Unit4
Preview
WeallhaveeRperiencedbetraRalorhurt.SomechoosetocarrRgrudges,nurseoldwoundsorrelivepast humiliations.Prideandil--vanitRbuildsawall;weevenshutthedoorforaneRplanation.Meetwith11someo neolderandwiseonTuesdaRs,andwe'llcometoknowtheartoflife,thatholdingontotheangerconsumestheh appiness,whilelettinggoofhatredinvitesmoreloveintolife.Soputasidetheanger,letreliefwashoverus,and moveforwardwithourlifebRsimplRacceptinganapologR.
PartI TeRtReading
Warm-up
I. Beingamentor
IfRouwanttobreakoutordosomethingeRtraordinarRthatRouwouldnotdoonRourowninitiative,Ro u'dbetterhaveamentor,aneRperiencedandtrustedfriendandaprudentadvisor.MorespecificallR,whatdo Routhinkmakeagoodmentor?
StepOne
Theroleofthementorismultifaceted.WorkinpairstodecideonthespecificpersonalitRtraitsthatmakea goodmentor,andeRplainRourchoices.
Amentormustbe:
aged/aneffectivelistener/sincereandcommitted/punctual/emotionallRinvolved/trustworthR/arrogant/ aresponsiblerolemodel/loRal/honest/knowledgeable/persuasive/agoodtalker/independent/self-estee med/(orothers)
StepTwo
·TrRtobeamentor,andgiveRouradvicetohelpothersoutofthefollowingdilemmas:
·StaRinghomeorgoingabroadforfurtherdevelopment?
·QuittingthecurrentjobtostartabusinessorstaRingonitforpromotion?
·Beingtoleranttothoseirritationsortakingrevenge?
·Makingupforthemistakesorlettingthepastbethepast?
·MakingmoneRatallcostnoworseekingfunbeforeitistoolate?
II. AreRouforgiving?
TicktheboResRouagreewithinthefollowingquestionnaire.
1.IfRoudosomethingstraightawaR,doRouforgiveRourself?
Res No SometimesI 'Never
2.IsitimportanttoforgiveRourselfandotherswhenmistakesaremade?
Res' N o ISometimesI INotsureI
3.HowdoRoufeelwhenRouhaveforgivensomeoneforsomething?
10KI INotsureI IVerRhappRI ERcited IProudofmRself
4.AreRoureluctanttoforgive?
IRes' INoI 'SometimesI 'Never
5.IfRouansweredResinabovequestion,thisisbecauseRou .(RoumaRtickas manRboResasRouwant)
areonlRthinkingofnegativethings I I
don'tvalueRourselforothersenough
havenotbeenshownhowtoforgive
III. AreRouapersonwhohangsontopainfulmemories,orareRouabletoforgetandforgive?
·ThinkofaparticularpersonwhohasbeenunpleasanttoRouinsomewaR.
·ImagineanRuncomfortablefeelingsRouoncehadabouthim/her.
·Thinkofsomethinglikeableorworthwhileabouthim/her.
·ThinkofRourselfforgivinghim/her.
TeRt
The(Twelve->)TwelfthTuesdaRWeTalkaboutforgiveness1
MitchAlbom
[1]"ForgiveRourselfbeforeRoudie.Thenforgiveothers."
[2]ThiswasafewdaRsafterthe"Nightline"interview2.TheskRwasrainRanddark(<->black),andM orriewasbeneathablanket.I(sit->)satatthefarendofhischair,holdinghisbarefeet.TheRwerecallused(hard ened)andcurled,andhistoenailswereRellow.Ihadasmalljaroflotion,andIsqueezedsomeintomRhandsan dbegantomassagehisankles(n.脚踝).
[3]ItwasanotherofthethingsIhadwatchedhishelpers(nurses)doformonths,andnow,inanattemptto(i norderto)holdonto(grasp/catch)whatIcouldofhim(尽可能挽留这一逝去的生命),Ihadvolunteeredtodoit mRself.3Thediseasehadleft(made)Morrie withouttheabilitR4eventowiggl e(摆动)histoes,Rethecouldstillfeelpain,andmassageshelpedrelieve(reduce/toeasethe)it(pain).Also,ofcours e,Morrielikedbeingheldandtouched.Andatthispoint,anRthingIcoulddotomakehimhappR,Iwasgoingto do.5
[4]"Mitch,"hesaid,returningtothesubjectofforgiveness."Thereisnopoint(meaning/significance)in keepingvengeance(复仇,报仇)orstubbornness.Thesethings"—hesighed(叹气)--thesethingsIsoregretinmRlife.Pride.VanitR.WhRdowedothethingswedo?"
[5]TheimportanceofforgivingwasmRquestion(=topic).Ihadseenthosemovieswherethepatriarch(族长)ofthefamilRisonhisdeathbedandhecallsforhisestranged(疏远的)sonsothathecanmakepeacebeforehegoes(=dies).Iwondered(1.n.奇迹;2.vt.wanttoknow想知道)if(whether)MorriehadanRofthat(desire)insidehim,asuddenneedtosaR"I'msorrR"beforehedied.
[6]Morrienodded."DoRouseethatsculpture?"Hetilted(=lean倾斜的)hisheadtowardabustthatsathighonashelfagainstthefarwallofhisoffice.IhadneverreallRnoticeditbef ore.Castinbronze(铜丛生/一
咎领班/工头)
[7]"That'sme,"Morriesaid."AfriendofminesculptedthatmaRbe(perhaps/probablR/approRimatelR )thirtRRearsago.HisnamewasNorman.Weusedtospendsomuchtimetogether.Wewentswimming.Weto okrides(=drives)toNewRork.Hehad(invited)meovertohishouseinCambridge(剑桥),andhesculptedthatbustofmedowninhisbasement.Ittookseveralweekstodoit,buthereallRwantedtog etit right6(vividlR)."
[8]Istudied(eRamined)theface.Howstrangetoseeathree-dimensionalMorrie,sohealthR,soRoung, watchingoverusas(when)wespoke.Eveninbronze,hehadawhimsical(反复无常的,古怪的)look,andIthoughtthisfriendhadsculptedalittlespirit(精神/灵魂/烈性酒)aswell.
[9]"Well,here'sthesadpartofthe(life)storR,"Morriesaid."NormanandhiswifemovedawaRtoChicag o.Alittlewhile(n.moment)later,mRwife,Charlotte,hadtohaveaprettR(verR)serious(major)operation.N ormanandhiswifenevergotintouchwith(=contactsb.)us.IknowtheRknewaboutit.CharlotteandIwerever Rhurt(sad)becausetheRnevercalledtoseehowshewas.Sowedroppedthe relationship7(断交)."[Quitterneverwinandwinnerneverquit]
[10]"OvertheRears,ImetNormanafewtimesandhealwaRstriedtoreconcile(和解),butIdidn'tacceptit(apologR->apologize).Iwasn'tsatisfiedwith(becontentwithsb./sth.)his(eRplain->)eRplanation.Iwasprideful(proud/arrogant).Ishruggedhimoff"
[11]Hisvoicechoked.
[12]"Mitch...afewRearsago...hediedofcancer.Ifeelsosad.Inevergot(thechance)toseehim.Inevergot toforgive.Itpains(vt.)menowsomuch..."
[13]HewascrRingagain,asoftandquietcrR,andbecausehisheadwasback,thetearsrolledoffthesideof hisfacebeforetheRreachedhislips.
[14]SorrR,Isaid.
[15]"Don'tbe,"hewhispered."TearsareokaR(OK/Allright)."
[16]Icontinuedrubbinglotionintohislifelesstoes.He(weep->)weptforafewminutes,alone(alone独
