哈佛幸福课笔记
Digest of Positive Psychology
第一课：什么是积极心理学
1. 解读比信息更重要。
2. 成功的特质：1）自信——自我预言实现；2）好奇心——提问。
3. 最好的学习是教。
4. 学期结束时，不要问知道了什么，而是改变了什么。行动和改变更重要。
5. 做减法比做加法让心灵成长更快。
Active note-taking is opposed to passive note-taking for two reasons: 1)write down if you have an idea that you think you can apply; 2)better attention, better understanding of the material if you are actively engaged.
Words are not the sole medium of exchange in teaching and learning, we educate with silence as well. Silence gives us a chance to reflect on what we have said and heard. In authentic education, silence is treated as a trustworthy matrix for the inner work students must do, a medium for learning of the deepest sort.——Parker palmer The Courage to Teach
Happiness is much more contingent on our state of mind than our status or the state of our bank account.
Story of Michelangelo:
"How did you create this most amazing masterpiece, David?"
"It was easy. I went to the quarry, I saw this huge piece of marble, and in it I saw David. All I needed to do was to chip away the excess stone to get rid of the marble that shouldn't have been there. And when I got rid of this excess stone, there was David."
Soul grows more by subtraction than by addition.
In pursuit of knowledge, every day something is acquired. In pursuit of wisdom, every day something is dropped.——Lao Tzu
What is wrong is not the great discoveries of science, information is always better than ignorance, no matter what information or what ignorance. What is wrong is the belief behind the information, the belief that information will change the world. It won't.——Archibald MacLeish
The biggest mistake is not asking the right questions.
Video of Seinfeld:
Kids: "Wait up, Hold up, Shut up, Clean up, Let me stay up."
Parents:"Calm down, Slow down, Sit down, Put that down."
Not the best! But the best that he is able to become!
第二课：为什么要学积极心理学
1. 问题缔造现实——你的关注点影响你的认知。
2. 成功孩子的特质：适应力、有榜样、自信、乐观。
3. 自己要承担责任。
When we appreciate the good, the good appreciates.
Story of Marva Collins:
Punishment: write 100 reasons why they are too wonderful to do that they are doing. And the have to be alpha order: I am adorable; beautiful; courageous; delightful; effervescent; fabulous; heavenly; idolized; just wonderful; kindred spirit; lovable; momentous; never never underline;……
第三课：幸福是一种随机现象吗？
1. 建立两种健康模型：疾病模型，健康模型。
2. 现实意义：帮助学生找到意义，认识个性，找到长处……
To be a practical idealist, the foundation of it has to be the belief that change is possible.
第四课：积极的环境能改变人
1. 人类网络的指数本质。改变是指数级的。《让爱传出去》
2. 内在因素对幸福感的决定性。基本需求满足后，财富对幸福感的影响很小。内在因素是指对世界的解释、关注点等。例外的外在因素：民主与压迫。
3. 接受人类本性。有两种情况：接受人类本性有局限性：政治支持资本主义；不接受人性有局限性，政治上倾向共产主义。
4. 准许自己为人。有个无条件接受自我的地方。压抑情绪，它会加强。
第五课：环境的力量
1. 快乐是道德追求和最终目标。快乐是正和游戏。
2. 信念及自我实现预言。
Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.
Be the change you want to see in the world.——Gandhi
People mostly do what you do, rather than what you say.
第六课：乐观主义
