that the sorrow will last forever. For months, no matter what I did, it felt like the crushing grief would always be there,” Sandberg said. But it wasn’t true. Her rabbi encouraged her to “lean into the suck”of feeling bad —“good advice, but not really what I meant by ‘lean in’,” she joked. Accept your feelings, but know they won’t last forever.Working in some levity and knowing her audience of Berkeley grads, she quipped about the less-well-known fourth P: “Pizza from Cheese Board,” a popular restaurant in town.Toward the end of her speech, Sandberg talked about the times earlier in her life when she wished she’d known about the three P’s: When she thought she’d get fired from her first job because she didn’t know how to use the spreadsheet software on the first day. When boyfriends broke up with her and she blamed herself. When her first marriage ended in divorce.I have a huge reservoir of sadness that is with me always — right here where I can touch it. I never knew I could cry so often — or so much.— Sheryl Sandberg“The three P’s are common emotional reactions to so many things that happen to us — in our careers, our personal lives, and our relationships. You’re probably feeling one of them right now about something in your life. But if you can recognize you are falling into these traps, you can catch yourself. Just as our bodies have a physiological immune system, our brains have a psychological immune system — and there are steps you can take to help kick it into gear,” she said.The speech came to an end with a reminder to be grateful. She said she learned to truly appreciate her children, her friends, and her family after her husband’s death. She compared it how her mother learned to appreciate walking without pain again after a hip replacement.“I have a huge reservoir of sadness that is with me always — right here where I can touch it,” she said. “I never knew I could cry so often — or so much.But I am also aware that I am walking without pain. For the first time, I am grateful for each breath in and out —grateful for the gift of life itself. I used to celebrate my birthday every five years and friends’ birthdays sometimes. Now I celebrate always. I used to go to sleep worrying about all the thingsI messed up that day — and trust me, that list was often quite long. Now I try really hard to focus on each day’s moments of joy.”Finally, she told the audience, appreciate your own capacity for resilience when you’re sad or disappointed. Expand that resilience beyond yourself to the companies and communities you create.Anchored deep within you is the ability to learn and grow.— Sheryl Sandberg“When the challenges come, I hope you remember that anchored deep within you is the ability to learn and grow. You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are — and you just might become the very best version of yourself.”。