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雪莉·特克尔TED演讲稿:保持联系,却依旧孤独《群体性孤独》的作者雪莉·特克尔(SherryTurkle)在TED 的励志演讲稿:保持联系,却依旧孤独。
人们为什么不面对面交谈?为什么联系会导致隔绝呢?来听雪莉·特克尔解读互联网时代下的孤独。
雪莉·特克尔TED演讲稿:保持联系,却依旧孤独保持联系,却依旧孤独——《群体性孤独》的作者雪莉·特克尔(SherryTurkle)在TED的励志演讲稿几分钟之前我的女儿Rebecca发了一条短信为我加油。
她说“妈妈,你会震撼全场的!”我太喜欢这个了接到这条短信就像得到了她的拥抱。
所以大家看到了我自己就处在这样一个核心矛盾里。
我自己非常喜欢收短信但却要告诉大家太多的短信会成为一个大问题。
事实上,我的女儿让我想起了这个故事的开端。
1996年我第一次在TED演讲的时候Rebecca只有5岁她就坐在那里最前排。
那时我刚刚写了一本书,庆祝我们的网络新生活而且将要成为《连线》杂志Wired的封面人物。
在那些令人陶醉的日子里,我们体验着网络聊天室和在线虚拟社区。
我们正从不同的角度探索自己,然后我们回到现实中来,我对此感到非常兴奋。
作为一个心理学家,最令我兴奋的就是这样的理念:我们会运用我们在虚拟世界中对自己,对我们自身认同的了解,改善我们的现实生活。
现在让我们快进到2012年我又重新回到了TED的讲台。
我的女儿已经是一名20岁的大学生了。
她睡觉都抱着她的手机,其实我也是。
我刚刚完成了一本新书,但是这一本却不会让我登上《连线》杂志的封面。
那这十几年间发生了什么呢?我仍然为科技而兴奋但是我相信并且想要向大家说明我们正在放任科技它将我们带向歧途。
在过去的15年间我一直在研究移动通信技术的影响并且访问了成百上千的人,年轻的或年长的了解他们的“移动生活”。
我发现我们口袋中那些轻巧的电子设备在心理学上有着如此强大的力量它们不仅改变了我们的生活方式也改变了我们本身。
关于孤独的英文演讲稿篇一:关于孤独症的英语演讲The Children Of the Stars: The Autistic And UsHe is a talent. At seven, he can solve math problems that we university students are confused about. He has a spectacular memory, an amazing gift for music, and a special interest to sequence and machines. He seldom lies and is really strong-minded.Now you may think the god has given him the best gift. However, the cost is, he was born to be lonely, disabled to fit into the normal society. In fact, there is one “him” or “her” in 110 children. They stay with their parents, but their souls seem to wander on another planet. They are called the autistics, or, the children of the stars.Autism is a rather new-discovered disease which is not so familiar to us. The symptoms of the autistics differ from each other, but they have something in common. The main characteristics of autism are social communication disorder and restricted and repetitive behavior. Autistics pay little attention to social relationship, so it is really hard for them tounderstand the logic of the normal people and the social rules.According to the book Taking The Mystery Out Of Autism, we can classify autism into 3 types: Asperger Syndrome, Rett Syndrome and atypical Autism. People with Asperger syndrome have a higher intelligence and linguistic ability. They are most likely to acquire special talents I mentioned in the beginning. However, they are still clumsy when dealing with social activities, being regarded as "rude" "weird" or "arrogant". For those with Rett syndrome, life will be much harder. They typically have no verbal skills, half of them not able to walk. And Atypical autism refers to autism with other various symptoms.What causes autism Researches prove that autism comes from brain biology problem. Most of these diseases are believed to be congenital, which means the baby gains that disease before it is born. Researches also discover that boys are four times more likely to be autistic than girls, and less likely to get better.But things are not that pessimistic. According to Dr. Volkmar, the director of the Yale Child Study Center,there is no cure for autism, but people have found various ways to provide the autistics with a better life. For those with serious autism, special rehabilitation centers can offer lifetime care. For those whose symptoms are mild, it is possible for them to develop into society after some specific training.However, in regard of how to treat the adult autistics, people hold two different attitudes. Some think we normal people should show sympathy to them, and shoulder the burden of meeting their basic needs. However, the latest ideas toward the autistics are to respect their living style and uncover their abilities, instead of feeling pity for them. Gareth Nelson, the leader of the UK's autism rights movement, stated that autistic people have their own value, their own shining point, which cannot be judged by normal criteria.Maybe we can put forward more theories on autism, but what I want to state is, they, the autistic, are part of us. Two weeks ago, on April 2nd , the fifth World Autism Awareness Day, a few paintings of autistic children were exhibited in Beijing. They are beautiful, they need our attention and , let’s convey our loveto them, to the “children of the stars”.篇二:孤独,演讲稿篇一:百年孤独的演讲稿百年孤独《百年孤独》,是哥伦比亚作家加西亚·马尔克斯的代表作,也是拉丁美洲魔幻现实主义文学的代表作。
TED英语演讲稿:拥抱他人,拥抱自己Thandie Newton Embracing otherness, embracing myself拥抱他人,拥抱自己Embracing otherness. When I first heard this theme, I thought, well, embracing otherness is embracing myself. And the journey to that place of understanding and acceptance has been an interesting one for me, and it's given me an insight into the whole notion of self, which I think is worth sharing with you today.拥抱他类。
当我第一次听说这个主题时,我心想,拥抱他类不就是拥抱自己吗。
我个人懂得理解和接受他类的经历很有趣,让我对于“自己”这个词也有了新的认识,我想今天在这里和你们分享下我的心得体会。
We each have a self, but I don't think that we're born with one. You know how newborn babies believe they're part of everything; they're not separate? Well that fundamental sense of oneness is lost on us very quickly. It's like that initial stage is over -- oneness: infancy, unformed, primitive. It's no longer valid or real. What is real is separateness, and at some point in early babyhood, the idea of self starts to form.Our little portion of oneness is given a name, is told all kinds of things about itself, and these details, opinions and ideas become facts, which go towards building ourselves, our identity. And that self becomes the vehicle for navigating our social world. But the self is a projection based on other people's projections. Is it who we really are? Or who we really want to be, or should be?我们每个人都有个自我,但并不是生来就如此的。
TED英语演讲Why we are connected but still feel alone?为什么我们保持着联系却仍旧孤单?TED简介:我们对技术的期待越来越多,同时,我们对彼此的期待却越来越少了?电子产品和网络角色似乎正重新定义着人们的沟通和交流,Sherry Turkle致力于研究这种影响,并引发这样的深刻思考:我们究竟需要怎样的沟通方式。
演讲者:Sherry Turkle片长:20:51|英文演讲稿|Just a moment ago,my daughter Rebecca texted me for good luck.Her text said,"Mom,you will rock."I love this.Getting that text was like getting a hug.And so there you have it.I embody the central paradox.I'm a woman who loves getting texts who's going to tell you that too many of them can be a problem.Actually that reminder of my daughter brings me to the beginning of my story.1996,when I gave my first TEDTalk,Rebecca was five years old and she was sitting right there in the front row.I had just written a book that celebrated our life on the internet and I was about to be on the cover of Wired magazine.In those heady days,we were experimenting with chat rooms and online virtual communities.We were exploring different aspects of ourselves.And then we unplugged.I was excited.And,as a psychologist,what excited me most was the idea that we would use what we learned in the virtual world about ourselves,about our identity,to live better lives in the real world.Now fast-forward to2012.I'm back here on the TED stage again.My daughter's20.She's a college student.She sleeps with her cellphone,so do I.And I've just written a new book,but this time it's not one that will get me on the cover of Wired magazine.So what happened?I'm still excited by technology,but I believe,and I'm here to make the case,that we're letting it take us places that we don't want to go.Over the past15years,I've studied technologies of mobile communication and I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds of people,young and old,about their plugged in lives.And what I've found is that our little devices,those little devices in our pockets,are so psychologically powerful that they don't only change what we do,they change who we are.Some of the things we do now with our devices are things that,only a few years ago,we would have found odd or disturbing, but they've quickly come to seem familiar,just how we do things.So just to take some quick examples:People text or do email during corporate board meetings. They text and shop and go on Facebook during classes,during presentations,actually during all meetings.People talk to me about the important new skill of making eye contact while you're texting.(Laughter)People explain to me that it's hard,but that it can be done.Parents text and do email at breakfast and at dinner while their children complain about not having their parents'full attention.But then these same children deny each other their full attention.This is a recent shot of my daughter and her friends being together while not being together.And we even text at funerals.I study this.We remove ourselves from our grief or from our revery and we go into our phones.Why does this matter?It matters to me because I think we're setting ourselves up for trouble—trouble certainly in how we relate to each other,but also trouble in how we relate to ourselves and our capacity for self-reflection.We're getting used to a new way of being alone together. People want to be with each other,but also elsewhere—connected to all the different places they want to be.People want to customize their lives.They want to go in and out of all the places they are because the thing that matters most to them is control over where they put their attention.So you want to go to that board meeting,but you only want to pay attention to the bits that interest you.And some people think that's a good thing.But you can end up hiding from each other,even as we're all constantly connected to each other.A50-year-old business man lamented to me that he feels he doesn't have colleagues anymore at work.When he goes to work,he doesn't stop by to talk to anybody,he doesn't call.And he says he doesn't want to interrupt his colleagues because,he says,"They're too busy on their email." But then he stops himself and he says,"You know,I'm not telling you the truth.I'm the one who doesn't want to be interrupted.I think I should want to,but actually I'd rather just do things on my Blackberry."Across the generations,I see that people can't get enough of each other,if and only if they can have each other at a distance,in amounts they can control.I call it the Goldilocks effect:not too close,not too far,just right.But what might feel just right for that middle-aged executive can be a problem for an adolescent who needs to develop face-to-face relationships.An18-year-old boy who uses texting for almost everything says to me wistfully,"Someday,someday,but certainly not now,I'd like to learn how to have a conversation."When I ask people"What's wrong with having a conversation?"People say,"I'll tell you what's wrong with having a conversation.It takes place in real time and you can't control what you're going to say."So that's the bottom line.Texting,email,posting,all of these things let us present the self as we want to be.We get to edit,and that means we get to delete,and that means we get to retouch,the face,the voice,the flesh,the body—not too little,not too much,just right.Human relationships are rich and they're messy and they're demanding.And we clean them up with technology.And when we do,one of the things that can happen is that we sacrifice conversation for mere connection.We short-change ourselves.And over time,we seem to forget this,or we seem to stop caring.I was caught off guard when Stephen Colbert asked me a profound question,a profound question. He said,"Don't all those little tweets,don't all those little sips of online communication,add up to one big gulp of real conversation?"My answer was no,they don't add up.Connecting in sips may work for gathering discrete bits of information,they may work for saying,"I'm thinkingabout you,"or even for saying,"I love you,"—I mean,look at how I felt when I got that text from my daughter—but they don't really work for learning about each other,for really coming to know and understand each other.And we use conversations with each other to learn how to have conversations with ourselves.So a flight from conversation can really matter because it can compromise our capacity for self-reflection.For kids growing up,that skill is the bedrock of development.Over and over I hear,"I would rather text than talk."And what I'm seeing is that people get so used to being short-changed out of real conversation,so used to getting by with less,that they've become almost willing to dispense with people altogether.So for example,many people share with me this wish,that some day a more advanced version of Siri,the digital assistant on Apple's iPhone,will be more like a best friend,someone who will listen when others won't.I believe this wish reflects a painful truth that I've learned in the past15years.That feeling that no one is listening to me is very important in our relationships with technology.That's why it's so appealing to have a Facebook page or a Twitter feed—so many automatic listeners.And the feeling that no one is listening to me make us want to spend time with machines that seem to care about us. We're developing robots,they call them sociable robots,that are specifically designed to be companions—to the elderly,to our children,to us.Have we so lost confidence that we will be there for each other?During my research I worked in nursing homes,and I brought in these sociable robots that were designed to give the elderly the feeling that they were understood.And one day I came in and a woman who had lost a child was talking to a robot in the shape of a baby seal.It seemed to be looking in her eyes.It seemed to be following the conversation.It comforted her.And many people found this amazing.But that woman was trying to make sense of her life with a machine that had no experience of the arc of a human life.That robot put on a great show.And we're vulnerable.People experience pretend empathyas though it were the real thing.So during that moment when that woman was experiencing that pretend empathy,I was thinking,"That robot can't empathize.It doesn't face death.It doesn't know life."And as that woman took comfort in her robot companion,I didn't find it amazing;I found it one of the most wrenching,complicated moments in my15years of work.But when I stepped back,I felt myself at the cold,hard center of a perfect storm.We expect more from technology and less from each other.And I ask myself,"Why have things come to this?"And I believe it's because technology appeals to us most where we are most vulnerable.And we are vulnerable.We're lonely,but we're afraid of intimacy.And so from social networks to sociable robots,we're designing technologies that will give us the illusion of companionship without the demands of friendship.We turn to technology to help us feel connected in ways we can comfortably control.But we're not so comfortable.We are not so much in control.These days,those phones in our pockets are changing our minds and hearts because they offer us three gratifying fantasies.One,that we can put our attention wherever we want it to be;two,that we will always be heard;and three,that we will never have to be alone.And that third idea, that we will never have to be alone,is central to changing our psyches.Because the moment that people are alone,even for a few seconds,they become anxious,they panic,they fidget,they reach for a device.Just think of people at a checkout line or at a red light.Being alone feels like a problem that needs to be solved.And so people try to solve it by connecting.But here, connection is more like a symptom than a cure.It expresses,but it doesn't solve,an underlying problem.But more than a symptom,constant connection is changing the way people think of themselves.It's shaping a new way of being.The best way to describe it is,I share therefore I am.We use technology to define ourselves by sharing our thoughts and feelings even as we're having them.So before it was:I have a feeling,I want to make a call.Now it's:I want to have a feeling,I need to send a text.The problem with this new regime of"I share therefore I am"is that,if we don't have connection,we don't feel like ourselves.We almost don't feel ourselves.So what do we do?We connect more and more.But in the process,we set ourselves up to be isolated.How do you get from connection to isolation?You end up isolated if you don't cultivate the capacity for solitude,the ability to be separate,to gather yourself.Solitude is where you find yourself so that you can reach out to other people and form real attachments.When we don't have the capacity for solitude,we turn to other people in order to feel less anxious or in order to feel alive.When this happens,we're not able to appreciate who they are.It's as though we're using them as spare parts to support our fragile sense of self.We slip into thinking that always being connected is going to make us feel less alone.But we're at risk,because actually it's the opposite that's true.If we're not able to be alone,we're going to be more lonely.And if we don't teach our children to be alone,they're only going to know how to be lonely.When I spoke at TED in1996,reporting on my studies of the early virtual communities,I said, "Those who make the most of their lives on the screen come to it in a spirit of self-reflection." And that's what I'm calling for here,now:reflection and,more than that,a conversation about where our current use of technology may be taking us,what it might be costing us.We're smitten with technology.And we're afraid,like young lovers,that too much talking might spoil the romance.But it's time to talk.We grew up with digital technology and so we see it as all grown up.But it's not,it's early days.There's plenty of time for us to reconsider how we use it,how we build it.I'm not suggesting that we turn away from our devices,just that we develop a more self-aware relationship with them,with each other and with ourselves.I see some first steps.Start thinking of solitude as a good thing.Make room for it.Find ways to demonstrate this as a value to your children.Create sacred spaces at home—the kitchen,the dining room—and reclaim them for conversation.Do the same thing at work.At work,we're so busy communicating that we often don't have time to think,we don't have time to talk,about the things that really matter.Change that.Most important,we all really need to listen to each other,including to the boring bits.Because it's when we stumble or hesitate or lose our words that we reveal ourselves to each other.Technology is making a bid to redefine human connection—how we care for each other,how we care for ourselves—but it's also giving us the opportunity to affirm our values and our direction.I'm optimistic.We have everything we need to start.We have each other.And we have the greatest chance of success if we recognize our vulnerability.That we listen when technology says it will take something complicated and promises something simpler.So in my work,I hear that life is hard,relationships are filled with risk.And then there's technology—simpler,hopeful,optimistic,ever-young.It's like calling in the cavalry.An ad campaign promises that online and with avatars,you can"Finally,love your friends love your body,love your life,online and with avatars."We're drawn to virtual romance,to computer games that seem like worlds,to the idea that robots,robots,will someday be our true companions.We spend an evening on the social network instead of going to the pub with friends.But our fantasies of substitution have cost us.Now we all need to focus on the many,many ways technology can lead us back to our real lives,our own bodies,our own communities,our own politics,our own planet.They need us.Let's talk about how we can use digital technology,the technology of our dreams,to make this life the life we can love.Thank you.(Applause)几分钟前,我接到了我女儿的短信,她说你一定会震惊全场,我太喜欢这个了,接到这条短信就像得到了她的拥抱。
关于孤独的英语演讲稿Loneliness is a universal human experience that everyone encounters at some point in their lives. It can be a feeling of isolation, disconnectedness, or lack of companionship, and it can affect people of all ages, backgrounds, and circumstances. In my speech today, I want to explore the topic of loneliness, its impact on individuals, and how we can address it in our lives.First and foremost, it's important to recognize that loneliness is not the same as being alone. Many people enjoy spending time by themselves and find solitude to be a source of creativity and inspiration. However, loneliness is a deeper emotional state that can lead to feelings of sadness, emptiness, and a longing for connection with others. It can be caused by a variety of factors, including social isolation, lack of meaningful relationships, or major life changes such as moving to a new city or experiencing the loss of a loved one.The impact of loneliness on individuals can be profound. It can lead to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as physical health problems like high blood pressure and weakened immune system. Additionally, loneliness can affect cognitive function and increase the risk of substance abuse. It's clear that addressing loneliness is essential for maintaining overall well-being and quality of life.So, how can we address loneliness in our lives and in the lives of others? One of the most important steps is to reach out and connect with others. This can involve building and maintaining relationships with friends and family, joining social groups or clubs, or volunteering in the community. By actively seeking out opportunities for social interaction, we can combat feelings of loneliness and build a support network that enhances our emotional and mental well-being.Furthermore, practicing self-care and self-compassion is crucial in addressing loneliness. Engaging in activities that bring joy and fulfillment, such as hobbies, exercise, or creative pursuits, can help alleviate feelings of isolation. Additionally, seekingprofessional help or counseling can provide valuable support and guidance for individuals struggling with loneliness.In conclusion, loneliness is a complex and challenging experience that many people face at some point in their lives. It's important to recognize the impact of loneliness on individuals and take proactive steps to address it. By fostering connections with others, practicing self-care, and seeking support when needed, we can work towards reducing the prevalence of loneliness and promoting a greater sense of belonging and community. Thank you.。
关于青春孤独的演讲稿英语Youth is a time of excitement, growth, and endless possibilities. It is a time when we are full of energy, passion, and dreams. However, it can also be a time of loneliness and isolation. The feeling of being alone in the world, even when surrounded by people, is a common experience for many young people. In this speech, I want to explore the topic of youth and loneliness, and discuss how we can navigate this complex and often challenging aspect of our lives.Firstly, it is important to acknowledge that feeling lonely is a normal part of the human experience. We all experience moments of solitude and longing for connection, especially during our formative years. It is crucial to understand that we are not alone in feeling alone. Many of our peers, friends, and even family members may be going through similar emotions. By recognizing this shared experience, we can begin to break down the barriers that keep us isolated and reach out to one another for support and companionship.Secondly, it is essential to cultivate a sense of self-awareness and self-acceptance. Embracing our own unique qualities and interests can help us feel more comfortable in our own skin and less dependent on external validation. By finding joy and fulfillment in our own company, we can alleviate the burden of loneliness and learn to appreciate the solitude as a time for self-reflection and personal growth.Furthermore, building and maintaining meaningful connections with others is crucial in combating feelings of isolation. Whether it is through shared hobbies, common interests, or simply reaching out to someone in need, fostering genuine relationships can provide us with a sense of belonging and purpose. It is important to remember that friendships and relationships take time and effort to develop, and that it is okay to take the initiative in reaching out to others.In addition, engaging in activities that bring us joy and fulfillment can help combat feelings of loneliness. Whether it is pursuing a passion, volunteering for a cause we believe in, or simply spending time in nature, finding activities that nourish our souls canprovide a sense of purpose and connection to the world around us. By immersing ourselves in activities that bring us joy, we can create a sense of fulfillment that transcends the limitations of loneliness.In conclusion, while the experience of youth and loneliness can be challenging, it is important to remember that we are not alone in our struggles. By acknowledging our shared experiences, cultivating self-awareness, building meaningful connections, and engaging in fulfilling activities, we can navigate the complexities of youth and loneliness with resilience and grace. Let us embrace our solitude as an opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth, and reach out to one another with empathy and compassion. Thank you.。
TED演讲:保持联系仍旧孤单In our little devices, those little devices in our pockets are so psychologically powerful that they don’t only change what we do, they change who we are. Some of the things we do now with our devices are things that, only a few years ago, we would have found odd or disturbing, but they’ve quickly come to seem familiar, just how we do things.在我们的口袋中,那些轻巧的电子设备,在心理学上有着如此强大的力量。
它们不仅改变了我们的生活方式,也改变了我们本身。
我们现在用电子设备做的一些事情,就在几年前还被认为是稀奇或让人讨厌。
但是很快大家就习以为常——只是我们的行事方式而已。
People text or do email during corporate board meetings. They text and shop and go on Facebook during classes, during presentations, actually during all meetings.人们在公司的董事会议上发短信或写邮件。
人们在上课时、听报告时,实际上在几乎所有的会议上,发短信、网购、浏览脸谱。
Parents text and do email at breakfast and at dinner while their children complain about not having their parents’ full attention. But then these same children deny each other their full attention.父母在早餐和晚餐时发短信和邮件,孩子们因此抱怨父母对他们不够关注。
ted演讲summarysummary终稿The summary of Connected,but aloneAt the beginning of the speech,the author mentioned her experience of two TED talks and tried to tell her own comprehension about the greatly changed impact oftechnology on us,she thought the technologies of mobile communication had great psychologically power which not only changed what we do but also changed who we are.First,through several examples about people text or do email in any time andanywhere,the author thought we had dug ourselves a trap to get used to being alone together which will affect the relation with each other and ourselves.Next,people now use the way of Goldilocks effect to be connected by technologies of mobile communication because they can edit and delete and simplify human relationships,in the meantime,for only more connection,people sacrifice conversation,which will damage our self reflective ability and unable to understand each other.Then,experts have developed sociable robots to accompany the people who need them,the robots seem can understand and comfort people but it has reflected we use technology to help us to be accompanied andfeel connected in ways we can control comfortably.Nowadays the phones can make people excited during which time they change both our minds and hearts,which has generated the new lifestyle:“I share therefore Iam”.We think it’s simple that we can feel less lonely if we are always being connected with others,in fact,we’ll feel more isolated without the capacity of being alone.At the end of the speech,the author encouraged people to build a more self-ware relationship with digital technology.First,begin to think solitude is a good thing to us,in other hand,talking and listening are good ways to show your trueself.Second,because we have each other,we can be optimistic about how we can promote our lives,and if our vulnerability can be recognized.篇二:TED演讲介绍稿Good morning, ladies and gentlemen. Today I’ll share two speeches with you. One is “The surprising science of happiness”made by Dan Gilbert,and another is “School Kills Creativity”made by Ken Robinson. They all come from TED.they are similar and they are different.First of all, both Dan and Kenhas a strong sense of humor. We all know that people can’t pay their attention on one thing for a longtime,especially in such a long speech about twenty minutes. So what should speakers do? Dan and ken tell you! Be humorous! It’s quite useful. honestly, at first I have little interest in their topic ,I thought I would fall asleep, but I have watched their speech carefully for 20 minutes. It’s amazing! Unbelievable! So that’s the power of humor.Secondly, they all use many examples, they act like blood in our body and they make the whole speech full of energy. What’s more, through the examples we can understand what the speaker want to tell us easily. And that’s the point:it makes the speech more receivable.However, Dan act like a scientist, to support his view ”Happiness can be synthesized”he uses a lot of experiments, that make the abstract topic easy to learn. While, ken act likephilosopher, he just stand in the stage, no gestures, even though, I am impressed by his wisdom.That’s what I learn from them and that’s what I wanna share with you , thank you!That’s all. Thank you.篇三:TED演讲:想成功,请多睡一会儿英文演讲稿TED演讲:想成功,请多睡一会儿My big idea is a very, very small idea that can unlock billions of big ideas that are at the moment dormant inside us. And my little idea that will do that is sleep.(Laughter)(Applause)This is a room of type-A women. This is a room of sleep-deprived women. And I learned the hard way, the value of sleep. Two-and-a-half years ago, I fainted from exhaustion. I hit my head on my desk. I broke my cheekbone, I got five stitches on my right eye. And I began the journey of rediscovering the value of sleep. And in the course of that, I studied, I met with medical doctors, scientists, and I'm here to tell you that the way to a more productive, more inspired, more joyful life is getting enough sleep. (Applause)And we women are going to lead the way in this new revolution, this new feminist issue. We are literally going to sleep our way to the top, literally.(Laughter)(Applause)Because unfortunately for men, sleep deprivation has become a virility symbol. I was recently having dinner with a guy who bragged that he had only gotten four hours sleep the night before. And I feltlike saying to him -- but I didn't say it -- I felt like saying, You know what? If you had gotten five, this dinner would have been a lot more interesting.(Laughter)There is now a kind of sleep deprivation one-upmanship. Especially here in Washington, if you try to make a breakfast date, and you say, How about eight o'clock? they're likely to tell you, Eight o'clock is too late for me, but that's okay, I can get a game of tennis in and do a few conference calls and meet you at eight. And they think that means that they are so incredibly busy and productive, but the truth is they're not, because we, at the moment, have had brilliant leaders in business, in finance, in politics, making terrible decisions. So a high I.Q. does not mean that you're a good leader, because the essence of leadership is being able to see the iceberg before it hits the Titanic. And we've had far too many icebergs hitting our Titanics.In fact, I have a feeling that if Lehman Brothers was Lehman Brothers and Sisters, they might still be around. (Applause) While all the brothers were busy just beinghyper-connected 24/7, maybe a sister would have noticed the iceberg, because she would have woken up from a seven-and-a-half- or eight-hour sleep and have been able to see the big picture.So as we are facing all the multiple crises in our world at the moment, what is good for us on a personal level, what's going to bring more joy, gratitude, effectiveness in our lives and be the best for our own careers is also what is best for the world. So I urge you to shut your eyes and discover the great ideas that lie inside us, to shut your engines and discover the power of sleep.Thank you.(Applause)。
学会独处演讲英文作文高中Being alone is not always a bad thing. In fact, it can be quite liberating. When you are by yourself, you have the freedom to do whatever you want without having to consider anyone else's opinions or feelings. It allows you to focus on yourself and your own needs, which can be incredibly empowering.There is a certain sense of peace that comes with solitude. You can escape from the chaos of the outside world and find solace in your own company. It gives you the opportunity to reflect on your thoughts and emotions, and to truly understand yourself on a deeper level. This self-awareness can lead to personal growth and development.Being alone doesn't mean you have to be lonely. You can enjoy your own company and find ways to entertain yourself. Whether it's reading a book, watching a movie, or pursuing a hobby, there are plenty of ways to keep yourself occupied and engaged. Embracing solitude can help you appreciate thesimple pleasures in life and find joy in the little things.Spending time alone can also boost your creativity. When you are free from distractions and external influences, you have the space to let your imagination run wild. Youcan explore new ideas, think outside the box, and come up with innovative solutions to problems. Solitude can be a breeding ground for inspiration and innovation.Ultimately, learning to be comfortable with solitude is an important skill. It allows you to be independent, self-reliant, and resilient. You become less afraid of being alone and more confident in your own abilities. Embracing solitude can lead to a greater sense of self-assurance and inner peace. So, don't be afraid to spend some time alone– you might just discover a whole new side of yourself.。
孤独英文演讲稿As human beings, we all experience moments of loneliness at some point in our lives. It's a universal feeling that can be overwhelming and difficult to navigate. However, it's important to remember that being alone doesn't necessarily equate to being lonely. In fact, solitude can be a powerful and transformative experience if we choose to embrace it.When we talk about loneliness, we often associate it with negative connotations. We think of isolation, sadness, and a sense of emptiness. But what if we shift our perspective and see loneliness as an opportunity for self-reflection and growth? What if we view it as a chance to reconnect with ourselves and explore our inner thoughts and emotions?In today's fast-paced and interconnected world, we rarely take the time to be alone with our thoughts. We're constantly bombarded with external stimuli, whether it's through social media, work, or relationships. We rarely have the chance to sit in silence and truly listen to our inner voice. But solitude provides us with that precious opportunity.When we're alone, we have the freedom to delve into our deepest desires, fears, and dreams. We can confront our insecurities and confront our true selves. Instead of running away from our feelings of loneliness, we can use it as a catalyst for self-discovery and personal development.Moreover, being alone allows us to cultivate a sense of independence and self-reliance. It teaches us to be comfortable in our own company and not depend on external validation or approval. It empowers us to make decisions based on our own values and beliefs, rather than being swayed by the opinions of others.In addition, solitude can be a source of creativity and inspiration. Many great artists, writers, and thinkers have credited their moments of solitude as the catalyst for their most profound work. When we're alone, we have the mental space to think deeply, to imagine, and to create without any external distractions or influences.Of course, it's important to acknowledge that there's a fine line between healthy solitude and harmful isolation. It's crucial to maintain a balance between being alone andseeking social connection. While solitude can be enriching, human beings are inherently social creatures, and we thrive on meaningful relationships and connections with others.In conclusion, loneliness doesn't have to be a negative experience. It can be a time for self-exploration, personal growth, and creativity. By embracing solitude, we can learn to appreciate our own company, cultivate independence, and tap into our inner reservoir of creativity and inspiration. So, the next time you find yourself feeling lonely, remember that it could be an opportunity for self-discovery and empowerment. Embrace it, and see where it takes you.。
Just a moment ago, my daughter Rebecca texted me for good luck. Her text said, mom, you will rock. I love this. Getting that text was like getting a hug. And so there you have it, I embody the central paradox. I'm a woman who loves getting text, who's going to tell you that too many of them can be problem.Actually, that reminder of my daughter brings me to the beginning of my story, 1996, when I gave my first TED Talk. Rebecca was 5 years old and she was sitting right there in the front row. I had just written a book that celebrated our life on the internet and I was about to be on the cover of Wired Magazine. In those heyday days, we were experimenting with chat rooms and online virtual communities. We were exploring different aspects of ourselves and then we unclocked. I was excited, and as a psychologist, what excited me most was the idea that we would use what we learned in the virtual world about ourselves, about our identify to live better lives in the world.Now, fast forward to 2012, I'm back here on the TED stage again. My daughter is 20. She is a college student. She sleeps with her cellphone, so do I and I've just written a new book, but this time, it's not one that will get me on the cover of Wired Magazine. So, what happened? I'm still excited by technology, but I believe and I'm here to make the case that we're letting it take us places that we don't wanna go.Over the past 15 years, I've studied technologies of mobile communication and I've interviewed hundreds and hundreds of people, young and old about their plugged in lives and what I found is that our little devices, those little devices in ourpockets are so psychologically powerful that they don't only change what we do. They change who we are. Some of the things we do now with our devices are things that only a few years ago would have found odd or disturbing, but they've quickly come to seem familiar just how we do things, so just to take some quick examples, people text or e-mail during corporate board meetings. They text and shop and go on Facebook during classes, during presentations, actually during all meetings. People talked to me about the important new skill of making eye contact while your texting. People explained to me that it's hard, that it can be done. Parents text and do e-mail at breakfast and at dinner where your children complained about not having their parents' full attention, but then the same children deny each other their full attention. This is a recent shot of my daughter and her friends being together while not being together. And we even text to funerals. I study this. We remove ourselves from our grief or from our reverie and we go in our phones.Why does this matter. It matters to me because I think we're saving ourselves up for trouble. Trouble certainly and how we relate to each other, but also trouble in how we relate to ourselves in our capacity for self reflection. We're getting used to a new way of being alone together. People want to be with each other, but also elsewhere connected to all the different places they wanna be. People want to customize their lives. They want to go in and out of all the places they are because the thing that matters most to them is control over where they putt their attention. So, you wanna go to that board meeting, but you only wanna pay attention to the bits that interest you, and some people think that's a good thing, but you can endup hiding from each other even as we're all constantly connected to each other. 50-year-old businessman laments to me that he feels he doesn't have colleagues anymore at work. When he goes to work, he doesn't stop by to talk to anybody he doesn't call and he says he doesn't want to interrupt his colleagues because he says they are too busy on their e-mail, but then he stops himself and he says, you know, I'm not tell you the truth. I'm the one who doesn't want to be interrupted. I think I should want to, but actually I'd rather just do things on my Blackberry (RIMM) .Across the generations, I see that people tend to get enough with each other if and only if they can have each other at a distance in amounts they can control. I call it the Goldilocks effect, not too close, not too far, just right, but what might feel just right for that middle aged executive can be a problem for an adolescent who needs to develop face to face relationships. An 18-year-old boy who uses texting for almost everything says to me wishfully someday, someday but certainly not now I would like to learn how to have a conversation. When I ask people wrong with having a conversation? I'll tell you what's wrong with having a conversation. It takes place in real time and you can't control what you're gonna say. So, that's the bottom line; texting, e-mail, posting. All of these things let us present to self as we wanna be. We get to edit and that means we get to delete, and that means we get to retouch the face, the voice, the flesh, the body. Not too much, just right.Human relationships are rich and they are messy and they are demanding, and we clean them up with technology and when we do one of the things that canhappen is that we sacrifice conversation for mere connection. We short change ourselves, and over time, we seemed to forget this or we seemed to stop caring. I caught off guard when Stephen Colbert asked me a profound question, a profound question. He said, "Don't all those little tweets, don't all those little SIPs of online communication add up to 1 big gulf real conversation?" My answer was no. They don't add up. Connecting in SIPs may work for gathering discrete bits of information. They may work for saying and thinking about you or even for saying I love you. I mean, look at how I felt when I got that text from my daughter, but they don't really work for learning about each other to really coming to know and understand each other, and we use conversations with each other to learn how to have conversations with ourselves.So, off light from conversation can really matter because it can compromise our capacity for self reflection. For kids growing up, that skill is the bed rock of development. Over and over, I hear, "I would rather text than talk." And what I'm seeing is that people get so used to being short change out real conversation, so used to getting by with less that they become almost willing to dispense with people altogether. So, for example, many people share with me this wish that someday a more advance version of Siri, the digital assistant on Apple's iPhone (AAPL) will be more like a best friend, someone who will listen when other won't. I believe this wish reflects a painful truth that I've learned in the past 15 years. The feeling that no one is listening to me is very important in our relationships with technology. That's why it's appealing to have a Facebook page or Twitter feed somany automatic listeners, and the feeling that no one is listening to me makes up one to spend time with machines that seemed to care about us. We're developing robots. They call them sociable robots that are specifically designed to be companions, to be elderly to our children, to us. Have we so lost confidence that we will be there for each other?All right, I want to see a show of hands how many of you have unfriended someone on Facebook because they said something offensive about politics or religion, childcare, food?And how many of you know at least one person that you avoid because you just don’t want to talk to them?You know, it used to be that in order to have a polite conversation, we just had to follow the advice of Henry Higgins in “My Fair Lady”:Stick to the weather and your health. But these days, with climate change and anti-vaxxing, those subjects—are not safe either.So this world that we live in, this world in which every conversation has the potential to devolve into an argument,where our politicians can’t speak to one another, and where even the most trivial of issues have someone fighting both passionately for it and against it, it’s not normal.Pew Research did a study of 10,000 American adults, and they found that at this moment, we are more polarized, we are more divided than we ever have been in history.We are less likely to compromise, which means we’re not listening to each other. And we make decisions about where to live, who to marry and even who ourfriends are going to be based on what we already believe.Again, that means we’re not listening to each other.A conversation requires a balance between talking and listing, and somewhere along the way, we lost that balance.Now, part of that is due to technology.The smartphones that you all either have in your hands or close enough that you could grab them really quickly.According to the Pew Research,About a third of American teenagers send more than a hundred texts a day.And many of them, almost most of them, are more likely to text their friends than they are to talk to them face to face.There’s this great piece in The Atlantic. It was written by a high school teacher named Paul Barnwell. And he gave his kids a communication project.He wanted to teach them how to speak on a specific subject without using notes. And he said this:”I came to realize…”“I came to realize that conversational competence might be the single most overlooked skill we fail to teach. Kids spend hours each day engaging with ideas and each other through screens, but rarely do they have an opportunity to hone their interpersonal communications skills.It might sound like a funny question, but we have to ask ourselves.Is there any 21st-century skill more important than being able to sustain coherent, confident conversation?”Now, I make my living talking to people:Nobel Prize winners, truck dirvers, billionaries, kindergarten teachers, heads of state, plumbers.I talk to people that I like. I talk to people that I don’t like.I talk to some people that I disagree with deeply on a personal level.But I still have a great conversation with them.So I’d like to spend the next 10 minutes or so teaching you how to talk and how to listen.Many of you have already heard a lot of advice on this,things like look the person in the eye, things of interesting topics to discuss in advance, look, nod and smile to show that you’re paying attention, repeat back what you just heard or summarize it.So I want you to forget all of that. It is crap.There is no reason to learn how to show you’re paying attention, if you are in fact paying attention.Now, I actually use the exact same skills as a professional interviewer that I do in regular life.So, I’m going to teach you how to interview people,And that’s actually going to help you learn how to be better conversationalists. Learn to have a conversation without wasting your time, without getting bored, and, please God, without offending anybody.We’ve all had really great conversations. We’ve had them before. We know what it’s like.The kind of conversation where you walk away feeling engaged and inspired, or where you feel like you’ve made a real connection or you’ve been perfectly understood.There is no reason why most of your interactions can’t be like that.So I have 10 basic rules. I’m going to walk you through all of them, but honestly, if you just choose one of them and master it, you’ll already enjoy better conversations.Number one: don’t multitask. And I don’t mean just set down your cell phone or your tablet or your car keys or whatever is in your hand.I mean, be present. Be in that moment. Don’t think about your argument you had with your boss.Don’t think about what you’re going to have for dinner. If you want to get out of the conversation, get out of the conversation, but don’t be half in it and half out of it.Number two: don’t pontificate.If you want to state your opinion without any opportunity for response or argument or pushback or growth, write a blog.Now there’s a really good reason why I don’t allow pundits on my show: because they’re really boring.If they’re conservative, they’re going to hate Obama and food stamps and abortion.If they’re liberal, they’re going to hate big banks and oil corporations and Dick Cheney.Totally predictable.And you don’t want to be like that.You need to enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn. The famed therapist M.Scott Peck said that true listening requires a setting aside of oneself. And sometimes that means setting aside your personal opinion.He said that sensing this acceptance, the speaker will become less and less vulnerable and more and more likely to open up the inner recesses of his or hermind to the listener.Again, assume that you have something to learn.Bill Nye:”everyone you will ever meet knows something that you don’t.”I put it this way:Everybody is an expert in something.Number three: use open-ended questions.In this case, take a cue from journalists.Start your questions with who, what, when, where, why or how.If you put in a complicated question, you’re going to get a simple answer out.If I ask you,”were you terrified?”You are going to respond to the most powerful word in that sentence, which is “terrified,”and the answer is “Yes, I was”or “No, I wasn’t.”“were you angry?”“yes, I was very angry.”Let them describe it. They’re the ones that know.Try asking them things like,”what was that like?”“how did that feel?”Because then they might have to stop for a moment and think about it, and you’re going to get a much more interesting response.Number four: give with the flow.That means thoughts will come into your mind.We’ve heard interviews often in which a guest is talking for several minutes and that comes back in and asks a question which seems like it comes out of nowhere, or it’s already been answered.That means the host probably stopped listening two minutes ago because he thought of this really clever question, and he was just bound and determined to say that. And we do the exact same thing. We’re sitting there having a conversation with someone, and then we remember that time that we met Hugh Jackman in a coffee shop. And we stop listening.Stories and ideas are going to come to you. You need to let them come and let them go.Number five: if you don’t know, say that you don’t know.Now, people on the radio, especially on NPR, are much more aware that they’re going on the record, and so they’re more careful about what they claim to be an expert in and what they claim to know for sure.Do that. Err on the side of caution. Talk should not be cheap.Number six: don’t equate your experience with theirs.If they’re talking about having lost a family member, don’t start talking about thetime you lost a family member.If they’re talking about the trouble they’re having at work, don’t tell them about how much you hate your job.It’s not the same. It is never the same.All experiences are individual.And, more importantly, it is not about you.You don’t need to take that moment to prove how amazing you are or how much you’ve suffered.Somebody asked Stephen Hawking once what his IQ was, and he said,“I have no idea. People who brag about their IQs are losers.”Conversations are not a promotional opportunity.Number seven: try not to repeat yourself.It’s condescending, and it’s really boring, and we tend to do it a lot. Especially in work conversations or in conversations with our kids, we have a point to make, so we just keep rephrasing it over and over. Don’t do that.Number eight: stay out of the weeds.Frankly, people don’t care about the years, the names, the dates, all those details that you’re struggling to come up with in your mind. They don’t care. What theycare about is you. They care about what you’re like, what you have in common. So forget the details. Leave them out.Number nine: this is not the last one, but it is the most important one. Listen.I cannot tell you how many really important people have said that listening is perhaps the most, the number one most important skill that you could develop. Buddha said, and I’m paraphrasing, “If your mouth is open, you’re not learning.”And Calvin Coolidge said, “No man ever listened his way out of a job.”Why do we not listen to each other?Number one, we’d rather talk. When I’m talking, I’m in control. I don’t have to hear anything I’m not interested in. I’m the center of attention. I can bolster my own identity.But there’s another reason: we get distracted.The average person talks at about 225 words per minute, but we can listen at up to 500 words per minute. So our minds are filling in those other 275 words. And look, I know, it takes effort and energy to actually pay attention to someone, but if you can’t do that, you’re not in a conversation. You’re just two people shouting out barely related sentences in the same place.You have to listen to one another.Stephen Covey said it very beautifully. He said,”most of us don’t listen with theintent to understand. We listen with the intent to reply.”One more rule, number 10, and it’s this one: be brief.A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject.—my sister.All of this boils down to the same basic concept, and it is this one: be interested in other people.You know, I grew up with a very famous grandfather, and there was kind of a ritual in my home. People would come over to talk to my grandparents, and after they would leave, my mother would come over to us, and she’d say, “Do you know who that was? She was the runner-up to Miss America. He was the mayor of Sacramento. She won a Pulitzer Prize. He ‘s a Russian ballet dancer.”And I kind of grew up assuming everyone has some hidden, amazing thing about them.And honestly, I think it’s what makes me a better host. I keep my mouth shut as often as I possibly can, I keep my mind open, and I’m always prepared to be amazed, and I’m never disappointed.You do the same thing. Go out, talk to people, listen to people, and most importantly, be prepared to be amazed. Thanks.。