桑德伯格在加州大学伯克利分校毕业典礼上的演讲

Shirley Sandberg: The Worthy Queen of Silicon Valley ◎供稿：杨 琴雪莉·桑德伯格在2016年伯克利大学演讲道：“生活中总会碰到很多难处的事情，有时错失机会。

工作不合适、遭遇疾病或事故，因而一切瞬间改变。

有时尊严尽失，刻薄的偏见常常刺痛人心。

有时缘尽人散，亲密关系一旦破碎就难重圆。

人生不仅要面临生活，还要面临死别。

”雪莉的人生历经坎坷，但她用一次次行动证明：即便悲伤或空虚，或是面对巨大挑战，你仍然可以选择快乐和有意义的生活。

雪莉·桑德伯格：当之无愧的硅谷女王Track 7Life style/人物志Shirley Sandberg, now Facebook’s chief operating officer, is known by the media as “Facebook’s first lady”, and is the first female member of Facebook’s board. She is No.5 on the 2011 Forbes list of powerful women, one of the top 50 “most powerful” businesswomen elites on the Forbes list. In 2013, she appeared on the cover of Time magazine and was rated as one of the most influential people in the world by Time magazine.As a successful woman with countless great 1)halos and labels, what behind her is a journey of great 2)frustration and inspiration.Shirley Sandberg, was born in 1969 in a Jewish family in Washington, D.C., a typical middle-class family. Her father, Joel, is an 3)ophthalmologist, and her mother, Adele, teaches French at a college. Her parents are both senior 4)intellectuals. They 5)instilled their traditional educational ideas from childhood. They not only pay attention to her academic achievements, but also hope that she can fulfill her life-long task and be a good wife and good mother.In 1987, Shirley was admitted to Harvard University. In Harvard, where there are so many talented people, she still graduated from Harvard economics department as the first prize and top student. After graduation, she settled down in Washington, and soon met a suitable marriage partner, a Washington businessman. Like completing a historical mission, she got the 6)certificate without 7)hesitation.But because of her husband’s incomprehension of her career, they divorced after only one year together. After her marriage failed, she put all her heart into her work.One year after the divorce, Sherry was invited to serve as the chief of staff for her 8)mentor1)halo［̍he I ləʊ］n. 光环2)frustration［frʌ̍stre Iʃn］n. 挫折3)ophthalmologist［̩ɒfᶱæl̍mɒlədʒI st］n. 眼科医师4)intellectual［̩I ntə̍lektʃuəl］n. 知识分子5)instill［I n̍st I l］v. 灌输6)certificate［sə̍t I f I kət , sə̍t I f I ke I t］n. 证书，文凭 7)hesitation［̩hez I̍te Iʃn］n. 犹豫8)mentor［̍mentɔː(r)］n. 指导者，导师Summers, who became Vice Treasury Secretary of thethen US President Bill Clinton’s administration. At thistime, Shirley was only 29 years old and had alreadymade her mark in the political circle of Washington.1. In the future, there will be no female leaders. There will just be leaders.在未来，将没有女性领导人,只会有领导人。

Facebook首席运营官桑德伯格首谈死亡与挫折要拥有扛过一切悲伤的能力雪莉·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg），Facebook的首席运营官，执掌上千亿美金市值的商业帝国。

2015年5月，正在事业蓬勃之际，丈夫Dave Goldberg遽然离世。

桑德伯格在加州大学伯克利分校毕业典礼讲演中，首次分享了她从至亲的死亡中获得的感悟：“我们所经历的每一次挫折，都会在灵魂深处种下坚韧的种子。

我们记忆深处的每一次苦难，都会在日后成为支撑我们走下去的力量”。

当我对所有事情都厌倦的时候，我就会想到你，想到你在世界某个地方生活着、存在着，我就愿意去承受一切。

你的存在对我很重要。

——《美国往事》| 要拥有扛过一切悲伤的能力 |雪莉.桑德伯格在今天这个特殊的时刻，我不会和你们交流我的人生经验，而是试着和你们分享我从死亡中学到的领悟——事实上，我从未在公众场合谈过这个话题。

一年多以前，我失去了我的丈夫， Dave。

事情发生得非常突然和出人意料。

我们当时在墨西哥参加一个朋友五十岁的生日聚会。

我正在午睡，Dave去做运动。

之后发生的一切都是不堪回首的，比如我发现他躺在体育馆的地板上，停止了呼吸。

比如我不得不独自飞回家，告诉我的孩子们他们父亲的死讯。

比如我眼睁睁看着他的棺材渐渐地没入地面。

在那之后的好几个月，在那之后的很多时候，我感觉我自己要被悲痛的吞噬了。

那是种填满你的心脏、你的肺、限制你思考，甚至让你无法呼吸的空虚。

Dave的离去深深地改变了我。

我知道了悲伤的深度。

但同时，我也领悟到，当你们的生活沉入谷底，你们可以反击，冲破表层的障碍，再次呼吸。

我认识到，当你们面对无边无际的空虚，又或者当你们面临任何挑战，你们可以选择过快乐好有意义的人生。

今天，我希望你们可以学习到一些我对于死亡的体悟——那些关于希望，力量，以及我心中永不灭的光。

桑德伯格与丈夫戈德伯格1如果悲剧无法避免我们该如何面对？我相信在座每个人都或多或少有过挫折。

SherylSandberg桑德伯格在2012年哈佛毕业典礼上的演讲•雪莉·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg），1969年出生于华盛顿，2011年41岁，Facebook首席运营官，2011福布斯权势女性榜排名第5位。

2008年3月，正当Facebook从一家受到广泛关注的创业公司向一家互联网巨头迈进时，桑德伯格从谷歌跳槽至这家社交网站。

她负责Facebook的销售、营销、收购、合作、人士、公共政策和联络事宜，使该网站CEO马克·扎克伯格（Mark Zuckerberg）可以专注于Facebook的设计和新功能。

雪莉·桑德伯格给此家初出茅庐的新兴企业带来了难得的成熟气息，帮助Facebook从一家热门创业公司走向互联网世界的主宰。

在她的努力下，Facebook克服用户隐私问题的困扰，在全世界获得了5亿以上的用户，成为最重要的互联网企业之一。

•雪莉·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg），1969年出生于华盛顿，2011年41岁，Facebook首席运营官，2011福布斯权势女性榜排名第5位。

2008年3月，正当Facebook从一家受到广泛关注的创业公司向一家互联网巨头迈进时，桑德伯格从谷歌跳槽至这家社交网站。

她负责Facebook的销售、营销、收购、合作、人士、公共政策和联络事宜，使该网站CEO马克·扎克伯格（Mark Zuckerberg）可以专注于Facebook的设计和新功能。

雪莉·桑德伯格给此家初出茅庐的新兴企业带来了难得的成熟气息，帮助Facebook从一家热门创业公司走向互联网世界的主宰。

在她的努力下，Facebook克服用户隐私问题的困扰，在全世界获得了5亿以上的用户，成为最重要的互联网企业之一。

文本：Sheryl Sandberg’s inspiring commencement speech atHarvard 2012 Class脸谱网首席运营官雪莉桑德博格在哈佛商学院2012届毕业典礼上的演讲It’s an honor to be here today to address HBS’s distinguished faculty, proud parents, patient guests, and most importantly the class of 2012. Today was supposed to be a day of unbridled celebration, and I know that’s no longer true. I j oin all of you in grieving for your classmate. I know there no way make this better although sadness. Today still marks a distinct and impressive achievement for this class, so please join me in giving our warmest congratulations to the class of 2012.When Dean Nohria asked me to speak here today, I thought, come talk to a group of people way younger and cooler than I am? I can do that, I do that every day, I like being surrounded by young people except when they say to me, What was it like being in college without the internet, or worse, Sheryl, can you come here, we need to see what old people think of this feature.When I was a student here 17 years ago, I studied social marketing with professor Kash Rangan, and one of the many examples Kash used to explain the concept of social marketing was the lack of organ donors in this country, which kills 18 people every single day. Earlier this month, Facebook launched a tool to support organ donations, something that stems directly from Kash’s work. Kash is here, we are all grateful for your dedication.So, it wasn’t really that long ago when I was sitting where you are, but the world has changed an awful lot. My section,section B, tried to have HBS’s first online class. We had to use an AOL chat room and dial up service (your parents can explain to you later what dialogue is later). We had to pass out a list of screen names, because it was unthinkable to put your real name on the internet. And it never worked. It kept crashing…the world wasn’t set up for 90 people to communicate at once on line. But for a few brief moments though, we glimpsed the future, a future where technology would power who we are and connect us to our real colleagues, our real family, our real friends.It used to be that in order to reach more people than you could talk to in a day, you had to be rich and famous and powerful, be a celebrity, a politician, a CEO, but that’s not true today. Now ordinary people have voice, not just those of us lucky to go to HBS, but anyone with access to Facebook, to Twitter, a mobile phone. This is disrupting traditional power structures and leveling traditional hierarchy. Voice and power are shifting from institutions to individuals, from the historically powerful to the historically powerless, and all of this is happening so much faster than I could have imagined when I was sitting where you are today and Mark Zuckerberg was 11 years old.ONE WOMAN CEO LOOKED AT ME AND SAID ‘WE WOULDN’T EVEN THINK ABOUT HIRING SOMEONE LIKE YOU’As the world becomes more connected and less hierarchical, traditional career paths are shifting as well. In 2001, after working in the government, I moved out to Silicon Valley to try finding a job. My timing wasn’t really that good. The bubble had crashed, small companies were closing, big companies were laying people off. One woman CEO looked at me and said, we wouldn’t eventhink about hiring someone like you.After a while I had a few offers and I had to make a decision, so what did I do? I am MBA trained, so I made a spreadsheet. I listed my jobs in the columns and my criteria in the rows, and compared the companies and the missions and the roles. One of the jobs on that sheet was to become Google’s first business unit general manager, which sounds good now, but at the time no one thought consumer internet companies could ever make money. I was not sure there was actually a job there at all. Google had no business units, so what was there to generally manage. And the job was several levels lower than jobs I was being offered at other companies.EXCELLENT CAREER ADVICE: ‘GET ON A ROCKET SHIP’So I sat down with Eric Schmidt, who had just become the CEO, and I showed him the spread sheet and I said, this job meets none of my criteria. He put his hand on my spreadsheet and he looked at me and said, don’t be an idiot. Excellent career advice. And then he said, Get on a rocket ship. When companies are growing quickly and they are having a lot of impact, careers take care of themselves. And when companies aren’t growing quickly or their missions don’t matter as much, that’s when stagnation and politics come in. If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask what seat. Just get on.About six and one-half years later, when I was leaving Google, I took that advice to heart. I was offered CEO jobs at a bunch of companies, but I went to Facebook as COO. At the time peoplesaid, why are you going to work for a 23-year-old? The traditional metaphor for careers is a ladder, but I no longer think that metaphor holds. It doesn’t make s ense in a less hierarchical world. When I was first at Facebook, a woman named Laurie Gohler, a 1997 graduate of HBS, was working in marketing at eBay and I knew her kind of socially. And she called me and said, ‘I want to talk with you about coming to wor k with you at Facebook. So I thought about calling you, she said, and telling you all the things I’m good at and all the things I like to do. But I figured that everyone is doing that. So instead I want to know what’s your biggest problem and how can I solve it.’My jaw hit the floor. I’d hired thousands of people up to that point in my career, but no one had ever said anything like that. I had never said anything like that. Job searches are always about the job searcher, but not in Laurie’s case. I said, you’re hired. My biggest problem is recruiting and you can solve it. So Laurie changed fields into something she never thought she’d do, went down a level to start in a new field and has since been promoted and runs all of the people operations at Facebook and has done an extraordinary job.CAREERS ARE NOT A LADDER–THEY’RE A JUNGLE GYMCareers are not a ladder-they are a jungle gymLaurie has a great metaphor for careers. She says they’re not a ladder; they’re a jungle gym. As you start your post-HBS career, look for opportunities, look for growth, look for impact, look for mission. Move sideways, move down, move on, move off.Build your skills, not your resume. Evaluate what you can do, not the title they’re going to give you. Do real work. Take a sales quota, a line role, an ops job, don’t plan too much, and don’t expect a direct climb. If I had mapped out my career when I was sitting where you are, I would have missed my career.You are entering a different business world than I entered. Mine was just starting to get connected. Yours is hyper-connected. Mine was competitive. Yours is way more competitive. Mine moved quickly, yours moves even more quickly. As traditional structures are breaking down, leadership has to evolve as well. From hierarchy to shared responsibility, from command and control to listening and guiding. You’ve been trained by this great institution not just to be part of these trends but to lead. As you lead in this new world, you will not be able to rely on who you are or the degree you hold.You’ll have to rely on what you know. Your strength will not come from your place on some org chart, your strength will come from building trust and earning respect. You’re going to need talent, skill, and imagination and vision, but more than anything else, you’re going to need the ability to communicate authentically, to speak so that you inspire the people around you and to listen so that you continue to learn each and every day on the job.If you watch young children, you’ll immediately not ice how honest they are. My friend Betsy in my section a few years after business school was pregnant with her second child and her first child was about five and said, ‘Mommy, where is the baby?’And she said, ‘The baby is in my tummy.’ And he said, ‘Aren’t the baby’s arms in your arms? And she said, ‘No, the baby’s in my tummy.’ ‘Are the baby’s legs in your legs?’ ‘No, the whole baby is in my tummy. And he said, ‘Mommy, then what is growing in your butt?’As adults, we are never this honest, and that’s n ot a bad thing. I have borne two children, the last thing I needed were those comments. But it’s not always a good thing either. Because all of us, and especially leaders, need to speak and hear the truth. The workplace is an especially difficult place for anyone to tell the truth, because no matter how flat we want our organizations to be, all organizations have some form of hierarchy. What that means is that one person’s performance is assessed by someone else’s perception.HONESTY IS MISSING FROM THE WORKPLACEThis is not a setup for honesty. Think about how people speak in a typical workforce. Rather than say I disagree with our expansion strategy or better yet, this seems truly stupid. They say: I think there are many good reasons why we’re entering t his new line of business, and I’m certain the management team has done a thorough ROI analysis, but I’m not sure we fully considered the downstream effects of taking this step forward at this time. As we would say at Facebook on the internet, three letters: WTF.Truth is better used by using simple language. Last year Mark decided to learn Chinese and as part of studying, he would spendan hour or so each week with some of our employees who were native Chinese speakers. One day, one of them was trying to tell him something about her manager, so she said this long sentence and he said simpler please. And then she said it again and he said, no, I still don’t understand, simpler please…and so on and so on. Finally, in sheer exasperation, she burst out, my manager is bad.Simple and clear and very important for him to know. People rarely speak this clearly in the workforce or in life and as you get more senior, not only will people speak less clearly to you but they will overreact to the small things you say.When I joined Facebook, one of the things I had to do was build the business side of the company, put some systems into place, but I wanted to do it without destroying the culture that made Facebook great. So one of the things I tried to do was encourage people not to do formal PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me, and I would say things like, don’t do PowerPoint presentations for meetings with me. Why don’t you come in with a list of what you want to discuss, but everyone ignored me, they kept doing their presentations meeting after meeting, month after month.‘NO MORE POWERPOINTS IN MY MEETINGS AND I MEAN IT’No more power points in my meetings and I mean itSo about two years in, I said, ‘OK, I hate rules but I have arule, no more PowerPoint in my meetings and I mean it.’ About a month later I was about to speak to our global sales team on a big stage and someone came up to me and said, Before you get on that stage, you really should know everyone’s pretty upset about the no PowerPoint with c lients thing…What? So I got on the stage and said, one, I meant no PowerPoint with me. But two, more importantly, next time you hear something that’s really stupid, don’t adhere to it, fight it or ignore it, even if it’s coming from me or Mark.A good lea der recognizes that most people won’t feel comfortable challenging authority, so it falls upon authority to encourage them to question. It’s easy to say that you’re going to encourage feedback but it’s hard to do, because unfortunately it doesn’t always co me in a format we want to hear.When I first started at Google, I had a team of four people and it was really important to me that I interview everyone, being part of my team meant I had to know you. When the team had gotten to 100 people, I realized it was taking longer to schedule my interviews so one day at my meeting of just my direct reports, I said maybe I should stop interviewing, fully expecting them to jump in and say no, your interviews are a critical part of the process. They applauded. Then they fell over themselves explaining that I was the bottleneck of all time.‘WHEN YOU’RE A LEADER, IT’S REALLY HARD TO GET GOOD AND HONEST FEEDBACK’I was embarrassed, then I was angry and I spent a few hours just quietly fuming. Why didn’t they tell me I was a bottleneck, why did they let me go on slowing them down? Then I realized that if they hadn’t told me, that was my fault. I hadn’t been open enough to tell them I wanted that feedback and I would have to change that going forward. When you’re the lead er, it is really hard to get good and honest feedback, no many how many times you ask for it. One trick I’ve discovered is that I try to speak really openly about the things I’m bad at, because that gives people permission to agree with me, which is a lot easier than pointing it out in the first place. To take one of many possible examples, when things are unresolved I can get a tad anxious.Really, when anything’s unresolved, I get a lot anxious. I’m quite certain no one has accused me of being too calm. So I speak about it openly and that gives people permission to tell me when it’s happening. But if I never said anything, would anyone who works at Facebook walk up to me and say, ‘Hey Sheryl, calm down. You’re driving us all nuts.’ I don’t think so.As you graduate today, ask yourself, how will you lead. Will you use simple and clear language? Will you seek out honesty? When you get honesty back, will you react with anger or with gratitude? As we strive to be more authentic in our communication, we should also strive to be more authentic in a broader sense. I talk a lot about bringing your whole self to work—something I believe in deeply.MOTIVATION COMES FROM WORKING ON THINGS WECARE ABOUTMotivation comes from working on things we care about but it also comes from working with people we care about, and in order to care about someone, you have to know them. You have to know what they love and hate, what they feel, not just what they think. If you want to win hearts and minds, you have to lead with your heart as well as your mind. I don’t believe we have a professional self from Mondays through Fridays and a real self for the rest of the time. That kind of division probably never worked, but in today’s world, with a real voice, an authentic voice, it makes even less sense.I’ve cried at work. I’ve told people I’ve cried at work. And it’s been reported in the press that Sheryl Sandberg cried on Mark Zuckerberg’s shoulder, which is not exactly what happened. I talk about my hopes and fears and ask people about theirs. I try to be myself. Honest about my strengths and weaknesses and I encourage others to do the same. It is all professional and it is all personal, all at the very same time.I recently started speaking up about the challenges women face in the workforce, something I only had the courage to do in the last few years. Before this, I did my career like everyone else does it. I never told anyone I was a girl. Don’t tell. I left the lights on when I went home to do something for my kids. I locked my office door and pumped milk for my babies while I was on a conference call. People would say, what’s that sound. I would say, ‘What sound? I hear a beep. It’s a fire truck.’GENDER REMAINS AN ISSUE AT THE HIGHEST LEVELS OF LEADERSHIPBut the progress we’ve made in the last decade has convinced me we need to start talking about this. I graduated from HBS in 1995 and I thought it was completely clear that by the time someone from my year was invited to speak at this podium, we would have achieved equality in the workforce. But women at the top C-level jobs are stuck at 15% or 16% and has not moved in a decade. Not even close to 50%. We need to acknowledge openly that gender remains an issue at the highest levels of leadership. The promise of equality is not equality. We need to start talking about this.We need to start talking about how women underestimate their abilities compared to men and for women, but not men. Success and likeability are negatively correlated. That means that as a woman is more successful in your workplaces, she will be less liked. This means that women need a different form of management and mentorship, a different form of sponsorship and encouragement, and some protection, in some ways more than men.There aren’t enough senior women out there to do it, so it falls upon the men who are graduating today just as much or more as the women, not just to talk about gender but to help these women succeed. When they hear a woman is really great at her job but not liked, take a deep breath and ask why. We need to start talking openly about the flexibility all of us need to have both a job and a life.A couple of weeks ago in an interview I said that I leave the office at 5 p.m. to have dinner with my children, and I was shocked at the press co verage. One of my friends said I couldn’t get more headlines if I had murdered someone with an ax! This showed me this is an unresolved issue for all of us, men and women. Otherwise, why did everyone write so much about it? And maybe, most importantly, we need to start talking about how fewer women than men, even from places like HBS, even in this class, aspire to the very top jobs.WOMEN WILL NOT CLOSE THE LEADERSHIP GAP UNTIL WE CLOSE THE PROFESSIONAL AMBITION GAPWe will not close the leadership gap until we close the professional ambition gap. We need more women not just to sit at the table, but as President Obama said a few weeks ago at Barnard, to take their rightful seats at the head of the table. One of the reasons I was so excited to be here today is that Dean Nohria told me that this is the 50th anniversary of letting women into this school…Your dean is so passionate about getting more women into leadership positions and he told me he wanted me to speak this year for that reason. I met a woman from that first class once. She told me that when they first came in, they took a men’s room and converted it to a woman’s room. But they left the urinals in. The urinals are long gone. Let’s make sure that no one ever misses them.As you and your classmates spread out across the globe and walk across this stage tomorrow, I wish for you four things:First, keep in touch via Facebook; this is critical to your future success! And since we’re public now, could you click on an ad or two.Two, that you make the effort to speak as well as seek the truth.Three, that you remain true to and open about your authentic self.And four, most deeply, that your generation accomplish what mine has failed to do. Give us a world where half our homes are run by men and hal f our institutions are run by women. I’m pretty sure that would be a better world.I join everyone here in offering my most sincere congratulations to the HBS Class of 2012. Give yourselves a huge round of applause.。

谢丽尔桑德伯格清华20XX毕业演讲稿命运偏爱勇者向前一步20XX年清华大学经济管理学院毕业之际，Facebook首席运营官来清华演讲，为即将毕业的20XX届毕业生送上精彩的演讲，寄语毕业生要想成为领导者，那么就要勇于向前一步，facebook谢丽尔桑德伯格清华20XX毕业演讲稿命运偏爱勇者向前一步谢丽尔桑德伯格清华20XX毕业演讲稿命运偏爱勇者向前一步钱颖一院长、杰出的清华经管学院的教师们、自豪的毕业生亲属、鼎力支持他们的朋友们、以及更重要的是，清华经管学院20XX届的毕业生们：我很荣幸今天来到这里为你们做毕业典礼演讲。

同我的老板马克扎克伯格不一样的是，我不会讲中文。

为此我感到抱歉。

但是，他请我用中文转达他对大家的问候祝贺。

今天能在这里祝贺优秀的同学们毕业，我感到非常兴奋。

当钱颖一院长邀请我今天来做演讲时，我想，来给远比我年轻比我酷的人演讲?这事儿我能做。

我在Facebook每天都要做这样的事情。

因为扎克伯格比我小15岁，并且我们的大多数员工是他的同龄人，而不是我这个年龄的。

我喜欢和年轻人在一起，除非他们问我你在大学时没有手机用是怎样的日子?甚至更糟糕的问题是，谢丽尔，你能过来一下吗?我们想知道岁数大的人对这个新功能有什么看法?我1991年从哈佛大学本科毕业，获得经济学学士学位;1995年从哈佛商学院毕业，获得MBA学位所以可以说，我上了美国的清华大学。

其实这并不是那么久远的事情。

但是我能告诉你们的是，这个世界在这短短的25年当中发生了翻天覆地的变化。

在哈佛商学院时，我所在的班级曾尝试进行学院的第一次在线课程。

我们当时必须给每人发一张写有我们网名的列表，因为那时在网上使用真名是件让人难以想象的事。

但是最后还是没有搞成，因为电脑系统不断崩溃当时根本无法实现90人同时在线交流。

不过在系统崩溃之间的几个短暂瞬间里，我们窥见了未来一个技术可以实现我们和同事、家人、朋友连接在一起的未来。

现在的世界已经是我坐在你们这个位置时难以想象的世界了。

硅谷版“安迪”：桑德伯格16年加州大学伯克利分校毕业典礼演讲她是硅谷版的“安迪”，Facebook的二当家，周末加州大学伯克利分校的毕业典礼上分享了自己经历然而正在她事业蓬勃之际，她的丈夫却早早撒手人寰，她又有着惊人的毅力克服悲痛。

在丈夫去世一年后，Facebook首席运营官雪莉·桑德伯格学会了如何更有韧性.她在周末加州大学伯克利分校的毕业典礼上分享了自己的经历，并有可能将其写入自己的第二本书中。

在演讲过程中，她数度哽咽。

马克·扎克伯格在桑德伯格这篇演讲的下面评论:“如此美丽而又激励人心，谢谢你。

”Thank you， Marie. And thank you esteemed members of the faculty， proud parents, devoted friends, squirming siblings。

谢谢玛丽.谢谢尊敬的老师们、自豪的父母、忠诚的朋友们，各位同仁。

Congratulations to all of you…and especially to the magnificent Berkeley graduating class of 2016！祝贺所有人……尤其是伯克利2016级的毕业生们！It is a privilege to be here at Berkeley， which has produced so many Nobel Prize winners, Turing Award winners， astronauts，members of Congress, Olympic gold medalists…. and that's just the women！在伯克利求学是一件幸事，这里出过众多的诺贝尔奖得主、图灵奖获得者、宇航员、国会议员和奥运会金牌得主……而且都有女性！Berkeley has always been ahead of the times。

桑德伯格伯克利演讲稿在当今的商业世界中，雪莉·桑德伯格无疑是一位备受瞩目的女性领袖。

她在伯克利的演讲稿，不仅仅是一场简单的演讲，更是一次深刻的思想分享和智慧启迪。

桑德伯格的演讲开篇便吸引了所有人的注意力。

她没有过多的寒暄，而是直接切入主题，以自己的亲身经历为引，讲述了成长道路上所面临的挑战与抉择。

她谈到了自己初入职场时的迷茫与不安。

那时的她，如同许多年轻人一样，怀揣着梦想，却又对未来充满了不确定。

在面对复杂的工作环境和激烈的竞争时，她也曾有过退缩的念头。

但正是凭借着内心深处那份对成功的渴望和不懈的努力，她逐渐在工作中找到了自己的定位，展现出了卓越的才能。

桑德伯格强调了勇气的重要性。

她认为，在追求梦想的道路上，我们不能总是害怕失败，而应该勇敢地迈出每一步。

哪怕前方充满了未知和困难，只要我们有勇气去尝试，就有机会获得成功。

她讲述了自己在职业生涯中几次大胆的决策，这些决策在当时看来充满了风险，但正是这些勇敢的选择，为她的职业发展开辟了新的道路。

同时，桑德伯格也提到了团队合作的意义。

她指出，在一个团队中，每个人都有自己的优势和不足，只有相互协作、相互支持，才能共同实现目标。

她分享了自己在团队中与同事们共同克服困难、取得成就的经历，让大家深刻体会到了团队的力量。

在演讲中，桑德伯格还特别关注了女性在职业发展中的困境。

她坦言，尽管社会在不断进步，但女性在工作中仍然面临着诸多不公平的待遇和限制。

然而，她鼓励女性们要勇敢地打破这些束缚，要相信自己的能力，积极争取属于自己的机会。

她以自己为例，讲述了如何在一个男性主导的行业中脱颖而出，为女性树立了榜样。

桑德伯格还谈到了面对挫折时的态度。

她认为，挫折是人生中不可避免的一部分，关键是我们如何从挫折中吸取教训，重新站起来。

她分享了自己在经历挫折时的心路历程，以及如何通过自我调整和积极的行动，走出困境，再次迎接挑战。

此外，桑德伯格也强调了持续学习和自我提升的重要性。

Facebook首席运营官雪莉•桑德伯格在柏纳德学院毕业典礼上的演讲（中文译本）南京航空航天大学金城学院英语系陈尚运感谢Spar校长，理事会的成员们，敬爱的教职员工，家长们，以及在座的朋友们：祝贺大家，尤其是优异的2011界伯纳德学院的毕业生们。

很高兴与大家欢聚在伯纳德学院。

让我欣喜的是，我大学时的室友，同时也是学院的教员，Caroline Weber,此时也在这儿。

来到这里，我感慨颇多。

还有，因为在硅谷工作的原因，我很少有机会与这么多优异的女生们在一起，这也让我很高兴。

刚好20年前,我毕业了。

每一天我工作的地方都好像在让我变老。

我的上司，同时也是脸谱网的创立者，马克扎克伯格（Mark Zuckerberg），不久前对我说：“雪莉，女性中年危机什么时候发生，是当你30岁时吗？”这是工作以来很倒霉（背运）的一天！但我明白生活中我们总会忘却一些时刻。

当然，今天这个日子你们不会忘记。

你们可能不记得我说过的每一句话，甚至不记得毕业典礼上的致辞者是谁。

你们不会记得因为下雨我们的毕业典礼不得不移到室内举行。

但最重要的一点你们不会忘记，那就是毕业时走上毕业典礼的礼台，即将开始新的人生征途时的心绪。

今天是庆祝日，来庆贺你们在伯纳德学院的辛勤付出有了回报；今天也是感恩日，感恩自己的老师，同学以及所有给予过帮助过自己的人；今天更是反思日。

很抱歉，因患喉炎今天我有些谈吐不清。

从今天起，你们将离开伯纳德学院，你们不仅在这里学到了知识，而且是同龄中的幸运儿。

在座的一些同学是来自一向重视教育的家庭，相比之下，其他人为进入伯纳德学院学习克服了许多困难。

如今，你们成为了家族中第一个大学生，这是多大的成就啊！但无论你们原来的起点在哪，在伯纳德学院学习后你们有了更高的起点。

可问题是你下一步的打算是什么？努力求学到底为的是什么？究竟需要改变改变？如果要改，那要改变那一部分？去年，普利策奖获得者Sheryl wudunn和Nicholas kristof来到这里，并谈到了他们备受抨击的一本书，即《半边天》。

雪莉桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲雪莉桑德伯格在哈佛2014年毕业典礼上的演讲祝贺所有人～你们做到了。

我指的不是大学毕业～而你们成功出席今天的毕业典礼。

如果我没记错～某些同学虽然昨晚在香港具厅喝了太多蝎子碗调酒～但今天还是来了。

由于天气～这种哈佛还没有弄清如何控制的现象～还胡同学正在温暖的地方喝热可可饮料。

所以～你们有很多为今天出席毕业日活动感到自豪的理由。

祝贺你们的家长～你们花了很多钱～让子女能够说自己是从波士顿附近的这所“小学校”毕业的。

还要感谢2014届毕业生邀请我来到这次盛典。

这对我价值巨大。

看到过往演讲者的名单让人有些敬畏～我肯定没有艾米波乐那么搞笑～但我至少比特雷萨修女更幽默。

25年前～一个当时还不认识～但以后成为我丈夫的男人戴夫～从在你们现在从的地方。

23年前～我从在你们现在从的地方。

戴夫和我这个周末～带着可爱的子女回校～我们都有相同的三角:哈佛的篮球队太棒了:站在校园中～回忆泉涌。

1987年的秋天～我从迈阿密来到这里～怀揣着伟大的梦想～还胡更夸张的发型。

我被分配到哈佛伟大建筑的一座历史丰碑~卡纳迪楼～我是说真的～我当时穿着牛仔裙～白色暖裤袜套～运动鞋～还有一件弗罗里达羊毛衫。

因为当时我的父母告诉我～所有人都会认为来自弗里达的人很酷。

至少～我们那时没有。

对我而言～哈佛给了我很多第一次～包括我的第一件冬装～在迈阿密没有人需要冬装。

我的第一份10页的论文～高中没有人会布置这么长的作业。

我第一次得C～这之后～我的学监告诉我说～她在招生委员会～她招我进来不是因为我的学术潜能～而是因为我的品性。

我在寄宿学校看到的第一个人～我就觉得这个人会是个大麻烦。

我还碰到了第一个名字同整座建筑一样的人～这个人名字叫做萨拉威格尔斯沃斯～她和那栋宿舍楼没有关系～当时我很震惊～知道她和宿舍楼没有关系后～我松了一口气。

之后～我还碰到了其他人～弗朗西斯斯特劳斯～詹姆斯威尔斯～杰西卡科学中心B。

我第一们爱～第一们让我心碎的人。

2016年毕业演讲:Facebook桑德伯格UCB大学演讲--我从死亡中学到的东西【演讲简介】Facebook COO 谢丽尔·桑德伯格（Sheryl Sandberg）5月14日在加州大学伯克利分校（UC Berkeley）的毕业典礼上发表的演讲，在这次演讲中，她首次公开谈论丈夫一年前的突然离世与自己的心路历程。

这对于她来说是一个勇敢的选择。

在演讲过程中，谈及她数度哽咽。

马克·扎克伯格在桑德伯格这篇演讲的下面评论：“如此美丽而又激励人心，谢谢你。

“UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA, BERKELEY 2016 CommencementAddressThank you, Marie. And thank you esteemed members of the faculty, proud parents, devoted friends, squirming siblings.Congratulations to all of you…and especially to the magnificent Berkeley graduating class of 2016!It is a privilege to be here at Berkeley, which has produced so many Nobel Prize winners, Turing Award winners, astronauts, members of Congress, Olympic gold medalists…. and that’s just the women!Berkeley has always been ahead of the times. In the 1960s, you led the Free Speech Movement. Back in those days, people used to say that with all the long hair, how do we even tell the boys from the girls? We now know the answer: manbuns.Early on, Berkeley opened its doors to the entire population. When this campus opened in 1873, the class included 167 men and 222 women. It took my alma mater another ninety years to award a single degree to a single woman.One of the women who came here in search of opportunity was Rosalind Nuss. Roz grew up scrubbing floors in the Brooklyn boardinghouse where she lived. She was pulled out of high school by her parents to help support their family. One of her teachers insisted that her parents put her back into school—and in 1937, she sat where you are sitting today and received a Berkeley degree. Roz was my grandmother. She was a huge inspiration to me and I’m so grateful that Berkeley recognized her potential. I want to take a moment to offer a special congratulations to the many here today who are the first generation in their families to graduate from college. What a remarkable achievement.Today is a day of celebration. A day to celebrate all the hard work that got you to this moment.Today is a day of thanks. A day to thank those who helped you get here—nurtured you, taught you, cheered you on, and dried your tears. Or at least the ones who didn’t draw on you with a Sharpie when you fell asleep at a party.Today is a day of reflection. Because today marks the end of one era of your life and the beginning of something new.A commencement address is meant to be a dance between youth and wisdom. You have the youth. Someone comes in to be the voice of wisdom—that’s supposed to be me. I stand up here and tell you all the things I have learned in life, you throw your cap in the air, you let your family take a million photos –don’t forget to post them on Instagram —and everyone goes home happy.Today will be a bit different. We will still do the caps and you still have to do the photos. But I am not here to tell you all the things I’ve le arned in life. Today I will try to tell you what I learned in death.I have never spoken publicly about this before. It’s hard. But I will do my very best not to blow my nose on this beautiful Berkeley robe.One year and thirteen days ago, I lost my husband, Dave. His death was sudden and unexpected. We were at a friend’s fiftieth birthday party in Mexico.I took a nap. Dave went to work out. What followed was the unthinkable—walking into a gym to find him lying on the floor. Flying home to tell my children that their father was gone. Watching his casket being lowered into the ground.For many months afterward, and at many times since, I was swallowed up in the deep fog of grief—what I think of as the void—an emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even to breathe.Dave’s death changed me in very profound ways. I learned about the depths of sadness and the brutality of loss. But I also learned that when life sucks you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again. I learned that in the face of the void—or in the face of any challenge—you can choose joy and meaning.I’m sharing this with you in the hopes that today, as you take the next step in your life, you can learn the lessons that I only learned in death. Lessons about hope, strength, and the light within us that will not be extinguished.Everyone who has made it through Cal has already experienced some disappointment. You wanted an A but you got a B. OK, let’s be honest—you got an A- b ut you’re still mad. You applied for an internship at Facebook, but you only got one from Google. She was the love of your life… but then she swiped left.Game of Thrones the show has diverged way too much from the books—and you bothered to read all four thousand three hundred and fifty-two pages. You will almost certainly face more and deeper adversity. There’s loss of opportunity: the job that doesn’t work out, the illness or accident that changes everything in an instant. There’s loss of dignity: the sharp sting of prejudicewhen it happens. There’s loss of love: the broken relationships that can’t be fixed. And sometimes there’s loss of life itself.Some of you have already experienced the kind of tragedy and hardship that leave an indelible mark. Last year, Radhika, the winner of the University Medal, spoke so beautifully about the sudden loss of her mother.The question is not if some of these things will happen to you. They will. Today I want to talk about what happens next. About the things you can do to overcome adversity, no matter what form it takes or when it hits you. The easy days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days—the times that challenge you to your very core—that will determine who you are. You will be defined not just by what you achieve, but by how you survive.A few weeks after Dave died, I was talking to my friend Phil about a father-son activity that Dave was not here to do. We came up with a plan to fill in for Dave.I cried to him, “But I want Dave.“ Phil put his arm around me and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of option B.“We all at some point live some form of option B. The question is: What do we do then?As a representative of Silicon Valley, I’m pleased to tell you there is data to learn from. After spending decades studying how people deal with setbacks, psychologist Martin Seligman found that there are three P’s—personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence—that are critical to how we bounce back from hardship. The seeds of resilience are planted in the way we process the negative events in our lives.The first P is personalization—the belief that we are at fault. This is different from taking responsibility, which you should always do. This is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us.When Dave died, I had a very common reaction, which was to blame myself. He died in seconds from a cardiac arrhythmia. I poured over his medical records asking what I could have—or should have—done. It wasn’t until I lear ned about the three P’s that I accepted that I could not have prevented his death. His doctors had not identified his coronary artery disease. I was an economics major; how could I have?Studies show that getting past personalization can actually make you stronger. Teachers who knew they could do better after students failed adjusted their methods and saw future classes go on to excel. College swimmers who underperformed but believed they were capable of swimming faster did. Not taking failures personally allows us to recover—and even to thrive.The second P is pervasiveness—the belief that an event will affect all areas of your life. You know that song “Everything is awesome?“ This is the flip: “Everything is awful.“ There’s no place to run or hide from the all-consuming sadness.The child psychologists I spoke to encouraged me to get my kids back to their routine as soon as possible. So ten days after Dave died, they went back to school and I went back to work. I remember sitting in my first Facebook meetingin a deep, deep haze. All I could think was, “What is everyone talking about and how could this possibly matter?“ But then I got drawn into the discussion and for a second—a brief split second—I forgot about death.That brief second helped me see that there were other things in my life that were not awful. My children and I were healthy. My friends and family were so loving and they carried us—quite literally at times.The loss of a partner often has severe negative financial consequences, especially for women. So many single mothers—and fathers—struggle to make ends meet or have jobs that don’t allow them the time they need to care for their children. I had financial security, the ability to take the time off I needed, and a job that I did not just believ e in, but where it’s actually OK to spend all day on Facebook. Gradually, my children started sleeping through the night, crying less, playing more.The third P is permanence—the belief that the sorrow will last forever. For months, no matter what I did, it felt like the crushing grief would always be there. We often project our current feelings out indefinitely—and experience what I think of as the second derivative of those feelings. We feel anxious—and then we feel anxious that we’re anxious. We feel sad—and then we feel sad that we’re sad. Instead, we should accept our feelings—but recognize that they will not last forever. My rabbi told me that time would heal but for now I should “lean in to the suck.“ It was good advice, but not really what I meant by“lean in.“None of you need me to explain the fourth P…which is, of course, pizza from Cheese Board.But I wish I had known about the three P’s when I was your age. There were so many times these lessons would have helped.Day one of my first job out of c ollege, my boss found out that I didn’t know how to enter data into Lotus 1-2-3. That’s a spreadsheet—ask your parents. His mouth dropped open and he said, ‘I can’t believe you got this job without knowing that“—and then walked out of the room. I went home convinced that I was going to be fired. I thought I was terrible at everything… but it turns out I was only terrible at spreadsheets. Understanding pervasiveness would have saved me a lot of anxiety that week.I wish I had known about permanence when I broke up with boyfriends. It would’ve been a comfort to know that feeling was not going to last forever, and if I was being honest with myself… neither were any of those relationships. And I wish I had understood personalization when boyfriends broke up with me. Sometimes it’s not you—it really is them. I mean, that dude never showered. And all three P’s ganged up on me in my twenties after my first marriage ended in divorce. I thought at the time that no matter what I accomplished, I was a massive failure.T he three P’s are common emotional reactions to so many things that happen to us—in our careers, our personal lives, and our relationships. You’re probably feeling one of them right now about something in your life. But if you can recognize you are falling into these traps, you can catch yourself. Just as ourbodies have a physiological immune system, our brains have a psychological immune system—and there are steps you can take to help kick it into gear. One day my friend Adam Grant, a psychologist, suggested that I think about how much worse things could be. This was completely counterintuitive; it seemed like the way to recover was to try to find positive thoughts. “Worse?“ I said. “Are you kidding me? How could things be worse?“ His answer cut straight th rough me: “Dave could have had that same cardiac arrhythmia while he was driving your children.“ Wow. The moment he said it, I was overwhelmingly grateful that the rest of my family was alive and healthy. That gratitude overtook some of the grief.Finding gratitude and appreciation is key to resilience. People who take the time to list things they are grateful for are happier and healthier. It turns out that counting your blessings can actually increase your blessings. My New Year’s resolution this year is to write down three moments of joy before I go to bed each night. This simple practice has changed my life. Because no matter what happens each day, I go to sleep thinking of something cheerful. Try it. Start tonight when you have so many fun moments to list— although maybe do it before you hit Kip’s and can still remember what they are.Last month, eleven days before the anniversary of Dave’s death, I broke down crying to a friend of mine. We were sitting—of all places—on a bathroom floor. I said: “Eleven days. One year ago, he had eleven days left. And we had no idea.“ We looked at each other through tears, and asked how we would live if we knew we had eleven days left.As you graduate, can you ask yourselves to live as if you had eleven days left?I don’t mean blow everything off and party all the time— although tonight is an exception. I mean live with the understanding of how precious every single day would be. How precious every day actually is.A few years ago, my mom had to have her hip replaced. When she was younger, she always walked without pain. But as her hip disintegrated, each step became painful. Now, even years after her operation, she is grateful for every step she takes without pain—something that never would have occurred to her before.As I stand here today, a year after the worst day of my life, two things are true.I have a huge reservoir of sadness that is with me always—right here where I can touch it. I never knew I could cry so often—or so much.But I am also aware that I am walking without pain. For the first time, I am grateful for each breath in and out—grateful for the gift of life itself. I used to celebrate my birthday every five years and friends’ birthdays sometimes. Now I celebrate always. I used to go to sleep worrying about all the things I messed up that day—and trust me that list was often quite long. Now I try really hard to focus on each day’s moments of joy.It is the greatest irony of my life that losing my husband helped me find deeper gratitude—gratitude for the kindness of my friends, the love of my family, the laughter of my children. My hope for you is that you can find that gratitude—notjust on the good days, like today, but on the hard ones, when you will really need it.There are so many moments of joy ahead of you. That trip you always wanted to take. A first kiss with someone you really like. The day you get a job doing something you truly believe in. Beating Stanford. (Go Bears!) All of these things will happen to you. Enjoy each and every one.I hope that you live your life—each precious day of it—with joy and meaning. I hope that you walk without pain—and that you are grateful for each step.And when the challenges come, I hope you remember that anchored deep within you is the ability to learn and grow. You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process you will figure out who you really are—and you just might become the very best version of yourself.Class of 2016, as you leave Berkeley, build resilience.Build resilience in yourselves. When tragedy or disappointment strike, know that you have the ability to get through absolutely anything. I promise you do. As the saying goes, we are more vulnerable than we ever thought, but we are stronger than we ever imagined.Build resilient organizations. If anyone can do it, you can, because Berkeley is filled with people who want to make the world a better place. Never stop working to do so—whether it’s a boardroom that is not representat ive or a campus that’s not safe. Speak up, especially at institutions like this one, which you hold so dear. My favorite poster at work reads, “Nothing at Facebook is someone else’s problem.“ When you see something that’s broken, go fix it. Build resilient communities. We find our humanity—our will to live and our ability to love—in our connections to one another. Be there for your family and friends. And I mean in person. Not just in a message with a heart emoji.Lift each other up, help each other kick the shit out of option B—and celebrate each and every moment of joy.You have the whole world in front of you. I can’t wait to see what you do with it. Congratulations, and Go Bears!谢谢玛丽。

谢丽尔•桑德伯格：向前一步，世界如你所愿作者：馨卉来源：《妇女》2016年第08期谢丽尔·桑德伯格被誉为“Facebook的第一夫人”，是福布斯榜上前50名“最有力量” 的商业女精英之一，曾登上《时代周刊》杂志封面，被评为全球最具影响力的人物之一。

2016年5月14日，在加州大学伯克利分校的毕业典礼上，桑德伯格发表演讲说：生命的每一天都是珍贵的，不仅为美好的日子感激，也为艰难的日子而感激。

Facebook的幕后女王桑德伯格1969年8月出生于美国华盛顿特区一个商人家庭。

父母从小教育她，男孩能做到的，女孩也能做，对她有着和弟弟相同的期望。

桑德伯格从小天资聪颖，学业在班里数一数二，1991年以全优成绩获得哈佛大学经济学学士学位。

哈佛著名经济学家劳伦斯·萨默斯非常赏识她，亲自推荐她进入世界银行工作。

1995年，在桑德伯格获得哈佛商学院MBA学位后不久，萨默斯出任克林顿政府的财政副部长，随后桑德伯格受邀出任萨默斯的办公室主任。

2001年，桑德伯格加入谷歌负责广告销售，商业管理和营销方面的才能开始凸显。

那时，谷歌创办仅3年，还没有实现稳定盈利。

谷歌网络广告的销售额在她的管理下连年创下新高，在不少重要合作上，桑德伯格都尽心尽力，被媒体评价为“强势而无畏”。

伴随着谷歌从创业公司成长为网络巨头，她成为谷歌地位最高的女高管。

2007年年底，Facebook网刚刚成立三年，时年23岁的创始人扎克伯格觉得自己在管理方面力不从心，他急需一个职业管理人。

在朋友的圣诞晚会上，扎克伯格遇到了桑德伯格，他立刻展开了对她的“挖角”。

接下来的6个星期里，扎克伯格每个周末都会到桑德伯格的家里拜访，两人常常聊到深夜。

扎克伯格的诚意和脸谱网的发展潜力，让桑德伯格决定离开当时如日中天的谷歌。

2008 年3月，Facebook宣布桑德伯格出任脸谱网首席运营官。

这则消息成为硅谷当天的头条新闻。

最初，桑德伯格来到脸谱网后，许多人并不看好，员工也对她“心怀畏惧”。