生活中处处都有心理学（Life is full of Psychology）Life is full of psychology.Since graduating in 2001, the work has been going on for Twelfth years. The work of the relationship between frequent travel, has visited more than 10 countries, it is said to have gone through "ten thousand miles". Some people say, "walk ten thousand miles, you must first read ten thousand books, otherwise you will only walk without reading. That is the postman."". I love reading, but my book on psychology, psychology and life, by Gerrig and Zimbardo, should be the first. This textbook is informative and easy to understand. The person who lent me this book was my first teacher in psychology. The influence of the "influence" is the popularity of reading psychology, this book is just like Chinese ancient Legalists Han Fei, some teach "guile" too, but also very interesting. Later became familiar with some psychology books, such as "the walking man" "change the psychology of the 40 study" "beyond" inferiority "our inner conflict" and "personality" neurosis "motivation and personality" "works of Rodgers" the essence of "the art of love" "escape from freedom" "cognitive therapy" Beck "cognitive behavioral therapy" and so on. Slowly discovered that life hole are learning, human sophistication that article. How to communicate with employees and employees of the evaluation results, how to work attitude problem, and how to communicate with customers, to how to deal with others, learn some psychology very helpful; to maintain world peace and build a harmonious social order, to communicate with his wife and children, how to spend the life hard man since the beginning, without involving psychology; body disease and heart disease, society and culture, education and growth, development andevolution, love and marriage, democracy and science, psychology Everything is contained therein. containing. Finally, I seem to understand slowly that psychology is the study of human science, and man is the subject of this earth activity, so psychology goes deep into every aspect of life. This subject is all inclusive. Reading psychology can make life more clear. So, I was attracted by it.Listen to the teachers' class, enjoy the movies recommended by the teachers, read the psychology books, and know all kinds of people. Various personalities, temperaments, modes of thinking, behavior and will make me an eye opener. There are many blood quality, bile, mucus quality, depression,obsessive-compulsive type, impulsive, dependent, narcissistic, schizotypal, emotional and antisocial, someone close to people, people, people avoid confrontation people, everyone is different. There are about 7 billion people living in the world. How many people have lived on the earth since ancient times? It's terrible to remember. However, there are no two identical leaves in the world, and there are no two exactly alike people. Everyone has different origins, different experiences, different lives, and different ways of thinking. The world is ever-changing, so rich and colorful. I used to be very overbearing in my work, strong and strong sense of responsibility. Always hope others follow my train of thought. If other people have different ways of thinking, different practices, or different results, I am very anxious and irritable. In fact, a fear of loss of control, stubborn insistence, often from the heart of self-confidence. Always worry about other people's work, minor details should always be intimate or close monitoring. Also, love and hate, do notrub the sand in the eyes, with their different values, world view or different people, or even just thinking, people of different personalities do not love. As we grow older and learn more and more, we gradually understand that there are many different people, different ways of working and different modes of thinking, and the world becomes rich and colorful. I am grateful for the richness and variety of these things that make me feel different souls; I come to these different hearts and experience different worlds. The world is different because of you, the world is wonderful because of different.Accept the difference, fall in love with this wonderful, it is possible to stand in other people's perspective of the world.Irvin Yalom in the "gift of therapy" in a story about a girl, not with his father since childhood. In the eyes of his daughter, father is a critic and a critic. When my daughter got into college, my father drove her daughter to school. The daughter envisioned a certain degree of reconciliation with her father through the rare hours spent alone. But the whole trip turned into a disaster. My father was driving and complaining about the ugliness of the creek on the side of the road. It was full of rubbish and dirty. But what she saw was a brook without any pollution or original flavor. So, father and daughter two looked out of the window, silent all the way, ignore each other. Many years later, the daughter drove alone to revisit the old haunt. Then she was surprised to see that there was a small river on either side of the road. The river, seen from the driver's window, was polluted, piled up with garbage, and ugly, as his father described it. At last the daughter knew how to see the world from her father's window, but it was too late for herfather to die for many years. Erwin Yalom is the master, wrote "when Nietzsche Wept" and other famous psychological novel. But the author says it's a true story, the story of the visitor. So another great thing about learning psychology is learning how to be empathic. When we ask for practice, many people empathy for empathy, and rehearsal listening makes people feel very false. It is inappropriate to treat empathy purely as a skill, but to forget sincerity for technology. My team had a colleague was eliminated, this is a cruel thing, but also a difficult decision. But organizations should move forward, and individuals should have a more appropriate development. I informed the colleague two months in advance that I would take the initiative to understand the colleague's mortgage, girlfriend, family and so on. I put myself in his shoes and discussed the job hunting with him. The most important thing is to listen to him to find work in bursts of difficult things to get along with his girlfriend, how to explain with your family, at that time I almost did not say what is listening to, has given him great comfort. So, I see, empathy does not lie in the phrase "I can understand you."...". Psychology as a helping profession is not an empty talk.Another interesting feature of psychology is that there is no definite answer. In psychology, there is a question on how many years history of psychology has been given, and the answer given is 150 years. If traced, definitely longer. But psychology never has a definite answer. From Wundt to Wertheimer, from Freud to Adler, to Horneyan, from Wahson to Skinner, to Bandura, from Maslow to Rodgers, then to Seligman, some thoughts of tit for tat, some theories from fusion. Keep moving forward, exploring, never stopping. In evaluating current worldpsychology, Seligman says one word "good", the two word "not good", and the three word "not good enough"". This subject is not like mathematics, and mathematics has "the only answer" as beauty, and psychology has no only answer to beauty or even beauty. Freud stressed that the human instinct, desire and drive; while Wahson emphasizes environmental shackles, individual behavior under the restrict of the environment; and the humanism emphasizes the human nature of "good", but also a very important environment, an oak seed, do not need others to guide you can grow into a the oak, but must be unconditional positive attention. Analysis of the spirit to dig deep into the past; cognitive therapy that changing the visitor's cognition, to change their behavior to change their thoughts and feelings; behavior therapy that change people's behavior is the essence of the heart, what is not important; and the humanism that people will have to change, as long as we are given the appropriate environment. The theory of psychoanalysis cannot prove nor disprove; behaviorism is the emphasis on the study of people like that physical and biological behavior, Skinner is deeply admired progress of physics and biology, and that human behavior compared with 2500 before what progress. Previous psychological research,Especially the clinical research focus on abnormal psychology, and positive psychology that should pay attention to mental health more, especially those happy people...... it is a psychology of human thought gathered, thought of the feast, like a flower, all kinds of fresh flowers flourish, gathered in a contention of a hundred schools of thought, All flowers bloom together.The book says that the three great men who changed the world were Jews, Einstein, Marx, and Freud. Einstein's contribution to physics changed the world; Marx's philosophy changed the world by the practice of Communists; why is Freud? I understand that it is probably because Freud has changed the way that man knows himself, especially the unconscious theory, which makes it difficult for people to know themselves. When the heart changes, the world changes.。
