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TED英语演讲：幸福的人为什么会出轨幸福的人为什么会出轨?人们说起不忠，真正是指什么?为什么人们会认为男人出轨都是出于厌倦和对紧密关系的恐惧，而女人出轨则是出于寂寞和对亲密关系的渴求呢?对于出轨人的建议是什么?下面是小编为大家收集关于TED英语演讲：幸福的人为什么会出轨，欢迎借鉴参考。
幸福的人为什么会出轨Why do we cheat? And why do happy people cheat? And when we say "infidelity," what exactly do we mean? Is it a hookup, a love story, paid sex, a chat room, a massage with a happy ending? Why do we think that men cheat out of boredom and fear of intimacy, but women cheat out of loneliness and hunger for intimacy? And is an affair always the end of a relationship?我们为何出轨? 为何幸福之人也会出轨? 我们所谓的“不忠”到底指的是什么? 是一夜情?爱情故事? 有偿性服务?私聊? 还是特殊按摩服务? 为什么我们认为男人出轨是因为寻求刺激或是害怕亲密关系，而女人出轨是因为孤独或是渴求亲密关系? 婚外情是不是意味着婚姻已走到尽头?For the past 10 years, I have traveled the globe and worked extensively with hundreds of couples who have been shattered by infidelity. There is one simple act of transgression that can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness and their very identity: an affair. And yet, this extremely common act is so poorly understood. So this talk is for anyone who has ever loved.在过去十年间，我走遍世界走访了数百对夫妻，他们都因出轨而心力交瘁。
莱温斯基T E D演讲-中英对照(共18页)--本页仅作为文档封面，使用时请直接删除即可----内页可以根据需求调整合适字体及大小--The price of shame主讲人：莫妮卡莱温斯基主题：耻辱的代价You're looking at a woman who was publicly silent for a decade. Obvious ly, that's changed, but only recently.站在你们面前的是一个在大众面前沉默了十年之久的女人。
当然，现在情况不一样了，不过这只是最近发生的事。
It was several months ago that I gave my very first major public talk at t he Forbes 30 Under 30 summit:1,500 brilliant people, all under the age o f 30. That meant that in 1998, the oldest among the group were only 14, and theyoungest, just four. I joked with them that some might only have heard o f me from rap songs. Yes, I'm in rap songs. Almost 40 rap songs.几个月前，我在《福布斯》杂志举办的“30岁以下”峰会（Under 30 Summit）上发表了首次公开演讲。
现场1500位才华横溢的与会者都不到30岁。
这意味着1998年，他们中最年长的是14岁，而最年轻的只有4岁。
我跟他们开玩笑道，他们中有些人可能只在说唱歌曲里听到过我的名字。
是的，大约有40首说唱歌曲唱过我。
But the night of my speech, a surprising thing happened. At the age of 4 1, I was hit on by a 27-year-old guy. I know, right He was charming and I was flattered, and I declined. You know what his unsuccessful pickup line was He could make me fe el 22 again. I realized later that night, I'm probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 again. 但是，在我演讲当晚，发生了一件令人吃惊的事——我作为一个41岁的女人，被一个27岁的男孩示爱。
TED中英对照演讲稿-我如何爱上一条鱼Dan Barber: How I fell in love with a fish我一生中接触过很多鱼。
只有两种是我的最爱。
第一种，是源于激情。
它是一条美丽的鱼，美味，纹理细腻，肉质丰富，是菜单上最受欢迎的鱼。
多么美的鱼啊！（笑声）更好的是，它是依照最高标准养殖的，目的是保持它的可持续性的。
而卖他的人也会感到心安理得。
So, I've known a lot of fish in my life. I've loved only two. That first one, it was more like a passionate affair. It was a beautiful fish, flavorful, textured, meaty, a best-seller on the menu. What a fish. (Laughter) Even better, it wasfarm-raised to the supposed highest standards of sustainability. So you could feel good about selling it.我曾经沉醉于这美丽的关系中，时间大概延续了几个月。
有一天，这个公司的高层打电话给我邀请我参加一个活动并就渔业的可持续性发展发表演说。
我说，“当然可以”。
这个公司正是要试图解决一个对于我们厨师来说正在变得不可想象的问题。
“我们如何把鱼类留在菜单上？”I was in a relationship with this beauty for several months. One day, the head of the company called and asked if I'd speak at an event about the farm'ssustainability. "Absolutely," I said. Here was a company trying to solve what's become this unimaginable problem for our chefs. How do we keep fish on our menus?在过去的50年中，我们从各个海洋中捕鱼就像是砍伐树木。
英语阅读：恋爱让你更聪明的5个理由（英汉对照）1. Marry someone similar to you, if a bit smarter找一个和你一样聪明、甚至更聪明的人结婚A Seattle Longitudinal Study found that the most stable relationships were those in which people were similar in intelligence, flexibility of attitudes, social responsibility, and education levels. Researchers also found that after 14 years together, spouses with the better grasp of verbal meanings and word fluency had pulled the lower-functioning spouses up to their level.一项西雅图纵向研究发现，那些在智力、态度灵活性、社会责任感以及教育水平方面相似的夫妻，关系最稳定。
研究人员还发现，共同生活14年后，夫妻双方中对语义和语言流畅性掌握得更好的一方，会将另一方的能力也提升到和自己相同的水平。
2. Hold hands whenever possible只要可能，牵住爱人的手In addition to creating feelings of warmth and closeness, holding hands can help inoculate you from stress. One study using brain scans found that when married women were told they were about to receive an electric shock, just holding their husbands’ hands minimized their brains’response to the threat. Women in the closest relationships experienced the greatest decrease in stress-related brain activity.手牵手不仅可以让人产生温暖和亲近的感觉，还可以帮助你减轻压力。
TED英文演讲：什么叫爱情Stacey素来很痴迷一对爱人的偶遇全过程。
她邀约了摄像师Alec帮助讨论这一议案，他们在情人节，一起到拉斯维加参与全世界最盛大游戏的迅速幽会，又来访内华达州较大的离休人员小区，他们解除了一个谜，便是一对爱人如何由第一次偶遇到一起一同日常生活的过程。
下边是我为大伙儿搜集有关TED英文演讲：什么叫爱情，热烈欢迎参考参照。
演讲题目：什么叫爱情?择一城终老，遇一人相守!演讲人：Alec·Soth & Stacey·Baker发言稿Alec Soth: So about 10 years ago, I got a call from a woman in Texas, Stacey Baker, and she'd seen some of my photographs in an art exhibition and was wondering if she could commission me to take a portrait of her parents. Now, at the time I hadn't met Stacey, and I thought this was some sort of wealthy oil tycoon and I'd struck it rich, but it was only later that I found out she'd actually taken out a loan to make this happen.Alec Soth: 大约十年前，我接到德州市一位女性的电話，便是她，Stacey Baker。
她在一场艺术展览上看了我的一些摄影图片，随后想问是不是能够请我来为她的爸爸妈妈照相。
那时候，我都沒有看到Stacey，我曾认为她会是一位石油大亨，要我一夜暴富。
T ED英语演讲稿：解密爱情与出轨演讲稿英语演讲稿 TED英语演讲稿：解密爱情与出轨T ED英语演讲稿：解密爱情与出轨2017-04-22 i d like to t alk t oda a boutthe t o big gestsoial tren ds in theing e ntur, andperha ps in thenext10,000 ear s. bu t i a nt to star t ith m or k onroman ti lo ve, b eause that s mmostreent ork. hati and m ol leagu es di d asput 32 peo ple,ho er e mad l inlove, into a fu ntion al mr i bra in sa nner. 17 h o ere madl in l ove a nd th eir l ove a s aep ted;and 15 hoere m adl i n lov e and thehad j ust b een d umped. and so i antto te ll ou abou t tha t fir st, a nd th en go on i nto h ere i thin k lov e isgoing. hat tisto lo ve? s hakes peare said. i t hinkour a nesto rs -- i th ink h umanbeing s hav e bee n ond ering abou t thi s que stion sine thesat a round thei r amp fires or l a and athe d the star s a m illio n ear s ago. i s tarte d out btr ing t o fig ure o ut ha t rom antiloveas blooki ng at thelast45 ea rs of rese arh o n --justthe p sholo gialresea rh -- andas it turn s out, the re sa ver spei fi gr oup o fthi ngs t hat h appen henou fa ll in love. the firs t thi ng th at ha ppens is h at iall -- a p erson begi ns to take on h at iall,speia l mea ning. as a truk driv er on e sai d tome, h e sai d, th eorl d had a ne ente r, an d tha t ent er as maranne. geo rge b ernar d sha said it a litt ledi ffere ntl.he sa id, l ove o nsist s ofovere stima tingthe d iffer enesbetee n one oman andanoth er. a nd in deed, that s ha t e d o. an d the n oujustfouson th is pe rson. ou a n lis t hatou d on tlikeabout them, but then ou s eep t hat a sideand f ous o n hat ou d o. as haue r sai d, lo ve is blin d. i n tri ng to unde rstan d rom antilove, i de idedi oul d rea d poe tr fr om al l ove r the orld, and i ju st an t togiveou on e ver shor t poe m fro m eig hth-e nturhina, beau se it s an almo st pe rfetexamp le of a ma n hois fo usedtotal l ona par tiula r oma n. it s alittl e bit like henou ar e mad l inloveith s omebo d and ou a lk in to aparki ng lo t --their ar i sdif feren t fro m eve r oth er ar in t he pa rking lot. thei r ine glas s atdinne r isdiffe rentfromeverother ineglass at t he di nnerpart. andin th is as e, aman g ot ho okedon abambo osle eping mat. andit go es li ke th is. i t s b a gu alle d uan hen: i an not b ear t o put XX t heba mboosleep ing m at. t he ni ght i brou ght o u hom e, iathed ou r oll i t out. hebeamehook ed on a sl eepin g mat, pro bablbeaus e ofeleva ted a tivit of d opami ne in hisbrain, jus t lik e ith ou a nd me. but ana, notonl d oes t his p erson take on s peial mean ing,ou fo us ou r att entio n onthem. ou a ggran dizethem. butou ha ve in tense ener g. as onepolne siansaid, he s aid,i fel t lik e jum pingin th e sk. ou r e upall n ight. ou r e alk ing t ill d an. o u fee lint enseelati on he n thi ngs a re go ing e ll; m ood s ingsintohorri ble d espai r hen thin gs ar e goi ng po orl.realdepen deneon th is pe rson. as o ne bu sines smanin ne orksaidto me, hesaid, anth ing s he li ked,i lik ed. s imple. rom antiloveis ve r sim ple.ou be e ext remelsexu all p osses sive. ou k no, i f oure ju st sl eepin g ith some bod a suall, oudon t real l areif t he re slee pingith s omebo d els e. bu t the mome nt ou fall in l ove,ou be e ext remelsexu all p osses siveof th em. i thin k tha t tha t isa dar inian -- t heres a d arini an pu rposeto t his.the h ole p ointof th is is to p ull t o peo ple t ogeth er st rongl enou gh to begi n torearbabie s asa tea m. bu t the main hara teris tis o f rom antiloveare r aving: aninten se ra vingto be itha par tiula r per son,not j ust s exual l, bu t emo tiona ll. o u d m uh ra ther-- it ould be n ie to go t o bed iththem, butou an t the m toall o u onthe t eleph one,to in viteou ou t, et., to tell ou t hat t he lo ve ou. the othe r mai n har ateri sti i s mot ivati on. t he mo tor i n our brai nbeg ins t o ran k, an d ouant t his p erson. and last butnot l east, it i s anobses sion. heni put thes e peo ple i n the mahi ne, b efore i pu t the m inthe m ri ma hine, i ou ld as k the m all kind s ofquest ions. butm mos t imp ortan t que stion as a las t he sa me. i t as: hatperen tageof th e daand n ightdo ou thin k abo ut th is pe rson? andindee d, th e oul d sa, allda. a ll ni ght.i annever stop thin kingabout himor he r. a nd th en, t he ve r las t que stion i ou ld as k the m --i oul d ala s hav e toork m selfup to this ques tion, beau se iam no t a p sholo gist. i do n t o rkit h peo ple i n ankindof tr aumat i sit uatio n. an d m f inalquest ion a s ala s the same. i o uld s a, ou ld ou diefor h im or her? and, inde ed, t hesepeopl e oul d saes! a s ifi had aske d the m topassthe s alt.i asjuststagg eredb it. so e sann ed th eir b rains, loo kingat aphoto graphof t heirseeth eartand l ookin g ata neu tralphoto graph, ith a di strat ion t ask i n bet een.so eouldlookat th e sam e bra in he n itas in that heig htene d sta te an d hen it a s ina res tingstate. and e fo und a tivit in a lotof br ain r egion s. in fat, oneof th e mos t imp ortan t asa bra inre gionthatbeesative henou fe el th e rus h ofoaine. and inde ed, t hat s exat l hat happ ens.i beg an to real ize t hat r omant i lov e isnot a n emo tion. in f at, i hadalasthoug ht it as a seri es of emot ions, from verhighto ve r lo. butatual l, it s adrive. ites fr om th e mot or of themind, theantin g par t ofthe m ind,the r aving part of t he mi nd. t he ki nd of mind -- p art o f the mind -- h en ou re r eahin g for that piee of h oolat e, he n ouant t o inthatpromo tionator k. th e mot or of thebrain. its a d rive. andin fa t, ithink it s more poer ful t han t he se xdri ve. o u kno, ifou as k som ebodto go to b ed it h ou, andthe s a, no, tha nk ou, ouertai nldo n t k ill o ursel f orslipintoa lin ial d epres sion. butertai nl, a round theorld, peop le ho arerejet ed in love illkillfor i t. pe oplelivefor l ove.the k ill f or lo ve. t he di e for love. thehave song s, po ems,novel s, su lptur es, p ainti ngs,mths, lege nds.in ov er 175 soi eties,peo ple h ave l eft t heirevide ne of this poer ful b rainsstem. i h ave e to t hinkit sone o f the most poer ful b rainsstem s onearth forbothgreat jo a nd gr eat s orro. andi vealsoe tothink that it s oneof th ree b asial l dif feren t bra in ss temsthatevolv ed fr om ma tingand r eprod ution. one is t he se x dri ve: t he ra vingfor s exual grat ifiat ion..h. a udenalledit a n int olera ble n eural ith, andindee d, th at shat i t is. it k eepsbothe ringou alittl e bit,lik e bei ng hu ngr.the s eondof th ese t hreebrain sste ms is roma nti l ove:thatelati on, o bsess ion o f ear l lov e. an d the thir d bra in ss tem i s att ahmen t: th at se nse o f alm andseuri t ouan fe el fo r a l ong-t erm p artne r. an d i t hinkthatthe s ex dr ive e volve d toget o u out ther e, lo oking fora hol e ran ge of part ners. ou k no, o u anfeelit he n oure ju stdr iving alon g inour a r. it an b e fou sed o n nob od. i thin k rom antiloveevolv ed to enab leou to f ous o ur ma tingenerg on j ust o ne in divid ual a t a t ime,there b ons ervin gmat ing t ime a nd en erg.and i thin k tha t att ahmen t, th e thi rd br ain s stem, evol ved t oena ble o u totoler ate t his h umanbeing -- -- atleast long enou gh to rais e a h ild t ogeth er as a te am. s o ith that prea mble, i an t togo in to di sussi ng th e tomostprofo und s oialtrend s.on e ofthe l ast 10,000 ears andthe o ther, erta inl o f the last 25 e ars,thatare g oingto ha ve an impa t onthese thre e dif feren t bra in ss tems: lust, rom antiloveand d eep a ttahm ent t oa p artne r. th e fir st is omen orki ng, m oving into theorkfo re. i ve l ooked at 130 so ietie sthr oughthe d emogr aphiearbo oks o f the unit ed na tions. and ever herein th e orl d, 129 out of 130 of them, ome n are notonl m oving into thejob m arket -- s ometi mes v er, v ersl ol, b ut th e are movi ng in to th e job mark et -- andthe a re ve r slo l los ing t hat g ap be teenmen a nd om en in term s ofeonom i poe r, he althand e duati on. i t s v er sl o. fo r eve r tre nd on this plan et, t heres a o unter-tren d. eall k no of them, but neve rthel ess -- the arab s sa, thedogsma ba rk, b ut th e ara van m oveson. a nd, i ndeed, tha t ara van i s mov ing o n. om en ar e mov ing b ak in to th e job mark et. a nd isa ba k int o the jobmarke t, be ausethisis no t ne. formilli ons o f ear s, on thegrass lands of a fria, omen mute d toork t o gat her t heirveget ables. the amehomeith 60 to80 pe rentof th e eve ningmeal. thedoubl e ine fami l asthe s tanda rd. a nd om en er e reg arded as j ust a s eon omial l, so ialland s exual l poe rfulasme n. in shor t, ere re all m oving fora rd to thepast. then, ome n s o rst i nvent ion a s the plo.iththe b eginn ing o f plo agri ultur e, me n s r olesbeame extr emelpoerf ul. o men l ost t heiranien t job s asollet ors,but t hen i th th e ind ustri al re volut ion a nd th e pos t-ind ustri alre volut ion t he re movi ng ba k int o the jobmarke t. in shor t, th e are aqui ringthe s tatus that thehad a mill ion e ars a go, 10,000 ears ago, 100,000 e ars a go. e areseein g noone o f the most rema rkabl e tra ditio ns in thehisto r ofthe h umananima l. an d its goi ng to havean i mpat. i ge neral l giv e a h ole l eture on t he im pat o f ome n onthe b usine ss mu nit.i llonl j ust s a a o upleof th ings, andthengo on to s ex an d lov e. th ere s a lo t ofgende rdif feren es; a nbodho th inksmen a nd om en ar e ali ke si mpl n everhad a bo a nd agirlhild. i do n t k no hit is that theant t o thi nk th at me n and omen arealike. the re smuh e havein m on, b ut th ere s a ho le lo t tha t e d o not have in m on. e are-- in theordsof te d hug hes,i thi nk th at eere b uiltto be -- e re l ike t o fee t. eneedeah o therto ge t ahe ad. b ut edid n ot ev olveto ha ve th e sam e bra in. a nd ere fi nding more andmoreand m ore g enderdiff erene s inthe b rain. i ll onljustuse a oupl e and then move on t o sex andlove. oneof th em is omen s ve rbalabili t. om en an talk. ome n s a bilit to f ind t he ri ght o rd ra pidl, basi arti ulati on go es up in t he mi ddleof th e men strua l le, henestro gen l evels peak. but evenat m enstr uatio n, th e rebette r tha n the aver age m an. o men a n tal k. th e vebeendoing it f or amilli on ea rs; o rds e re om en stools. the held that babin fr ont o f the ir fa e, aj oling it,repri mandi ng it, edu ating it i th or ds. a nd, i ndeed, the re b einga ver poer ful f ore.evenin pl aes l ike i ndiaand j apan, here omen arenot m oving rapi dl in to th e reg ularjob m arket, the re m oving into jour nalis m. an d i t hinkthatthe t elevi sionis li ke th e glo bal a mpfir e. esit a round it a nd it shap es ou r min ds. a lmost alas, hen i mon tv, the prod uersho al l me, ho n egoti ate h at ere go ing t o sa, is a oman. infat,solzh enits n one said, tohavea gre atri ter i s tohaveanoth er go vernm ent. toda 54 p erent of p eople ho a re ri tersin am eriaare o men.it sone o f man, man hara teris tis t hat o men h ave t hat t he il l bri ng in to th e job mark et. t he ve gotinred iblepeopl e ski lls,negot iatin g ski lls.the r e hig hl im agina tive. e no knothe b rainiruit r ofimagi natio n, of long-term plan ning. thetendto beeb t hinke rs. b eause thefemal e par ts of thebrain arebette r onn eted, thetendtool let m ore p ieesof da ta he n the thin k, pu t the m int o mor e ple x pat terns, see moreopti ons a nd ou tes.the t end t o beontex tual, holi sti t hinke rs, h at iall e b thi nkers. men tend to -- and thes e are aver ages-- te nd to getrid o f hat theregar d asextra neous, fou s onhat t he do, and move in a more step-b-st ep th inkin g pat tern. there bo th pe rfetl good as o f thi nking. e n eed b oth o f the m toget a head. in f at, t heres man more male geni usesin th e orl d. he n the -- a nd th ere s also manmoremaleidiot s inthe o rld.hen t he ma lebr ain o rks e ll, i t ork s ext remel ell. andhat i real l thi nk th at ere do ing i s, ere mo vingtoard s a o llabo rativ e soi et, a soie t inhih t he ta lents of b oth m en an d ome n 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thi s gir l togo of f ona rik sha r ide i th hi m. an d sur e eno ugh -- i v e nev erbe en in one, butappar entlthe g o all arou nd th e bus es an d the truk s and it s razand i ts n ois a nd it s ex iting. and he f igure d tha t thi s oul d dri ve up thedopam ine,and s he ou ld fa ll in love ithhim.so of f the go a nd sh e s s queal ing a nd sq ueezi ng hi m and laug hingand h aving a on derfu l tim e. an hour late r the getdon o ff of theriksh a, an d she thro s her hand s upand s he sa s, as n t t hat o nderf ul? a nd, a sn tthatriksh a dri ver h andso me! t heres mag i tolove! buti ill endb sai ng th at mi llion s ofearsago,e evo lvedthree basidriv es: t he se x dri ve, r omant i lov e and atta hment to a long-term part ner.these irui ts ar e dee pl em bedde d inthe h umanbrain. the re g oingto su rvive as l ong a s our spei es su rvive s onhat s hakes peare alle d thi s mor tal o il. t hankou. 【中文翻译】我今天要讲俩个下世纪的大趋势也很有可能是未来10,0XX年的趋势但是，我想首先从我对爱情的研究讲起因为这是我最近的工作。
TED英文演讲：对爱和永世的探寻Sirius XM通讯卫星广播电台的创办人Martine Rothblatt如今领导干部一家药业公司，为少见病症(包含解救自身闺女性命的一种药品)给予拯救生命的药品。
此外，她已经勤奋储存她喜爱的数据文档中的女性的观念......及其爱人智能机器人。
在与TED的查尔斯德克尔的演出舞台会话中，利文斯顿布拉特共享她的感情，真实身份，想像力和无尽概率的强劲小故事。
下边是我为大伙儿搜集有关TED英文演讲：对爱和永世的探寻，热烈欢迎参考参照。
My daughter, my wife, our robot, and the quest for immortality演讲人：Martine Rothblatt/ 汉语发言稿 /查尔斯德克尔：我觉得大家那样大家先谈一谈你的日常生活，跟大伙儿共享一下你以前看一下的一些相片。
我们就从这张逐渐。
这名到底是谁?马蒂娜利文斯顿布拉特：它是我和的儿子便于。
他那时候大概五岁。
它是在尼日利亚照的，就在我刚参与完多伦多市的律师资格考試。
克：好的。
但这看起来不太像马蒂娜。
马：是的。
那时候我还是男士，我是做为男士出世成长。
那就是在我做完变性手术，从乔治变成马蒂娜以前。
克：你是以乔治利文斯顿布拉特的真实身份成长的。
马：是的。
克：在拍完这张相片以后大约一年，你婚娶了一位美丽姑娘。
是一见钟情么?那时候是什么情况?马：确实是一见钟情。
我是在洛杉矶市的一个迪斯科舞厅遇上的碧娜。
之后大家住在了一起，但从我看到她的那一刻起，我也见到她所带上的动能。
我请她舞蹈。
她讲她也见到我所带的动能。
我那时候是个单身父亲，她是个单身母亲。
大家给彼此之间看过小孩的相片，如今大家早已在婚姻生活里幸福快乐的渡过了1/3个新世纪。
(欢呼声)克：那时你算作个趋之若鹜的创业人，做通讯卫星层面的工作中。
你那时候早已拥有2个取得成功的企业，随后你逐渐新的挑戰，思索怎样根据通讯卫星来转型广播节目。
给大家讲下这一。
1.Chris Anderson: Julian, welcome.Chris Anderson：Julian，欢迎你2.It's been reported that WikiLeaks, your baby, has ... in the last few years has released more classified documents than the rest of the world's media combined.有报道说“维基揭密”——你的心血结晶在过去的几年所公布的机密文件数目超过了世界所有媒体公布数的总和3.Can that possibly be true?这有可能吗？4.Julian Assange: Yeah, can it possibly be true?Julian Assange：是的，这有可能吗？5.It's a worry -- isn't it? -- that the rest of the world's media is doing such a bad job that a little group of activists is able to release more这是个问题，不是吗？世界上的其他媒体得有多糟糕啊以至于一群社会活动家就能公开6.of that type of information than the rest of the world press combined.比世界上所有媒体加起来还要多的机密文件7.CA: How does it work?CA：这是如何运作的？8.How do people release the documents?你们是怎样公开这些文件的？9.And how do you secure their privacy?你们如何确保他们的隐私？10.JA: So these are -- as far as we can tell -- classical whistleblowers.JA：最多能告诉你们他们是传统的告密者11.And we have a number of ways for them to get information to us.我们提供一些方式让他们把信息告诉我们12.So we use just state-of-the-art encryption to bounce stuff around the Internet, to hide trails, pass it through legal jurisdictions我们运用最先进的加密方式来在网上传播信息，隐藏痕迹在司法管辖区内传递13.like Sweden and Belgium to enact those legal protections.比如瑞典和比利时以求获得法律保护14.We get information in the mail, the regular postal mail, encrypted or not, vet it like a regular news organization, format it -- which is sometimes something that's quite hard to do, 我们通过信件获得信息最普通的邮递信件不论是否加密我们和任何新闻机构一样对信息进行审查，排版尽管有时这显得相当困难15.when you're talking about giant databases of information -- release it to the public and then defend ourselves against the inevitable legal and political attacks.考虑到所涉及的透露给公众的巨大的信息量然后保护我们不受不可避免的法律和政治攻击的影响16.CA: So you make an effort to ensure the documents are legitimate.CA：所以说你们尽量保证这些文件是正确的17.But you actually almost never know who the identity of the source is.但实际上你们几乎不了解消息来源的身份？18.JA: That's right, yeah. Very rarely do we ever know.JA：没错，我们很少知道19.And if we find out at some stage then we destroy that information as soon as possible.如果在某阶段我们的确发现了其身份我们也会尽快销毁这一信息20.(Phone ring) God damn it.(电话铃声)该死！21.(Laughter) CA: I think that's the CIA asking what the code is for a TED membership.(笑声) CA：我想那是中情局在询问TED成员的代码是什么22.(Laughter) So let's take the example, actually.(笑声) 现在我们来看个实际例子23.This is something you leaked a few years ago.这是几年前泄露的消息24.If we can have this document up ...现在我们可以公布这个文件25.So this was a story in Kenya a few years ago.这是几年前发生在肯尼亚的故事26.Can you tell us what you leaked and what happened?你能告诉我们你们泄露了什么以及后来发生了些什么吗？27.JA: So this is the Kroll Report.JA：这是所谓的克勒尔报告28.This was a secret intelligence report commissioned by the Kenyan government after its election in 2004.这是一份秘密情报由肯尼亚政府在2004年大选之后授权制作的29.Prior to 2004, Kenya was ruled by Daniel arap Moi for about 18 years.2004年之前，肯尼亚在Daniel arap Moi的统治下长达18年30.He was a soft dictator of Kenya.他是肯尼亚的软独裁者****************************************************************本文来源于 更多更全，请登录****************************************************************31.And when Kibaki got into power -- through a coalition of forces that were trying to clean up corruption in Kenya -- they commissioned this report,后来当Kibaki试图掌权时——他利用了试图肃清肯尼亚腐败现象的一些联合力量——他们便授权搜集了这样一份报告32.spent about two million pounds on this and an associated report.一共花费了两百万英镑在这份及另一份相关报告上33.And then the government sat on it and used it for political leverage on Moi, who was the richest man -- still is the richest man -- in Kenya.然后Kibaki政府以此为据推翻了Moi——这个自始至终的肯尼亚首富——在肯尼亚的统治34.It's the Holy Grail of Kenyan journalism.这是肯尼亚新闻界的圣杯35.So I went there in 2007, and we managed to get hold of this just prior to the election -- the national election, December 28.我2007年到了那里我们设法在大选之前得到了这份报告——全国大选定于12月28日36.When we released that report, we did so three days after the new president, Kibaki, haddecided to pal up with the man that he was going to clean out,当我们公布这份报告时正是新任总统，Kibaki 决定同那位他企图打击的人进行合作的三日之后37.Daniel arap Moi.那人即Daniel arap Moi38.So this report then became a dead albatross around president Kibaki's neck.所以这份报告在当时成为了一个致命的负担压在了Kibaki总统的身上39.CA: And -- I mean, to cut a long story short -- word of the report leaked into Kenya, not from the official media, but indirectly.CA：接下来——长话短说关于此份报告的消息在肯尼亚走漏不是通过正规媒体，而是间接地40.And in your opinion, it actually shifted the election.而以你的观点，它实际上改变了选举的进程41.JA: Yeah. So this became front page of the Guardian and was then printed in all the surrounding countries of Kenya, in Tanzanian and South African press.JA：是的，这件事上了卫报的头版然后被肯尼亚所有周边国家转载如坦桑尼亚和南非的媒体42.And so it came in from the outside.接着从外部流入肯尼亚国内43.And that, after a couple of days, made the Kenyan press feel safe to talk about it.几天之后肯尼亚的媒体认为是时候谈论此事了44.And it ran for 20 nights straight on Kenyan TV, shifted the vote by 10 percent, according to a Kenyan intelligence report, which changed the result of the election.他们通过电视对此事进行了连续二十晚的报道影响了百分之十的选票根据肯尼亚的情报报告由此改变了大选的结果45.CA: Wow, so your leak really substantially changed the world?CA：哇，所以你泄露的消息确实从实质上改变了世界？46.JA: Yep.JA：没错47.(Applause) CA: Here's -- We're going to just show a short clip from this Baghdad airstrikevideo.(掌声) CA：在这里，我们将播放一小段视频出自这份巴格达空袭录像48.The video itself is longer.这段视频本身要长一些49.But here's a short clip.这里我们只截取了一小段50.This is -- this is intense material, I should warn you.这是段很激烈的视频，我先提醒大家51.Radio: ... just fuckin', once you get on 'em just open 'em up.无线电：...去你的，对准就崩了他们52.I see your element, uh, got about four Humvees, uh, out along ...我看到你的人了，呃，大概有4辆悍马，呃，一起的53.You're clear. All right. Firing.你安全了。
TED演讲双语演讲稿：我们能摆脱爱情吗？（精编word打印版）演讲时间：2018年讲者简介：Dessa：作家演讲简介：克服心碎的最佳方法是什么？说唱歌手和作家戴莎（Dessa）在偶然地观看了海伦·费舍（Helen Fisher）的TED演讲中关于恋爱的大脑的想法后，提出了一种非常规的方法。
在一个有趣而有趣的谈话中，她描述了自己与神经科学家的合作方式，以使自己的大脑与前任失去恋爱-并分享了她在此过程中获得的关于浪漫的智慧双语演讲稿Hello, my name is Dessa,大家好，我叫黛莎，and I'm a member of a hip-hop collective called Doomtree.是一个名为Doomtree 的嘻哈团体的成员。
I'm the one in the tank top.我是穿背心的那个。
(Laughter)（笑声）And I make my living as a performing, touring rapper and singer.以巡演表演为生——是一位独立歌手，也是说唱歌手。
When we perform as a collective, this is what our shows look like.我们的集体表演就是这样子。
I'm the one in the boots.我是其中一人着靴子的。
There's a lot of jumping. There's a lot of sweating.表演中有很多地方要跳跃和出汗；It's loud. It's very high-energy.是非常高能量的消耗和喧闹。
Sometimes there are unintentional body checks onstage.偶尔在舞台上身体会互相阻挡。
Sometimes there are completely intentional body checks onstage.又有时候会有身体的故意互相碰撞。
Jenni Chang: When I told my parents I was gay, the first thing they said to me was, "We're bringing you back to Taiwan."Jenni Chang: 当我向我的父母出柜的时候，他们的第一反应是，“我们要把你带回台湾。
”In their minds, my sexual orientation was America's fault. The West had corrupted me with divergent ideas, and if only my parents had never left Taiwan, this would not have happened to their only daughter. In truth, I wondered if they were right.在他们看来，我的性取向是美国造成的错误。
是西方的非主流观念侵蚀了我，而且如果我的父母从未离开台湾，他们的独生女儿绝不会变成这样。
事实上，我想他们并不见得正确。
Of course, there are gay people in Asia, just as there are gay people in every part of the world. But is the idea of living an "out" life, in the "I'm gay, this is my spouse, and we're proud of our lives together" kind of way just a Western idea? 当然，亚洲也有很多同性恋者，就像全世界其他地区一样。
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Ted演讲：爱情魔力背后隐藏的秘密中英对照I and my colleagues Art Aron and Lucy Brown and others, have put 37 people who are madly in love into a functional MRI brain scanner. 17 who were happily in love, 15 who had just been dumped, and we're just starting our third experiment: studying people who report that they're still in love after 10 to 25 years of marriage. So, this is the short story of that research.我和阿尔特.阿伦、露西.布朗还有其他同事对37位处在恋爱不同阶段的人的大脑进行了核磁共振测试，其中17位正享受爱情带来的幸福，而15位则刚刚被甩。
我们刚刚开始第三项实验：研究那些在10到25年后仍然处在爱恋中的人们，接下来是关于这项研究的一些介绍。
In the jungles of Guatemala, in Tikal, stands a temple. It was built by the grandest Sun King, of the grandest city-state, of the grandest civilization ofthe Americas, the Mayas. His name was Jasaw Chan K'awiil. He stood over six feet tall. He lived into his 80s, and he was buried beneath this monument in 720 AD. And Mayan inscriptions proclaim that he was deeply in love with his wife. So, he built a temple in her honor, facing his. And every spring and autumn, exactly at the equinox, the sun rises behind his temple, and perfectly bathes her temple with his shadow. And as the sun sets behind her temple in the afternoon, it perfectly bathes his temple with her shadow. After 1,300 years, these two lovers still touch and kiss from their tomb.在危地马拉的丛林深处的提卡尔，矗立着一座神庙。
它由史上最显贵的太阳王建造，位于最壮丽的城邦，代表着美洲最伟大的古文明——玛雅。
这位君王，名曰Jasaw Chan K'awiil，他体型魁梧，并活到了八十余岁，在公元720葬于提卡尔神庙。
按照玛雅碑文的说法，他深爱着他的妻子。
他为妻子修建了一座神庙，正对着提卡尔神庙。
每到春分或秋分，太阳在提卡尔神庙后升起，而他妻子的神庙便浸浴在拖长的影子中。
到了下午落日之时，他妻子的神庙的影子也会完全遮罩在提卡尔神庙上。
直到1300年后的今天，这对恋人的陵墓依旧互相拥抱、亲吻。
Around the world, people love. They sing for love,they dance for love, they compose poems and stories about love. They tell myths and legends about love. They pine for love, they live for love, they kill for love, and they die for love. As Walt Whitman once said, he said, "Oh, I would stake all for you." Anthropologists have found evidence of romantic love in 170 societies. They've never found a society that did not have it.世界各地的人都有不同的爱情。
人们为爱情歌唱，人们因爱情起舞，人们通过诗赋和故事来抒发爱情。
人们讲述关于爱情的神话和传说。
人们渴望爱情，因爱而生，人们为爱着迷，甚至为爱而死。
沃尔特.惠特曼曾说过： "我愿意为你赌上我的一切!" 人类学家在170个社会中发现了爱情存在的证据。
爱情普遍地存在于每一个人类社会。
But love isn't always a happy experience. In one study of college students, they asked a lot of questions about love, but the two that stood out to me the most were, "Have you ever been rejected by somebody who you really loved?" And the second question was, "Have you ever dumped somebody who really loved you?" And almost 95 percent of both men and women said yes to both. Almost nobody gets out of love alive.但爱情并不总是愉快的经历。
在一项针对大学生的调查中，他们提出了很多关于爱情的问题，其中的两个特别让我印象深刻，一个是"你曾经被你真心爱着的人拒绝过吗?" 而另一个则是 "你曾经拒绝过真心爱着你的人吗?" 对于这两个问题，有95%的人作出了肯定的答复。
要活着走出爱情几乎是不可能的。
So, before I start telling you about the brain, I want to read for you what I think is the most powerful love poem on Earth. There's other love poems that are, of course, just as good, but I don't think this one can be surpassed. It was told by an anonymous Kwakiutl Indian of southern Alaska to a missionary in 1896, and here it is. I've never had the opportunity to say it before. "Fire runs through my body with the pain of loving you. Pain runs through my body with the fires of my love for you. Pain like a boil about to burst with my love for you, consumed by fire with my love for you.那么，在开始讲述关于大脑的事情前，我要读一段在我看来最富深情的情诗。
当然，很多情诗都很不错，但我认为它们都无法超越这首。
在1896年的南阿拉斯加，一位不知名的夸扣特尔印第安人把它讲述给了一名传教士。
这是我第一次当众读它。
"爱你之痛如熊熊烈焰穿透我的身体; 对你如火一般的热恋让疼痛贯穿我的身体。
痛楚如沸水，饱含我对你的爱，爱的火焰将其蒸发殆尽。
I remember what you said to me. I am thinking of your love for me. I am torn by your love for me. Pain and more pain -- where are you going with my love? I am told you will go from here. I am told you will leave me here. My body is numb with grief. Remember what I said, my love. Goodbye, my love, goodbye." Emily Dickinson once wrote, "Parting is all we need to know of hell." How many people have suffered in all the millions of years of human evolution? How many people around the world are dancing with elation at this very minute? Romantic love is one of the most powerful sensations on Earth.我仍记得你对我说的话，我想着你对我的爱，它将我的躯体撕裂。
疼痛，更多的疼痛，你要把我的爱带至何处? 你对我说，你将从这里出发; 你对我说，你将在这儿把我遗弃。
我因此悲痛，因此失去知觉。
带上我的只言片语，我的爱人! 再见，吾爱，再见! 艾米莉.狄金森曾写道， "人因离别而品尝地狱" 在人类百万余年的进化过程中，有多少人曾遭受这样的痛苦? 而此时此刻，世界各地又有多少人在尽情跳舞? 爱情是世上最有力的感情。
