双语英语美文：母爱的真谛
Time is running out for my friend. While we are sitting at lunch she casually mentions she and her husband are thinking of starting a family. "We're taking a survey, “she says, half-joking. "Do you think I should have a baby?"
时光任苒，朋友已经老大不小了。我们坐在一起吃饭的时候，她漫不经心地提到她和她的丈夫正考虑要小孩。“我们正在做一项调查，”她半开玩笑地说。“你觉得我应该要个小孩吗？”
"It will change your life," I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral. "I know," she says, "no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous holidays..."
“他将改变你的生活。”我小心翼翼地说道，尽量使语气保持客观。“这我知道。”她答道，“周末睡不成懒觉，再也不能随心所欲休假了……”
But that's not what I mean at all. I look at my friend, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will be vulnerable forever.
但我说的绝非这些。我注视着朋友，试图整理一下自己的思绪。我想让她知道她永远不可能在分娩课上学到的东西。我想让她知道：分娩的有形伤疤能够愈合，但是做母亲的情感伤痕却永远如新，她会所以变得十分脆弱。
I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without thinking： "What if that had been MY child?" That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt
her. That when she sees pictures of starving children, she
will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your
child die. I look at her carefully manicured nails and
stylish suit and think that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive level
of a bear protecting her cub.
我想告诫她：做了母亲后，每当她看报纸时就会情不自禁地联想：“如果那件事情发生在我的孩子身上将会怎样啊！”每一次飞机失事、每一场住宅火灾都会让她提心吊胆。看到那些忍饥挨饿的孩子们的照
片时，她会思索：世界上还有什么比眼睁睁地看着自己的孩子饿死更
惨的事情呢？我打量着她精修细剪的指甲和时尚前卫的衣服，心里想到：不管她打扮多么考究，做了母亲后，她会变得像护崽的母熊那样
原始而不修边幅。
I feel I should warn her that no matter how many years
she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might arrange for child care, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting, and she will think her baby's sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure her child is all right.
我觉得自己应该提醒她，不管她在工作上投入了多少年，一旦做
了母亲，工作就会脱离常规。她自然能够安排他人照顾孩子，但说不
定哪天她要去参加一个非常重要的商务会议，却忍不住想起宝宝身上
散发的甜甜乳香。她不得不拼命克制自己，才不至于为了看看孩子是
否安然无样而中途回家。
I want my friend to know that every decision will no
longer be routine. That a five-year-old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's at a restaurant will become a major dilemma. The issues of independence and gender
identity will be weighed against the prospect that a child molester may be lurking in the lavatory. However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself
constantly as a mother.
我想告诉朋友，有了孩子后，她将再也不能按照惯例做出决定。
在餐馆，5岁的儿子想进男厕而不愿进女厕将成为摆在她眼前的一大难题：她将在两个选择之间权衡一番：尊重孩子的独立和性别意识，还
是让他进男厕所冒险被潜在的儿童性骚扰者侵害？任凭她在办公室多
么果断，作为母亲，她仍经常事后后悔自己当时的决定。
Looking at my attractive friend, I want to assure her
that eventually she will shed the added weight of pregnancy, but she will never feel the same about herself. That her own life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. She would give it up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years—not to accomplish her own dreams—but to watch her children accomplish theirs.
注视着我的这位漂亮的朋友，我想让她明确地知道，她最终会恢
复到怀孕前的体重，但是她对自己的感觉已然不同。她现在视为如此
重要的生命将随着孩子的诞生而变得不那么宝贵。为了救自己的孩子，她时刻愿意献出自己的生命。但她也开始希望多活一些年头，不是为
了实现自己的梦想，而是为了看着孩子们美梦成真。
I want to describe to my friend the exhilaration of
seeing your child learn to hit a ball. I want to capture for her the belly laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog for the first time. I want her to taste the joy that is so real it hurts.
我想向朋友形容自己看到孩子学会击球时的喜悦之情。我想让她留意宝宝第一次触摸狗的绒毛时的捧腹大笑。我想让她品尝快乐，即使这快乐真实得令人心痛。
My friend's look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes. "You'll never regret it," I say finally. Then, squeezing my friend's hand, I offer a prayer for her and me and all of the mere mortal women who stumble their way into this holiest of callings.
朋友的表情让我意识到自己已经是热泪盈眶。“你永远不会后悔，”我最后说。然后紧紧地握住朋友的手，为她、为自己、也为每一位艰难跋涉、准备响应母亲职业神圣的召唤的平凡女性献上自己的祈祷v
英语美文欣赏10 Melancholy Music Can Make Us Feel Better 听悲伤的歌会让心情变好 We've all turned to melancholy music to make us feel better at some point in our lives, but why does doubling down on the sadness help drag us out of the mire? 我们都曾在生命中的某些时刻通过听悲伤的歌来让自己好受一些，但是为什么更多的悲伤反而会让我们走出低谷呢？ A new study sheds light on what's going on inside our brains when we match our music to our feels, and it looks like sad music can be enjoyable - rather than simply depressing - because it triggers positive memories that can help to lift our mood. 一项新的研究阐明了当我们将所听的音乐与心中感受配对的时候我们大脑里到底发生了什么。其结果显示：悲伤的音乐也能带来愉悦（而非简单地令人低落），因为它能通过触发积极的回忆来使我们的心情变好。 Psychologist Adrian North from Curtin University in Australia says there are two groups of possible explanations for why we enjoy listening to sad music like this: one from social psychology, and one from cognitive neuroscience. 澳大利亚科廷大学的心理学家阿德里安·诺斯说，对于我们为什么这么享受悲伤的歌曲这一点，有两派可能的解释：一派来自社会心理学，一派来自认知神经科学。 In terms of social psychology, one way of thinking about this is that we feel better about ourselves if we focus on someone who's doing even worse, a well-known process known as downward social comparison. Everything's going to be okay, because this person is having an even worse day than you are. 从社会心理学这一派来讲，有一种思路是：当我们把注意力集中在一个比我们过得还惨的人身上时，我们会觉得好受些，这个过程就是著名的下行社会比较。一切都会好起来的，因为这个人比你过得更惨。 Another hypothesis from social psychology is that people like to listen to music that mirrors the tone of their current life circumstances – the songs act as a sort of tuning fork for our own situations, and they resonate with us. 社会心理学这一派的另一个假说是：人们喜欢听那些能反映自己现在生活境况基调的音乐，这些歌对于我们的境况来讲起到了类似音叉的作用，他们与我们产生了共鸣。 You Don’t Lack Reason But Action 你不缺道理，缺的是行动力 If you ask me what are the things that people should not do no matter how, the
美联英语提供：英语阅读：寓意深刻的哲理美文（双语） 美联英语： 1.The past is gone and static. Nothing we can do will change it. Thefuture is before us and dynamic. Everything we do will affect it. 往昔已逝，静如止水；我们无法再做改变。而前方的未来正生机勃勃；我们所做的每一件事都将影响着它。 2.You laugh at me for being different, but I laugh at you for being the same. 你嘲笑我和别人不一样，我嘲笑你和大家都一样。 3.The consequences of today are determined by the actions of the past. To change your future, alter your decisions today. 今天的果，缘于过去行为种下的因。想要改变你的未来，改变你的今天。 4.Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards. 经验是个很苛刻的老师，因为她总是一上来就把你考倒，然后才给你上课。. 5.Ability may get you to the top, but it takes character to keep you there. 能力会让你青云直上，到达顶峰，但必须靠足够的人格魅力，才能让你留在那里。 6.Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. 生活，不是用我们呼吸了多少下来衡量的，而是要看我们多少次屏住呼吸 7.I have a simple philosophy: Fill what's empty. Empty what's full. Scratch where it itches. 生活的哲学：把空的装满，把满的倒空，哪里痒抓哪里.
Andy's Hobbies Andy is always watching animal programs on TV．When he was a child his favorite books were Gerald Durrel's animal books．He also wrote down something about animals when he heard them — especially the ones that were about loving animals． He has always had pets．His first animal friends were pigs．And then he tried his best to persuade his parents to get a dog．For some reasons they did not seem to believe Andy would walk the dog three times a day，no matter how Andy promised he'd do it． He did his best to persuade them：he was good at drawing and left drawings of dogs all over the place．He ran to the library，borrowed all the dog books he could find，and left them lying around as well．His parents were quite used to his books lying around everywhere． Then Andy's mother was told a friend's cat had kittens and they could go and get one．At first Andy was a little disappointed．As time went by，he learned to love the cat so much he has had cats ever since． Cats let us know when it is time to change the sofa．Either when the fabric starts to look like Einstein's hair that has been combed with cat paws，thanks to the generous donation of cat hair． 安迪的爱好 安迪总是看电视节目上的动物频道。当他还是个孩子的时候，他最喜欢的书就是杰拉尔德·达雷尔写的有关动物的书籍。每当他听到一些关于动物的事情，尤其是那些有关爱护动物的故事，他都会记录下来。 他一直爱养宠物，他的第一个动物朋友是猪。后来他尽自己的最大努力去说服他父母为他买一只狗。由于某些原因，无论安迪怎样承诺，他们似乎并不相信安迪会每天出去遛狗三次。 他尽自己的最大努力说服他们：他擅长画画，到处都放着狗的素描。他跑到图书馆去借他能找到的所有关于狗的书籍，也把它们丢得到处都是。他的父母已经习惯他把书丢得到处都是了。 后来安迪的母亲得知一个朋友家的猫生了小猫，他们可以去抱一只回家。起初安迪感到有点失望，但自从有了猫之后，随着时间的推移他学会给猫很多爱护。 猫让我们知道什么时候该换沙发了，也就是当沙发织物开始看起来像用猫爪梳理过的爱因斯坦的头发时，这其实多亏有了慷慨捐赠的猫毛。 Larry Schwarz's Hobbies Larry Schwarz has played with toys all his life．As a child，he often pulled his toys apart，and then glued them back together．He made toy rockets，cars，and buildings out of boxes．Although he put his toys away long enough to become a lawyer，he never lost his childhood passion for toys．Schwarz dreamed up many toys while in school．Instead of taking notes in class，he filled 26 notebooks with toy sketches! Still，he managed to get his lawyer degree． Today，instead of working in a courtroom，Schwarz skateboards around his Rumpus's headquarters in New York City．In 1997，he started the Rumpus Toy company and invented all kind of crazy toys，like Gus Gutz，a doll with 12 spongy organs，and Sy Klops，a one-eyed doll．Even the boxes are playful．Printed instructions on Rumpus toy boxes
【双语美文】《无论如何》 2014-11-15英语美文 《无论如何》 ——特蕾莎修女 People are unreasonable，illogical and self-centered； 人们不讲道理、思想谬误、自我中心， Love them anyway. 无论如何，还是爱他们； If you are kind，people may accuse you of selfish，ulterior motives； 如果你友善，人们会说你自私自利、别有用心， Be kind anyway. 无论如何，还是要友善； If you are successful，you will win some false friends and some true enemies；如果你成功以后，身边尽是假的朋友和真的敌人， Succeed anyway. 无论如何，还是要成功； The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow； 你所做的善事明天就会被遗忘， Do good anyway. 无论如何，还是要做善事； If you are honest and frank，people may cheat you； 诚实与坦率使你容易受到欺骗和伤害， Be honest and frank anyway. 无论如何，还是要诚实与坦率； People favor under dogs but follow only topdogs. 人都会同情弱者，却只追随赢家， Fight for a few underdogs anyway. 无论如何，还是要为一些弱者奋斗； What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight； 你耗费数年所建设的可能毁于一旦， Build anyway. 无论如何，还是要建设； If you find serenity and happiness，they may be jealous； 如果你找到了平静和幸福，人们可能会嫉妒你，
英语阅读短文带翻译：你是独一无二的 Enjoy that uniquenesss1. You do not have to pretend in order to seem more like someone else. You do not have to lie to hide the parts of you that are not like what you see in anyone else. You were meant to be different. Nowhere, in all of history, will the same things be going on in anyone’s mind, soul and spirit as are going on in yours right now. If you did not exist, there would be a hole in creation, a gap2 in history, and something missing from the plan for humankind. Treasure your uniqueness. It is a gift given only to you. Enjoy it and share it! No one can reach out to others in the same way that you can. No one can speak your words. No one can convey your meanings. No one can comfort others with your kind of comfort. No one can bring your kind of understanding to another person. No one can be cheerful and light-hearted3 and joyous4 in your way. No one can smile your smile. No one else can bring the whole unique impact of you to another human being. Share your uniqueness. Let it flow out freely among your family and friends, and the people you meet in the rush and clutter of living, wherever you are. That gift of yourself was given to you to enjoy and share. Give yourself away! See it! Receive it! Let it inform you, move you and inspire you! You are unique!
Happiness Many people think that when they become rich and successful,happiness will naturally follow.Let me tell you that nothing is further from the truth.The world is full of very rich peoplewho are as miserable as if they were living in hell.We have read stories about movie stars who committed suicide or died from drugs.Quite clearly, money is not the only answer to all problems.Wealth obtained through dishonest means does not bring happiness.Lottery winnings do not bring happiness.Gamble winnings do not bring happiness.To my mind, the secret to happiness lies in your successful work,There is no use sayingin your contribution towards others’happinessand in your wealth you have earned through your own honest effort.If you obtain wealth through luck or dishonest means,you will know that it is ill earned money.If you get your money by taking advantage of others or by hurting others,you will not be happy with it.You will think you are a base person.Long－term happiness is based on honesty, productive work, contribution, and self－esteem.Happiness is not an end; it is a process.It is a continuous process of honest, productive workwhich makes a real contribution to othersand makes you feel you are a useful, worthy person.As Dr. Wayne wrote, “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”“Some day when I achieve these goals,when I get a car, build a house and own my own business,then I will be really happy.”Life just does not work that way.If you wait for certain things to happenand depend on external circumstances of life to make you happy,you will always feel unfulfilled.There will always be something missing.
英语美文欣赏64 勇敢面对自己内心的敌人 We are not born with courage, but neither are we born with fear. Maybe some of our fears are brought on by your own experiences, by what someone has told you, by what you've read in the papers. Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o'clock in the morning. But once you learn to avoid that situation, you won't need to live in fear of it. 我们的勇气并不是与生俱来的，我们的恐惧也不是。也许有些恐惧来自你 的亲身经历，别人告诉你的故事，或你在报纸上读到的东西。有些恐惧可以理解，例如在凌晨两点独自走在城里不安全的地段。但是一旦你学会避免那种情 况，你就不必生活在恐惧之中。 Fears, even the most basic ones, can totally destroy our ambitions. Fear can destroy fortunes. Fear can destroy relationships. Fear, if left unchecked, can destroy our lives. Fear is one of the many enemies lurking inside us. 恐惧，哪怕是最基本的恐惧，也可能彻底粉碎我们的抱负。恐惧可能摧毁 财富，也可能摧毁一段感情。如果不加以控制，恐惧还可能摧毁我们的生活。 恐惧是潜伏于我们内心的众多敌人之一。 Let me tell you about five of the other enemies we face from within. The first enemy that you've got to destroy before it destroys you is indifference. What a tragic disease this is! "Ho-hum, let it slide. I'll just drift along." Here's one problem with drifting: you can't drift your way to the top of the mountain. 让我来告诉你我们面临的其他五个内在敌人。第一个你要在它袭击你之前 将其击败的敌人是冷漠。打着哈欠说："随它去吧，我就随波逐流吧。"这是多 么可悲的疾病啊！随波逐流的问题是：你不可能漂流到山顶去。 The second enemy we face is indecision. Indecision is the thief of opportunity and enterprise. It will steal your chances for a better future. Take a sword to this enemy. 我们面临的第二个敌人是优柔寡断。它是窃取机会和事业的贼，它还会偷 去你实现更美好未来的机会。向这个敌人出剑吧！ The third enemy inside is doubt. Sure, there's room for healthy skepticism. You can't believe everything. But you also can't let doubt take over. Many people doubt the past, doubt the future, doubt each other, doubt the government, doubt the possibilities and doubt the opportunities. Worse of all, they doubt themselves. I'm telling you, doubt will destroy your life and your chances of success. It will empty both your bank account and your heart. Doubt is an enemy. Go after it. Get rid of it. 第三个内在的敌人是怀疑。当然，正常的怀疑还是有一席之地的，你不能
有关于英语美文摘抄阅读 通过美文的赏析,陶冶学生的思想情操,开阔视野,提高对优美散文的鉴赏能力,提高人文素养;同时培养学生的认知水平、情感态度、文化意识,激发学习英语的兴趣。本文是有关于英语美文，希望对大家有帮助! 有关于英语美文：Praying for RainfallThe last flock of pigeons have also gone out of sight after doing their final circling in the soft breeze, the sound of their whistles barely audible. They are hastening back to their warm wooden dovecote(鸽房) earlier than usual perhaps because they have mistaken the bleak(阴冷的，荒凉的) leaden sky for nightfall or because of their presentiment(预感) of a storm. The willow twigs, daubed with a light green by several days of sunshine, are now covered all over with dust and look so sickly that they need to be washed. And the parched soil and tree roots have likewise been dying for rainfall. Yet the rain is reluctant to come down. I can never forget the thunderstorm we often had in my hometown. Over there, whenever the rumble of thunder reverberated across the valley, the buds of spring would seem
Self-Reliance Trust yourself. These are the voices which we hear in solitude, but they grow faint(微弱的，无力的) and inaudible(听不见的) as we enter into the world. Society everywhere is in conspiracy(阴谋，共谋) against the manhood of every one of its members. Society is a joint stock company, in which the members agree, for the better securing(使安全，获得) of his bread to each shareholder(股东), to surrender(投降，屈服) the liberty and culture of the eater. The virtue in most request is conformity(一致，符合，遵守). Self-reliance is its aversion(嫌恶，憎恨). It loves not realities and creators, but names and customs. What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule, equally arduous(艰巨的，艰难的) in actual and in intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction between greatness and meanness. It is the harder because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know it. It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude. The objection(反对) to conforming to usages that have become dead to you is that it scatters your force. It loses your time and blurs the impression of your character. If you maintain a dead church, contribute to ad dead Bible Society, vote with a great party either for the Government
1.October Lake十月湖上 Herbert Ernest Bates赫伯特·欧内斯特·贝慈The October leaves have fallen on the lake. On bright, calm days they lie in thousands on the now darkening water, mostly yellow flotillas of poplar, floating continuously down from great trees that themselves shake in the windless air with the sound of falling water, but on rainy days or after rain they seem to swim or be driven away, and nothing remains to break the surface except the last of the olive—yellow lily pads that in high summer covered every inch of water like emerald porcelain. The lilies have gone too, the yellow small—headed kind that in bud are like swimming snakes, and the great reeds are going, woven by wind and frost into untidy basket islands under which coot and moorhen skid for cover at the sound of strangers. 十月时树叶已飘落湖上。在晴朗无风的日子里，树叶成千上万地攒聚在此刻已经色泽转暗的水面，这黄色小舟般的落叶——大多为白杨树叶——纷纷不停地从那些即使无风天气也颤抖不已的高树之上飘落下来，淅淅沥沥，仿佛水声；但是遇上雨天或雨后，它们又被飘得无影无踪，于是，除了那在盛夏时节宛如盏盏翠盘把湖面盖个满当而如今色作橄榄黄的睡莲残叶之外，这时湖上是一片利落。这连睡莲——一种在其蓓蕾时期有如浪里金蛇似的色黄头细的睡莲——也已不在，另外茂密的芦苇也稀疏起来，它们被风霜编织成了许多凌乱的蓝篓似的汀渚，这里的大鷭鸟和松鸡一听见什么陌生人的响动便溜进那底下去躲避。 All summer in this world of water —lilies, the coot and moorhen lived a bewildered life. There was no place where they could swim and all day they could be seen walking daintily，heads slightly aside and slightly down, across the lily-hidden water, as bemused by the world of leaves as they had been in winter by the world of ice. In the clearer water they are more active. The lake is long and unbroken except for two small islands. The birds, as the fit takes them, dash madly up and down it, taking off and touching down it, taking off and touching down like small fussy black sea-planes. Beside them the arrival of the wild duck, at much higher speed, is almost majestic. They plane down, the necks of the drakes shining like royal green satin, with the air of squadrons coming in after long flights from home. 长夏之际，在这片处处睡莲的世界里，大鷭和松鸡过着一种困惑迷惘的日子。它们找不到可以自由游泳的地方，于是整天整天可以看到它们在这片为睡莲盖满的水面之间小心翼翼地徐图前进，不时把头歪歪低低，对这片绿叶世界感到不胜惶惑，正如在冬天时候对冰天雪地感到的那样。遇到稍清净的水面，它们马上就活跃多了。湖面很长，除其中两处小岛外，大体连成一片。湖上的鸟儿兴致来时往往发狂般地参差其羽，翻飞水上，那起飞降落恍若无数细小激动的黑色水上飞机。相比之下，那野鸭飞来时的样子，而且速度也快得多，便几乎颇形威武。它们着陆时——一些雄鸭脖颈处闪耀着色如浓绿缎面的光泽，那神气大有飞机中队于其长期国外飞行之后初次返回本土之势。 It was not until late summer that fishing was possible. The water was so low and clear after drought that fish could be seen in great dark shoals, sunning themselves, shy, impossible to catch. Only in the evening, as the air cooled and the water darkened, and the surface was broken with the silver dances of the rising shoals, would you perhaps get a bite or two, a baby perch sucking at the worm, a roach no bigger than a sardine. All the time, on bright hot mornings especially, great pike would lie out in the middle of the lake in shoals of ten or even twenty, like black torpedoes, transfixed, never moving except in sudden immense rises that rocked the water-surface with rings. 钓鱼一事则要等待时序进入夏末才有可能。久旱之后，水面浅而清，深黝黝的游鱼可以成批看见，这是出来晒太阳的，但羞怯易惊，不好捕捉。只有等到晚间，当天气已经转凉，
英语美文阅读诵读：我相信 I believe in love because my wife taught me how. I believe that a dance with fear leaves you winded, yet wiser. I believe that having children has made me a better man. I believe that the truth tastes like straw- berries — the really big ones. I believe in friends who stand by you. I believe you have to suffer for your passion. I believe that the happiest people are those with the fewest masks. I believe that too many people stay in jobs they hate to get more vacation days, so that they can spend more time away from the jobs they hate. I believe that we give life its meaning. I believe that liars run from the truth like vampires from the sun. I believe that courage works its way from the heart to the hands. I believe that knowing yourself is one of the finest things you can do. I believe in blue kites with orange tails.
经典英语美文阅读范文欣赏 以书为伴 A man may usually be known by the books he reads as well as by the company he keeps; for there is a companionship of books as well as of men; and one should always live in the best company, whether it be of books or of men. 通常看一个读些什么书就可知道他的为人，就像看他同什么人交往就可知道他的为人一样，因为有人以人为伴，也有人以书为伴。无论是书友还是朋友，我们都应该以的为伴。 A good book may be among the best of friends. It is the same today that it always was, and it will never change. It is the most patient and cheerful of companions. It does not turn its back upon us in times of adversity or distress. It always receives us with the same kindness; amusing and instructing us in youth, and comforting and consoling us in age. 好书就像是你的朋友。它始终不渝，过去如此，现在如此，将来也永远不变。它是最有耐心，最令人愉悦的伴侣。在我们穷愁潦倒，临危遭难时，它也不会抛弃我们，对我们总是一如既往地亲切。在我们年轻时，好书陶冶我们的性情，增长我们的知识;到我们年老时，它又给我们以慰藉和勉励。 Men often discover their affinity to each other by the mutual love they have for a book just as two persons sometimes discover a friend by the admiration which both entertain for a third. There is an old proverb, Love me, love my dog. But there is more wisdom in