JustBeYourself

JustBeYourself

第一篇：Just Be Yourself

Just Be Yourself

Matthew Kelly Before the beginning of time, when you were

just a dream, your purpose had already been

assigned.Purposefully created, and created for a purpose, you are

here at this very moment to become the-best-version-of-yourself—not to become some poor imitation（模仿）of your

parents, your friends, your siblings（兄弟姐妹）, or your

colleagues—but to become perfectly yourself.Life is not about

doing and having;it is about becoming.Could you have a better

dream for your children than to want them to become the-best-version-of-themselves? Could you have a better dream for your

spouse than to want him or her to become the-best-version-of-him or herself? It is the ultimate dream—and when we turn our

attention to living this dream, our lives are flooded with energy,

enthusiasm, passion, purpose, and a real and sustainable joy.It is

time to start living the dream.When we are healthy in a holistic（整体的）sense, or in any one aspect of our lives, we are driven

by this dream to become the best-version-of-ourselves.Why are

there so many products and programs available that help people

transform（改造）different areas of their lives? Because there is

an enormous demand for them.Marketers know that people have

this insatiable desire to improve themselves.This desire is what

drives us when we are healthiest.When we are unhealthy, we tend

to abandon our true selves, often wishing we were more like

someone else or that we were someone else altogether.This is

often most noticeable during adolescence（青春期）, when

people grapple with（挣扎设法解决）identity issues.But many of us develop a permanent（永久的）contempt for ourselves(or for

certain aspects of ourselves)during this period of

development.This contempt for self stifles（扼杀）our

dreams.Living the dream and striving to become all we are

capable of being is the only thing you ever truly need to answer

for, and our only regrets come from abandoning our true

selves.Are you celebrating your true self, or are you still trying to

be the person you think other people want you to be—or the

person you think other people will like? Now is your time.There

will never be a better time to begin.It is time now to peel back

the layers of conditioning and expectations that have encrusted

your heart and mind.It is time to become perfectly yourself.The

first step toward becoming perfectly yourself is acknowledging

your imperfections.It may seem ironic, or even paradoxical（似是而非的）, but life is often like that.Making peace with your

imperfections is as much a part of being perfectly yourself as

striving to improve the aspects of your character that have

become distorted（扭曲）by experience or habit.It is essential for

health of mind, body, and spirit that we recognize that what we

often consider to be our imperfections（不完美）are actually part

of our perfection.The challenge is to discern（发觉）which of

your imperfections are part of who you are when you are

perfectly yourself and which are a distortion of your true self.A

fine and often hazy（模糊的）line separates these two realities.A

woman with a bubbly personality should not abandon it simply

because some people don’t like it.It is part of her best and truest

self.You may not be a details person.It’s not necessarily a defect（缺陷）.It may just be part of who you are.Everyone doesn’t

have to be a details person.It doesn’t give you permission to be

negligent（忽视的，忽略的）about your commitments, and to some extent you can improve your ability to manage details, but

you shouldn’t take a job that requires you to constantly manage

details, and it would be wise to surround yourself with people

who thrive on（兴旺，成功）taking care of the details.Similarly,

your daughter may not excel in（擅长，在……表现优异）math.Her

brain may simply be wired to excel in other areas.It is entirely

possible that her best self is a poor mathematician.A certain level

of practical knowledge in this area is necessary, but she need not

be forced to master the upper reaches of mathematics.On the

other hand, if a man is rude and impatient, it is not because these

are an expression of his best self;it is rather that they are an

expression of behaviors that have been practiced.Personality

tendencies and talents should be accepted, but character defects

should always be challenged.Consciously, subconsciously（潜意识地）, semiconsciously（半意识地）, we are all preoccupied with（忙于）this attempt to be more perfectly who we really are at

the essence of our being.But think of it in this way: A tree does

not try to make all of its branches straight.It is perfect in its

imperfection, perfectly imperfect.And yet it does change and