婚礼致辞之从跨文化交际角度看《我的盛大希腊婚礼》

我的盛大希腊婚礼文化差异比较
在盛大的希腊婚礼中，有许多文化差异，如下：
1. 婚礼仪式：希腊人认为婚礼是一种神圣的仪式，通常在教堂举行。

这个过程中，主人公将穿上传统的婚礼服装，包括一个美丽的白色礼裙（在当地被称为“karavaki”），以及一个配有花朵的头饰。

在仪式中，新郎和新娘会交换婚戒，并在圣母玛利亚退隐节日举行的婚礼中重复承诺。

2. 食品和饮料：希腊婚礼通常是一个盛大的庆祝活动，开胃菜和美酒是必备的。

人们喜欢在这个日子里烹制出丰富的希腊美食，如新鲜海鲜、龙虾、羊肉、青豆煮饭、希腊沙拉和烤牛羊肉等等。

3. 舞蹈和音乐：希腊人喜欢在婚礼上跳舞。

他们通常会举行一个叫做zorba的古老舞蹈，在这个舞蹈中，舞者们穿着传统的希腊服饰跳跃和旋转，伴着弦乐和打击乐器的演奏声。

4. 礼品和丢鞋传统：在希腊婚礼中，新娘通常会戴上一双蓝色鞋子（象征幸运），而新郎则需要支付通过“抢新娘鞋”的传统来改变新娘的运气。

在晚宴上，客人们会把钱塞在新人的服装中以表示祝贺，而婚礼的结束通常以Newlyweds丢鞋仪式来结束，它被认为是希腊婚礼中最有趣的传统之一。

以上是希腊婚礼中一些突出的文化差异。

从跨文化角度分析《婚礼》婚姻不仅仅是两个人的事，还是两个家庭的事，可能还会涉及两个家庭背后的家族。

杜娜，生活在美国的希腊人。

从小被迫上希腊学校学习希腊语，三十岁的时候还是在家族餐馆工作。

苗伊仁，一个正宗的美国人，法律家族出身却不喜欢法律而选择当一个老师。

两个背景完全不一样的人却相爱了，为了让双方家长同意结婚，他们做出了很大的努力。

从影片中，我们可以看出两个不一样的民族价值、信仰和生活方式。

在美国居住的希腊人以血亲组成一个庞大的家族，他们之间保持着紧密的联系。

他们坚信希腊人是最好的，可信的，聪明的。

他们对待婚姻的态度是必须和希腊人结婚，婚礼也是要邀请所有认识的人尽管关系比较远。

在家庭里，父亲是一家之主，对待子女方面，也很专制，不去管子女的爱好。

在家庭聚会时，所有亲戚都到场，吃各种美味的肉类、喝各种酒、跳欢快的舞蹈、讨论自己的私事等等，总之呈现出一片和谐愉快的场面。

他们的性格外放，喜欢捉弄人，说话声音很大，所以聚会的时候气氛特别好。

这些都与美国人有所不同。

美国人的观念结婚要在俱乐部举行，家庭聚会需要带着小礼物，不能大声喧哗更不会谈论私人事情。

他们做事比较严肃，不会开一些玩笑。

作为一个移民，从跨文化的角度来看父亲一辈是失败的，因为他们在美国这么长时间，却不愿意去接受美国人，更不用说他们的文化，带着有色眼睛看美国人，认为他们人品有问题不是赌徒就是酒鬼。

他们因为战争搬到了美国，骨子里还是憎恨美国人以希腊人自豪。

父亲认为英语单词都是从希腊语演变而来的，虽然有的不是，他也可以找到关联的词。

虽然居住在美国却保持自己的生活习惯，房子还是希腊教堂的样子，在美国的节日里吃自己喜欢的食物。

他们坚持自己的信仰，结婚要和希腊人结，而且是在希腊的正教堂举办仪式。

进入异文化地区，如果还是保持自己的生活，不去了解外面的世界，很容易和自己的孩子产生冲突。

就像杜娜的爸爸，他虽然是爱自己的女儿和儿子的，却不愿意放手让他们深入学习，寻找自己的工作，他觉得孩子去学习就是要脱离家庭，其实是错的。

Respect and Communicate to Different Cultures Movie My Big Fat Greek Wedding, it is a story that a Greek girl Toula married an American boy Ian. They two were from different backgrounds. Toula lived in a big Greek family, They moved to American in the world warⅡ. The family consisted of Toula’s parents, her brother, sister, and a great numbers of relatives was big and loud. The house they lived was modeled after the Parthenon. Ian was from an American family, he was the only child in the family which was in quiet and harmoniousatmosphere. Although the two families were different, they had the same happiness in family life. Just as Toula said: “My family is big and loud but they're my family. We fight and we laugh and yes, we roast lamb on a spit in the front yard. And where ever I go, what ever I do they will always be there.”The Greek girls have three things to do in their lives, marrying Greek boys, making Greek babies and feeding everyone until the day they die. But Toula met Ian, an xeno in her father’s eyes. They had different backgrounds and different believes but they loved each other. At first, their parents had different attitudes towards their love. Toula’s parents were opposed to their love. Her parents could not accept an xeno who they did n’t know anymore. On the contrary Ian’s parents agreed with it. In this position, Ian decided to be baptized and join the Greek Orthodox Church. Finally they decidedto get married, and they found they had a lot of different customs. The Greeks hold weddings in the Greek Church, they need 10 bridesmaids and the best man is actually part of the ceremony, parents may give their children gifts, hold a big wedding, and end it with dancing together. On contrast, the American family would like to hold a wedding in the club, quiet and small. They may eat big wedding cakes and let the newly married couple have a honeymoon trip. Then Ian’s parents met Toula’s family, they had different food, Toula’s mother fixed the cake bundt Ian’s parents taken with flowers. Toula’s family liked eating lamb and moussake, drinking ouzo, but Ian was actually a vegetarian, the Americans may eat wonder bread sandwiches. Toula’s father was not satisfied with Ian’s family, he thought “they are dry, just like a piece of toast no honey, no jam, just dry.”B ut her daughter loved Ian, they will get married. Finally he accepted their differences. In the end of the movie, the two families held a great wedding, and they danced together with all people.That is to say, the two families had different backgrounds, different customs, when they first knew each other, they were wondering, just as Ian was supposed when he saw Toula’s aunt spit on the boys, after communicating, he knew that means blessing and he accepted it. Anyhow the parents loved their children similarly, and they lived the same happy lives. In my opinions, when meetingdifferent cultures, we should accept it, respect it, and communicate to understand it. In this basis, we can learn from other cultures and improve our culture by the good sides of different cultures. For example we can improve Chinese wedding by learning from American wedding. We can eat varied foreign food to make our diets more balanced, too.In the traditional Chinese wedding, the bride and the groom ought to kowtow many peoples, includes all elders, the couple may be painful in the wedding. The groom should give the girl bride-price, and hold the wedding in the groom’s house, which need a lot of money. He will invite all relatives toattend the ceremony. Many times we may hold the wedding wastefully, and it is a great burden to groom. These years, we learn some west cultures, just like American wedding customs, the rectors hold a wedding in church, and they may eat big wedding cakes, after the wedding, the brides and the groom may take a honeymoon trip. After knowing their customs in the wedding, we changed our wedding customs. The groom does not need pay for birde-price mostly. We may hold a wedding in a beautiful yard, in a big hall or in a church adding some Chinese customs. The bride may wear two kinds of clothes, one is wedding veil and the other may be cheong-sam. Finally the couple would end the ceremony with travelling a beautiful place. As to food,in the past we often ate steamed stuffed bun and drunk soybean milk for breakfast, but we may eat sandwiches and drink milk now. We used to eat rice or noodles in dinner, at present we can eat steaks or cakes, all are ok. The American cultures exist in our daily life gradually.There are many kinds of cultures in the world, we may meet various people, they are different from us, and not only the different nation but also everyone is different. We should firstly respect them. Sometimes we may wondering, it is so surprising that they do those things. In this situation, we need communicate with them, ask them for why, why you did these things? The people may tell us the reason, next time we can answer other one’s wondering. More and more, we know the different culture and learn something good from the different culture, just like learning something from other people. In a word, when we communicate with people from a different cultural background, we should pay attention torespect the different cultures firstly, and communicate timely to understand the wondering things, we may accept different cultures gradually and in this way learn a lot from the different.。

婚礼致辞之从跨文化交际角度看《我的盛大希腊婚礼》从跨文化交际角度看《我的盛大希腊婚礼》关键词：我的盛大希腊婚礼;文化差异;文化融合中图分类号：j905 文献标识码：a 文章编号：1005-5312（2015）11-0137-01一、美国和希腊的文化差异影片中主人公来自于不同的文化背景，一个是美国男教师伊恩，象征着独立自由;一个是家庭餐馆的女服务生图拉，象征着保守和集体主义。

图拉和她的庞大家族生活在一起，亲戚来往密切。

而伊恩非常独立，独自生活，偶尔与父母来往。

图拉的家庭对伊恩有很多意见。

而伊恩的父母对婚礼的事几乎不插手。

这反映了美、希的文化差异，两个家庭的价值观不同。

（一）个体主义—集体主义从衡量价值观的四个尺度之一的个体主义——集体主义来说，学者hofstede计算出美国和希腊在这一项上的指数分别为91和35，可见相距甚远。

从这个数值看，美国是个体主义方面的代表。

美国文化宣扬的价值观即是个人独立、自由平等和个人权利。

伊恩的恋爱之前不需要通过父母的同意，在伊恩的婚事中，他的父母很少提出意见，婚礼上也只是父母两人出席。

而希腊是集体主义占主导的国家，希腊人非常重视家族和婚姻对家族兴衰的影响。

图拉需要经过长辈的同意才能恋爱，她的婚礼也是整个家族一同操办，这体现了希腊人的“集体行为”。

而婚礼之前，图拉的祖母将代代传承的花冠交给图拉，这细节有将家族传统世代延续下去的意图，也体现了希腊人以“家庭”为核心的观念。

（二）对自己国家文化的态度不同影片中，图拉的父亲常说“每一个英语单词都来自于希腊语”，他还多次提到陶艺、舞蹈这些伟大的艺术都来源于希腊，这可以看出他对自己国家的文化非常崇尚。

反映了希腊人对自己的文化有非常强烈的自豪感，认为“世上只有两种人，一种是希腊人，一种是想成为希腊人的人”。

他们在同族中传承希腊传统，对外族他们极力地推崇希腊文化。

而美国家庭较提及自己的文化，并不是说美国没有文化，而是美国人在生活中并不强调他们文化的伟大，这一方面是因为美国没有悠久的历史，多样的文化多是“舶来品”，缺少历史渊源。