婆婆和儿媳妇之间的矛盾如何化解
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婆婆和儿媳妇之间的矛盾如何化解 时间：2009-08-14 09:14 来源：李歌的新浪博客 作者： 点击： 264 次 在中国人的各种家庭关系当中，婆媳关系大概是其中最复杂、最微妙的。对此，“家家都有本难念的经”。 从古至今的各式文艺作品中对婆媳关系的描写也是“剪不断，理还乱”。
In the Chinese family relationships , old woman daughter-in-law relation is probably one of the most complex and the most delicate. To this, "everybody has this difficult to read classics". Rooted in various literary works of old woman daughter-in-law describe the relations also is "shear continuously, the reason also disorderly".
一，首先提出观点：婆媳问题的解决势在必行。 二，从四个角度分析婆媳问题存在的原因 （1）学术界的传统角度 （2）心理学角度 （3）婆婆看法 (4) 媳妇看法 （5）丈夫看法 三，分析问题 从以下几个角度 （1）经济上 （2）世界观，价值观 （3）生活习性 四，提出解决方案 （1）婆婆 （2）儿媳妇 （3）丈夫 五 总结 One, first put forward to solve the problem of views: old woman daughter-in-law is imperative.
Second, from four perspectives analysis on the reasons of the existence of her mother-in-law problems
(1) traditional Angle of the academia (2) psychological perspective (3) mother-in-law views (4) daughter-in-law views (5) husband view Three, then analysis the problem from the following several aspects (1) economic (2) world outlook, values (3) life habits Four, and proposes the solutions (1) the mother-in-law (2) daughter-in-law (3) husband Five summar 第一要学会倾听。
在婆婆面前做一个沉默的听众是最首先要做的关键。老人家总是话多，也总爱选择在饭局上罗唆。你就让她尽情的各抒己见，讲到眉飞色舞处你也表示出你的高兴，让婆婆觉得你尊重她的言语，是个“文明有礼”的儿媳妇。
第二要学会一笑置之。 平常可以给婆婆买些衣服什么的会更让婆婆欢心。但我的婆婆不喜欢我给她买衣服，有次买了几件衣服回来，满以为她会穿，谁知她连看都不看便又递给了我，说是尺寸不合身款式太时尚。我当时有那么一点生气，不过事后我还是不吱声，并笑了笑把衣服收起来，说了句“没关系!”
第三要学会不要动不动就和婆婆说“不”。 婆婆和你在养育孩子方面当然会有分歧和冲突，但最要紧的是做儿媳妇的能把握尺度。要是婆婆喜欢放非常热的水给小孩洗澡，我不马上反对，就让她坚持，等到孩子热得大哭时，再跟她说书上说洗澡水的最合适温度。
第四要学会把嘴巴变甜。 平日里没啥事情多喊几声婆婆，教育孩子对婆婆要有礼貌。当孩子不小心打了婆婆，或是用自行车把婆婆的脚撞上了，要马上教孩子和奶奶道歉。
第五要手脚勤快，不做懒媳妇。 虽说家里也请了保姆帮忙操持家务，但做儿媳妇的不能太懒，总得做些力所能及的事情。最起码的不能睡懒觉，个人卫生要做好;教育孩子也不能偷工减料，多买书教孩子认字，背书，多让孩子在婆婆面前表演节目，让婆婆觉得你为人父母对孩子的耐心。
第六要多夸奖婆婆。 我的婆婆是村里数一数二的“女强人”，虽说没读什么书，但说起话来，做起事来还是风风火火，有条不紊的。做儿媳妇的不要处处逞强，最好做个“最不厉害”的人物，你敬她一尺，她自然敬你一丈。
第七要学会尊重她的个人习惯。 这显得极其重要。因为习惯这东西非常难改的，你不可能因为看不惯她的一些所作所为而制止她去做，否则面临的只能是更多的正面冲突。
婆媳相处当然不止这些。但好婆婆总是巧媳妇哄出来的。对婆婆好，就是对老公好，更多的是对自己好。要是一个做儿媳妇的都不能真心实意的对待你的婆婆，那我还是劝你别结婚的好。因为等到你的儿子长大了，你从儿媳妇变了家婆时，你会发现原来婆媳之间就是一个轮回，你懂得了如何做一个好媳妇，将来你也绝对是一个被儿媳妇孝顺的好婆婆。
The first should learn to listen. In front of her mother-in-law a silent audience is the most want to do first of the key. Old man always words, always also love selection in meals on hassle. You let her heartily, supplies ideas about very happy where you have also expressed you happy, and let the mother-in-law think you respect her words, a "civilized courteous daughter-in-law. The second to learn to laugh. Usually can give her mother-in-law buy some clothes of what will be more let the mother-in-law favour. But my mother-in-law don't like me to buy her clothes, some times bought some clothes, took it for granted that she will come back to wear, who knows she didn't even look at then and gave it to me, saying is size doesn't fit design too fashion. I was a little angry, but later I still nobody, and smiled the clothes away, said a sentence "never mind!" The third to learn don't be so ready and mother-in-law said "no". Mother-in-law and you to raise children will certainly have differences and conflicts, but the important thing is to do our daughter-in-law's can hold the scale. If the mother-in-law like a very hot water to give children a bath, I don't immediately against, let her persistence, when the child cry and then hot water with her on the most storytellers said right temperature. The fourth should learn to keep your mouth become sweet. Ferial didn't what matter how shout several loud mother-in-law, education for children to her mother-in-law be polite. When the child accidentally hit her mother-in-law, or use bicycle put her mother-in-law's feet hit to be immediately to teach children and grandma apology. The fifth to thumbs and hard-working, don't do lazy daughter-in-law. Though home also asked nanny help with the housework, but do not be too lazy, daughter-in-law has to do the right thing. The minimum cannot sleep in, personal hygiene to do, Education child also cannot cut corners, much buy books to teach children to read, endorsed, give your child in her mother-in-law performed before programs and let her mother-in-law think you parents to children's patience.
