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拓展阅读：Setting Limits with Friends Many people find themselves caught up in others' problems, then feel confused about how and when to help.Take your good friend who just left her husband. Do you offer her a place to stay, money, advice, help with baby-sitting, a blind date or two?Or take the friend who can never make it to the end of the month on a budget. Every month you bail him/her out.How much is enough?And how much is too much?What fosters self-esteem and self-reliance for the other person plus mutual respect for both of you while avoiding the pitfalls of dependency?All relationships need limits whether they are friendships, sibling relations, mate/lovers, business relations, etc. On some level, all limit setting means saying "no." However, it is usually a qualified nay that says what, where, when, and under what circumstances you will give or not give to another person.If you have long-term feelings of resentment, anger, manipulation, being treated as unimportant, etc., you probably need to set some limits in your relationship. There are five steps to limit setting:1. Choosing to set limits. You will tolerate a difficult relationship situation just as long as you choose to tolerate it. You are the one choosing to set boundaries in place.2. Identify the source of your feelings. It often takes some real soul-searching on your part to figure out the source of your anger or resentment.3. Decide where to set the limits. Think about the entire situation. Consider your time, emotions, and means. Then consider whether you are helping the other person or merely allowing them avoid or postpone his/her own problem solving. Aim to do something to help the other person without taking on the whole problem.4. Express the limits clearly. For example, you say to your friend, "I will loan you up to $200.00 no more than once every three months. And I expect each loan to be repaid within three months and certainly before you can borrow more."You say to another friend, "You can stay here for three weeks but you must help me with expenses and cooking and definitely find your own place before the three weeks is up."You say to your newly divorced friend who calls often to rehash her hurt and anger, "I have to go in five minutes."5. Stick to your limits. You are not responsible for making the other person obey the limits. You are only responsible for following the limits yourself and for reinforcing them.Your divorced friend says at the end of five minutes, "But I'm not through. I really need to tell you one more thing."You say, "I know we're in the middle of something but I must go. Perhaps we could take this up again Thursday after work."Your friend has repaid $125.00 of his/her $200.00 loan and asks for $200.00 more. You say no. He/she gets emotional then says, "Well just loan me the $125.00 again. I need this money to cover a bad check. If you cared for our friendship, you would do it."Again, you say no, not because you don't care for him/her but because you do. You are forcing your friend to detach him/herself from dependence on you because you care.Limit setting is difficult because people mistake it for rejection. However, limits mean that you care enough not to get entangled in your friend, lover, sibling's problems; you care enough not to take care of him/her...Limit setting is often stressful and painful. It will probably give you an intimidating sense of aloneness.You are separating yourself from old familiar roles and behavior patterns. Any loss brings feelings of anxiety, stress, and even emptiness.And limit setting inevitably brings guilt. Bear in mind, it doesn't mean you have deserted or quit loving your friend, lover, or sibling. It does mean you are expressing that love in a different and more helpful (to both of you) manner.Setting limits is a challenging task at work; it often seems an insurmountable taskwhen love is involved. However, like all people skills, setting limits is a process that gets easier with practice.。
U n i t1G e t t i n g a l o n g w i t h o t h e r sReading 1Objectives:1.To help Ss get a general idea about the text.2. To make Ss become familiar with the detailed information about the text.3. To help Ss master Reading Strategy.Teaching important point:1.How to make the students understand the passage better.2.How to help the students finish all the exercises.3.How to help the students develop their creative, comprehensive and consolidating abilities. Interaction Patterns: Teachers -class, individuals, pairsProcedures for teaching:Step 1 lead-inDiscussion● 1. Do you have any important events or unforgettable experiences with your closefriends?● 2. Please share something with us and tell us what to do when meeting withdifficulties in friendship.(1). If your friend tells others about your secrets, how will you feel and what will youreact?(2). When your friendship is in trouble, will you stop talking with your friend and make anew friend?Conclusion● 1. We should keep our promise and keep friends’ secrets. Honesty is one of the mostimportant factors in the friendship.● 2. Friends should unite and help each other when meeting with some difficulties bothin study or in other fields of life.Step 2 Comprehension of the textFirst reading●By using these two rul es, let’s go over the two letters for the first time and try toanswer questions below.1. What did Sarah think about the Maths quiz?2. What did S arah tell Hannah in the girls’ washroom?3. Why did Sarah tell Hannah that they weren’t going to be friends a ny more?4. Why did Matthew get annoyed at Andrew after the match?5. What did Matthew think about losing the match?6. What kind of boy is Matthew? Is he usually a quiet boy?Second reading●Read the article again and finish part C2. Try to identify how Sarah and Andrew feltand why they felt like so.●Make sure you pick the relevant information within the given time.Step 3 Language items1.Match new words with their definitions2.Find out the similar words in the 2nd letterStep 4 Discussion1. Do you think Sarah and Hannah should try to be friends again or go their separate ways?2. If you found out that your best friends had made friends with another person, what would you think about this and what would you do?Step 5 Reading strategyHow do they show their strong feelings when meeting difficulties in friendship?1. I must be really stupid…. (line11)2. Everyone must have been laughing behind my back. (line20)3. I was so angry that… (line21)4. It is really awkward….. (line 46)Step 6 Group workWork in groups and try to make a dialogue which is full of strong feelings.Suppose you were in a quarrel with your best friends, and turn to another one for help. You need to tell him the causes and how you feel about it. And the helper should give advice.Reading 2: Language FocusObjectives:1.Revise the reading passage by retelling it.2. Get the students to grasp the usage of some important words and expressions.3. Get the students to practice two important drills.Teaching important point:Dear Sarah,You have every right to feel _______ by your friend if she did tell your secret to others and then _________ that she was innocent, but perhaps she did n’t do it. Would a best friend really act this way?If you still have doubts, think about why you don’t believe her. Was it because you were ashamed of your _______ grade, or because you envied her?If so, the problem lies with you, not her. While it may feel ________, if she really is your best friend you should ________ for blaming her. However, if you really sense that she wanted to embarrass you in public, you had better find a new friend.Yours trulyAnnieDear Andrew,It seems you need to apologize quickly to avoid losing a good friend! Matthew probably felt _____ about losing the match, and bad about not being as gifted at football as you are. Shouting at him just made him feel worse.Although you both said _____ things to each other, one of you has to be the first to _______ that it was a mistake. You are simply going to have to ______ him.You ______ that your friendship is as important as football, so don’t let a small disagreement destroy your friendship.Talk to your friend and I’m sure that, before long, you’ll be back playing football together. SincerelyAnnielanguage points1. We have been good friends since primary school.(1).Unemployment in that country is now at its lowest level since WWII.该国的失业率处于二战以来的最低水平.(2).She left her hometown five years ago. We haven’t seen her since.自那以后=from then on(3).It is just three days since they arrived at the mountain.(4).Since you are so busy, perhaps we should ask someone else.2. We are no fun.(un.)(1).Her baby is great fun./ sailing a boat is great fun. (有趣的人/事)(2). I write not just for the pay, but for fun.(乐趣).We had a lot of fun at the party.(3).They often make fun of me for this.Don’t make ___of the blind man.A funB funsC funnyD a funfun 做名词时不可数,不能与a连用,也没有复数形式.3. Must (when guessing, there seems to be no other possibilities)(1).I must have sounded very proud of myself .我当时的口气听上去肯定很自得.You must have left your wallet in the office.你肯定是把钱包落在办公室里了.(2).may have done (it’s not certain)Something may have happened to her.可能她发生了什么事.4. I can’t help wondering…..(1)cannot help doing sth.情不自禁做某事例: He cannot help talking to his deskmate in class.上课时他忍不住要和同桌讲话.(2)cannot help it 没有办法例: He just can’t help it. He has to obey orders.(3)can’t help do sth.无法帮助做某事例:I can’t help do the housework for my mum.Homework1.Unit Revision: Period 3.2.A1 & A2 in the workbook.。
牛津高中英语模块五第一单元Module 5 Unit 1 Getting along with othersProject Giving an oral report (教学设计)223001 江苏省淮安市清河中学孙勇Sunyong30@Thoughts on the design:本课是以读引做的“project”。
在学生课前完成学案的预习之后，教师及时批改并在课堂上及时反馈，总结归纳学案的完成情况，从学生汇报自己所做的调查表结果开始引发同学们对于友谊的不同看法，然后通过课文“Teenagers’ friendship”的学习，先分析“report”的内容要点，培养学生获取信息的能力，借助于文章信息帮助学生分析这个报告的结构。
引导学生写“report”需要注意的事项，并帮助学生复习问卷设计的注意事项。
通过学习，学生将能出好一份调查问卷进行调查，并模仿“Teenagers’ Friendship”写一份调查报告并口头呈现给所有同学分享。
Teaching aims:1. To develop the students’reading ability by reading the article from the school magazine；2. To get the students to have a deep and clear understanding of different attitudes ofboys and girls towards friendship;；3. To practice Ss’ oral ability by anticipating in the oral report；4. To improve Ss’ team work spirit by finishing and presenting the project；5. To improve Ss’ emotional sense of friendship.Focal points: 1. Reading comprehension of the passage.2.Preparing to give an oral report.Difficult points:Analysis of the strusture of the report.Teaching aids: A questionnaire, a tape recorder, the slide projectorTeaching procedures:Step 1 Feedback of the studying plan.1. Check if the students have remembered the proverb “有志者事竟成”.2. Get the students to report his facts according to the questionnaire and discuss ifthere is any difference between boys’ and girls’ friendship.3. What’s your definition of friendship? (ask boys and girls to answer separately)4. Do you think boys and girls have different attitudes towards friendship?[设计意图] “天天记忆”环节有助于学生背诵一些常用的英语谚语，因为谚语已经成为近几年高考题中的一个考察项目，把谚语背诵落实在日常高一高二基础年级的教学活动中可以让学生轻轻松松地学会很多谚语，日积月累之后到高三总复习时再稍作总结就可以基本上满足高考的要求了。
这个“project”让学生比较男女生的某个差别并作出一个报告。
“Project”的文章给我们提供了一个范本。
由本单元的话题导入比较自然，同时也讨论了男女生友谊观的差别，为读文章做了铺垫。
通过课前学生完成学案中调查表的内容，可以对于文章内容有所预测，同时该调查表也有助于学生设计和完善自己所要进行的调查内容。
在上课的一开始，就给学生明确了本节课的目的是要做一个自己的“report”，能引导学生注意模仿书上的例子。
Step 2 Reading1. Check the answers to the following questions.1) What puzzles Robert?Some things about Amanda and her friends. For example, he can’t understand what girls can talk about for so long.2) What’s the difference between boys and girls in their attitudes towards friendship? Girls always seem to have a lot to talk about with their best frineds. They seem to have more friendships than boys. Boys cannot name a single best friend.3) What are boys’ and girls’ friendships each based on?Girls’friendships are based on shared feelings and support while boys’friendships are based on shared activities or interests.2. Judge the following sentences TRUE or FALSE. If it’s wrong, then try to correct it.1) Both boys and girls have a lot to talk about with their best friends.FALSE “Girls have a lot to talk about with their best friends.”2) According to studies, girls have more friendships than boys. TRUE3) Boys can easily name a best friend when asked.FALSE“Boys can not easily name a best friend when asked.”4) If a boy has a best friend, they seem to share much about their feelings.FALSE “If a boy has a best friend, they seem to share much about activities or interests.”5) A girl’s best friend might be the first to tell her about something good or bad thathas happened in her life. TRUE6)There is no friendship between boys because their friendship is based on activities.FALSE “Although boys’ friendship is based on activities, there is still friendship between boys.”3.Check the answers to the task-based reading.4. Go over the passage and find the main idea and some detailed information.1) Analyze para.2 to para.7 by finding out the answers to the following two questions.Q1. W hat’s the theme of this part?Different attitudes of boys and girls towards friendship.Q2. What are the differences?Boys’ friendships are based on shared activities while girls on shared feelings.Para. 2 Raise the topic of this part: boys and girls have different attitudes towards friendship.Para. 3 Results of many studies about friendships are consistent worldwide.Paras 4-5 Adolescent boys cannnot name a single best friend, which is different from adolesect girls.Para. 6 Friendships between girls and boys are based on different things.Para. 7 Conclusion of the differences.Q3. How does the writer prove his idea that boys and girls are different in the attitudes of friends in para. 4 and para.5?By stating what the interviewees actually say about friendships.2)Analyze para. 1--- the first paragraph.What’s the function of the first paragraph. 1?To introduce the topic of this report by using an example.3) Analyze para.8---the last paragraph.What’s the function of the last paragraph?To summarize the similarities in the attitudes towards friendship between boys and girls.5. Review the structure of this report.So after getting the details of the report, let’s have an overall view of the structure.1）Use an example or a story to introduce the topic;2）Present some differences by analyzing data or stating what the interviewees say;3）Draw a conclusion;4）Mention some similarities.[设计意图] 通过第一至三项学案中的练习，有助于学生从整体到细节熟悉文章内容，学生进一步了解男女生友谊观的差异，培养学生获取信息的能力。
