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JUST like a band or gang of superheroes needs members who have different talents and powers, a circle of friends should have exactly the same thing."It's important to have diversity and to be able to look for support from a variety of sources, " says clinical and coaching psychologist and founder of the The Positivity Institute, Dr. Suzy Green. "They also help us to keep broader perspective on life."Domonique Bertolucci, life coach and author of The Happiness Code, agrees."You need different types of friends in the same way that you need food from different food groups. Different types of friends serve different purposes and nourish and enrich our lives in different ways."While many of us are lucky to count our real friends on one hand, there are certain types of people it’s good to have around. So, how many do you know?THE FRIEND WHO'S COOLER THAN YOUThe world changes quickly and some people are just that little bit better at keeping up with what's hip than we are. Like those friends who know that NO ONE EVER says "hip" any more, for instance. We like to be around these people, because they're a beacon of cool. Cool things just flock to them. These are the people who help you to open your eyes, have a flow-on effect for introducing you to other cool people and help to unstick yourself from the rut that's all too easy to get bogged in. "These people enrich your life by exposing you to things that may have otherwise have passed you by, " says Bertolucci.THE FRIEND WHO IS UP FOR ANYTHINGPeople are busy, we get it. But there's nothing more frustrating than having to reschedule your re-re-re-scheduled catch-up. Everyone needs a friend who you can call at the drop of a hat. A friend who says "hell yeah, I'm up for that". That's why it's good to have a mate who you don't need to issue a 28-day notice to just to meet for a frappuccino. It's refreshing (the friend, that is, not necessarily the frappuccino.) "This friend is the flexible, no frills friend who makes your life a breeze. Nothing is ever too hard and they're open to doing new things and changing plans at short notice,。
影响你人生的8种朋友打开手机中的电话簿，几百个联系人立刻就会跳入眼帘，想全部浏览一遍还真要费些。
但在这些人当中，小部分人的名字我已经有些淡忘，大部分人已经长久不联络了，电话簿中的人还在不断地增加，真正的朋友所占的比例却在降低。
也许真的因为我们“太忙”，无暇去维系已有的朋友圈；也许人与人之间越来越多的是非真伪让我们对“朋友”的称谓产生了畏惧。
以及友情的缺失，已然成为了现代人不得不面对的“人际危机”。
那么真正的朋友究竟是什么样的？中所需要的又是什么朋友呢？以下就是人生中不可缺少的8种朋友的写照——1、成就你的朋友：他们会不断激励你，让你看到自己的优点。
这类朋友也可称之为导师型。
他们不一定是你的师长，但他们一定会在某些领域具有丰富的经验，能经常在事业、家庭、人际交往等各方面给你提供许多建议。
人生中拥有这种朋友会成为你最大的心理支柱，也常常会成为能够“左右”你的“偶像”。
2、支持你的朋友：一直维护你，并在别人面前称赞你。
这类朋友可谓是“你帮我，我帮你”，相互打气，使得彼此成为对方成长的垫脚石。
在一个人的成长过程中，朋友的支持与鼓励是最珍贵的。
当你遇到挫折时，这类朋友往往可以帮你分担一部分的心理压力，他们的信任也恰恰是你的“强心剂”。
3、志同道合的朋友：和你兴趣相近，也是你最有可能与之相处的人。
这类朋友会让你有心灵感应，俗称“默契”。
你会因为想的事、说的话都与他们相近，经常有被触摸心灵的感觉。
和他们交往会帮助你不断地进行自我认同，你的兴趣、人生目标或是喜好，都可以与他们分享。
这种稳固的感受“共享”会让你获得心理上的感，因为有他们，你更容易实现，并可以快乐地成长。
4、牵线搭桥的朋友：认识你之后，很快把你介绍给志同道合者认识。
这类朋友是“帮助型”的朋友。
在你得意的时候，他们的身影可能并不多见；在你失意的时候，他们却会及时地出现在你面前。
他们始终愿意给予你最现实的支持，让你看到希望和机会，帮助你不断地得到积极的心理暗示。
真朋友值得拥有：每个人都应该有的六种朋友（英汉对照）1. The friend who is cooler than you比你更酷的朋友The world changes quickly and some people are just that little bit better at keeping up with what’s hip than we are. Like those friends who know that NO ONE EVER says hip any more, for instance. We like to be around these people, because they’re a beacon of cool. Cool things just flock to them.这个世界瞬息万变，总有一些人比我们更了解什么是流行，就像有些朋友们知道现在没有人再说hip这个词。
我们喜欢围绕着这些人，因为他们是流行的指向标。
潮流朝着他们蜂拥而至。
These are the people who help you to open your eyes, have a flow-on effect for introducing you to other cool people and help to unstick yourself from the rut that’s all too easy to get bogged in. These people enrich your life by exposing you to things that may have otherwise have passed you by.这些人开阔了你的视野，让你认识到更多的潮人，使我们打破常规，突破自我。
他们向你展示一些你可能已经错过的东西，从而丰富我们的生活。
2. The friend who is up for anything时刻待命的朋友People are busy, we get it. But there’s nothing more frustrating than having to reschedule your re-re-re-scheduled catch-up. Everyone needs a friend who you can call at the drop of a hat. A friend who says hell yeah, I’m up for that. That’s why it’s good to have a mate who you don’t need to issue a 28-day notice to just to meet for a frappuccino. It’s refreshing (the friend, that is, not necessarily the frappuccino.)我们知道现在每个人都很忙，但最令人沮丧的事就是：你不得不一次次重新安排你的行程。
随着生活节奏的加快，社会的浮躁和功利，人与人之间有着太多分不清的是非真伪，以至于我们对“朋友”的称谓产生了畏惧。
那么，真正的朋友究竟是什么样的，人的一生到底需要什么样的朋友呢？美国作家帕尔指出，“不要指望一位密友带给你所需要的一切。
”另一位作家汤姆·拉思则认为，以下8种朋友是必不可少的。
成就你的朋友他们会不断激励你，让你看到自己的优点。
这类朋友也可称之为导师型。
他们不一定是你的师长，但他们一定会在某些领域具有丰富的经验，能经常在事业、家庭、人际交往等各方面给你提供许多建议。
人生中拥有这种朋友会成为你最大的心理支柱，也常常会成为能够“左右”你的“偶像”。
志同道合的朋友和你兴趣相近，也是你最有可能与之相处的人。
与他们在一起，会让你有心灵感应，俗称“默契”。
你会因为想的事、说的话都与他们相近，经常有被触摸心灵的感觉。
和他们交往会帮助你不断地进行自我认同，你的兴趣、人生目标或是喜好，都可以与他们分享。
这种稳固的感受“共享”会让你获得心理上的安全感，因为有他们，你更容易实现理想，并可以快乐地成长。
支持你的朋友一直维护你，并在别人面前称赞你。
这类朋友可谓是“你帮我，我帮你”，相互打气，使得彼此成为对方成长的垫脚石。
在一个人的成长过程中，朋友的支持与鼓励是最珍贵的。
当你遇到挫折时，这类朋友往往可以帮你分担一部分的心理压力，他们的信任也恰恰是你的“强心剂”。
牵线搭桥的朋友认识你之后，很快把你介绍给志同道合者认识。
这类朋友是“帮助型”的朋友。
在你得意的时候，他们的身影可能并不多见；在你失意的时候，他们却会及时地出现在你面前。
他们始终愿意给予你最现实的支持，让你看到希望和机会，帮助你不断地得到积极的心理暗示。
开阔眼界的朋友能让你接触新观点、新机会。
这类朋友对于人生也是必不可少。
他们可谓是你的“大百科全书”。
这类朋友的知识广、视野宽、人际脉络多，会帮助你获得许多不同的心理感受，使你成为站得高、看得远的人。
给你打气的朋友好玩、能让你放松的朋友。
龙源期刊网 人生要有８个朋友作者：汤姆·雷斯来源：《百姓生活》2009年第02期在个人生命与工作中，8种不可或缺的朋友角色包括：推手、支柱、同好、伙伴、中介、开心果、开路者、导师。
如果你身边围绕着这些人，无疑是非常幸运的。
1.推手推手擅长鼓励，总是会把你推向终点。
他们会持续投资在你身上，好让你有所发展，同时真心希望你能成功，即使必须为你承担风险。
推手会慷慨地贡献自己的时间，协助你找到自己的优点，同时有效利用这些优点；从不嫉妒你或成为你的竞争对手，总是站在终点鼓舞你、为你欢呼。
2.支柱总是和你站在同一阵线、支持你的信念。
他们是会赞美你的朋友。
这会让你的生活每天都变得不同。
他们不只在你面前称赞你，也会在你背后撑腰，就算你不在场，也会挺身而出为你仗义执言。
支柱是你的最佳拥护者，当你成功时，他们会为你感到骄傲，而且会与其他人分享。
3.同好是与你兴趣相近的朋友，也是众多亲密友谊的基础。
你们可能对运动、嗜好、信仰、工作、政治、食物、电影、音乐或书籍有相同喜好。
这样的特殊情谊让你们成为一辈子的朋友，你会非常喜欢和他们一起消磨时光。
4.伙伴无论情况如何，当你有需要的时候，他们总是会站在你身边。
你们之间的情感联系牢不可破。
当你生命中发生重大事件时，他们都会是你第一个想联络的人。
伙伴会把你们之间的关系引以为傲，而且愿意牺牲自己来帮助你。
他们几乎是可以让你以性命相托的朋友。
5.中介你想要的东西，他们就是有办法帮你搭起桥梁。
这样的朋友一旦知道你要什么，总能马上张开联络网，找到一些和你有相同兴趣或目标的人；他们能快速地扩大你的人际网络，让你直接通往取得新资源的管道。
6.开心果他们总是有办法让你精神大振、心情大好。
和他们相处时，你的生活会充满了积极感。
当你心情跌至谷底时，开心果可以很快地让你恢复正常，有本事让你有好心情或锦上添花。
当你需要一个笑容、想要大笑时或放松一下时，千万记得找他们。
7.开路者可以拓展你的视野，鼓励你接受新观念、想法、机会、文化与人们。
In the tapestry of life,friendships play a vibrant role,each thread contributing to the rich pattern of our existence.There are many types of friends we encounter,each with their unique characteristics and contributions to our lives.Here,we explore eight distinct types of friends that one might find in their social circle,each adding a different hue to the fabric of life.The Confidant:This is the friend you turn to when you need to share your deepest secrets and fears.They are the ones who listen without judgment, offering comfort and understanding.Their presence is a sanctuary where you feel safe to be vulnerable.An example of such a friend might be the one who was there during a heartbreak,providing a shoulder to cry on and words of wisdom to ease the pain.The Cheerleader:This friend is your biggest fan,always cheering you on, no matter the endeavor.They are the ones who believe in your dreams and encourage you to chase them.They celebrate your successes as if they were their own,and their enthusiasm is contagious.A vivid memory might be the time they stayed up all night to help you prepare for a big presentation,their energy propelling you forward.The Adventurer:With a zest for life,this friend is always up for trying something new.They are the ones who invite you to explore the unknown, whether its a new cuisine,a hiking trail,or a foreign country.Their spirit of adventure can be a breath of fresh air,pushing you out of your comfort zone.A memorable experience could be a spontaneous road trip that led to unforgettable stories and a deeper bond.The Philosopher:This friend is the one you turn to when you need to ponder lifes big questions.They have a knack for deep conversations and can provide insightful perspectives on complex issues.Their wisdom can help you navigate through lifes challenges.A profound discussion over a cup of coffee in a quiet cafémight be a cherished memory with this friend.The Comedian:Laughter is the best medicine,and this friend is the prescription.They have a knack for finding humor in everyday situations and can lighten the mood with a welltimed joke.Their ability to make you laugh,even in the most trying times,is a gift.A hilarious night out or a funny text message exchange are examples of the joy they bring.The Mentor:This friend is a wealth of knowledge and experience.They guide you through lifes challenges,offering advice and sharing their wisdom.Their guidance can be invaluable,helping you make informed decisions and learn from their experiences.A mentor might have been instrumental in helping you land your dream job or navigate a tricky situation at work.The Loyalist:Loyalty is the hallmark of this friend.They stand by you through thick and thin,offering unwavering support.Their commitment to the friendship is rocksolid,and you can always count on them.A testament to their loyalty could be the times theyve defended you in the face of criticism or stood by you during difficult personal times.The Connector:This friend has a knack for bringing people together.Theyare the social glue that binds groups and creates a sense of community. They introduce you to new people and expand your social circle.A memorable event might be a party they organized where you met new friends or discovered shared interests.Each of these friends plays a crucial role in our lives,enriching our experiences and shaping who we are.They teach us,support us,and challenge us,all while sharing in the joys and sorrows of life.Its important to recognize and appreciate the unique contributions each friend makes to our lives,for they are the threads that weave the tapestry of our existence.。
作为一个男人，必须拥有的8个朋友，让你的人生更加辉煌
引导语：俗话说的好，一个篱笆三个桩，一个好汉三个帮。
可见，作为一个男人，有一帮生死与共，同甘共苦的“铁哥们”的重要性，不管是生活，还是工作，有朋友，真的挺好。
1.一个忠诚的朋友
一个忠诚的朋友是唯一一个能让你保持清醒的人，每个人都需要一个非评判的朋友。
2.一个无畏的冒险家
我们都需要一个冒险的朋友，并为我们介绍新的思想，文化，哲学和活动。
3.一个敢说真话的知己
朋友都应该是彼此诚实的。
如果你找到一个很残酷地跟你说实话（以建设性的方式），那么这样的人一定是很难得的朋友。
4.一个明智的导师
我们都需要这样的一个朋友，激励我们成为更好的人没有使我们感到不足。
另外，周围有这样的人会挑战我们每天超越自我。
5.一个发小
在你成长的过程，每个人都会有许多的回忆和故事。
这些朋友可以提醒你，你仍然是你。
6.来自不同文化的朋友
作为一个跨文化的友谊可以让你去探索你自己的文化之外的习俗，价值观和传统。
有时候，你甚至可能会采取新的方式来做事。
7.一个和你截然相反的朋友
他们会帮助你打开不同的世界观，让你学会接受新的东西。
8.一个好的同事
朋友都是自己慢慢来发展起来的，工作的对手，也可以你最好的朋友。
这一生，一定要有八种朋友这一生，一定要有八种朋友「友谊」影响我们对生命的期待、健康的维护、工作绩效，甚至婚姻幸福感觉。
原来，宇宙间最伟大的力量，是存在朋友与朋友之间的能量！人生中，我们一定要有的8种朋友类型：1.推手推手擅长鼓励，总是会把你推向终点。
他们会持续将心力投资在你的身上，好让你有所发挥。
同时推手也真心希望你能成功，即使他们必须为你承担风险。
推手会慷慨地贡献自己的时间，协助你找到自己的优点、并且有效利用这些优点。
当你需要思考如何把手边顺利进行的事做得更好时，就去与推手谈谈吧！他们就像你的最佳教练和经理人，这些朋友可以领导你，让你超越自己。
而且，优秀的推手不会与你竞争，他们很清楚如何用运用彼此的智慧，让你们彼此能够相辅相成。
如果你需要催化剂，让自己在个人或工作上有所成长，就必须与推手密切交流。
2.支柱支柱会站在你这一边，也会支持你的信念。
他们是懂得赞美你的朋友，能让你的生活多采多姿。
支柱不只会在你面前称赞你，他们也会在背后为你撑腰——即使你不在现场时，也会为你挺身而出；即使众人都反对，他们依然会接纳你。
支柱也是忠诚的朋友，你可以安心的与他们分享一切，不管别人怎么说，他们都会毫无疑问地接受你说的话，所以他们也比较难接受谎言。
支柱绝对是你的最佳拥护者，当你成功时，他们会为你感到骄傲，而且会与其他人分享这份喜悦，你的成就和快乐可以让支柱茁壮。
当你需要有人宣扬你的成就时，就去找个支柱吧。
3.同好同好指的是有相近兴趣的朋友，这也往往是许多亲密友谊的基础，你们可能在运动、嗜好、宗教、工作、政治、食物、音乐、电影或书籍上有相同喜好。
在很多例子里，你们会同属于一个小团体，或有共通的人际关系。
在与同好交谈时，你会感觉置身于熟悉的情境中，并能与对方建立起持久关系的基础。
在进行对话时，你常会发现，彼此在工作和私生活中都有类似的抱负。
想找到与你喜好相近的人吗那就去找同好吧。
4.伙伴无论在任何情况下，只要你有需要，伙伴总会在你的身边，你们之间的关系几近牢不可破。
另外，本書提供的英文網站測驗（www.vitalfriends. 幫助讀者檢視周遭朋友在個人生命與工作中，各自扮演著哪八種不可或缺的朋友角色,這八種角色包括：1--A.導師（Navigator）2--B.開心果（Energizer）3--C.推手（Builder）4--D.開路者（Mind Opener）5--E.同好（Collaborator）6--F.夥伴（Companion）7--G.支柱（Champion）8--H.中介（Connector）八種不可或缺的朋友，分別在每個人生命中扮演下列各種不同的角色。
说明:下文根据先天八卦顺序,对原文作了调整.A.乾卦--導師：他們可以給你建議並指引方向。
當你需要指引或諮詢時，就會去找他們。
他們擅於聆聽、整理、分析你心理所想的。
他們會讓你了解自己擁有或缺少什麼能力。
你可以和他們分享目標和夢想，並一針見血地幫你點出達成夢想與目標的方法與途徑。
B.兑卦--開心果：他們總是有辦法讓你精神大振、心情大好。
和他們相處時，你的生活會充滿了積極感。
當你心情跌至谷底時，開心果可以很快地讓你恢復正常，有本事讓你有好心情或錦上添花。
當你需要一個笑容、想要大笑時或放鬆一下時，千萬記得找他們。
C.离卦--推手：推手擅長鼓勵，總是會把你推向終點。
他們會持續投資在你身上，好讓你有所發展，同時真心希望你能成功，即使這表示他們必須要為你承擔風險。
推手會慷慨地貢獻自己的時間，協助你找到自己的優點，同時有效利用這些優點；從不嫉妒你或成為你的競爭對手，總是站在終點鼓舞你、為你歡呼。
D.震卦--開路者：可以拓展你的視野、鼓勵你接受新觀念、想法、機會、文化與人們。
幫助你拓展個人眼界，創造無數正面的變化。
他們是一群挑戰傳統智慧的朋友，面對難題時，為你提供具創意的解決方案；同時，不斷地刺激、激勵你，大膽表達一些你從不敢在別人面前說出的想法與意見。
E.巽卦--同好：是與你興趣相近的朋友，也是眾多親密友誼的基礎。
Did you know that people without friends are more likely to die an early death? It's true. Just ask science.你知道吗？没有朋友的人往往死的早。
这是真的。
不信，可以向科学求证。
To up your chances of living a long, happy life, having a bunch of fair-weather buddies1 won't do the trick. You need a diverse, well-rounded entourage that will stick with you through thick and thin. The following eight types of friends are just what you need to keep the doctor away.1. A Loyal Best FriendSometimes a loyal best friend is the only thing you need to stay sane2. Everyone needs a non-judgmental friend who will support them no matter what. This is the kind of friend who lets you be a hot mess and knows all of your deepest and darkest secrets, but still loves you all the same.2. A Fearless AdventurerWe live in a big world where there are so many places to see, people to meet, and experiences to be had, yet so many of us are stuck in our own routines and forget to, well, live. We all need an adventurous3 friend who will pull us out of our shells and introduce us to new ideas, cultures, philosophies, and activities.3. A Brutally4 Honest ConfidantThere's certain situations in life where we need to hear the harsh truth. That's what the brutally honest confidant is for. If you're in a rocky relationship and everyone's telling you that it's perfectly5 normal that you're back with that special someone for the 8th time in the last 2 years, the brutally honest confidant is there to yank your rose-colored glasses off and tell you, “Enough. Stop with all that break-up-and-get-back-together drama. You deserve better.”Friends are supposed to be honest with each other. If you find someone who is brutally honest with you (in a constructive6 way), then hold on to this person! People like that are hard to come by these days.4. A Wise Mentor7Jesse Jackson once said, "Never look down on someone unless you're helping8 them up." If you have someone smart, inspiring, and admirable in your life who practices this philosophy, you're extremely lucky. We all need a friend who inspires us to be better people without making us feel inadequate9. Plus, being around such a person will challenge us to better ourselves every day.The wise mentor in your life doesn't have to be someone who shares the same occupation or hobbies with you. It's simply someone who's a few steps ahead of you in life and has enough wisdom and patience to guide you in the right direction. It can be anyone -- a colleague, a friend who's beyond their years, or an older neighbor -- as long as you look up to this person and want to be more like them.5. A Friend From a Different CultureThe last thing you want to be described as is someone who's stuck in their own ways. If everyone had a friend from adifferent culture, the world would be a much better place. Being in a cross-cultural friendship allows you to explore customs, values, and traditions outside of your own culture. Sometimes you might even adopt new ways to do things.Be careful; don't befriend someone just because they're from a different culture. No one likes to be a token friend. Instead, keep your mind open, and if you come across someone you click with who just so happens to be from a different culture, make the effort to learn about their customs, values, and traditions while getting to know the person on a personal level.6. A Polar OppositeWe humans are hard-wired to get together in groups and attack outsiders -- the human pack mentality10, if you will. If you only develop friendships with others who follow the same beliefs, customs, and values as you do, chances are you're somewhat detached from the rest of the world, and you're more likely to perpetuate11 stereotypes12 on anyone who holds a different world view from you.Instead of constantly surrounding yourself with like-minded people, try to break out of your comfort zone and befriend people who hold opposing views. They will help open your eyes to different world views and you'll learn to accept people who don't see the world exactly the way you see it.7. A Friendly NeighborThese days, a lot of people don't know their own neighbors. It's a shame, because some neighbors can be the nicest and most helpful people ever. If you're on a vacation, and you suddenly realize that you forgot to lock the front door, you can call up your trusty ol' neighbor and ask them to head over to your house and lock it for you. Nice dependable neighbors who have each other's backs are a dying breed, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't introduce yourself to the new neighbors across the street!8. A Work Pal13Did you know that with a full-time14 job, you spend at least 50% of your waking hours at work? Not only that, but youspend some more time commuting15 to work, thinking about work, working overtime16, and furthering your career on your personal time. Depressing, isn't it?Statistics show that the more isolated17 you are at work, the more depressed18 you get. That's why it makes sense to get a work pal to chat with at the water cooler and to help you get through the week. You spend 50% of your waking hours at work, and so does your work pal. You'll find it much easier to shoot the breeze and complain about work with someone who can relate to you than eating lunch alone every day.Your work pal doesn't have to be your best friend outside of work. They just need to be someone you click with on some level, and if you two hit it off exceptionally well, you can always start hanging out with them outside of the office.With a loyal best friend, a fearless adventurer, a brutally honest confidant, a wise mentor, a friend from a different culture, a polar opposite, a friendly neighbor, and a work pal in your life, you're bound to live a long and happy life!。
