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The weakness of human is just a kind of view that describe some bad thing happens in our daily life,and shows humans shortcoming .Each people all have the weakness of human nature,such as gluttony,greed,sloth,pride,lazy,lust and envy.we just think highly of the bad thing that human weakness brings to us while overlook the breakthrough.We are too lazy to go somewhere on foot,so our ancestors tried a variety of measures to satisfy this human weakness .In ancient times we ride to everywhere ,in nowadays we can choose to ride a bike ,take a bus ,take a plane or take the subway to our destination which give us a lots of opportunity to go more places and view some beautify spot ,see variety person and know their stories.we are too lazy to wash our dirty clothes,so we invent the washing machine which can not only bring us more time to entertain ourselves but also improve working efficiency .we are too lazy to drink water in the river so we invent the bucket.Things may also turn to bad when we become too lazy .even in my school we take a bus to go to class which is just a short distance.The arise of the obesity may have something with too much vehicle.anoter example ,one of my roommate who never occurs on the morning classes,because she was in the bed at morning ,attending the morning classes is too hard for her,it is also too hard for her to defeat her lazy! Obviously she missed many knowledge and fun.on the one hand lazy may block our daily life ,but on the other hand it really brings a lot for us!So the key is how we control our lazy or weakness. How we use our weakness to perfect ourselves.When someone teases you ,you may feel sad or even want to finish your valuable life.when this stupid view occurs to you ,just think about why she or he tease you ?Is there something you really need to revise. Or you should really do something to prove their tease was unwise.And you may do what you can do to advance yourself and finally you become a talent man.In the other word you may tease someone else unconsciously ,how suffering she or him may be ?so stop tease others right now.Tease sometimes may hurt our fragile heart,but may also give us endless power to prove ourselves.which depends on how we deal with it!Just view everything ordinary.Human weakness never develope in a day and never disappear in a day.It is a long way for us to dispense human weakness.And we can use human weakness to invent something or to spot the human quality .Learn to understand yourself by asking your friends or justyourself,know your weakness that makes you unhappy or makes other unhappy.Then do something to drop it out little by little.Every day when you wake up,smile to the mirror and say “hello , today I willnot let my human weakness bother me ”.Learn to forgive others.your friend may unconsciously tease your new looking which really looks strange.And you may have a thought in your mind “I can’t belive that my best friend even tease at me ,Iwant to break up with him”so you may loose your best friend whom you may have teased at her yellow short hair before.forever just for the little thing .。
The Wisdom of Showing Concerns towards others in How to Win Friendsand Influence PeopleAbstractSince the publication of his first book How to Win Friends and Influence People in 1936, Dale Carnegie has touched millions of readers and his classic works continues to impact lives to this day. It can be seen clearly that Carnegie fully expresses some skills in handling people, making people to like us by showing concerns towards others. It provides some hints for modern individuals in their development of rapport and communication skills.Key Words：communication skills , Carnegie , others ,concerns1. IntroductionDale Carnegie (1888-1955) was a pioneer of the self-improvement genre. The book How to Win Friends and Influence People is the classic book about rapport and communication skills. Well interpersonal relationship will minimize the effort required to have work completed. There is no doubt that developing the rapport with others is a crucial part of our daily life and it will benefit us in various aspects. There is a perfect combination of vivid examples and concise words in Carnegie’s suggestion of communication skills. Among these communication skills, many are relevant to showing concerns to others. The value of showing concerns towards others is worthy of exploring.2. The Wisdom of showing concerns to othersShowing concerns to others plays a crucial role in learning how to make people like you and win people over to your way of thinking.2.1 make people like youAlmost everyone desires to be welcomed everywhere. However, it is very difficult for one to make it come true when he spares no efforts in getting other people interested in him. In Carnegie’s view, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other peopleinterested in you”(Carnegie59) Psychologically, human being are self-centered by nature. So becoming genuinely interested in others will fulfill this kind of needs of other persons. The happiness and sense of fulfillment derived from it is obviously clear. Paying more attention to others not only helps us to win friends, but also to some aspect helps the receivers. To assume that when we are frustrated and lonely, a warmth and tenderness from others will somewhat be comforting.Carnegie also emphasizes the importance of being a good listener. He suggests us to encourage others to talk about them. As we all know, an interesting conversationalist can always draw our attention. Carnegie holds the view that “if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.”(Carnegie94)Sometimes a good listener is equal to an interesting conversationalist. We all dislike those who talk only of themselves or like to interrupt other’s conversation. In contrast, we are willing to make friends with those who can always be attentive and sympathetic listeners. As the Reader’s Digest once said: “Many persons call a doctor when all they want is an audience,”It is not uncommon that what we all want when we are in trouble is merely a friendly, sympathetic listener to whom we could unburden ourselves.2.2 Win people over to your way of thinkingOne of Carnegie’s advice on win people over to you way of thinking is “show respect for the other person's opinion, never say, 'you are wrong.' ” (Carnegie127)Not even the most distinguished person can be right all the time. As to common people, we can’t be sure of being right even 55 percent of the time. In this situation, why should we tell other people they are wrong? By telling others they are wrong, we have struck a direct blow at their intelligence, judgment, pride and self-respect. That will make them want to strike back. But it will never alter their opinions, for we have hurt their feelings.“The little word“my” is the most important one in human affair, and properly to reckon with it is the beginning of wisdom.”(Carnegie120) We should liberate ourselves from theself-concerned thinking pattern. Showing more respect to others opinion and taking their feeling into consideration will win more agreement than argument.What’s more, we should “Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.”(Carnegie163)Seeing things through another person’s eyes may ease tensions when interpersonal problems become overwhelming. One of my friends once complained to me about her roommates. On her birthday, her roommates sent her a Green Tea cake which is always the last choice of her. She thought that they intentionally made her awkward. However, I think neither my friend nor her roommates have stood in other’s place to think question. Her roommates just chose the flavor of cake according to their own. and accidently got the unsuitable one. If my friend had seen this through her roommates’ eyes, she would not care about this trivial thing. For the sake of winning people to think in our way, we can by no means lose sight of their view.3. ConclusionTo sum up, showing concerns to others is of great importance. It can not only help us to win more friends but also win people over to our way of thinking. If we can keep this in mind, we can build a much more harmonious rapport.Dale Carnegie ．How to Win Friends and Influence People．Simon & Schuster．2010。
抓住人性的弱点英语作文Title: Exploiting Human Frailties。
Human nature is a complex interplay of strengths and weaknesses, virtues, and vices. Among these, our vulnerabilities stand out as particularly exploitable. Understanding and exploiting these weaknesses has been apart of human interaction since time immemorial. In this essay, we delve into some of the most prominent humanfrailties and how they can be manipulated.One of the most pervasive weaknesses in human nature is the desire for validation and acceptance. We all crave approval from others, seeking reassurance that we arevalued and esteemed. This need for validation can be exploited by individuals or groups who understand its power. Whether it's through flattery, manipulation of social norms, or leveraging insecurities, those who recognize this vulnerability can exert significant influence over others.Another common frailty is the fear of uncertainty and the unknown. Humans are creatures of habit, seekingstability and predictability in an inherently chaotic world. This fear of uncertainty can be exploited by offering false promises of security or by instilling fear of potential risks. Advertisers, politicians, and even religious leaders often capitalize on this fear to sway opinions or gain followers.Furthermore, the innate desire for pleasure and avoidance of pain is a fundamental aspect of human nature. This drive can be manipulated through various means, suchas addictive substances, instant gratification, or the promise of fleeting pleasures. By tapping into these primal urges, individuals or organizations can exert control over others, leading them down paths they might otherwise avoid.Additionally, the susceptibility to cognitive biasesand heuristics makes humans prone to manipulation. Whetherit's confirmation bias, availability heuristic, or social proof, our minds often take shortcuts that can be exploited by those with ulterior motives. By crafting persuasivenarratives or selectively presenting information, manipulators can influence decision-making and behavior without the target's conscious awareness.Moreover, the phenomenon of conformity underscores our tendency to align our beliefs and behaviors with those of the majority. This desire to fit in and avoid social rejection can be leveraged to manipulate individuals into adopting certain attitudes or actions. Cults, extremist groups, and even marketing campaigns often exploit this human frailty to recruit followers or sell products.In conclusion, human nature is rife withvulnerabilities that can be exploited for various purposes. From the need for validation and security to the pursuit of pleasure and the susceptibility to cognitive biases, there are numerous avenues through which individuals or groups can manipulate others. By understanding these frailties and their underlying mechanisms, we can better guard ourselves against manipulation and strive for a more informed and autonomous existence.。
《人性的弱点》片段Or, take the Teapot Dome oil scandal. It kept the newspapers ringing with indignation in the early 1920s. It rocked the nation! Within the memory of living men, nothing like it had ever happened before in American public life. Here are the bare facts of the scandal: Albert B.Fall, secretary of interior in Harding’s cabinet, was entrusted with the leasing of government oil reserves at Elk Hill and Teapot Dome - oil reserves that had been set aside for the future use of the navy. Did secretary Fall permit competitive bidding? No sir. He handed the fat, juicy contract outright to his friend Edward L.Doheny. And what did Doheny do? He gave Secretary Fall what he was pleased to call a “loan” of one hundred thousand dollars. Then, in a high - handed manner, Secretary Fall ordered United States Marines into the district to drive off competitors whose adjacent wells were sapping oil out of the Elk Hill reserves. These competitors, driven off their ground at the end of guns and bayonets, rushed into court - and blew the lid off the Teapot Dome scandal. A stench arose so vile that it ruined the Harding Administration, nauseated an entire nation, threatened to wreck the Republican party, and put Albert B.Fall behind prison bars.翻译：或者，拿茶壶顶油丑闻。
万能公式※人性的弱点之一：喜欢责怪、抱怨他人反之：不要批评、责怪或抱怨他人《人性的弱点》英语版※人性的弱点之二：不喜欢赞赏他人反之：真诚的赞赏他人※人性的弱点之三：不考虑他人的需求反之：首先想到他人的需求※人性的弱点之四：盲目模仿他人反之：保持自我本色，不要盲目模仿※人性的弱点之五：没有良好的工作习惯反之：养成良好的工作习惯※人性的弱点之六：一个疲惫的“我”反之：放松自己，消除疲劳※人性的弱点之七：对事情感到倦怠反之：不要对事情感到倦怠，而应使之充满乐趣※人性的弱点之八：只看到自己10%的不足反之：算算你拥有的幸福——而非烦恼※人性的弱点之九：充满恶意的批评他人反之：不用理它，因为没有人会踢一只死狗※人性的弱点之十：过于在乎他人的批评反之：尽已所能，撑起雨伞，让批评之雨打不到你颈背上※人性的弱点之十一：不会关心他人反之：真诚的关心别人※人性的弱点之十二：对他人缺少微笑反之：保持微笑※人性的弱点之十三：忘记他人的名字反之：记住他人的姓名，它是语言当中最甜蜜、最重要的声音※人性的弱点之十四：不喜欢听人讲话反之：做一个善于聆听的人，鼓励别人谈论他们自己※人性的弱点之十五：毫不考虑他人的兴趣反之：谈论别人感兴趣的话题※人性的弱点之十六：忘记他人的重要性反之：让他人感到自己重要——而且要真诚而为※人性的弱点之十七：喜欢与人争论反之：避免辩论，争论下去是没有输赢的※人性的弱点之十八：不尊重他人的意见反之：对别人的意见表示尊重，不管是对是错※人性的弱点之十九：不敢承认自己的错误反之：如果你错了，迅速而真诚地承认并及时改正※人性的弱点之二十：对他人缺乏友善反之：以友善的方式开始，并不是全世界都是你的敌人※人性的弱点之二十一：首先让别人说“不”反之：首先让别人说“是，是的”※人性的弱点之二十二：不让他人说话反之：让对方多说话※人性的弱点之二十三：将自己的意见强加于人反之：让别人觉得那是他们的主意※人性的弱点之二十四：不从他人的角度考虑问题反之：真诚的尽力从对方的角度看事情※人性的弱点之二十五：不理解他人的意愿反之：理解对方的意念及欲望※人性的弱点之二十六：引发他人产生不良的动机反之：激发他人去产生一种高尚的动机※人性的弱点之二十七：过于直踝的表达自己的意图反之：将你的意图表演出来※人性的弱点之二十八：缺乏激励于竞争机制反之：向他提出一个挑战※人性的弱点之二十九：不愿称赞与欣赏他人反之：从称赞与真诚的欣赏开始※人性的弱点之三十：直接批评他人反之：间接指出他人的错误※人性的弱点之三十一：喜欢责怪他人反之：在指责他人之前，先想想自己的错误※人性的弱点之三十二：拼命指使他人反之：以提问的方式来代替命令※人性的弱点之三十三：不给他人面子反之：保全他人的面子※人性的弱点之三十四：从不鼓励他人反之：称赞他人的每个进步，即使十分微小，要“诚于嘉许，宽于称道”※人性的弱点之三十五：不使他人乐于行事反之：使对方乐于做你所建议的事※人性的弱点之三十六：喜欢唠叨不休反之：切勿，切勿喋喋不休※人性的弱点之三十七：总是试图改造对方反之：不要改造你的丈夫或妻子※人性的弱点之三十八：对你的伴侣毫不在意反之：给予对方真诚的欣赏及关注※人性的弱点之三十九：不大注重小事反之：注重那些看似小事的事情※人性的弱点之四十：缺乏应有的礼节反之：对你的妻子（丈夫）要有礼貌※人性的弱点之四十一：不对自己的行为负责反之：要承担自己行为的后果，要为自己的行为负责，而不是光踢椅子※人性的弱点之四十二：将困难当做难以逾越的障碍反之：不要在乎困难，也许它是一种幸运的开始※人性的弱点之四十三：无法摆脱生活中的不幸反之：学会开导自己摆脱生活中的不幸※人性的弱点之四十四：缺乏生活的信仰反之：拥有自己的信仰并付诸行动※人性的弱点之四十五：忽视自己的个性反之：相信自己，你是独一无二的※人性的弱点之四十六：盲目顺从他人反之：要有自己的主见※人性的弱点之四十七：陷入孤独反之：幸福并不是*别人来布施，而是要自己去赢取别人对你的需求和喜爱※人性的弱点之四十八：试图改变不可避免的事实反之：不要试图改变那些不可避免的情况，而应去尽力适应它※人性的弱点之四十九：无法排解心中的忧虑反之：运用卡瑞尔万能公式，做一个无忧无虑的人编辑本段读后感戴尔.卡耐基所著的《人性的弱点》是一部极好的心理学著作，书中论述了与人相处的基本技巧，平安快乐的要诀，如何使人喜欢你等方面的问题，富有哲理的讲述，生动的实例，给人以深刻的启发。
