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Differences of Family Values Between China and AmericaAbstract :This paper tries to make a comparison of different family values between China and US, which appeared in many fields, for instance, the American emphasis the individualism but Chinese focus on the collectivism, the relationship between family members and their attitudes to each other are also quite different,the life style influenced by family values are varied. Reasons for these differences are complex, including different customs, cultures and social backgrounds and so on.Key words: family values, life styles, cultures, differences.Ⅰ.IntroductionFamily is the most basic unit of all human society. It reflects the ethical values of a society, its cultural characteristics and the unique features of a nation. People begin to learn anything about the world and their culture through the family they are brought up in. What you think, how you act, even your language, are all transmitted through the family from the wider cultural context.Family values are the core in the research of cultural values, and it has a huge influence on people’s thoughts and behaviors. So if we want to get a glimpse of the cultures of two different countries, it is necessary to know their different family values. In this paper we will analyze family values from different aspects, including the decisive family values, the attitude to the family members and their relationships, and the influences of family values.Ⅱ.The differences of family values.A.The individualism VS. the collectivismThe American emphasize the personal independence, while Chinese emphasize on the whole family, not any individual member. Children in America have more freedom than that in China. Their parents rarely interfere with their private affairs, and usually try to enhance children’s all-around abilities when they are young. Theyhandle their own affairs themselves and try to get support from their colleagues or experts who work in the relevant field, and their family members only give suggestions to them. The key point of its society is freedom. Obviously, we Chinese pay more attention to the interest of whole family than that of any individual’s. In China, children usually live with their parents even after they are grown-up, since Chinese people want a more united family and closer relationship between family members. The living style in China is different compared with that in America. Chinese people like to live with their parents and they think this kind of living style may help them have more opportunity to understand other family members. This kind of living style can narrow the gap between family members and when anybody faces with a problem, the others can help him effectively and efficiently. The living style also reflects that Chinese people mainly emphasize the whole family but not the individuals, which is quite different from Americans.B.The attitude to the family members and their relationships in China andAmerica.Chinese people have a big family with variety of relatives, which may be easy to cause competition and suspicion. So in order to maintain order and family harmony, they particularly advocate showing respect to their seniority in the light of the theory of law and discipline rite of Confucius. And 'Act you role well' is the key to a harmonious family relationship. All the family members should be ranked strictly and according to their position in the family hierarchy they would be treated separately and be required to do what they should do. So in traditional Chinese family, the elder is highly respected. Parents bring up their children, then after parents are getting old, it is their children’s responsibility and duty to care for them and give them both material and spiritual support. In the traditional Chinese family, father was always the centre. It is not because the feudal concept that man is superior to woman, but also for what man has earned is the main source of family’s incoming and usually man earns more money than woman. And woman is responsible for the family house working. Though most household affairs are solved and decided by mother, the most important thing related to the whole family are determined by father. Between parents andchildren, parents are given more privilege and right to control their children. To most Chinese parents, a good child means to be obedient and docile. It is normal for parents to arrange everything for their children.To Americans, it is normal that parents and children are separate; reunion is abnormal. Parents bring up children and the children continue to raise the offspring, so the aged is expelled to the society. For the attitude to bring up the children, American parents consider that they have the legal liability, but in a sense, the children should take responsibility for their behaviors. Americans sniff at the concept of filial piety and think it restrains their self-awareness and ego-development. Parents and their children don't need dependency relationship. In contrast, they should establish a kind of allowance system so as to instill the basic concept of self-dignity and self-love into their children. As a result, although children would be grateful for their parents' favors, they do not think they have the obligation to pay back. In America, if the parents still live together with their adult children, they should pay board wages and accommodation fee to children. And the same to their adult children who still live with their parents.The primary purpose of an American family is to advance the happiness, the equality and the freedom of every family member. Americans praise self-centered and deal with the family members and family affairs rationally. For the sake of themselves, they deem that family should make sacrifice. Family’s honor and unity are less important than that in Chinese society. In an American family, the democratic idea of equality is prevalent. Father and mother have equal right to make decision on family affairs and their children are given right to vote.C. Comparison of life style influenced by family values1. Different Financial StyleIn China，family members are financially dependent，that is to say all of the family members should help each other，especially when he or she meets the financial problems，which seems that people have the responsibility for helping their family members to overcome the difficulties. During the daily life，children should take care of their old parents financially even parents have the possibility to rely onthemselves. In America, family members are financially independent. Americans appreciate the individuality which requires them at first to get an independent financial freedom. That means they do not rely on their parents or family members when they grow up. Sometimes American thinks it is a kind of shame to be supported by their kind red members. That is the reason why in the case the father and the son felt at ease when they bought tickets for each other.2. Different Life StyleIn China , a stable life style is much appreciated by people. As it has already been discussed above, the strong family tie in China has been taken its shape for thousand years long. Family members and relatives prefer to live together in terms of convenience which could reflect the Chinese “guanxi” vividly. Even after the implementation of Open Policy from 1980s，though the traditional lifestyle is influences a lot，people still want to live as close as possible to their family members，relatives and friends. However，in America，there is no such a strong family tie as same as that in China，therefore，their life style are very mobile. Meanwhile, this life style is also influenced by their personal values, such as self-reliance，hard work，and a tie between achieving success in life，personal achievement etc，which encourage Americans to work all of the world for achieving their career goals and success.3. Different Public FestivalsThere are several festivals which come of family unity in Chinese official holidays, such as Spring Festival，Tomb–sweeping Day, Qixi Jie and Mid-autumn Festival. The most important festival is the Spring Festival existing in the history for almost over 2000 years long. During this festival, all family and relatives get together, which is the very precious chance for people to enlarge and strengthen family ties. In America，Chiristmas Day，Hallow-mas，Saint Valentine's Day，Thanksgiving Day are the most important holidays coming of Christianity. The most significant festival is the Christmas Day. Before the festival，all Americans also come back from their works for this big day；however，this festival is much more religious for the family members even though they do have the activities of family reunion.Ⅲ. ConclusionThe cultural differences between China and America are reflected in almost all aspects of family life. The present study focuses on various major aspects，such as the different family decisive values，different family relationship and attitudes, and influences caused by family values. It’s not just simply listing some phenomena and analyzing the cultural explanation . The intention of the study is to promote a better understanding between Chinese and American people by comparing the family values. We would like to say if we want to live peacefully and harmoniously under the same roof，the best thing we must do is to make an understanding between Chinese people and American people. Meanwhile，a good understanding of the difference will surely facilitate the cross-cultural communication of two peoples.【References】[1] HALL, E, F. The Hidden Dimension[M]. New York:double-day. 1996.[2] Stanley, Haverwas. A Community of Character[M]. Cam-bridge, 1984.。
[作者简介]全国梁,男,内蒙古工业大学外语学院助教; 斯琴,女,内蒙古工业大学外语学院助教。
The Co mparison of Am erican Fam il y Values and Chinese Fa m ily ValuesAm erican s Indivi d ualis m and Chi n ese s Collectivis mQ uan G uoliang S i q i n(Co llege of F oreign Language ,Inner M ongolia Universit y of Technolo gy ,H uhhut ,InnerM ongolia ,010051) [A bstract] P eop l e in d ifferen t countr i es have diff e rent va l ues .T hese va l ues decided by t he ir backg round and cu-lt ure .Am erica and Chi na have g reat differences bet w een each o t her .Therefore ,i ndi v idualis m i s t he do m i nant idea i n Ame r -ica ,and Ch i nese i dea i s co ll ectiv i s m.T hey are for m ed in t he process of each country ,and they are embod i ed i n every as -pect o f the soc i ety .Fam il y va l ue is one o f the ex a m ples to show t hese t w o d ifferen t i deas .T h i s paper t he author uses the re -lati onship bet ween fam il y m e mbers ,how to bring up and educate the ch ildren ,ho w to communicate w it h o t hers and som e custom s to show th i s i dea .Compared w ith these t w o values ,w e can fi nd the d ifferent soc i a l phenom ena wh i ch a re a ffected by these t w o ki nds of va l ues .[K ey words] fa m il y values ; i ndiv i dua lism; co llecti v is m; i ndependence [中图分类号]G03 [文献标识码]A [文章编号]1672-8610(2010)05-0113-02I .W hat are the i nd i v i dualis m and collec tivis m and how they for m edIndi v iduali s m is a ca l m and cons i de rable feeli ng wh i ch dis -poses each citizen to iso l a te h i m se lf fro m t he m ess of h is fe llo w sand w i thdraw i nto the c irc le o f fa m ily and friend [1]253,but it is not equa l to selfish .It m eans i ndependence ,dec i d i ng o r do i ng so m eth i ng by onesel;f co ll ectiv i s m i s to put o t hers benefit fi rst ,thi nk of you rself at last .T hese t wo different i deas have t he ir for m ed background .W estern cu lt ure takes t he ob j ect as t he do m-i nant f ac t o r ,based on nature ,so they neg lect people .M ost of the Ame ricans a re busy w it h w ork ,and they have the h i gh pace every day ,so t hey don t know each o t her very w ell and they are lack o f opportun ity to m eet each other .Therefore ,it for m ed t he ir ind i v i dua l character .H ow eve r ,Chi na is an agr i cultural culture nati on ,the far m er lives near their lands ,and mo st land li nk to -ge t her ,so the peop le al ways inhab it a reg i on and take care of each othe r ,ta l k i ng about anything .They take hum an be i ng ascenter .[2]17Chi nese cu lt ure i s still deeply rooted i n our sou ls ,our m i nds and our b l oods .T h i s i s why Chinese reg ard co llecti v -is m m ost i m portant . .Ind ivi dualis m i n A m er ican fa m ily and collectivis m in Ch i n ese fa m il yAm erica and China have d ifferent cultures .B ecause o f the soc i a l and h isto rica l d ifferences ,Am er i cans e m phasi ze on ind-i v i dua li s m,and Ch i nese pay m ore attenti on to co llectiv i s m.Am erican fa m il y values and Chi nese fam il y va l ues g ive us someev i dence to this po i nt .T he Am er i can fa m ily i s a nuclear fa m ily ,consisti ng usua lly of pa rents and the ir unm arried ch ildren [3]133,but ev ery fa m ily m e m be r has the i r own positi ons ,and equa l righ ts are often exerc i sed bet ween husband and w ife .They have the ir o w n fi nanc i a l suppo rt .D ifferent from the past ,m ore and m ore Am er i can w o m en go out to wo rk ,they no l onger stay at ho m e t o do housewo rk o r take care o f the baby .T hey can rea li ze them se l ves in so m e fields ,sho w i ng the sam e ability w ith t he m en and t hey can a l so i ncrease the fa m il y i nco m e .Fro m th i s po i nt ,w e can see the i ndependence o f Am erican w o m en .It has some si m ilarity w ith the Chinese w o m en i n the c ity ,but most Chi nese w o m en putm ore energy to the fa m ily .T hen what about the father in Am erican fa m il y ?O f course ,they go to wo rk to suppo rt the fa m ily ,but they typicall y spend a si gnificant a m ount o f h i s l e is -ure ti m e w ith their ch ildren [3]134.W hen t he children sit together w it h t he ir fathe r ,they are equa l and they j ust l ook li ke fr i ends to ta l k abou t some t h i ng or debate each othe r .So ,no ma tter adu lts o r ch il dren ,they have the i r independent i dea .T he other reason is m ost Am er i can people dare do exac tly w ha t t hey w ant to and say what s on t he ir m i nds whenever t hey w an t t o ,espec i a lly in public .It caused Am e ricans out w ard-go i ng character .H owev -e r ,the relationsh i p bet w een fathe r and ch ildren i n Chi na is di-fferent .F ather s sta t us i n fa m ily is as ru l er and m aster .[3]133T hey are ve ry strict ,and t he conversati on bet ween father and ch il dren is very for m a l and serious .A l ot o f ch ildren must fo ll ow the ir fathers wo rds .It i s not encouraged t o a rgue w i th father .It caused Ch i nese in w ard-go i ng cha racter .So i n Am er i can fa m -i ly ,everyone pursuit i nd i v i dua l freedom .H usband and w ife both113 语文学刊 外语教育教学 2010年第5期have duty to do house w ork and bring up t he baby .T hey have di-fferent circle o f fr i ends ,and they have the equa l r i ght to m ake de -c isi on i n fa m ily affair .In Ch i na ,m en are accep ted as the m aster o f the m ost fa m ily ,wh ile wom en also have job .T he fi na l dec-i s i on is m ostly made by m en and t he house w ork is shou l dered by w o m en ,m ean wh ile ,Ch i nese fa m ily i s a un ited f am il y .M ost fa m ilies a ttach i m portance to bring i ng up the ir chi-l dren .H owever ,Am er i can and Ch i nese have the ir d ifferent me t h -ods .W hen a baby is born ,Am erican pa rents prepare a si ng l e room for the baby ,because they foster the ch ildren s i ndepend -ence from very little .Chi nese is opposite ;the baby certa i n l y li ves beside t he parents .O n the process of the ch il dren gro w i ng .T he paren ts i n the t wo countr ies take d ifferen t attitude to show the ir love .Am ericans ask t he ir chil dren to do t he ir own thi ngs by them se l ves .If the ch il dren w ant so m e m oney o r buy some t h i ng ,the parents w ill not g i ve t he m d i rectl y;they m ust earn it by d i ng house w ork or other things .Such as ,c lean i ng the garden ,wash -i ng t he d i shes and so on .Though it is very easy ,the ch il dren know how d ifficu lt to m ake m oney .And the most i m portan t is it can deve l op a strong sense o f independence .If you do no t h i ng ,no one can he l p you .O bjecti v ely speak i ng ,Chinese parents w ill focus the ir entire l ove on the ir on l y ch il d .T hey w ill g i ve t he ir ch il dren any t h i ng they w an t and do ev ery t h i ng for the i r chil dren .N o m atte r ho w ti red they are ,how d ifficultly t hey m ake m oney ,they w ill have t he ch il dren en j oyed a com fortable life .By do i ng so ,ch il dren re l y a lot on parents ,and it also hinders the own a -b ilities develop m ent o f the ch ildren .T he re has been a Chi nese and Ame rican ca m p ,the org an i zers found Chi nese st udents li ke to he l p others and they could conque r t he diffi culties t oge t her ;the Ame rican students had no obv i ous acti on .H ow ever ,i n the subsistent skill co m parison ;t he Am erican students expressed the ir li v i ng ab ili ty wh i ch w as beyond t he Chi nese students .T hrough t h is acti v ity ,it no t on l y show ed the d ifferent fa m ily edu -ca tion ,but a lso reflected Ch i nese s co llecti v is m and Ame rican s i ndi v idualis m.In Ame rican fam il y ,when chil dren are o l d enough ,they can have a say in fa m il y a ffa ir and jo i n to m ake de -c isi on .The o ld ru le ch il dren shou l d be seen and heard is gen -e ra lly broken and t hey are a llowed to do th i ng s i ndependen tly .Pa rents don t i nterfe re i n what they w i sh to do .And chil dren are encourag ed to be i ndependen t at any ea rly age .[4]190T here a re a lot o f proverbs to descr i be the chil dren s i ndependence .Such as no t to be ti red t o m othe r s apron str i ng , l eave the nest .In Ch i na ,genera ll y speaking ,the r i ght of dec isi on a l w ays be longs to the parents ,ch ildren m aybe f o ll ow the ir parents .Pa rents i n Am erica have li ttl e con tro ,l and gene ra lly not much i nfl uence over who m the ir ch ildren m arry .[3]135T his de -pends on the ir ind i v i dua l character .In Ame rica ,N ovember 14th is Sad i e H a wk i ns D ay .Th is day is celebrated al most exc l usi ve -ly by h i gh schoo l and co llege st udents .[5]304The boys al ways inv ite the g irls t hey adm ire to take pa rt i n so m e ac tiv iti es .So young people i n Ame rica enjoy a great dea l o f freedo m.T hey can m ake a date w ithout the i r pa rents ag ree m ent .Y oung people are expected t o fi nd a husband or a w ife on the ir own ,the ir pa rents don t help them .[3]135In f ac t they w ill dec i de the i r ma rriage ac -cordi ng to t he co m pan i onship and the happ i ness they m ake each o t her .M aybe so m eti m es they are lack of deep thought ,but t he ir parents respec t their own cho ice .They are frequentl y not to l d ofm arriage plans until the couple has dec i ded to m arry .[3]135InChi na ,it has different s it uati ons .Y oung people can choose t he ir boyfr i end or g irlfriend by the m se l v es ,but w hen m entioned ma r -riag e ,itm ust be agreed by parents o f each fa m ili es .T he parents w ill consi der a l o t o f factors and t hey w ill satisfy w i th eve ry as -pect .So m e ti m es the young peop le w ill be separa ted by the i r pa r -ents .It i s i nfl uenced by a little of feudal i dea .E ven if they dec i de to ma rry ,t he paren ts w ill arrange i t ahead o f ti m e .Be -cause they w ant t he ir ch ildren live a happy life .So m arr i age in Am erica i s an i ndiv i dua l responsi b ility and dec isi on for the young .T hey pursu it romantic l ove ,then make an i m m ed i ate fa m ily and leave the ir pa rents .M ean wh ile ,the divorce rate in 1994was 4.6per 1,000popu lati ons .[3]163Y et the Chi nese fa m -i ly i s re l atively stable .Am erican fa m ily is a m ob ile fam il y ,they enjoy m ov i ng fro m p l ace t o p lace ve ry o ften .In so m e states only one house in fi ve has peop l e li v i ng i n it who have been the re for fi ve years .[6]15So even t he relatives ,t hey li ve i n different places and lack o f communicati on ,and they are not f am iliar w ith t he ir ne i ghbors .Am erican s i ndiv i dua l cha racte r m ake the m stress on the ir pr i vacy ;they don t li ke o t hers to kno w m ore about the m.Pa rents cannot enter the chil dren s room w it hout a ll ow ance .People avo id ask i ng some pr i vate questi ons ,such as ,i nco m e ,age ,and re li g i ous beli e f and so on .H ence they may not stay in one place for a l ong ti m e .Chi nese a l w ays have fi xed liv i ng p l ace ,because w e have the resident card w e are costu m ed w ith the people around us .A s a Ch i nese say i ng goes :a re l a ti ve far o ff is less he l p than a neighbo r close by .They a l w ay s keep c l ose touch w it h t he ir ne i ghbors ,and they know each other very w e l.l T he ne i ghbor bet ween each other w ill he l p h i m or her o f t he ir own accord .Th i s i s collecti v is m.Even though Am er i cans e m-phasize on i nd i v i dua li s m and Chinese think hi gh o f co ll ectiv i s m,both of t he m w ill ce l ebrate som e festi va l s together w it h a ll f am il y m e m be rs .For exa m ple ,Ch i nese Spr i ng F estival and Am er i can T hanks G i v i ng D ay. .Con clusi onT he Am er i can fa m ily va l ues and Ch i nese fa m ily va l ues g i ve us the ev i dence of Ame rican s i nd i v i dua li s m and Ch i nese s co-llecti v is m .A l ong w ith t he Am er i can e m phasis on i nd i v i dua li s m,the i ndependence and equality are shown from ev ery fa m ily .T he Chi nese s co llecti v is m e mbodies the he l pful ness and un ites be -t ween each fa m ily m ember .M eanwh ile ,i ndividualis m and co-l lecti v is m some ti m es can bring som e prob le m s i n soc iety ,li ke d-i vo rce ra te and ch il dren s ab ilit y.T his is d ifferent li v i ng sty l e and v al ues bet w een Ame rica and China .On l y by know ing the d ifferences o f each o t her s va l ues ,we can dev elop the relations o f the people i n the t wo coun tries .References[1]P an Shaozhong.A nt ho l ogy o fAm erican Cu lt ure and L i te ra -ture[M ].Be iji ng Comm ercial press ,1998.[2]H ou Xue m e ,i Song M insheng ,Zhang Peng .The Cu lt ura lInfor m ati on Expl o re i n L anguage Co mmun ica ti on[J].X i an Internati ona l Stud i es U n i ve rsity ,2003.[3]X u Luzh.i Understand i ng the U S and the UK [M ].Q ingdaoO cean U nivers it y ,2001. 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To To begin begin begin with, with, with, the the the tendency tendency tendency of of of education education is is different. different. The The Chinese Chinese Chinese parents parents parents lay lay lay emphasis emphasis emphasis on on on so so cial cial enlightenment, enlightenment, enlightenment, ignore ignore ignore the the the growth growth growth of of of c c hildren. hildren. The The The Chinese Chinese Chinese parents parents parents take take take the the the soci soci al al compatible compatible compatible enlightenment enlightenment enlightenment seriously, seriously, seriously, but but often often neglect neglect neglect the the the development development development of of of children children 's 's characteristics, characteristics, characteristics, they they they often often often train train train the the the child child ren ren under under under established established established forms forms forms , , , and and and lay lay lay dow dow n n the the the broad broad broad road road road for for for their their their growth. growth. 中国和美国之间的家庭教育Defferent 第一，重点是放在家庭教育。
