1. important =crucial (extremely important),significant(amount or effect large enough to be important)
https://www.doczj.com/doc/e711148017.html,mon=universal, ubiquitous(if something is ubiquitous, it seems to be everywhere)
3.abundant=ample(enough and usually extra), plentiful(enough for people's needs and wants)
4.stick=adhere, cling(hold on something tightly)
5.neglect=ignore.(difference: neglect means someone has not paid enough attention to something; ignore means no attention.)
6.near=adjacent(twothings next to each other), adjoin(the same as adjacent)
7.pursue=woo(man woos woman, old-fashioned), seek(if you seek sth, you try to obtain it. FORMAL)
8.accurate=precise(precise is exact and accurate in all details), exact(correct in every detail)
9.vague=obscure(unknown or known by only a few people)
10.top=peak, summit
https://www.doczj.com/doc/e711148017.html,petitor=rival, opponent(especially in sports and politics)
12.blame=condemn(if you condemn something, you say it is very bad and unacceptable)
13.opinon=perspective, standpoint(means looking at an event or situation in a particular way)
14.fame=prestige(describe those who are admired), reputation
15.build=erect(you can erect something as buildings, FORMAL), establish
16.insult=humiliate(do something or say something which makes people feel ashamed or stupid)
https://www.doczj.com/doc/e711148017.html,plain=grumble (complain something in a bad-tempered way)
18.primary=radical (very important and great in degree), fundamental
19.relieve=alleviate (alleviate means you make pain or sufferings less intense or severe)
20.force=coerces into(coerce means you make someone do something s/he does not want to),compel
21.enlarge=magnify(magnify means make something larger than it really is)
https://www.doczj.com/doc/e711148017.html,plex=intricate(if something is intricate, it often has many small parts and details)
23. Lonely=solitary (if someone is solitary, there is no one near him/her
25.praise=extol(stronger than praise), compliment(polite and political)
26.hard-working=assiduous(someone who is assiduous works hard or does things very thoroughly
27.difficult=arduous (if something is arduous, it is difficult and tiring, and involves a lot of efforts)
28.poor(soil)=barren, infertile(used to describe the soil is so poor that plants cannot be planted on it)
29.fragile=brittle, vulnerable(someone who is vulnerable is easily hurt emotionally or physically)
30.show=demonstrate (to demonstrate a fact means tp make it clear to people.)
31.big=massive(large in size, quantity, or extent), colossal(use this word, you emphas ize something’s large), tremendous(INFORMAL)
32.avoid=shun(if someone shuns something, s/he deliberately avoid that something or keep away from it.)
33.fair=impartial(someone who is impartial is able to give a fair opinion or decision on something.)
34.attack=assault (physically attack someone), assail (attack violently
35.dislike=abhor(abhor means you hate something to a extreme extent for moral reasons), loathe(dislike very much)!
36.ruin=devastate (it means damage something very badly, or utterly destroy it.)
37.always=invariably(the same as always, but better than always)
38.forever=perpetual(a perpetual state never changes), immutable(something immutable will never change or be changed)
39.surprise=startle(it means surprise you slightly), astound(surprise you to a large degree),astonish(the same as astound)
40.enthusiasm=zeal (a great enthusiasm), fervency (sincere and enthusiasm)
41.quiet=tranquil(calm and peaceful), serene(calm and quiet)!
42.expensive=exorbitant(it means too expensive that it should be)
43.luxurious=lavish(impressive and very expensive), sumptuous(grand and very expensive
44.boring=tedious(if you describe something tedious, you mean it is boring and frustrating)
46.respect=esteem(if you esteem someone, you respect and admire him/her. FORMAL)
47.worry=fret(if you fret about something, you worry about it)
48.cold=chilly(unpleasantly cold), icy(extremely cold)
health)
51.nowadays=currently
52.only=unique(the only one of its kind), distinctive;
53.stop=cease(if something ceases, it stops happening or existing)
54.part=component(the components of something are the parts that it is made of)
55.result=consequence(the results or effects of something)
56.obvious=apparent, manifest
57.basedon=derived fromcan see or notice them very easily)
58.quite=fairly
59.pathetic=lamentable(very uncomfortable and disappointing)
60.field=domain(a particular field of thought, activities or interest)
61.appear=emerge(come into existence)
62.whole=entire(the whole of something)
63.wet=moist(slightly wet), damp(slightly wet), humid(very damp and hot)!
64.wrong=erroneous(incorrect or partly correct)
65.difficult=formidable
66.change=convert(change into another form)
67.typical=quintessential(this word means represent a typical example of something)
68.careful=cautious(very careful in order to avoid danger), prudent(careful and sensible)
69.ability=capacity, capability(the same as ability)
70.strange=eccentric(if some one is eccentric, s/he behaves in a strange way, or his/her opinion is different from most people)
71.rich=affluent(if you are affluent, you have a lot of money)
https://www.doczj.com/doc/e711148017.html,e= utilize (the same as use)
74.satisfy=gratify (if you are gratified by something, it gives you pleasure and satisfaction)
75.short=fleeting, ephemeral(if something is ephemeral, it lasts a short time)
76.scholarship=fellowship
77.angry=enraged(extremely angry)
78.smelly=malodorous(used to describe an unpleasant smell)
79.ugly=hideous(if something is hideous, it is very ugly or unattractive)
80.attractive=appealing(pleasing and attractive), absorbing(something absorbing can attract you a great deal)
81.diverse=miscellaneous(a miscellaneous groups consists of many different kinds of things)
82.disorder=disarray, chaos
83.crazily=frantically(used to describe someone who behaves in a wild and uncontrolled way)
84.rapid=meteoric(ATTENTION: meteoric is only used to describe someone achieves success quickly)
85.ordinary=mundane(very ordinary and not at interesting or unusual)
86.despite=notwithstanding(FORMAL)
87.best=optimal(used to describe the best level something can achieve)/
88.sharp=acute(severe and intense)
89.unbelievable=inconceivable(ifyou deem something inconceivable, you think it very unlike to happen ^
90.puzzle=perplex(something perplex someone means it confuses and worries him/her because he/she does not understand it)
91.method=avenue(away of getting something done)
92.famous=distinguished(used to describe people who are successful in their career)
93.ancient=archaic(extremely old and extremely old-fashioned)
94.decorate=embellish(embellish means make something look more attractive via decorating it with something else)/
95.possible=feasible(if something is feasible, it can be done, made or achieved)
96.so=consequently, accordingly
98.greedy=rapacious(greedy and selfish)
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Thousand times no! 绝对办不到！Easy does it. 慢慢来。
Don't push me. 别逼我。Have a good of it.玩的很高兴。
What is the fuss？吵什么？Still up？还没睡呀？
It doesn't make any differences. 没关系。Don't let me down. 别让我失望。
God works. 上帝的安排。Don't take ill of me. 别生我气。
Does it serve your purpose？对你有用吗？Don't flatter me. 过奖了。
Big mouth! 多嘴驴！Sure thing! 当然！
I''m going to go. 我这就去。Never mind. 不要紧。
Can-do. 能人。Close-up. 特写镜头。
Drop it! 停止！Bottle it! 闭嘴！Don''t play possum! 别装蒜！
There is nobody by that name working here.这里没有这个人。
Break the rules. 反规则。How big of you! 你真棒！
Poor thing! 真可怜！Nuts! 呸；胡说；混蛋
Make it up! 不记前嫌！Watch you mouth. 注意言辞。
Any urgent thing？有急事吗？Don't over do it. 别太过分了。
Can you dig it？你搞明白了吗？You want a bet？你想打赌吗？
What if I go for you？我替你去怎么样？Who wants？谁稀罕？
Follow my nose. 凭直觉做某事。Gild the lily. 画蛇添足。
I'll be seeing you. 再见。
I wonder if you can give me a lift？能让我搭一程吗？
I might hear a pin drop. 非常寂静。Why are you so sure？怎么这样肯定？
Is that so？是这样吗？Don't get loaded. 别喝醉了。
Don't get high hat. 别摆架子。Right over there. 就在那里。
Doggy bag. 打包袋。That rings a bell. 听起来耳熟。
Sleeping on both ears. 睡的香。Play hooky. 旷工、旷课。
I am the one wearing pants in the house. 我当家.
It's up in the air. 尚未确定。I am all ears. 我洗耳恭听。
Get cold feet. 害怕做某事。Good for you! 好得很！
Help me out. 帮帮我。Let's bag it. 先把它搁一边。
Lose head. 丧失理智。Talk truly. 有话直说。
He is the pain on neck. 他真让人讨厌。You bet! 一定，当然！
That is a boy! 太好了，好极了！It's up to you. 由你决定。
The line is engaged. 占线。My hands are full right now. 我现在很忙。
Don't make up a story. 不要捏造事实。
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. 小别胜新婚。
She make a mess of things. 她把事情搞得一塌糊涂。
Get an eyeful. 看个够。He has a quick eye. 他的眼睛很锐利。
Shoot the breeze. 闲谈。Tell me when! 随时奉陪！
Let's play it by ear. 让我们随兴所至。Why so blue？怎么垂头丧气？
What brought you here？什么风把你吹来了？Chin up. 不气，振作些。
You never know. 世事难料。High jack! 举起手来(抢劫)！
I'll get even with him one day. 我总有一天跟他扯平
She's got quite a wad. 她身怀巨款。
I don't have anywhere to be. 没地方可去。
I'm dying to see you. 我很想见你。Nothing tricky. 别耍花招。
Price is soaring, if it goes on like this, we shall not be able to keep the pot boiling.
物价直线上升，这样子下去，我们锅里可没什么东西煮饭。
None of you keyhole. 不准偷看。
Come on, be reasonable. 嗨，你怎么不讲道理。
You don't say so. 未必吧，不至于这样吧。Don't get me wrong. 别误会我。
You don't seem to be quite yourself today. 你今天看起来不大对劲。
Do you have any money on you？你身上带钱了吗？
Dinner is on me. 晚饭我请。Not precisely! 不见得，不一定！
We have no way out. 我们没办法。
I hate to be late and keep my date waiting. 我不喜欢迟到而让别人久等。
It doesn't take much of you time. 这不花你好多时间。
Not in the long run. 从长远来说不是这样的。
It is of high quality. 它质量上乘。He pushes his luck. 他太贪心了。
I can't make both ends meet. 我上个月接不到下个月，缺钱。
It can be a killer. 这是个伤脑筋的问题。You ask for it! 活该！
英语口语中好用的四词短句
Are you by yourself? 你一个人来吗?
Are you kidding me? 跟我开玩笑啊?
Back in a moment! 马上回来!
Boys will be boys! 本性难移!
Come to the point! 有话直说!
Do I have to? 我一定要做吗?
Don't count on me! 别指望我!
Don't fall for it! 别上当!
Don't get me wrong! 你搞错了!
Don't give me that! 少来这套!
Don't let me down! 别让我失望!
Don't over do it! 别做过头了!
Drop me a line!要写信给我!
Easy come easy go! 来得容易去也快!
Get a move on! 快点吧!
Give me a break! 饶了我吧!
Glad you like it! 很高兴你喜欢!
Great minds think alike! 英雄所见略同!
He always talks big! 他老是吹牛!
He's a double crosser! 他是个骗子!
I cross my heart! 我发誓是真的!
I just made it! 我做到了!
I watch my money! 视财如命!
I'll be right back! 我马上回来!
I'll check it out! 我去查查看!
I’m in a hurry! 我赶时间!
I’m not that bad! 我没那么差吧?
I’m short on cash! 我缺钱!
I’ve got the blues! 我很郁闷!
If I were you...=if I were in your shoes如果我是你...
It kills my eyes! 太好看了!
It’s Greek to me! 我完全不懂!
It’s no big deal! 没什么大不了的!
It’s worth a try! 值得一试!
Just wait and see! 等着瞧!
Know what I mean? 明白我的意思吧?
Let’s change the subject! 换个话题吧!
My mouth is watering! 我要流口水了!
No pain no gain! 吃一堑长一智!
None of your business! 没你事!
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连词篇：（介词，副词）
Firstly: previously, beforehand, foremost, initially, originally, formerly, principally, mainly, essentially, basically, generally, commonly, universally, on the whole, fundamentally, to begin with, to start with, first of all, at the outset…
Then: subsequently, afterward, thereafter, after that, succeeding (adj.), secondarily, what is more, furthermore (further more)…
Lastly: ultimately, eventually, in conclusion, to conclude, as a final point, last of all, last but not least, finally…
Too: as well (句末), in addition, besides, moreover, additionally, to boot, excessively, also…
And: plus, as well as, along with, in addition, bonus, with…
+Or: otherwise, if not, before, or else…
So (adv): therefore, thus, consequently, accordingly, as a result, for that reason, hence, that’s why
Because: as, due to, since, as to, in that, for the reason that, for, now that…
But: however, moreover, nevertheless, nonetheless, on the contrary, on the other hand, 让步although, even thought, though, even if, while, as, despite the fact that…
Only: just, merely, barely, singly, solely, rarely…
Without: excluding,
Very: extremely, acutely, decidedly, deeply, exceedingly, greatly, highly, uncommonly, profoundly, unusually…
Actually: as a matter of fact, indeed, in fact, in point of fact, in reality, in truth, literally, truly …
形容词/副词
Important: essential, significant, vital, crucial, profound, play a pushing role,indispensable, requisite, critical, fundamental, primary, elementa ry, underlying, rudimentary, basically, necessary…
-附加-傻句替换：I think that A is more important than B. (这是经典大傻句！以下句中的'important'可随意替换同义词）
1. A is important to B.
2. A plays an/a important role to B.
3. A is of (great\enormous\significant\awesome) to B.
4. B can not (live\developed\grow\survive\achieve) without A.
5. A means (a lot\a great deal\much) to B.
6. The importance of A (to B) can never be (exaggerated\denied\ignored\doubted).
8. B is fundamental on A.
9. A matters/counts to B.
10. Nothing is more crucial to B than A.
11. A is to B what the (foundation is to a skyscraper\water is to fish\the heart is to a human)
Big: gigantic, massive, colossal, enormous, immense, gargantuan, tremendous, titanic, giant, vast, large, huge, monster, bulky,
->many: numerous, myriad, infinite,
->forever (adv): infinity, eternal, timeless, everlasting，undying, endless, changeless, perpetually…
Small: minimum, diminutive, minute, petite, wee, undersized, teeny, tiny, little, petite（女子身高娇小）
Good: marvelous, fabulous, gorgeous, spectacular, outstanding, distinguished, remarkable, superb, incredible, unbelievable, out of this world, magnificent, charming, stunning, fantastic, terrific, excellent, great, wonderful, amazing, awesome
Bad: awful, terrible, dreadful, defective, faulty, imperfect, inadequate, poor, substandard, unsatisfactory, harmful, damaging, deleterious, detrimental, hurtful, ruinous, unhealthy, evil, immoral…
Clever: brilliant, knowledgeable, intellectual, intelligent, excellent, bright, smart
Happy: delightful, delectable, elated, glad, overjoyed, pleased, jubilant, merry, joyful,
Beautiful: charming, charismatic, attractive, gorgeous, pretty, endearing, sweet, adorable, eye-catching, handsome, hot, cute, good-looking, lovable, engaging…
Fast：swift, quick, rapid, speedy, hasty, nippy, like lightning,
+hurry (v): hustle, rush, make haste, tear, step on it, dash, get a move on, step on it, scoot.
Easy: simple, effortless, no trouble, painless, plain sailing, uncomplicated, undemanding, unproblematic, a piece of cake (informal), child’s play (informal),…
Clear: obvious, apparent, blatant, comprehensible, conspicuous, distinct, evident, manifest, palpable, plain, pronounced, recognizable, transparent, intelligible, lucid, plain, understandable, uninvolved, simple, …
Direct: bald, basic, frank, naked, plain, sincere, stark, straightforward, candid, forthright, outspoken….
Difficult: hard, tricky, c omplicated, complex, intricate, involved, knotty, perplexing, puzzling, thorny…
Angry: annoyed, cross, displeased, enraged, exasperated, incensed, infuriated, irate, mad (informal), livid (informal), berserk, outraged, resentful...
Dangerous: perilous, breakneck, chancy (informal), hazardous, insecure, precarious, risky, unsafe, vulnerable
动词
Think (that): hold the (opinion/ belief/ position/stand point/idea) that, assume, believe, deem, reckon, argue, maintain, suppose, conceive, insist, be convinced, to my knowledge, personally, from my personal perspective, as far as I am concerned, from my point of view, from my angle, consider, conceive, perspective...
Show: convey, reveal, express, corroborate, justify, imply, verify, clarify, signify, exemplify, illuminate, substantiate, demonstrate, elucidate, denote, characterized as, instruct, display, disclose, indicate, means, explain, give an/a example (reason, explanation) of, bear out, point out, point toward…
Know: realize, comprehend, identify, distinguish, discern, notice, perceive, recognize, see, understand, figure out, be acquainted with, be familiar with,
Get: acquire, attain, acquire, achieve, obtain, gain “学习”不用learn
Suggest: have a proposal in,
Increase: magnify, expand, proliferate, mushroom, improve, enhance, advance…
Impress: affect, inspire, engrave on, imprint of,
Influence: impact, affect, guide, sway,
Stop: halt, cease, conclude, desist, end, pause, put an end to, quit, refrain, shut down, terminate…
Make: create, assemble, built, construct, form, manufacture; fore, cause, compel, constrain, drive, impel, induce, oblige, prevail, upon, require…
Give: present, award, contribute, deliver, donate, grant, hand over, hand out, provide, supply
Break：separate, burst, crack, destroy, disintegrate, fracture, fragment, shatter, smash, snap
Destroy: ruin, raze, annihilate, crush, demolish, devastate, eradicate, shatter, wipe out, wreck, obliterate, weaken, undermine…
名词
Problem: issue, question, case, trouble, difficulty, dilemma.
Meeting: conference, discussion, assembly, conclave, congress, convention, gathering session, assignation, encounter, confronta tion, argument, controversy…
Study: learning, application, lessons, reading, research, school work, examination, analysis, consideration, contemplation, inspection, investigation, knowledge,scholarship…
Advantage: benefit, dominance, precedence, pr ofit, superiority, merit…
Disadvantage: shortcoming, weakness, inconvenience, drawback, deficiency, flaw, handicap (also v. 妨碍), downside, limitation.
Life: existence, conduct, life style, way of life
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The answer is zero! 白忙了!
The dice is cast! 已成定局了!
The same as usual! 一如既往!
The walls have ears! 隔墙有耳!
There you go again! 你又来了!
Time is running out! 没有时间了!
We better get going! 最好马上就走!
Well discuss it later! 回头再说吧!
We are all for it! 我们全都赞成!
We've been expecting you! 我们正等着你呢! What a good deal! 真便宜!
What a let down! 真令人失望!
What do you figure? 你有什么想法?
What happened to you? 你怎么了?
What should I do? 我应该怎样做?
What's would you recommend? 你有何意见? What's come over you? 你怎么了?
What's it to you? 这跟你有关吗?
What's on your mind? 你在想什么?
Which would you prefer? 你要选哪个? Wouldn't you say so? 你说不是这样吗? You are most understanding! 你真体贴!
You asked for it! 你自讨苦吃!
You cant be serious! 你不是认真的吧?
You cant miss it! 你不可能找不到的!
Any day will do? 哪一天都可以?
Any messages for me? 有我的留言吗?
Are you by yourself? 你一个人来吗?
All right with you? 你没有问题吧?
Are you free tomorrow? 明天有空吗?
Are you kidding me? 你在跟我开玩笑吧?
Back in a moment! 马上回来!
Believe it or not! 信不信由你!
Better luck next time! 下次会更好!
Boy will be boys 本性难移!
Come to the point! 有话直说!
Do you accept plastic? 收不收行用卡?
Does it keep long? 可以保存吗?
Don't be so fussy! 别挑剔了!Don't count to me! 别指望我! Don't fall for it! 不要上当!
Don't get me wrong! 你搞错了!
Don't give me that! 少来这套!
Don't let me down! 别让我失望!
Don't lose your head! 别乐昏了头!
Don't over do it! 别做过头了!
Don't sit there daydreaming! 别闲着做白日梦!
Don't stand on ceremony! 别太拘束!
Drop me a line! 要写信给我!
Easy come easy go! 来得容易去得也快!
First come first served! 先到先得!
Get a move on! 快点吧!
Get off my back! 不要嘲笑我!
Give him the works! 给他点教训!
Give me a break! 饶了我吧!
Give me a hand! 帮我一个忙!
I'll treat you to lunch. 午餐我请你!
In one ear, out the other ear. 一耳进，一耳出!
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与通常所列举的应该培养的有益习惯不同，本文在此举出的是我们最好避免的7种习惯。
就像寻找对你有益的习惯一样，寻找妨碍你的习惯同样重要。这7种习惯中大多数都可能会轻易成为你日常生活的一部分，使你难以察觉它的存在（或者它如何影响到你）。我曾经略微尝试了这些习惯，结果毫无疑问，那些重要的事情没有几个可以完成。同时我也要添加说明的是，这只是在生活中你可能形成的影响效率的主要的7个习惯，我很确定绝不仅仅是这些。
1、缺席。
也许你曾经听过伍迪·艾伦所说的这句话：
“百分之八十的成功来自于出席。”
更多的出席——这是在生活中你可以保证更多成功所做的最大也是最简单的事情之一，无论是在你的社交生活中，你的事业上还是你的健康方面。如果你想要改善你的健康状况，一个最重要也是最有效的事情就是在每次你该出席时出现在健身房里。
也许天气会不好，也许你会不想出门，也许你有一大堆其他必须要做的事情。但是，如果即使你在积极性不高时仍然继续出现在健身房里，那将比你呆在家里的沙发上放松要有效的多。
我想这个也可以推及到生活的其他领域。如果你每天都坚持写作或绘画，你就会快速的得到提高。如果你更多的出门你就可以遇到更多的新朋友。如果你参加更多的约会，你遇到心上人的机会就会大大提高。仅仅只是更多出席就会使你的生活大大不同。而缺席却会使你毫无收获。
2、拖拖拉拉。
为了简化，我将最喜欢的3种摆脱拖拉情况的方法列举如下：
-吞食青蛙。也就是说在一天的最开始就完成那些最艰难最重要的工作。早上良好的开始会让你一天都保持高昂的情绪和积极的动力。这通常会使你这一天都十分高效。
-你如何吃掉一头大象呢？不要打算一口吃成胖子，这会使你感到过多负担以至于产生拖延的念头。把一项工作分为若干可付诸于行动的小步骤，然后仅仅关注第一步直到把它完成，接下来再继续下一步。
-说服自己。我发现这种向导型调整十分有效。就在我花了20分钟躺在床上反复默念在这几天里我都十分高效之后，我就不再会陷入拖拉的情况或者浏览1至5个我喜爱的网站寻找更新信息的必要。
3、做一些无关紧要的事情。
除了拖拖拉拉以外，你最容易陷入的不良习惯之一就是忙于一些无关紧要的事情之中。
为了提高效率你也许需要某种时间管理方法。它可能会是一件极为简单的事情，比如在一天的开始使用80/20法则。80/20法则,也就是我们通常所熟悉的帕累托法则认为，80%的收获源自20%的努力。所以为求高效你应该将你精力的大部分集中在那些极少数重要的事情上。
当使用这个法则时你只需按优先顺序写下这一天你需要做的3件最重要的事情，然后从头做起。即使你只能完成其中的一件事，你仍然完成了今天最重要的事情。也许你也会偏爱其他诸如GTD等方法。但是无论你如何组织工作，最关键的还是寻找那些最重要的工作，这样你就不必花费几天，几个星期甚至几个月的时间去忙于那些并不是很重要的事情。如果这些事情无关紧要，那么即使你快速的完成它们也是没有多大用处的。
4、多虑。
查研究，制定一个计划，探究可能存在的积极以及不利因素。
但是强制性的反复思考就会成为另外一种浪费时间的做法了。在尝试之前你没有必要去从每一个角度检查每一件事情。而且你也不可以等到一个最完美的时间再去做事，因为这样的时间从来不会出现。如果你继续这样思考就只会使自己陷的越来越深，从而使采取行动变得越来越难。相反，虽然思考在一定程度上对你有所帮助，但你现在需要做的就只是停止思考，然后去做那些你应该做的事情。
5、凡事过于消极。
当你凡事都从消极方面考虑时，你的积极性就会被大大打击。你会发现到处都是问题和错误，而这些问题是本不存在的。你抓住细节不放。如果你想要寻找一个不做某事的理由，这当然没有问题。而当你从一个消极角度看问题时，每次你都可能找出十个借口。
因此你几乎一事无成。你向任何愿意倾听的人诉苦（也许很多人并不想听），抱怨你的工作，生活和领导有多么的差劲。你的生活取决于你如何看待这个世界，这已经成为一个能够自我实现的预测。
对此的一个解决方法就是了解消极方面的限度，认识到你的消极思考并不是这个世界的真实写照。然后不妨尝试一些其他的角度。举例来说，你可以尝试着培养一下凡事从更为积极和乐观的角度思考的习惯，这会对你大有帮助。通过这种方式，你也许就会开始尝试这种积极性的挑战。这并不容易，然而如果你接受了这种挑战，连续7天都只从积极方面思考，你就会突然意识到你看问题的角度和想法是如此深刻地影响着你对世界的理解和你所得到的成果。
6、固执己见，与世隔绝。
人们很难去承认自己的想法不是最佳选择，因此你越来越执着于自己的想法，变得闭目塞听。这会让你很难取得进步，比如说效率就会很难提高。在这种情况下，即使认真思考改变人生的可能性都会变得很难。
显然，解决方法之一就是打开心胸。开阔视野，从他人和自己的错误中汲取教训，从书籍等资源中获取知识。与任何事一样，这事说起来容易做起来难。正如前面所说，对此我的建议就是认识到你的知识领域毕竟是有限的，而你做事的方式也会存在不足。那么不妨就尝试一下新事物吧。
而我的另一条建议就是，阅读一下埃克哈特·托利的《新天地》，特别是有关Ego的章节。正如托利所建议的，如果你不再像Ego那样思考，你就会更加容易接受新思想，抛弃那些已经无用的旧思想。另外我想要补充说明的就是：不要迷信书本，也不要盲目追求新的信息，否则你就会成为一个沉迷于自我帮助的人。在行动中运用那些新信息和你学到的事情，然后加以尝试。
7、持续信息过剩。
信息过剩并不是说你过多的阅读，我所指的是所有输入信息的过剩。如果你让所有的信息都涌进大脑，这当然会导致难于清晰思考，因为刺激源太多了。以下就是这种习惯可能会存在的弊端：
-你所接受的一些信息也许会是消极的。媒体和周围环境会因种种原因提供一种消极的信息。如果你没有根据需要对信息加以选择，也许你就会陷入消极之中，从而影响到你的所思，所感，所为。
-这会使你急于追赶当今发生的事情，然而每时每刻都有十几件事同时发生，想要追赶上它们几乎是不可能的事情。你的生活会因此充满压力。
-如果你持续被信息轰炸，并且还试图将所有信息分类，那么你将很难做出决定并采取行动。就我个人而言，如果我得到过多的信息，就会造成某种形式上的瘫痪，一事无成。或者你会被这种习惯所困，终日急于忙碌在一些非重要的事情上。
为了可以集中精力，清晰思考并付诸行动，你就需要在吸取信息时更有选择性。当你工作时尽可能的避免那些分散注意力的事物。关掉电话，断开网络，关上大门。你就会不可思议的发现，当你没有每隔五分钟就被打扰一次，没有机会因浏览RSS-feeds或喜爱的网站而拖延时，居然可以完成这么多的事情。
现在并不是说我建议你们停止阅读所有的博客或报纸。但是一定要清楚哪些是你真正想要阅读的，哪些只是用来打发时间的。同时你也可以查看其他开阔性信息的领域。
比如说，你没有必要陷入所有来自周围环境的消极情绪。如果周围的所有人都在拖延或者焦急的忙于各种非重要的事情时，你会很容易被这种情绪所影响。如果你有一扇心灵之门，关上它而去关注更为重要的事情，这会是个不错的主意。
7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People
By Henrik Edberg
With a twist to the common list of habits that are useful to establish, here are 7 habits that you do best to avoid.
Just like finding habits that can be useful for you it’s important to find habits that are holding you back. Most of these 7 habits can easily become such a normal, everyday part of life that you hardly notice it (or how it’s affecting you). I’ve dabbled with all of them quite a bit. Not surprisingly I didn’t get much of the important stuff done. I′d also like to add th at these are just 7 broad habits you can establish to become highly ineffective in most parts of your life. I pretty sure there are several more.
1. Not showing up.
Maybe you’ve heard this quote by Woody Allen:
“Eighty percent of success is showing up”
One of the biggest and simplest thing you can do to ensure more success in your life – whether it be in your social life, your career or with your health – is simply to show up more. If you want to improve your health then one of the most important and effective things you can do is just to show up at the gym every time you should be there.
The weather might be bad, you might not feel like going and you find yourself having all these other things you just must do. If you still go, if you show up at the gym when motivation is low you will improve a whole lot faster than if you just stayed at home relaxing on the sofa.
I think this applies to most areas of life. If you write or paint more, each day perhaps, you will improve quickly. If you get out more you can meet more new friends. If you go on more dates you chances of meeting someone special increases. Just showing up more can really make a big difference. Not showing up will not get you anywhere.
2. Procrastinating half the day. To keep it short, my 3 favourite ways to get out of a procrastinating state are:
- Swallow that frog. What′s this means is simply to do the hardest and most important task of the day first thing in the morning. A good start in the morning lifts your spirits and creates a positive momentum for the rest of the day. That often creates a pretty productive day.
- How do you eat an elephant? Don′t try to take it all in one big bite. It becomes overwhelming which leads to procrastination. Split a task into small actionable steps. Then just focus on the first step and nothing else. Just do that one until it’s done. Then move on to the next step.
- The Get around to It Paraliminal. I find this guided mediation to be very useful. After 20 minutes of mostly just lying on
3. When actually doing something, doing something that isn’t the most important thing right now.
One of the easiest habits to get stuck in, besides procrastinating, is to keep yourself busy with unimportant tasks.
To be effective you probably need some kind of time management-system. It might be something really simple, like using the 80/20-rule at the beginning of each day. The 80/20 rule, or the Pareto Principle as it′s also known, says that you′ll get 80 percent of your results from only 20 percent of your tasks and activities. So you need to focus most of your energy on those few important tasks to be effective.
When you have prioritized using this rule just write down the top 3 most important things you need to do that day. Then, from the top, start doing them. Even if you just get one of the things done, you have still done the most important thing you could do today. You may perhaps prefer some other system, such as GTD. But how ever you organise your work it’s still of highest priority to find the most important tasks so you don’t spend days, weeks or months doing busywork that isn’t that essential anyway. Just getting things done faster isn’t that useful if the things you get do ne are unimportant to you.
4. Thinking too much.
And thereby seldom taking action. Paralysis by analysis can waste years of your life. There is nothing wrong with thinking before you do something. Do some research, make a plan, explore potential upsides and problems.
But compulsively thinking and thinking and thinking is just another way to waste your time. You don’t have to examine everything from every angle before you try it. And you can’t wait for the perfect time to do something. That time never comes. And if you keep thinking you’ll just dig yourself down deeper and deeper and taking action will become more and more difficult. Instead you just need to stop thinking. Shut of your mind –it just helps you up to a point –and go do whatever you need to do.
5. Seeing the negative and downsides in just about anything.
When you see everything from a negative perspective you quickly punch a hole in your own motivation. You find faults everywhere and problems where there are really none. You cling to details. If you want to find a reason to not do something then that’s no problem. From a negative viewpoint you can find ten reasons every time.
And so very little gets done, you whine to anyone who wants to hear –and many who don’t – about how crappy your job, life and boss is. Which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy as you create the life that is appropriate considering how think and see your world.
A solution is to realise the limits of a negative perspective. And that your perspective isn’t some ki nd of 100% true picture of the world. Then try other perspectives. For instance, trying to establish a habit of seeing things in a more positive and optimistic light can be quite useful. In that vein, you may want to try the Positivity Challenge. It′s not easy, but if you do the challenge and try to only think positive thoughts for 7 days it can give you an insight in how much your perspective and